© 2019 James Martin Sandbrook. Tokoroa | New Zealand
About the Author
James Sandbrook has been writing Delphi related information for Delphi Developers for several years, and has been programming for many years. Programming environments
he has used include machine code, Z80 Machine Code, Basic, GWBasic, IBM Basic, Turbo Pascal 5.5, Turbo Pascal 7.0, and Borland Delphi versions 1, 3, 5, and 6.
He founded the popular Delphi Programming Source Code web site, which was renamed
to the Delphi Collection web site. Also he founded the Delphi-
mailing list which has thousands of members, and the Delphi Tips mailing list, which also has thousands of members.
James also owned and was director of Sandbrook Software & PC Services Ltd and Sandbrook Software.
Today he is a religious and motivational writer and security officer.
Grace, Tracey, Me, Jimmy and Rachel.
With my daughters son on their recent visit.
Why the Mental Health System Cannot Help Your Mental Condition.
Love.
September 2019 Thoughts.
Facebook Memories -
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Delphi/Programming Interview/Articles
Running (action story).
The Tucker Twins (2005) -
Finished uploading The Weenie Beenies.
\News for the years News During 1998 -
The All Blacks vs The Springboks by "Ball Boy" James M Sandbrook -
Father Forgets -
Television and Children -
Tracy’s Interview with Rebecca Smith (FVHS). This interview was for our web site
called SpecialLady.com back around the year 2000.
Tracy and Rachel’s Delphi Developer Tips. (2002)
Resource Files in Delphi.
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Resource Files in Delphi.
Helping Josh.
Our Geocities page back in 1998, this is one year after the wife and I decided to
get back together.
The interview with Ann. (1999 ). Still lots of old stuff floating around out there on the Internet that I did years ago.
The other interviews. The DPSC mentioned in a list of Delphi web pages, bottom.
An example of my Delphi Tips on another website (2000).
I found an example of my Delphi mailing list/group, it is archived.
Diwalli 2013 -
Duke -
Motivational Stories I have collected.
Modern Day Monk -
South Waikato Living Without Violence Trust -
A Sandbrook’s 2008 video. It is an .exe extension.Alcohol.
Updated Love.
How to Stop Worrying ideas. Saying, “No!”.
Woman Of The Holy Spirit. Narcissism.
Peaceful Reformation Narcissism.
Growing Up Without a good father figure.
Grace and I at the natural water fall (Rotorua).
Jimmy and James Mapu 14-
Updated/Added:
Sex -
Facebook Pages and Groups I Admin on my own or with other people:
Inspirational Quotes with Florabel Myers.
Tokoroa Historical Articles and Photos with Rima Apera Tunupopo.
Positively Tokoroa with David Henry School Principal, Naima Placid.
Flowers Of The Heart with Yexela Anderson.
Tokoroa Photography with Kirsten Anderson.
Tokoroa Day with Noel Ferguson and Missy Lepaio.
The last car I owned (other than the one that lasted 2 weeks in 2007), my Mrk 5 Cortina
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much debt from loans etc it was parked up and basically left to rot. We ended up
using it for storing firewood then dumping it because of the rust.
The wife got herself a small car for two people. I was not allowed near it. So the children and I walked. People ask me why I don’t like feminism, this is why.
Found the main page to the Private DPSC web site. Where all the Delphi content was.
I have just been going through the pages and this shows the huge amount of work
I put in for just this one web site. All the tutorials and code I wrote, was given,
all had to be tested and proven to work before it was given to the people who bought
a password to this site. Gosh this all brings back so many memories. Glad I kept
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You were never meant to be perfect, that was never the plan, and you were never expected to be "perfect".
You were created to get through your life, your were created to love, and to have blessed fellowship.
You were given an amazing body to help your spirit through this life, to learn to adapt, to grow and to find the things within yourself that will make your soul whole, complete and worthy.
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Instead of making you perfect, God made you "able" and "complete", "strong" and "courageous", "charitable", "kind" and "loving". God has blessed your life in many many ways. Evil has worked hard to confuse you to destroy your life.
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God made your weakest moments when in tears on your knees, as your most powerful moments in trembling humbleness as you came closer to Him in truth and understanding.
It is in your brokenness that the light of God shines through to the world and makes
others lives more bearable and complete. The meek, humble godly person is the greatest
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You were meant to love, share, give and expand God's love to all living things with all your heart and soul.
Your life was designed to be unleashed on a darkened world to shine His love mixed with your love for those in need, and to do a good deed.
How we are to the world is how we react to the people and events in our lives.
If we react in anger we cast a shadows of darkness on unwary innocent souls.
If we react with kindness, understating, and love, we bring forth a compassion, sacrificial love upon the good and the bad.
It is the loving positive effort that brings more people to God and a new way of life. A way of life that will help many depart from a cold hardened past to find a new Truth.
Perfection is not our goal. Striving to be the best that your heart can feel, and closer to God in our daily walk means that we will become kinder, more charitable, more caring, more respected, useful and needed.
Please don't judge yourself because you have fallen.
We all have fallen.
We have all been bruised, and every one of us has played the fool.
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Let your spirit soar, and free yourself from the mindless captivity that humankind tends to trap us in.
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Please be happy and pleased that you are not perfect. Rejoice in your individual nature, your character, and how you have escaped from the conformity of society and have let your true self free.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
January 7, 2015.
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Stop trying to figure everything out. God already has it all figured out. Keep walking by faith. Follow God's direction for your life.
We humans cannot figure out what we don’t understand, and we don’t understand everything going on aroudn us, so we need to have faith that God has it figuredout forus.
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As we grow, read, experience life we learn and become more educated as to who to let into our lives and what affect people will have in our lives.
It doesn't mean shut them off or shut them down, it means being careful while also setting a good example of love and forgiveness that may impress them enough one day for them to want to change their ways...
All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
January 8, 2013 at 10:16 AM.
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What would you attempt to do if you knew you could not fail? -
It reminds me of the one about what would you do if you found out that you were going to die tomorrow?
Most of us would instantly cast away all your worries and fears, and just do what is important to your heart and who cares what people think now etc.
Many people have come close to death, and with the shock and realization that they can die at anytime, even possibly very soon, they rush out and do the things that they have always wanted to do. Because they are not worried about other people's opinions anymore (a common problem that holds people back from achieving their dreams and a completion of an idea etc), instead they now just want to try that risk that they have always avoided (because it is out of their comfort zone).
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
May 27, 2015.
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Self Improvement is about changing ones ways. And the only way that this can be done is by being tough on yourself and demanding that you respect yourself enough to want the best for yourself. Its about change for the better. Being tough means that when people come along to tempt you to places or things that you know you shouldn't be doing you say "No!" and are firm about it.
Part of self improvement is moving forward and not falling back to the ways of the
past (no matter how much we liked it in the past or are tempted -
Its not about making money, or redefining yourself, or becoming famous, or school
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Be strong and of good courage and be tough enough on yourself to find the changes you want to make and then make them. Don't rush too much but do make a strong effort. And don't let yourself down, God and you know you are worth more than that.
I read a few times that the most successful people are only about 5% of the population because they get tough on themselves and don't weaken to temptations and stay on course for self improvement. Lets improve on that number and add ourselves to that with dedication to make this year a very important one in our lives.
All the best from James M Sandbrook.
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“Having boundaries doesn’t complicate life; boundaries simplify life.” Beyond Codependency.
There is a positive aspect to boundary setting. We learn to listen to ourselves and identify what hurt us and what we don’t like. But we also learn to identify what feels good.
When we are willing to take some risks and begin actively doing so, we will enhance the quality of our life.
What do we like? What feels good? What brings us pleasure? Whose company do we enjoy? What helps us to feel good in the morning? What’s a real treat in our life? What are the small, daily activities that make us feel nurtured and cared for?
What appeals to our emotional, spiritual, mental, and physical self? What actually feels good to us?
We have deprived ourselves too long. There is no need to do that anymore, no need.
If it feels good, and the consequences are self-
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Triangulation in this case (narcissism) means welcoming new people into your life that will serve as a support network to you during this time.
All this time (up to now), the narcissist has triangulated you with others to validate their own sense of superiority.
Now you must “triangulate”your narcissist with a new support system to validate your experiences. This is not meant to make the narcissist jealous –it is meant to give you the resources and empowerment you need to heal.
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Due to your empathy and ability to emotionally connect, this triangulation has the benefit of adding to your psychological resilience.
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Having at least one person who has your back and can snap you back to reality, who knows what you've been through, is invaluable. Having a whole community of other survivors who have your back?
Well, now you’re bound to be invincible.
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Words in brackets are mine.
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