The Reason we are Immature.
The Human Being needs to learn in its natural way. In the image above I have broken it down to 3 parts.
Parents have always, up until recent years, been a heavy input into the child’s mind.
For these modern times we have teaching to adapt us and prepare us for the work for, and that is what School Teaching is for.
Then there is Life Experiences.
Along with Parental Teaching, Life Experiences are the mos natural.
With the whole 3 we would get along just fine. With Parental Teaching and Life Experiences we would get along just fine.
But take away Parental Teaching and Life Experiences teaching a child and we get a struggling child and an Immature Adult.
Our most natural learning method is Trial and Error and that comes from experiences. This kind of learning is “out in the field”.
Modern life has many homes where:
Both parents are working.
Single Parent Families.
Alcoholic Parents
Drug Addicted Parents.
Child Abuse in the home.
And so on…
In these homes the child gets very little, or Static Parent Teaching. Bits of teaching here and there. Both parents tired if they are both working, in single parent families the child see’s little parent love, so they have a vague example of what mature stable love is.
As teenagers, lacking in logic and common sense because it was not give by their parents the teenagers just do what all the other immature teenagers do, party up large, casual sex, drugs, and so on.
Say you have a man who’s parents worked all through his childhood. The family has a nice home, spare cash, two cars, he went to a nice school, they ate well.
He has it all materialistically but greatly lacked parental advice and guidance.
He copies his business minded hard working parents and does very well at school. gets a great job as a lawyer, he wins many cases.
Even though he has it all his relationships are a problem. He does not treat women well (His father gave him no example, always working, and his mother was not there really to show him how a woman should be).
His Parental teaching was limited, and due to his large amount of time in school studying his Life Experiences outside of school education and books is limited.
But in the materials sense he is a great success.
He loses his temper at work, parties hard after work, dabbles in drug abuse, and has many sexual encounters because he has no idea what to do in a romantic relationship other than sex and taking them out.
In other words He Is Incomplete.
He did not grow up with a full Life Education.
And he is not mature, not logical out of work hours and to cover up for all his issues and what he lacks he buys expensive cars, gets lots of woman, and is still seen by other immature people as living the dream.
Because he lacks in mental information of how to be a man he does not know how to cope so fakes it.
Because he does not know how to treat women he uses them.
Because his deficiencies scare him, and he has no idea how to cope in many areas of his life due to lack of information to get ideas and learning from he gets frustrated with himself and with other people and loses his temper.
Getting only some of our Life Teachings means that we lack, and where we lack we make many mistakes, make foolish choices, and fail often. If we learn from others that are the same, say an educated person but who is immature like the lawyer mentioned then they too cannot cope, so can’t help us.
In order to be well structured adults, our parents must play a long-term role in our lives.