Have you ever wanted to wake up every day feeling, wanted, loved, needed, healthy, decent, and important to other people and confident?
This is how a person feels when he or she is in an environment that is non-toxic.
Life is Better when We have God.
Born Again, is the Cleansing of the Soul, and the Darkness of Materialistic Life is Removed.
The Hippies kind of had the right idea, but they included drug abuse, child abuse in some cases, free sex with everyone, no moral boundaries, indecency, and today’s immoral communes are a continuation of this, and pedophile sex rings and so on.
If there are no boundaries then anything goes, and thus evil is everywhere.
In order for a society to be progressive, strong, and capable, the society must be based on honesty, integrity, strong stable unbreakable moral codes/boundaries, and no indecency, in other words the people happy, mature, honest, and they know that we are all in life together and everyone wants to help each other out.
People who control their mind, soul and body, control their life, and they are not insecure, because they are very secure in what they believe in and they will not tolerate anything immoral, indecent, or corruption, because they know that these things divide people, cause social breakdowns, and what we give out we get back.
If the members of the community actually take part in activities they then take pride in their own personal efforts and together as one the town is proud of what it is, and therefore the children of such townsfolk become proud of their own town, and they will happily freely spend their own time doing what they can to keep the town in good order, but also they will not allow people to come in to their town and deface, break or be dishonest there.
This means that the town is not owned by the government, nor controlled by the Police, but owned and controlled by the people of the town, who work side by side with the Police, but only for keeping the town in order.
If the people of the town know that the town is a peoples-town, and the rules are their own, then they will live a free thinking, clean, healthy life, free from chemicals in water and food, free from immoral, indecency and corruption.
The people then become closer morally to their town, an they take pride in not being weak-minded as the world is, and they take pride in heir clean lifestyle, and their healthy state of living, and this holds them together as one.
No one dictator can take over the town, because the town is not run by one person, it is run by the town who are the people, who love their families, town, and they are deeply proud to be there, thus they will not allow a person to have separate control or power over the others – everyone is in it together as one.
How to Stop Worrying About Things You Can’t Change.
You’ve just done a pitch for a potential client and you’re waiting with worry to hear if they’d like to go ahead with the work you proposed. You had an extra cookie with your afternoon tea and you’re worried if it was one too many for the waistline you’re watching. Or maybe you’re about to go have a nice evening out with your friends and you’re worried whether it will rain. The common denominator in all these things is that you’re worrying about things you can’t change – so stop worrying!
5 strategies to stop worrying
You’ve already done your pitch so you’ve done what you can to get the job. You’ve already eaten the cookie so no point beating yourself up for it when it’s already in the tummy. And the weather is uncontrollable so worrying about isn’t going to change it. How often do you worry about things you can’t change? Probably at least a few times a day – if not more. This create unnecessary additional stress for both your body and mind, and actually prevents the joy and enjoyment you can experience today. So it’s time you learned to stop worrying.
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Let’s start by looking at what research has said about worrying in general:
~ About 85% of the things we worry about never happen.
~ If what we worry about does happen, 80% of us said we handled the outcome better than we thought we would.
~ People who let go of worries instead of stressing over them are much healthier than those who don’t.
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So how do you let go of this worrying that sometimes drives you crazy – especially when you’re worrying about things you have no control over?
Try the six strategies below to stop worrying once and for all – there’ll be a time and a place for each of them.
1. Accept uncertainty & learn to thrive in it.
The beauty of life is in how unpredictable it is – you never quite know what’s around the corner!
Learn to embrace this uncertainty and thrive in it. Who knows, it could even bring some exciting new opportunities you never even thought about.
Put your heart and soul into the things you care about, and work hard on achieving your dreams. That’s all you can do. The rest is up to the world.
2.Call a friend to talk about your worries.
Talking about your worries will help you get your head straight about whether your worry is realistic, worth worrying about, and something you can actually do anything about. It will help you understand that there’s no point worrying about it if the outcome is out of your hands, and hence let’s you offload some of the weight you carry around.
3. Practice mindfulness.
Learning to be present will help you keep your mind focused on what you’re doing now rather than worrying about things you can’t change. Even simple meditations, such as 10 minutes of sitting down just focusing on your breathing, has been shown to reduce everyday stress by as much as 39%.
4.Distract yourself with another activity.
Really can’t seem to get it out of your head? Go do something completely unrelated and different that forces you to focus on something else. This is most effective if you choose an activity that you get fully immersed in, such as practicing your hobby or reading an exceptional book. For example, I’m able to escape the world when I go to my horses – even just brushing them and spending time with them takes my mind away from other things.
5. Exercise!
Doing some kind of exercise you enjoy will give you a break from your worries whilst reducing the levels of your stress hormones, stimulating the production of feel-good brain chemicals, and improving your self-image. If you’re struggling to get your mind to be quiet during exercise, put some fun music on in your headphones or push yourself even harder. When you challenge your body you will need to focus so you won’t be able to worry about anything else other than the exercise itself.
6. Have a designated worry time and worry notebook.
If you really want to take control of those worries and you’re finding that the above strategies don’t work, allow yourself to worry for a certain time period every day. Spend that time writing about all your worries in that notebook, and accept that when the time is up, the worrying will have to stop. That way you will get them out of your head and onto paper, which research has shown is very effective in clearing your head.
Stop worrying about things you can’t change!
It’s important to note that worrying is a completely normal human emotion and that there is no need for you to beat yourself up about worrying. But you will be able to reduce your stress levels and boost your positive emotions if you’re at least able to stop worrying about things you can’t change. For the things you can change, do something about them, fight your worry with action! For the things you can’t change, have a play with these six strategies and see how you get on with letting go of your worries!
– Susanna Halonen.
Living In A Bird Cage:
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When a bird is put into a bird cage the bird is groomed to accept life in a cage.
The people who have the bird in the cage feed the bird, the bird is in a warm house which the cage is in, the bird has fresh water each day and the bird has toys and things to exercise on. The owners are polite and friendly to the bird and sometimes they hang the bird outside so that the bird can get fresh air. As the years roll on the bird becomes completely subdued and used to its environment and thinks that “this is life, this is the good life and this is all that I was born for”.
The bird is completely happy in its environment of complete captivity.
The bird never eats the natural food it was born to eat, the bird never knows the joys of flight, the bird will never have sex or enjoy the mating rituals and compete for a partner, and the bird will never give birth or bring up its own young.
The bird will never know bird-love and affection, and the bird will never know many things it would have known if the bird was a free bird. The very sad thing is that when the cage door is left open the bird stays where it is and never tries to fly away.
The cows in the paddock world wide are another example of such captivity in the animal world.
Narcissists keep their victim in a mental isolation – It does not need to be physical isolation – the victim can still be part of the world, even have a job, but the victim has the Belief System installed in their Soul by the narcissist manipulator.
First it is done by keeping the victim physically isolated and the narcissist controls who is allowed to see the victim (only those who are in the narcissists power or those who are narcissists as well). As time goes by, by using methods such as gaslighting, the victim becomes so dependent on the captor that the victim won’t escape the mental cage.
Even when the victim gets a job and is in the public the victim is still very deeply and emotionally affixed to the narcissist, and even at the suggestion of others the victim will not try to break free – and this is the very plan that holds the victim tied to the narcissist for the victims pathetic life.
In some cases the victim is so tied to the narcissist that when the narcissist dies the victim, in time, commits suicide to be with the narcissist because the ties are so complete, and the mind of the victim so submissive and obedient to the narcissist that the victim just cannot stand the thought of living without the imagined-strength that the victim thinks that the narcissist has that helps the victim. In desperation the victim kills themself because the narcissist took away all coping skills and made sure that the victim could not life or cope without the narcissist, so when the narcissist does the victim ends up with depression, mental illness and then sometimes commits suicide to be with the narcissist.
When the person is isolated and brainwashed into believing that his or her environment and isolation is freedom then he or she will defend that false belief of freedom, defend their captors, and fight to the death to protect the very people who are abusing the victim and destroying the victims life. Mental slavery using such mental brainwashing as the Stockholm Syndrome, and Gaslighting etc are very effective and can be used on the masses as well as individuals to convince them that the captivity they suffer in is freedom and the best for them. They are also convinced that being in captivity and ruled over by others means that they are in the best hands possible.
All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
August 27, 2016 at 10:50 AM.
Sex
The idea of sex today is that it is separate from love and that it is a pleasure like smoking, drug abuse, alcohol etc.
The intent of sex was in a relationship between a male and female, and the result of deep love was the child, the fruit of the love, the result of the love and physical/spiritual act.
Once married and having discovered the pleasures of innocent clean love making he and she realise that the only person who will satisfy them in this way is each other and being responsible and wanting the best marriage possible each only see’s sexual satisfaction in the other.This does not mean that either partner uses sex to gain of the other, it means that the sex is icing on the cake for a love that was formed before the sex.
Meaning he and she fell in love, did not have sex or any sexual behaviour, but fell for each others characters, found that they had the same feelings childhood dreams, loved the dame things, found the same things important, wanted the same things, then they found out after sex that there was even more to the loving, and in this amazing delightful way to love one another they create another human being “together”, and this new human being is their special gift to the world, a part of both, a child to love help form and guide until an adult.
There is so much positive value to sex in the right arena, the right place (God’s version of marriage), that it becomes known to the two as a special pleasure that only they will ever share with each other. It is their special time, their special fun, their special intimate moments, and the day is the building up for that nights pleasure, or if no one is around that morning or afternoon pleasure.
They discover that they find each other’s character a pleasure to be with, to have innocent joyful fun with, play with, hug with, love, and that sexual pleasure is pleasure with the character we find pleasurable at all times, day and night. This is why real love lasts, because it is the whole human being you fall in love with not just the sex, or the money, or whatever materialistic selfish things we are told today is marriage.
When two people love each other they don’t seek pleasure elsewhere, meaning sexual or friendship pleasure, because their while pleasure is with each other as if they were one, an unseperable couple, love.
Honestly, think about it, what else would God have created, but true love that two could share in total innocence and joy, that would bring happiness and make happiness the journey not what once chases each weekend and never finds.
A materialistic minded person assumes that he or she knows what love is. But when approached by a person, who really loves them as a complete person, they assume that this loving person wants them for sex, or maybe even material gain.
Like the song, “Baby, I’d love you to want me.” The sexually materialistic person could see that as, “I would love to have sex with you and you to want sex with me.”, But the loving soul really means, “I would love all of you. Your life. You, as my friend, lover and partner for life.”
A gentleman or lady may not even think of sex, because all they can think of is being with the person they love with a completeness of their entire soul.
The gentle soul can only watch with heartbreak and sorrow as the one they fell so heavily for walks away with pride and vanity sure that they had pegged the good loving soul as evil and after only one thing, sex.
A person who has not felt heartache and true love has no idea when it is standing right in front of them, they will check back with their soul made of apathy and assume that the loving soul is bad, a stalker, something to avoid for sure.
Probably so many years down the way he or she will have come to understand what love is through life’s trials and experiences and then see the one they tossed so carelessly away and judged so cruel, and realise that they love this person.
One of the things I want to teach people in this apathetic age is what empathy and genuine lover is, so that they will not make the foolish mistakes their parents and grandparents made. By doing this, their children will all know the love that people like me will probably never know, but we do know that it exists and is available for all.
What we don’t know we can’t see in others, but we can sadly assume that what we are and what we have experienced is what the other person is, and that is a huge mistake.
A fact may people need to get straight before marriage is that sex often lasts a very short period of time, so choosing a partner because of sexual attraction is a huge mistake. They say that intelligence is sexy, kindness is sexy, love is sexy, the whole person’s character is sexy and turns the partner on, not just the physical looks and a person’s current sexual desires for you which may disappear after a year or so, or even months if this person really has a terrible character that he or she has been hiding from you for so long just to wrap you up in commitments to them.
And remember, you may get good sex for 20 minutes of the day, but you have to live with this person for the rest of the day. This is why you see so many women with some guy that all the other women want and yet she is so emotionally unhappy and dissatisfied with her life, because she went with him to satisfy others, to get laid, but now realizes that she really doesn’t like his character at all. But too late, she is now committed to him and a child is on the way. She is responsible, so will stay in a relationship that is dissatisfying and makes her feel incomplete and used
Many males are very much into the “quickie”, a quick dash at it and off to work, or off to a friends place, etc, just a splash of sex to satisfy himself and off to do his thing, she becomes a sex organ to be used and abused at his leisure. The big problem with this is that this has a woman who doesn’t want sex with others becoming very frustrated and eventually buying sex toys and having affairs. Your marriage partner must be on the same level as you, if in doubt then don’t!
The reason for large families in the past was because there was no TV, just hours in bed talking, making love and sleeping 🙂
How it was meant to be. With children around during the daytime, no schooling then, no sex during the day, so they developed a strong desire for each other all day, touching, hugging, caressing, looks of “I want you!”, and then when the children went to bed it was strong highly powered gentle sex, little noise, and two very sensitive lovers gently making love to the other. The sex lasted a long time, the talking, hugging, getting on, happened in between. It wasn’t animalistic, it was beautiful, and both came out of it satisfied and slept very deeply, satisfied all through, in each others arms.
Healing each others souls was a part of this. They, as the bestest of friends, lovers, cared for each other completely and totally, and wanted the best for each other. If either was hurting the other hurt, life for them was about making sure the other was healed, just like making sure that a cut on their own hand healed, the other person was a true spiritual extension of themselves.
What kills sex today is masturbation, sex toys, fantasizing etc, because with constant sexual manipulation of the sex organs comes desensitisation (unless someone has a sex or masturbation addiction), they become numb, not so sensitive and then need much more manipulation to reach that desperately desired orgasm, they bring in sexual fantasizing (many people are encouraged in therapy to fantasize about sex with others while having sex with their wife or husband – trouble with this is that it leads to affairs
because people are opening their mind to sex out of that marriage), and with the numbness comes dissatisfaction with “normal sex” and a strong desire to find it elsewhere, or to find exciting sex, or in some other way like bringing in another sex partner, immoral sex, indecency, joining sex groups, orgies, swingers, and even child sex groups etc.
The beautiful act that was supposed to happen at night between two lovers highly charged sexually for each other, becomes a cheap immoral desire to reach an orgasm, it becomes selfish, takes over the mind, and people create lives around it, they think of it all day, they buy it off prostitutes, they read about it in books, magazines, admire nude bodies in images and videos, they eventually lose all reality of what sex was intended for, and their marriage and lives are a reflection of it, especially their depression, anxieties, fears and worries, because they are all emotionally mixed up, confused and are not having their true loving sexual, spiritual and mental needs met, they are always left wanting.
Sex is not dirty, disgusting gross, or bad, it is the most amazing satisfying intimate spiritual and physical connection between a man and woman.
Before marriage anyone can say that they agree with what I wrote above, they are wanting your body, the want sex with you, they will agree to anything, but does their character, true nature, kindness, sensitiveness match what I wrote above, which category do they fit into, the immoral type or the true genuine decent loving companion, a lover of the most amazing kind.
We should marry a person who is on our own mental level, who wants the same things we do, no faking, no accepting some things from them that you don’t like because those things can when added up in marriage can become big deal breakers, marriage destroyers, so think carefully, look at the person’s character all the time, watch their eyes, see who they talk to when they think that you are not around, talk to their friends, work mates and follow your instincts, like do you really want this person touching you when not having sex, do you really want this person touching you intimately, and do you really want to share your innermost desires, thoughts, secrets and tears with this person? If you have doubt walk away. Your needs are far more important than getting laid once a day by some faker or someone who is not matched to your soul.
In the past they used to say (before the sexual revolution) that a good man who loves children, is a hard worker, is kind to all, and with treat his woman and children with respect was a big turn on for a woman, and that is why she married him, because he completed the big picture for her, everything that she thought was important for a good marriage, decent husband, good father and a happy life side by side.
You will never regret turning down a bad deal that was wrapped perfectly, let that person go, there are billions out there, don’t sell yourself short, your happiness, love life and enjoyment was not intended for all the people in the world except 1, and that is the person who God will constantly bring to you, so keep a look out, love is there, on its way, or right before you, take notice, because that person was chosen for you as a gift from God, for your pleasure I all senses, to help you, heal you, complete you and to walk side by side with you to God’s chosen destiny for you both.
If a materialistic minded person turns down true love because they don’t recognise love because they have never known it, they will choose a partner of convenience and they will be in a relationship that involves sex, children, but is really a friendship which they assume is love, but in reality it is nothing but apathy playing happy families, and that is why there are so many divorces today, the world has far more apathy than empathy these days.
People who don’t know how to love can’t love, but they can pretend, have sex, and then divorce many times.
All the best from
James M Sandbrook.