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13th-8-2025
Thought I would treat myself to another movie, and ah iz a watchin
The Curious Case of Benjamin Button
Watching
Personally Yours (2000)
And the father flies what looks a bit like Beaver (de Havilland) which is really cool, one of the things that i have always wanted to do.
I read about a couple in the USA who flew from lake to lake as a holiday in a Beaver. That is an awesome idea.
Valerie Bertinelli has always been a cutie methinks 🙂 at least the few things that I have seen her act in.
This is how you lose the love of your child. At first the child is terrified of not being with his or her mother, but as time goes by the child gets used to the parents dropping the child off with other people, and finally gives up, stays in Survival Mode for the rest of his life, because he or she never had that complete-mother-and-child-relationships where she is supposed to love, nurture, care for daily her own child until the child is much older.
The child gets it in the end, he or she is not that important to the parents as the child first thought.
Unspoken Rules for Men
1. Never shake a hand sitting down.
Standing up shows respect and engagement. It signifies that you value the person you are meeting and are fully present in the interaction.
2. Protect who is behind you, and respect who is beside you. This emphasizes loyalty and honor. Protecting those behind you means safeguarding your family, friends, and teammates. Respecting those beside you signifies recognizing the equality and value of your peers.
3. Never insult the cooking when you are the guest.
Showing gratitude and respect for hospitality is essential. Criticizing the cooking is disrespectful and ungrateful, especially when someone has gone out of their way to host you.
4. Never eat the last piece of something you didn’t buy. This rule underscores courtesy and consideration for others. It demonstrates awareness and respect for shared resources and the contributions of others.
5. Never make the first offer in a negotiation.
Letting the other party make the first offer can provide strategic advantages. It gives you insight into their expectations and can help you negotiate better terms.
6. Don’t take credit for work you didn’t do.
Integrity in acknowledging others’ efforts is crucial. Taking undue credit undermines trust and damages your credibility.
7. Take the blame, and give credit when due.
Owning up to mistakes and recognizing others’ contributions builds respect and trust. It shows maturity and leadership.
8. If you are not invited, don’t ask to go.
Respecting boundaries and invitations is key to maintaining good social etiquette. It avoids awkward situations and respects the host’s intentions.
9. Always aim for the head.
This metaphorical rule can apply to many scenarios, implying that you should strive for excellence and precision in your efforts.
10. Don’t beg for a relationship.
Self-respect and dignity are important. Desperation can lead to unhealthy dynamics and undervalues your worth.
11. Dress well no matter what the occasion.
Good grooming and dressing appropriately show respect for yourself and others. It also boosts confidence and makes a positive impression.12. Always carry cash.
Being prepared for various situations, including emergencies, is practical. It reflects foresight and responsibility.
13. Listen, nod, and most of all make eye contact.
Active listening and non-verbal engagement are crucial for effective communication. They show that you value and are attentive to the speaker.
14. Show restraint in expressing anger, no matter what. Being angry is a waste of energy.
Managing anger is vital for maintaining composure and making rational decisions. It prevents regrettable actions and fosters a more positive environment.
15. Whether it’s dinner, drinks, or both, avoid placing your phone on the dinner table.
Prioritizing face-to-face interactions over digital distractions shows respect and attentiveness to those present.
16. Never pose with alcohol.
Maintaining a responsible image is important. Posing with alcohol can convey unprofessionalism or recklessness.
17. Proper grammar will get you far in life. Leave the foul language for the less educated.
Good communication skills, including proper grammar, enhance your credibility and professionalism. Avoiding foul language shows respect and maturity.
18. Ask more than you answer.
Showing interest in others by asking questions fosters better relationships and understanding. It also demonstrates humility and a willingness to learn.
19. You can tell a great deal about a person by their handshake, so make yours strong and firm.
A firm handshake conveys confidence and sincerity. It is often the first impression you make, so it’s important to get it right.
20. Speak honestly. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Honesty builds trust and integrity. It involves being truthful and consistent, fostering deeper connections and mutual respect. Speaking honestly also means balancing truth with empathy and tact, ensuring that your words are respectful and considerate.
Found my book about manipulators in the sales industry.
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In his book Ron tells of how one makes a sale by being everything that the victim/customer wants the salesperson to be and to mimic the victim/Customer. If you want to convince someone to be what you want them to be he says you find something about that person that stands out, like mannerisms etc.
And then you copy those mannerisms into your normal movements and then when the victim subconsciously sees that you are like them and that you physically act and move like them (like bite your nails, flick your hair, what side you comb your hair on, what you wear, how you laugh, what you eat, how you eat, etc), the victim can think that they like you (people like to like themselves) and they will buy off you or are easily seduced.
People tend to like to think that they trust themselves, thus they will always trust someone who is friendly and is like who they are.
He said that if someone wanted to sell Harley’s to gang members then they need to dress like a gang member. Not wear a patch but to wear leathers and such and when they pull up on the latest Harley looking tough, rough and then talk, walk and act like the group, maybe smoke a joint with them/have a beer or two, and the gang members will gather around already mentally sold on the bike and the salesperson. Meaning that they will trust anything you say, because you “are just like them” even though you are not.
If you want to sell a BMW to a businessman then trim your hair, beard, whatever, and dress in a business suit and then turn up like that. Then you act, talk, behave and chat just like a business person. You may read the newspaper that morning with the latest news in that businessman’s/business woman’s field so you can both chat about the latest that is happening in that field of business giving the impression that you are like the character of the business person and that you are really into what they like, believe in and live – they think that you are one of them, so they buy off you what they don’t need, just to “help a friend out”.
And while you are happily chatting to your victims you bring down any protective suspicious walls that they many have about you and about salespeople. In a very short period of time they will not only see in you who they are, but they will like you because you remind them of themselves, and they will trust you.
Now imagine how easy it is to manipulate someone into marrying a Narcissist or into an arranged religious or non-religious marriage.
I read the book of his about 15 years ago, but after the manipulation of people I have known and read about I noted that in order for them to get someone into a relationship they would use the same techniques, First find out what the victim likes, wants in romance, believes in, their habits, and then put that all in one person so that the victim see’s in the suitor a handsome (they found out what she liked in men) many who spoke her beliefs, physically had her mannerisms, was taught the same beliefs and ideals and had the same vision as her.
The manipulator will present the victim with what the victim wants to have, and what the victim believes in.
So if you want to sell someone to someone else the manipulator knows that you present them someone like themselves, people just cannot turn down someone who is presented as they are.
If the person is vain they will see in the other person someone like themselves and they will rejoice because this person appears to be who they like, themselves.
And even if the victim is hurt or abused by the manipulator at some time in the relationship, he or she will take them back because all the “Strings of Attachment” are all still there from the first time that they were together – the manipulator knows what buttons to press to control the willing victim, so it is really easy to get back with them once the hurt is pushed further back in the past, hope replaces anger, shame and embarrassment, and the dream that was there the first time is encouraged to grow by others in the victims mid and once again the victim is happily repeating the past completely unaware that disaster will strike again as it did in the past.
The victim does not realise that accepting the victim back is a guarantee of repeating the past.
It is like cutting yourself with a knife, the second time will still produce a cut because the knife is a knife, and so it is with the Narcissist manipulator, and the victim who does not learn from the past will get abuse all over again and hate themselves eve more so because they once again allowed themselves and the children to suffer at the manipulators hands.
It is simply a matter of convincing the victim that the abusive act was an honest mistake that anyone would have made in the same situation, and often they may even put the blame on the victim to make the victim feel guilty, ashamed, and then willing to take back the manipulator to make amends and of course this will just lead to abuse in the future.
Often people are once shamed by the first breakup that when the abuse happens the second time the victim will just accept the abuse as something that they just have to experience to make the relationship work, exactly what the manipulator wants the victim to do. So the victim puts up with the abuse for years, and so do the children.
When you choose a marriage partner for life you must be aware of the non-believer character (Includes religious) and see them as their upbringing no matter what they say to your how convincing they are in reassuring you about how they have changed ad are different now – especially be careful if they have abused you in recent years, a sure sign that they are saying thing and will do another.
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Only the truly changed Born Again soul is good enough for a good decent male or female who believes in God and this is obvious by their genuine kind loving character – it shows in their character, manner, politeness, and how God looks after them and protects them in God’s own ways.
– 6th-8-2024.
A Thought:
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They say that if you don’t react negatively or nasty to nasty mean treatment to yourself then you will shine through and people will see the wonderful honest person that you truly are.
If you retaliate then you will be seen as a bitter, nasty revengeful person by many. So the best thing to do is when your character is attacked or you are gossiped about its to simply get on with life and do what you always have done. Just be that good person that you are.
The thing about being lied about or gossiped about is that we have an honest normal tendency to prove ourself innocent. No one can be blamed for wanting the real truth known if they are innocent. It is natural to want justice and to want people to know that you did no wrong and that you have been set up by people intending harm on you.
The thing is that as a reaction to trying to prove our own innocence the guilty are shown in their true-colors. It can’t be helped. Especially if people point the finger at you (behind your back mostly) and accuse you of this and that publicly, then “they are known as the accuser” and you are “known as the one who did evil”.
But once you prove that you are really innocent then naturally the one who did the accusing is then publicly known to be the liar who made vicious false accusations in the first place. The tables are turned on them and it is all their own fault for lying in the first place and trying to be mean and evil against you.
Nothing can be done about the false-accuser being found out because in time the innocent one is known to be good and truthful, someone who would never do the things that they were falsely accused of.
There is also the situation where the accuser was confused, mentally ill or was mislead about the other person and told everyone what they thought was true. These people need to get right with the person that they did wrong and apologise. This is the decent thing to do and clears the air of all wrongs done.
All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
May 7, 2014 at 1:09 AM.
This is a very hard thing to do, I feel so sorry for the Police having to do this as a part of their job.
Remember, everyday you are getting stronger and stronger and you will see as you progress that you will see how weak your worries and anxieties are, and how they really never had any control over you at all.
Proverbs 27:17: As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.
Maybe this is why we trust, at least as children our emotions. But we need to realise that we are closer to God at birth and more spiritual at birth as well. So this could also be said as “We Sense before we think.”
My efforts are to try to get people to understand that they have been sold a very limited version of themselves – a version that is submissive, obeys irrational authority, has limited feelings (apathetic), has limited abilities (is not Spiritual), is limited thinking (has been taught to shun thinking out of the box).
As a Limited Version of Ourselves we receive only half the confidence, half the benefits of being human, we never find true courage, or true self belief, or get the true meaning of life of which we are actually a part of, and we don’t blend in with nature and love all beings, thus we never feel the true spiritual harmony of being in nature, respecting nature thus we won’t see the worth in protecting nature and all its amazing animals.
As a result we never find connection with our true spiritual self, nor know how to be at one with out higher self, God or the Universe of which we are all a part of as well. Our depth is lost as we accept commercialism, irrational authorities, and submit to a lesser life.
The harshness of modern life is that we have left nature behind, even in the small towns nature is out there , but we stay in the town because its warm and we don’t want to risk coming across the wildlife, or whats left of it.
I try to encourage people to try to imagine life back in the 1700’s. History paints a dim picture, but remember modern history writers and governments have an agenda, a desire for you to be into materialism and commercialism, thus if you found that trading goods, the old village or life living off the land attractive you will not pay rates, taxes, and will cause unwanted upsets that will get other people thinking out of the square, they don’t want true intelligence and wisdom, they want submission and you to follow the rules that they have been drumming in to your mind since you were about 5 years old.
People back then trusted their instincts, they trusted God, and they got a “spiritual feel” for the land, listened to their gut, sensed danger, sensed rain, storms, and were very well in-tune with the land of which they lived on in harmony with animals and nature.
You can often tell the most materialistic minded people around you when you can smell rain coming and they can’t. I have been doing that since I was a child, and most times I know when it will rain, even if the weather forecast is not for rain.
We see that if we search for Twin Flames, Spiritual Love, Soul Partners and so on that there are a huge amount of articles, quotes, comments, and images on those subjects as millions or billions of people are going through these things, then on the other side of the coin you have Mainstream Society, and Mainstream society is materialism, carnal, industry, politics and so on.
Two completely different belief systems, one spiritual and the other material and carnal, living side by side, and both know to some degree of the other, but only mainstream is full of haters, attackers, because material minded people are close minded, narrow minded, easily led, conformers, and very prideful. These people actually think that drugs, alcohol, parties, money and commercialism are a happy life.
People tend to stay with what they were born into, but many material-minded people, as adults are finally discovering for themselves that Mainstream Society is not what it has been promised to be and they want a more deeper, spiritual, loving, happy life, they have had enough of the fake.
In order for the church to keep the congregation they tell them that they are forgiven for all their sins and all they have to do is accept that Jesus is saviour.
Second they tell the congregation to constantly praise God for protecting them, even though life is hell for them, you see, if we don’t give up sinning we stay mentally and physically weak, satanic. If we give praise to God for being strong for us, we don’t develop the strengths to cope and be strong ourselves.
Remember, the religions have given to the god of money and materialism so they want you weak so that the church can fit in, thats why the want your money.
If God Blessed them then they would not need your money, God would supply all that they need.
Jesus new, as did all the Prophets, that we are connected randomly as Materialistic Souls, and as Materialistic Souls we were driven to other people through our eyes, and personal gain, such as gaining friends interested in our own interests, marrying because someone was attractive, or because we liked the sex, or because they had everything that we wanted in a material sense so we assumed that
God got that person for us and we start off life with that person in a perfect setting with it all and so on.
Jesus told us to forget family, parents, what we had learned so far, forget the past, forget society, forget our goals, because if we really wanted God, the Kingdom, true love, the fruit of being Spiritual we must start again, we need to see in Spirit, Pray in Spirit, Pray all day, have compassion for all, and so on.
Conspiracy Theorists became speakers of the truth by elimination of untruths.
Originally Conspiracy Theorists were seen as crackpots with many weird (some truthful) crazy theories.
But in the last two decades people in power became more and more unhitched allowing laws that don’t make sense and allowing things like the Covid vaccines without checking whether they actually did the job, and many people like myself voiced concerned – we were not saying that COVID did not exist, we were saying that the vaccines was simply a huge cash cow for the pharmaceutical
companies, which is now being proven as truth.
What was weird was about 2010 I wrote many times bout Fluoride being bad for us and being banned in most of Europe and yet in New Zealand I was seen as a Conspiracy Theorist, so that may of been a sign of what was to come because it has already been proven about the dangers of fluoride and I even had the proof yet local governments told the people fluoride was safe and good for them and
the people blindly drank it and protected their right to drink fluoride, and 15 years later they still support fluoride int he drinking water. So, in New Zealand the jury is still out on that one because the people still conform.
Same as with the COVID vaccines, all the versions of it were fairly protected and backed up by the New Zealand public, and they bullied and laughed at people who would not get the injections, much like the people supporting Hitler eh? Easily subdued, easily led, and easily laughed at people like me who spoke out against the vaccines. In the end I realised that they would not listen so I left the
masses to it. Just like crate-day, all their mental capacity for common sense, wisdom and logic left in a closet in their minds somewhere.
But now the so-called Conspiracy Theorists who spoke out about the vaccines are being seen as thinkers, investigators, and wise, and I am sure that the people who staunchly backed up Jacinda and her forcing the vaccines on us all are feeling very foolish.
– 6-12-2023.
One of the Narcissist Manipulator Tricks is to give you a Pre-Planned Vision for your Life.
They know that people are willing to push themselves if they have a plan, a dream, a vision of what they want for the future.
So to get you to follow what they want you to do, to get you to follow their agenda, they create that dream for you, then they talk you into desiring that dream, the dream that will deny your natural dreams, yet it will fill you full of fire, desire and want, for that dream.
Now, if they can add Injustice to that dream, by telling you that you have been hard done by, victimized, and so on, you will feel a wild fire to push yourself even harder for the Pre-Planned Dream that they seduced in to your Soul. There goal is to get you to run to that dream that they gave you while filling your mind with wild imaginings, and thoughts that are unimportant, so that you will not stop and really examine what is going o with your life, where you are going, where they are taking you, and also asking yourself, “How did I get to this position anyway?”
They want you immature, weak-minded, easily guided, unconfident, and seldom able to really cope.
This is what they did with women over Feminism.
They invented a feeling of being used, abused, victimized (and yes some were these things, but they were few) and enslaved in to a antiquated system created by religious manipulators to control and limit the lives and success of women.
With these thoughts of being victimized, and of injustice against all women in the world, more and more women each decade joined the Imagined-Cause and with numbers comes power, and when it was seen that the group was big enough to swing votes to a political party the Liberals ran to engage this group with money, encouragements and support, thus guaranteeing a solid block-vote of millions of women at each election.
The point of Giving People a Plan is to have them chase the plan, so much so, that the plan/goal fills their life, so much so, that they become very busy, too busy to think, then the more and more people that become parts of this growing group, the more that the group appears to be a genuine cause and a source of power. More and more people will look at the growing group and think that this must be the truth, this must be a good thing, these people are really onto something great, we must join ourselves.
Teaching people to have faith in a cause, faith in its “truth”, causes people to forget their old thinking, what they once wanted, and then has them heading in a complete opposite direction, often to be used and abused and to think that they can be mistreated just as long as it is “for the cause”.
This makes the victims of a cause thinking that suffering, abuse and being the martyr is a worthy and good thing, when in reality they are just letting a person or people abuse, use and destroy them.
My sisters, friends, family, nieces, and Jimmy
Us being Baptized in church, 2004.
Me with the ute truck when I was working for Forest & General Security Ltd.
Me 2021, working for Brett George with Forest Security Northland Ltd.
Some letters have been found describing Jesus, although they cannot be verified as original or real, one is claimed o be a copy of a letter, but why make a copy. One letter says that he had blue eyes, another grey eyes. one said tall and one said middle height (about 171 centimetres – 5 feet 7 inches) but they claim that he was fierce when angry, nice, kind, good, and one letter said that he never laughed. They claimed that he had a red beard. it was said that due to people’s spiritual image of Jesus that they saw Jesus in their own mind in a different way.This probably means that the young saw Jesus as younger man he was, women saw him as what they wanted him to be, tall, handsome, and such like appearance, males wanted to see a strong sombre humble non-threatening man. I noticed this a lot when doing the pamphlets around this area as I was approached by people of different ages and thy tended to see me as like them, and that is probably because people want to share their private thoughts with someone who they will like, so they see what they want to see or what they want to think they see.Have you ever witnessed two people arguing about the appearance of someone? It happens.Saint Augustine wrote, “The physical face of the Lord is pictured with infinite variety, by countless imaginations. Though whatever it was like he certainly had only one.A forth century said that Jesus comes to us in various forms.
Modern Science
• Past Science was formed and became a Bubble of Thoughts by many wonderful people. This science was about the structure of Plant, Animals, Humans and such, stuff proven in laboratories and from taking things apart and breaking them down and categorizes them, placing them in grups for further studies and understanding.
• Then came along some people, and they formed a Bubble of Scientific Speculation, they had theories, guesses, and ideas about the center of the Planet Earth, how the Sun works, and a lot of stuff about Outer Space, the plants and so forth, 99% unproven but the make wonderful theories.
Somewhere along the way people merged the Proven Science with the Science Theories and merged them until they both became Teachable Facts of proven Science. You can find science books about the sun, with a breakdown of how it works and so on, it is said that the sun is about 93 million miles away from Earth, and you can imagine that it is easy to make assumptions about something that far away and assume your Earthly Knowledge is space knowledge.
They claim:
It is said that we can only get around 4 million miles to the sun, I once read that as one million miles, so there are various views of this, called a theory, not a fact. Maybe every country teaches different “facts” about the sun.
The reality is that all of this is good math, speculation, and theories. The scary part, and what we should be worried about is that this stuff is considered complete and actual facts, and practically no-one questions this kind of theory data, its all assumed to be facts and thats it.
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Sisters and nieces.
Deidre, Jimmy, Lisa and Donella’s boyfriend.
Fiona, Lisa and Deidre, at mothers funeral.
At 55 Kelso Street, Tokoroa.
Me and my sisters. I probably was at High School then.
Jimmy Sandbrook.
I got all these photos from Fiona’s page 🙂
This one below is my mother and sisters.
From Left, Trina (Katrina), Fiona, Deidre, Mother, Lisa and Donella.
This photo was taken out North of Tokoroa on Hardisty’s Stud Farm where we lived for a while.
Sometimes I am glad that I am the family outcast, and here is why 🙂
Left is Jamie and I forgot her name the red head, Fiona with her ex behind her, now that scary short woman is Vicki the one who basically tortured me all through my childhood, then on the end is Lisa with her ex.
As far as I know only Jamie is with his partner here, the others all split up, maybe not Vicki though.
Vicki is very sick in hospital, probably in aussie.
From left, Deidre, Dad, Fiona, Donnela, and as far as I can tell Warren Miles the guy who had that Asian (she looks like an Asian) in Waimate Crescent, Tokoroa, all at one of mothers parties at Kent Street.
Parties at mothers in Kent Street, Tokoroa.
Fiona left and some guy, and Deidre on the right.
No idea who took the photo.
Mothers American father from Arkansas, USA.
Eric, second from the left, and I were best friends for many years, and he went out with Fiona (the blonde next to him) and i have no idea why, but he didn’t seem to want anything to do with me after that. On the other end is mother then sister Deidre. A little Jamie is on the fence.
Debbie across from Dad, at the table is mother, probably Fiona next to Debbie, and Donella at the end of the table.
I was not invited to family events because of mothers stirring, so these things happened and I knew nothing about them. I have no idea what this occasion was. My sisters hated my marijuana stance and they all smoked, so i was the weird one, both mother and father were weed smokers as well. I was the only one who was furiously against it.
Its kind of weird because mother and Dad were getting on, and even with Debbie, so i have no idea why my sisters all hated Dad in the end.
Fiona, Donella, Trina (Katrina), baby (Maybe Sarah), and at front Jamie and my daughter Tracey.
Another at mothers place here in Tokoroa.
My sisters were all horse crazy and in the local clubs and rode all the local horses.
At mothers here in Tokoroa, part of my growing up being surrounded by females.
