A nourishing life is a life with growth based on taking on what comes our way.
The depth of wisdom, knowledge, love, confidence, comes from what the young are hidden from, protected from, what they avoid through fears, or from laziness, or from demands of special rights, this avoidance makes the grown young adults a mere shallow soul with merely any life education, basically no wisdom, lacking actual experiences of which complete our life journeys to form us into a courageous, confident human beings.
Years in a protected classroom does not meet the standards needed to create people of hard working responsible nature. But the real damage is years of parents not parenting their young. The school have a job that they do, but the parents are not responsible and most have not been responsible for decades. The lacklustre attempts at parenting are not made for the good of the child’s growth, but are just enough to take away guilt from the parents that they may look to not be doing a good job of parenting.
The deep character of the person is created from struggles that were overcome with the help of parents that are physically there with their own children day by day, ready to help, guide, answer questions, ready to stop disasters but also ready to let their young take risks to show them that risks achieve goals, complete tasks, and mend relationships.
Children characters today are like weak tea, tasting like warm water instead of hot tea.
In society these young adults struggle because they don’t know what the struggle is for or what the struggle is about and how to deal with struggles, because they were never taught in the field of life, how not to struggle, they were never taught to take on challenges, they were never taught how to go get what they think is important, and they were never taught their gender roles that would make them feel happy and content.
There are ingredients that are needed that can only come from the mother and the father of the child that help the child become complete.
Today’s parenting is immature, it is based on corrupt irresponsible maths – She works, he works, children spend most of the day separated from parents, equals wonderful wholesome adults. This is very foolish math.
All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
Monday, 13 April 2026, 8:55:06 am.
Good Manners
If a person shows good manners, and makes an effort to be respectful people will enjoy having that person around them and will also respect such a soul.
Getting in to the habit of saying, “Please” and “Thank you” gives a signal across to people that you are in fact a nice person, you care about them, you know, when you say, “Thank you!” you are letting people know that you are thankful for whatever that person did for you.
Part of being polite is saying, “Thank you!” and being ignored, but having the maturity and wisdom to know that all people’s characters are not the same and that some people will not be polite back. The good news for you in this situation is to realise that people “signal” to you who they are by their actions, thus this person who is not polite back is subconsciously telling you to not expect the same good behaviour that you have from that person. But always to also remember that your good behaviour would be a good example for that person. So, even if the other person is not polite, you keep being polite anyway.
But always please bear in mind that some people may just be having a bad day and are just not polite because he or she is upset for some reason.
Dealing with people can become rather complex, but that is fine, its just another part of life.
Visiting Other People’s Homes
If the person does not use bad language, make sure you don’t use any language or words that would offend that person. I tend to see in my mind that another persons home is their castle and that that person and his or her family are the rulers of that castle, they set the rules, and even if they allow you to smoke or be disrespectful to some degree, a good man won’t be disrespectful.
If people know that you do things differently to them, but in their home you show honour and respect for them by following their home rules they will notice that and think highly of you. This is good.
So, my advice is always show respect for people in their own home. If you deeply disagree with a persons rules then don’t go to that home.
Please don’t ever put aside your beliefs and feelings for other peoples, because then you are disrespecting yourself.
Please always be aware some people will say to you that you can speak and do as you like in their home, and you let loose a bit and they get very angry at you. My advice is to be comfortable, but also be in control and even if those around you act the fool you don’t have to join them. If you don’t act the fool as the others do, you will stand out and be seen by people as good, polite, and in control of yourself.
Listening to people.
It is Polite to Listen to other people when they talk to you. Hearing that person out until he or she finishes talking shows respect. Another important part is taking in what you are listening to, so much so, that you should be able to talk about what the other person said to you enough to show that you were in fact caring enough to listen to what he or she has to say to you.
Realize that people love to be heard, it makes them feel good to know that you care enough to listen, not interrupt, and care enough to want to hear what that person has to say.
Another important thing for you, is that if you listen carefully there may be something that this person is saying to you that could be helpful to you now or in the future. Also, though, what you are being told could help you help the person who is talking to you.
Conversation can mean a lot to the person talking to you, and if this person deeply values your views and beliefs, he or she, will want you to tell that person what you honestly think about what was said to you.
As a child I was not taught about being polite, so a lot of what I discovered was after saying the wrong thing, or offending someone, or not realising that what was being told to be was a secret and that person respected me enough to tell me and expected me not to say something about it to other people and I did, and then was deeply disliked for talking about it.
Please be aware that a conversation between you and someone else is only between you and that someone else (unless it is illegal). Also please note that people don’t always tell you not to say anything about what he or she is telling you, so please don’t make the same mistake I made of saying something about it and being hated for it, yet I had no idea that what I was doing was wrong – but it taught me a lesson not to do that again.
Saying Sorry
People can be very hurt emotionally or even physically by the things that we do. If we say, “Sorry!” it makes a big difference to the person who was put out.
Saying Sorry means also that you care, and that you made a mistake that was not intentional and you regret doing what you did.
We Are All Different.
While we are all different, we all have many variations to our own personal character, if we have certain rules that we follow, fair, decent, honest, honourable rules, we can be different, but also fair, good, worthy, respectful people.
If we all, or most of us, have good manners, are polite, respectful, caring, we can all be of different characters, and shine in our own way, yet still get on as peacefully as we can, while also brining something new, different and interesting to the table of Life.
All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
Tuesday, 7 October 2025, 1:04:26 pm.
Boundaries
Boundaries are like a fence around your house. You keep what you don’t want in your life out of your yard and what you want you let in. This is a way to protect yourself, and also a way to help you live the life that you want to live.
We tend to get a fair idea by the time we are young adults of some or most of what we like and don’t like. We also dislike certain behaviour that we sometimes slip in to, and we force ourselves to behave.
I always had a rule that when I visited people I would abide by the rules of that home. When I was a cigarette smoker I would never smoke in someone home is they didn’t smoke.
Years ago I had some people visiting and we were out the back yard talking and having coffee and a man took out a marijuana joint and I told him to put it away. I said that this is my property and we don’t do that here at my place and he laughed, and he continues to prepare to smoke the joint. So I walked over to him and grabbed his fist and crushed the joint in his hand. He was shocked at my forceful behaviour.
But see, this was one of my boundaries, no drugs on my section or in my life. When you enforce your rules people can get very angry with you, many people let down their guard for family, but I don’t. If I say no about something I completely expect it to be the rule and people to abide by the rules at my house.
If we let one of our rules slip and let people do it then everyone will expect to be able to do it. If you say No then they will remind you of the time that you said yes. So, to me, it should be that the rule stays in practice all the time and not broken for anyone.
When we are children we can see what is good and bad and then as young adults because of peer pressure and wanting to fit in, we let ourselves do things that may get us hurt, make us feel ashamed, disappointed in ourselves and so on. Boundaries are the fences that we put around us that tell other people hos far that they can go with us, and they remind us of how far we want to go.
When we are a young adult we can feel ready to go do our thing, to enjoy life, yet we are very inexperienced. Society seems to make a person feel foolish if he or she is inexperienced in something. The boy learning to play a sport cannot participate in that sport until he learns about the sport, learns and understands the rules. He could be fit, healthy, strong, but would not do well until he learns how to play that sport. Life is like that.
All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
Wednesday, 17 September 2025, 8:49:56 pm.
One of my favourite songs, naturally!
She’s faced the hardest times, you could imagine
And many times her eyes fought back the tears
And when her youthful world, was about to fall in
Each time her slender shoulders
Bore the weight of all her fears
And a sorrow no one hears
Still rings in midnight silence, in her ears
Let her cry, for she’s a lady (she’s a lady)
Let her dream, for she’s a child (child)
Let the rain fall down upon her
She’s a free and gentle flower, growing wild
And if by chance I should hold her (if by chance that I should hold her)
Let me hold her for a time (let me hold her for a time)
But if allowed just one possession
I would pick her from the garden, to be mine
(I would pick her from the garden, to be mine)
Be careful how you touch her, for she’ll awaken
And sleep’s the only freedom that she knows
And when you walk into her eyes, you won’t believe
The way she’s always paying
For a debt she never owes
And a silent wind still blows
That only she can hear and so she goes
Let her cry, for she’s a lady
Let her dream, for she’s a child
Let the rain fall down upon her
She’s a free and gentle flower, growing wild
Let her cry, for she’s a lady (she’s a lady)
Let her dream, for she’s a child
Let the rain fall down upon her
She’s a free and gentle flower, growing wild
She’s a flower growing wild
Songwriters: David Richardson / Doug Edwards
Using AI, my take on it is to use AI a question or two, but keep your own core goal in mind, and then heavily edit the out put from AI.
It can also be used as a guide and helped, also in my opinion and so far experience, it can give you other views of what you are asking. Things that you have not thought of. When I studied electronics i did two courses at once, same when learning programming I read two books at once, and in doing that i got two different views of what I was learning, it can help one think better, and see things that he or she didn’t notice yet or have not thought of.
Say you are in an abusive situation, or are a secretary, and you are suspicious of something, then tell the AI who you are, and give your background and where your are coming from in all areas, fear, emotions, coding, whatever.
Once the AI has an idea of who you are, what you are experiencing and what your problems is, then ask the AI to be something for you, such as if you wanted advice about secretarial work, ask the AI to give you a view of your job and tell the AI that it is a secretary experiencing what you are, and ask how it would deal with the job, any suggestions, any ideas of improvement, and the AI will tell you what you have been thinking or new information on different angles, giving you knew insights, new idea, and new angles to research more – and from the AI input, and you sticking to your core reason for asking the questions, ask more based on those results.
What you end up with is a back and forth conversation with the AI asking you if you want it to do more, suggesting ideas, new angles, new thoughts, and this makes it all interesting because your thoughts about your job have now been expanded, and you see.
The AI appreciates your telling as much information as you have, and the more you tell it, the more it can become more useful to you by taking all the input you gave it, like an A4 page worth of your explaining the situation, and then you get a wider range of feedback from many angles.
Say, a situation has come up that you have never dealt with before, and you decide to ask about it, or you suspect something to be true but it seems unlikely, but you ask and get a answer that confirm your suspicions or at least has you thinking more along those lines now than discarding them outright.