I used to know a young woman in her late teen years and she is a Christian. Her way of dealing with people who argue with her, or who try to upset her, or who refuse to see things her way is to simply look them in the eyes, say, “Ok, oh well, you have a nice day.” and regardless of what they say to her to egg her back in to an argument she walks away.

To her if they want to talk to her she will talk, and listen, and be kind and considerate, because she is a meek humble soul. But she is not foolish, thus she won’t let people push her around or go into long drawn out pointless arguments that she does not want any part of.

So, she shows them the respect that many of them don’t deserve, and walks away, and more than likely never to return again.

Somewhere in her past, as a younger woman/girl, she discovered that people like to argue or put people down, and they actually enjoy hurting people, and so instead of being their target, she takes their right away to target and abuse her with words.

If they don’t like what she believes then to her that is fine, if they want her to tell them about what she believes that is fine, but if they refuse to listen to her or become nasty or abusive or try to make a joke out of her or God, she just politely walks away and they are left with no power over her at all anymore.

She walks, away, and she forgets the conversation, she may pray for them, but she feels so much at peace by leaving them in her past never to see them ever again. This does not mean that she does not care abut them, but she does care about her own mental peace, mental health and her harmony with life.

I too have been like this for many years now. If someone starts an argument I just let them go off their head as foolishly or even threateningly, and the I walk away, leaving them no power over me at all, and they are the only one who looks like a fool to any onlookers.

A few have mouthed off and claimed that i was scared of them and that is why I didn’t react so in public when I see that person I walk right up to him in front of his mates and look him in the eye daring a comment and the person is always polite or mildly upset, because you see, from the experience where I didn’t react that person didn’t learn whether I could react and thump him, so because he needs his foolish pride fed he says cowardly things about me behind my back, until I face him publicly.

So I take the opportunity in front of others to face him off and let everyone know that i was never scared, just polite.

A gentleman avoids a fight, especially if he knows he can win that fight. There is no honour in hurting or shaming a fool. Walking away is the kindest thing that a good person can do when someone gets nasty and proud.

I knew of a true story where a man who was drunk hit a man’s young daughter in his car while she was going to school with her father. The father, furious lashed out and punched the drunk, and the drunk fell, hit his head on a curb and died. The father got prison time for that loss of temper.

So, even if you can win a fight, the best course of action I was told when doing martial arts classes was to always try to avoid the fight as best as you can, if that does not work, only fight back after you have been attacked, otherwise the other person loudly mouthing off hurts no one and just makes the loud person look like a fool.

As the young woman learned at a young age, walking away from people who refuse to hear you out and refuse to respect you and your beliefs, walking away is a great form of peace of mind. Leave them be.