Helping People grow!
It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat. – Theodore Roosevelt.
Empathy – Love
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It is the experiencing of another’s sorrow, sadness, and such yourself so that you know how they feel and you will want to step in and help that suffering soul.
When you are asked to do Everything With love, it means to do everything with a feeling of what the other is going through so that you want to help, desire to help, want to help make things better for others as best as you can.
Now we know that evil will always exist as long as humans exist, and we know that regardless of the best efforts we have we cannot make everyone happy, thus we get on with people as best as we can and when we can’t, well, we can’t.
Empathy and being Meek is not about going out of your way to make everyone pleased with you, doing that will drive a person crazy.
Empathy is experiencing (willingly) other people’s lives and if you can, and if that person allows it, you can help.
And we can draw on our own life experiences to know how others feel. Such as, if you had a heartache and someones else has a heartache, then you can experience how the other person feels, while also being aware that some people are sneaky.
My rule is to go to a shop, but if the shop rips me off never go back to that shop again.
Same for people, if a person does the dirty on me I avoid that person. But if I feel God wants me to persist I will, and I will do that for a long time – God is slow to anger, I should be too, God will not give up for a long time, but when it is clear to me that the other person just does not want my help I move on.
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But we should always open the door to people who apologise, set things right, show remorse and so forth. We kill evil when we change hate and bad feelings in to love.
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You know, that moment when you feel so happy something went well for you, all that pleasure and good feelings, that is what we are supposed to feel after we have helped the fallen, down and out.
The other part of Empathy is that you see someone in a sad or bad situation, and its a warning to you for the future when you see someone in pain and suffering, that if you don’t make changes to your own life, like right now, that will be you suffering in the future.
When we get into another persons life, we should consider if we are just their for the short-term and we are just creating more Soul damaging baggage for that person to deal with later on, or are we committed to be a blessing, a soul healer, help, and what that person really needs.
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When a person makes another person aware that he or she made a mistake, it is common for the person to feel guilt, then anger, then greatly disliking that guilty feeling,. he or she blames the source of their awakening, instead of blaming themselves.
The problem with this is that it may make the guilty feeling feel better by blame shifting or hating the other person who made them aware of his or her own guilt, but Guilt is Supposed to Hurt to make us aware of what really happened, and aware of our own part in it, and to makes us feel so bad about what we did that we will never repeat the action that made us guilty.
If we hide from our guilt it will haunt us for the rest of our life.
Watching Sergio 2020
The The Mandela Effect.
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The Mandela Effect is a phenomenon where a large number of people share a false memory of a past event or detail, often related to pop culture, history, or even basic facts. It’s named after the false memory that many people believed Nelson Mandela died in the 1980s, when he actually passed away in 2013
The Mandela Effect is also a result of Character Assassination.
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Such as the huge amounts of people who furiously hated Donald Trump, and many distrusted Trump, but when they finally met him they completely changed their minds about Donald Trump.
Examples are many, like those Democrats who changed over to Republicans to be on Trumps side yet prior to this and according to the rumours and lies that they were told they realised that what they assumed to be true, because everyone believed it, was not true at all.
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Another victim of this was Joe Rogan who once said that he would never have Donald Trump on his show because he believed the lies on Trump and he supported Obama and the Clinton’s, and today once he saw many of Trumps enemies become his friends, Joe realised that something was going on, and when he met Donald trump his view of Donald trump changed.
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The Character Assassination of Donald Trump, included the court case against Trump, and many many people fell for it.
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But most who fell for the Character Assassination had never met Donald Trump face to face, and they were loyal to a main base, the leaders of the Democrats, and that main base were in fact full of haters, and haters are never going to tell you the truth.
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Also haters never take on who they hate face to face.
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Intelligent people, people who look out of the square/box and actually think about life and situations started to smell a rat, that liars were working from cowardly shadows and making false accusation and telling many unproven lies. If they had won against Trump, Harris would have got in and the world would be in a big mess right now.
But also Donald Trump would be in prison for things that he did not do, and he would have lost his life, the liars and haters would have destroyed his life, and forever the world would have hated Donald Trump based only on the Character Assassination and the hateful attacks against him.
There is no worth in wishing that life was different, the past is gone and what remains is simply the memories.
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We all have our cross to bear, this being the struggles and pain in life that we have encountered at times. But we must bear them and we do have the strength to do this. Many have come before us, and many will follow, and they will go through struggles like we have. Create the right attitude towards challenges and they will become weaker in your mind, while you become stronger and more capable to meet challenges head on Ave do something about them. Please don’t fret over what you cannot change.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
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If a person respects you, your character, lifestyle and what you want for your own life then they will accept your, “No!”.
A person that loves us truly and respects us genuinely will accept our, “No!’ and will give us time to think about it, and will not force or pressure us, and if the final answer is still, “No!” then that is fine. Because a mature person knows that we must live our own life according to the rules and choices that we have decided are good for our own heart and soul.
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Sometimes we get an unexplained feeling, instinct, a gut feeling that an idea is not a good one, or we feel that we just don’t want to go with what others are demanding that we do, so we say, “No!’. If others demand a reason why we said, “No!” we cannot explain why because we are following a gut feeling and nothing solid and provable.
This is why they must trust and respect our feelings and live with the, “No!” that we gave them.
Sometimes we just cannot explain why we shouldn’t do something, but the feeling is strong and convincing, and because of that we refuse to do it. That is how we human beings are designed to operate.
There is no shame in following a gut feeling. Gut feelings have saved many a person from a miserable future, stay strong and have faith in yourself even under pressure. Trust Yourself, because you feel the negative feelings that others don’t, follow your truth , not theirs.
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Be true to yourself by standing firm with how you feel about your life and what direction that you want to go in. Remember “This is your life! Live it your way!”
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
The senses that science tries to tell us are all that we have, are the senses that we first use when we meet a person, then along comes our more spiritual senses, gut-feeling, and such, and then when we put them all together we come up with the more “bigger picture” of a person’s character.
Observation comes from many parts of the human, both spiritual and physical, and then it is all put together and that is the character that we finally see.
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But have you ever noticed that other people see us so differently. And that comes from their interaction with us. We may end up in an argument with someone,and that taints their opinion of us, or people may listen to gossip and that will taint their view and may even cause them to hate us etc.
And yet at home to those who really know us know who we really are.
One of the biggest problems with modern teaching is that we are taught in schools to be half-effective in the world, we are not taught to use all our senses. Because of this we are often confused about people, life, and even ourselves, if our emotions are all mixed up etc.
Far too much labeling is done by mental health organizations, far too many drugs handed out, and far too many “new” mental diseases are being “created” because the mental-health system and science has no idea how to fix up the stress that is causing people to malfunction in a very unnatural and uncomfortable world that they have created.
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We tend to see people, hear them, and judge what we first saw of their character. But there is so much more to learn from people, and that takes time, and vision, and being open-minded, and also that all important gut-feeling that we get deep down inside that guides us if we have the courage to face ourselves and trust our own instincts.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
Aug 21, 2015 10:39am.
For Attractive lips, speak words of kindness..
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For lovely eyes, seek out the good in people.
For a slim figure, share your food with the hungry.
For beautiful hair, let a child run their fingers through it once a day.
For poise, walk with the knowledge that you never walk alone.
People, more than things, have to be restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed, and redeemed. Remember, if you ever need a helping hand, you will find one at the end of each of your arms.
As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands, one for helping yourself and the other for helping others.
– ” Sam Levenson.
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Please understand that critics will always be there. Critics will always challenge you. They will always have lots of stuff to say about you, about your past, about what you are going to do, and what you have done, they have a list of your mistakes to rant on about, and they have a list of supposed mistakes that they assume that you will make according to their opinion. Many are seriously fearful and jealous because all they do is complain and they fear you succeeding, and to their misery they have to watch you do what they have no courage to do, and that is to do your own thing and stand out from the mindless thinking of the crowds.
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At least 90% of what they say doesn’t amount to any truth because it is simply harsh opinion and judgments. And if you look back in history all people who made great changes in the world were heavily criticized, but they went ahead and followed their dreams – and as we look back in history we find that the names of the critics have disappeared where they belong, yet the people that ignored the critics are known for their great deeds. Let other people’s success be your guide to what you can do.
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Being criticized is what is guaranteed to happen to you. and the more successful you become, the more people will criticize you.
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Please, for your own peace of mind and happiness, have the courage to stand up and do your own thing. It is your life that we are talking about here, not theirs. See if they have their act in gear. Most critics are far less popular than those they criticize, and rant from a safe cowardly distance. Leave them to their own views, you have dreams, desires and needs, go for it, make your life become something that you will be proud of. Be an achiever of your dreams.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
Aug 20, 2015.