You can do anything, right now if you like, something good, something bad, dirty, clean, or sad.
No one’s going to stop you.
That’s the point.
If temptation is offered, “Should you stop yourself?”
The wisdom God wants us to realise, is that we are in control of what we do, we are just not in control of the consequences.
If we know that something is wrong, and we know the opposite is the right thing to do, and we know good comes from good actions, and we are happy to receive them. But if bad results are the consequences of the bad deeds, then we know what we do should be good, decent, moral and so on.
What are you willing to risk to be happy
I believe that my house is my castle. Its mine. You need to ask permission to come into my house or my back yard, if you don’t ask then as far as I am concerned there is no law in the universe that says that I cannot protect what is mine, and therefore I am free to use any weapon, tactic, source of self defence to protect what is mine or who is with me, anything. In my opinion there are no rules. Frankly, beating the intruder until he is unable to get up and walk is good enough for me.
If bones need to be broken then that is fine. Because people know that when they approach someone else’s property they are a trespasser, and the owner has no idea what your intentions are, so the owner is free to use whatever actions he or she needs to take down that intruder to protect what is the owners. The intruder/trespasser cannot say that he didn’t know, thats the point.
The reason why people and services fail you, is because they know the big technical and so so names, but they don’t know you, nor what you are going trough, or your life as it really was – because all they are listening to when you talk to them is the version of you in their minds that they have already decided is your life, journey and issues, they completely pass over the real you and your real problems.
Its fanatics and nutters who cannot see the real differences physically between a male and female, and where there is a physical need for strength women should not be allowed in those services, or they should have less physical roles.
I love this version as well, especially the beginning.
One of my favourite songs.
A Toxic Society is a Society that is Toxic and is Unaware of it, and because of that it see’s nothing wrong in its inability to function naturally or in a healthy manner, while also failing its children and does not even realise it.
The life of a child is a long growth that goes from before-birth to around 14-15 years old. During that time the child learns about Life from Experiences and what he or she is Taught.
If the child is put in Child-Care, then kindergarten, then School, and the parents of the child are working, or selfish, or possibly its a criminal or abusive family life, that child does not get Natural-Learning, but instead the child gets his or her closest human interactions from Child-care, Kindergarten, and School Staff.
Child-care, Kindergarten, and School don’t teach Life-Learning, only the parents can prepare their young for Life in a mature manner that will help prepare that child for Life as an Adult.
Boot Camp, the Army and such, they can help stop a Teenager, Young Adult from a bad Path, and maybe with the likes of the Army the Young Adult stays and becomes good at that life.
The problem with these interruptions in a persons life, is that they can cause disruption in a Young Adult’s life, but they do not teach all the Learning that was needed during that person’s childhood.
Why does prison reform so few?
Why does Therapy help so few?
Why are people on Antidepressants?
The answer is that as with any creature we have a natural path of Growth, and if that is interrupted or does not even happen, that person is grown up in body, can even get an education, but is missing many years of education that takes a person from Immaturity to Maturity.
If a child is brought up in a toxic home, or the parents don’t teach the child about life and leaves it up to the school, or the child is sexually, emotionally or physically abused by adults, and so on, that child will have either stopped growing and be in Survival Mode his or her entire life, or will struggle due to the missing Life Education that he or she did not receive from parenting.
Imagine a toxic family life where the child learns everything wrong for 14 years, and then is put into some sort of correction or reformation centre, boot camp what have you, for 4 years, and then back out on the streets. Its 4 years against 14 years of teaching, and the 14 years will always win because it has not been removed, that toxic life is still there with all its lessons, sufferings, unfairness, anger, bitterness, and such.
Most people just resort back to the 14 years of bad life and become the criminal, or alcoholic, or whatever their family/parents were, or something similar. And then add the years to it just making their Life-Situation worse.
The best way to become a race car driver is to be motivated to do so, same for being a mechanic, or carpenter. You see the job you have and think, “I can do better than this life I have.” and off you go, making decisions and such to change to what it is that you motivate yourself to do.
When the law, often people who are strangers, tell you that you must change, but the choice is not actually your choice to change, its not you motivating you, even if you are punished by the law, they make the rules and punish you.
The reason why I stopped giving people advice when they didn’t ask for it, was that no matter how common sense or logical the advice was, they wouldn’t listen, so now I don’t try. It is not up to you to change people, it is up to them to change, and if they don’t want to change or be a different better person, punishing them may work for a while, but often they have so many negative years against your advice that the bad ways tend to win.
The only way that they will change is if they want to change, and they see the good reasoning behind the removal of bad ways, bad thinking, and bad habits, then they will self-motivate themselves to change, for their own better, and they can push away all the teachings for all those growing years and actually become new.
Religions, God and church often win out over crime because they are motivated to stop being criminals and follow God by themselves, no one tells them to do so. They demand the changes to be made by themselves. They force themselves they take the desired steps of change with no one forcing them to do so.
It needs to be understood that children born into toxic and criminal families is that years of abuse cause them to be in Survival Mode and struggling to cope, and can also make them angry that there life was as it was, and bitter for being treated bad at first by parents/family/relations and then by the law.
The Criminal Belief System, or the Struggling Mind is their Belief System, and that is all that this person has ever known, understood, and been. Change to such a suffering soul is not easy. You may see them as foolish for not doing as you say, but they see you as unfair and judgmental. It is hard to understand what you have never known.
When you realise that the toxic or criminal life is all that this person has known up to being a young adult, what you have known this person has not known, and how you were taught, educated, motivated, this person was not, thus you are fighting against the demons that they have and those demons are well set in those people, they have been there for many years, well before you came along telling them that they must change their ways.
This is why the change needs to be the persons own choice, and in Survival Mode, or in an Immature state of mind, this person struggles to see the common sense that you offer them as rational, because their mind is not rational, it is not stable or well set like yours is, so your logic is not their logic, and it is not their fault.
I did a search on Google and AI came up with an answer which seemed right, well, maybe. So I did some more research and discovered that the Google AI had taken the first sentence from a web site, and then added a paragraph from someone’s guess and comment on a discussion web site, and then AI added some facts after that. Thus, the first and last parts were fact, and the middle and biggest part was a guess, and Googles AI had put them all together as one as if the entire thing was fact.
Artificial Intelligence is like someone’s advice, in the end read it, hear it, think about it, then do your own research.
Good movie.
Tui worked Friday for his training to do my job, the Commercial Run. Normally he does the Mercury Run, but now he is learning my job. He seemed to do well, I had to help him with some phone calls and text messages when he needed help.
Fear And Worry
The chilling feeling of fear is in all of us at some time or another. fear is destructive and unproductive. Fear can cause a person to make bad decisions and make mistakes.If you are feeling fear then you need to find out why, look at the problem carefully and then see if it really is as bad as it first seemed. Most fears are not that bad at all and fear seems to grow and grow until it shakes your very soul.There are many causes for feeling fear, your friends maybe feeding it and you may feed it yourself without realizing it. Fear is like the shadows in a room in the evening, slowly it grows and grows without you really noticing it, until the entire room is black and full of shadows.
Fear can convince people to end their lives or do shallow or dangerous things.
Fear can cause a person to lose courage and a good way to regain that courage would be for you to talk to a trusted friend or a preacher to find out why you have a problem with fear at this time.Here is an example of fear and worry:A loved one is going to be driving on a busy weekend (holiday weekend) for about six hours and you find that you are worried about them, you fear that they may get tired and crash or someone else may cause an accident etc.
One answer to this problem would be for you to talk to this person, give them advice. If you are with them check their car for them or have the car checked. If the person is traveling at night find a good hotel for them along the way so that they can rest.In other words, you will do the best that you can to help the person and then put it out of your mind until you hear from them when they have reached their destination. Fear and worry can work on a person until that person is just about “falling to pieces” with the fingers of destruction that fear and worry use to destroy a person.
Out of mountains of letters not more than a half a dozen have brought up any question of theology, such as the differences which divide the religious communions. How to learn a finer art of living is the main matter, trying to learn how to shape the stuff of life into forms of beauty, power and joy. Life for so many today is deflated, a thing to be endured rather than enjoyed.All of us are living a life of unfulfilled possibilities; we are living below our possible selves, thwarted, unable to find a way out. Yet there is a way of thinking and living which will set us free to use our powers to the full. What is it that inhibits us and cripples us?
Enemy Number 1 is neither sin nor sorrow: it is Fear.
The most one that is rife is fear of ourselves; and that is not healthy.How can we fight our fears?The first thing to realise is that “since our fears have been learned, so they can be unlearned.”
Courage we need of course, courage to “take it” and come back, courage to meet defeat and not be defeated.When we win faith, fear is driven out of our hearts. When fear is dead, life begins. People who know how to use spiritual energy in daily life attain serenely and self-stability, and build up an inner defence against the pressures and strains of life.Next to fear – if not the form of it – is the nagging, gnawing worry which wears us out and unfits us for living. Worry is a tiny rivulet seeping into the mind like a slow poison, until it paralyses us. Unless it is checked, it cuts a channel into which all other thoughts are drained.In nine cases out of ten the thing that we are afraid of does not happen, and, if it does, other things will happen too which will change the setting and modify the result, making a different picture from the one that fear paints now.With a little effort we can learn the knack of putting things from us far enough to see them more clearly – and we discover that many of them do not matter and are not worth the bother of of worrying.- Joseph F Newton.
How Humans Lose Contact With The Past and Refuse the Wisdom of those of the Past.
What people do with the Bible and other ancient text is they look at it from the angle of their own conscious mind, the contents of their soul formed from the beliefs of others and life experiences, then they take what they read and assume with some pride what it means. this centuries old twisting the meaning of historical writings leads us to not understanding what the past was really like and who those of the past really were, what they did, believed and how they interacted with animals and other human beings.
The reading of the past with a complete open minded attitude means that when something that you don’t understand or don’t believe in yourself, you just understand what you read, instead of forming a belief that they were foolish, not sophisticated and so on.
Its like modern science, medical people, mental health people reading books from the past and pridefully laughing at them as old and useless, and then making their patients/victims take chemicals. Many today are coming to the strong conclusion that those of the past were far more intelligent than we are today. You see, we measure modern intelligence by what we are told is important like industry, medical achievements, education degrees, achieving a great life for yourself and so on, and when we look back at the often much simple life of people we see them as boring and foolish/stupid and especially uneducated.
If the education is corrupt, wrong, is formed for an agenda then the education is a lie, thus those who are educated in that lie are living a lie, teaching those lies, and the mentally blind leading more to be mentally blinded – and all involved assume pridefully that the lies are truths.
It is indeed, a strange, strange word we live in…The rule of schooling is said to be comprehension.
Being taught is important, but what you retain is far more important.
But the exams are based on who has a good memory, not on who is the wisest, more intelligent and so forth.At school when I was a child the teacher would tell us something as if it is proven truths, but I would often see another way to do it, easier, and to me what seemed more efficient, time saving, a better way, and no teachers, nay not one, was ever interested in what I thought, and it is no wonder the mist intelligent are not educated, for the people who make the greatest change int he world tend to limited in their education. Thomas Edison was sent home because the teacher said he was unteachable, an idiot(addled) and so on, yet he invented the working lightbulb, and maybe he would not have been so much a bully if at school he had been taught abut fairness, love, and encouraged instead of disliked discarded and shamed.I came to the conclusion as a child that what I thought, the inventions and ideas in my head were of a food, because everyone told me that I was a fool, idiot stupid and made fun of me.
This is how the modern child stops trying and using their imagination.
This is quiet a prediction from 1970.
“Remember this: The strongest sign of the decay of a nation is the feminization of men and the masculinization of women. It is notable that in Communist nations women are exhorted, and compelled, to do what has traditionally been men’s work. American women, some of them, feel triumphant that they have broken down the ‘barricades’ between the work of the sexes. I hope they will still feel triumphant when some commissar forces a shovel or an axe into their soft hands and compels
them to pound and cut forests and dig ditches. I hope they will be ‘happy’ when a husband deserts them and they must support their children and themselves alone.
(After all, if a woman must be ‘free’ she shouldn’t object to men being free too, should she?) I hope they will feel ‘fulfilled’ when they are given no more courtesies due to their sex and no kindnesses, but are kicked aside on the subways buses by men, and jostled out of the way by men on busy sidewalks and elevators…. I hope, when they look in their mirrors, that they will be pleased to see exhausted, embittered faces, and that they will be consoled by their paychecks.”
– Taylor Caldwell – September 1970, page 8.
When I was at school and I would get bullied I felt that something was wrong with me, that i was abnormal, sad and weird. What I did not realise was that I was never prepared for life therefore I was not able to cope in life as a healthy person, mentally I was afraid, scared, and tired of life far too early in life. It was decades later that i discovered why I had so many troubles coping in life, but the good news is that even if our parents did not grow us up we can do this ourselves.
Reacting to life is Life happening all around us and us doing what we think is right in the situations we find ourselves in.
In a material world we are pushed to “succeed materialistically”. This causes mental health issues, physical health issues, and struggles to cope.
But imagine please if you will, we are out in a home/cottage/log cabin etc, out in the bush/forest somewhere and there is no electricity, no people for long distances, no or few visitors, so what do we do?
Well, basically we get on, and we get on with what we know is important, like food, shelter, helping each other out, making the living space safe in storms, cutting firewood, felling tree’s for additional buildings for firewood and so on. Husband and wife gratefully satisfy each other sexually, and that brings forth children which are welcome.
The pressure is natural survival pressure. This pressure is real, a struggle, even hard times cause tears and so on, but because this was how we were born to live we grow stronger and can cope with whatever life puts before us, the good times and bad times, it all adds up to strong capable parenting and strong courageous capable children.
In the movies of westerns or pioneer days in any country they often show the capable men as gamblers and drinkers, but the reality is that this is all part of the western myths.
The reality is for survival on the land one had to become one with the land, respect God, nature, wildlife, and live in peace with it all.
The movies are made that way to make life look exciting so that people will pay to go to the movies. What this is, is commercialism making real life into fake to make money.
The reality was far different to the movies. Life was simple and very rewarding, wholesome and enjoyable. Love was true, genuine and when someone loved you they would die to help or protect you. This simple living of survival brought forth strong values, strong beliefs, very healthy strong bodies that come about from living off the land and doing a lot of very satisfying work for the greater good of the family.
In the material world we know that Natural Survival Pressure is what we need deep inside and that is why we struggle to cope while being pushed to “succeed” to be better than everyone else, make as much money as we can, and so on. Life as a materiel is hard. People often react by struggling and going to religions or partying up as ways to try to distance themselves from the constant struggles within.When we take away sports, people competing with one another in the business world etc, we remove exams and modern schooling competing against one another we remove Unnatural Pressures thus releasing a lot of personal stress. Remove the desperation caused struggling to pay your debts, the fear of failure, the fear of not satisfying someone else or the boss, and another pointless load of struggles and stress are removed from your mind.Peace is not a holiday on some island, nor is it as a business person, nor is money or titles, high education peace.
Peace is living as you were naturally born to live. Natural pressure is far less stressful even in the hard times than modern living and the reason why is because life as we become stronger, more courageous and capable is deeply satisfying making us very confident and accepting everything that life sets before us.
Yellow bins and bottles collected next week not this week.Starting today put an “O” or “X” tick/mark on your calendar for today or nothing.
You could put a zero or nothing on next Thursday the 11th on your calendar for when you do put out the yellow bin and the bottles.What you could do is use a yellow marker to mark the days that you put out the yellow bins, and if you mark up the next 4-5 months then you will not get it wrong for that period of time.
If you read that in the town in the 1700s they used witchcraft and you pridefully and instantly think that they were fools, well it depends on what you mean, what the writer did or did not understand about the people he or she was writing about. If you were to walk around that town back then with a cell phone talking to someone they would have thought that you were a witch/warlock, thus you were evil, and they would desire to kill you.When people visited tribe in Africa and other countries and used matches the village people thought that the match users were in fact gods or witches.When people don’t understand other people they form opinions about them from their own point-of-view of life. People do the exact same thing when reading about the past.
You form your opinion from who you are and how you have believed and what you were taught, and this is what makes it hard to understand the past or even modern day people’s lives and why they do the very things that they do that you cannot understand.When reading or seeing videos abut the past it is important to understand what you are reading or watching is from the views of the writers and discoverers, but not necessarily the truth/s, and there must be a context, angle, or something that today is long forgotten, or today’s so-called sophisticated people have never known experienced or felt.
If we have an open minded attitude we are able to understand past people, people of today, and also admit that we as an individual know stuff all.
But most of all realise that if you are judgemental you will not understand something wonderful that is right before your eyes when you read history or watch videos, or even in people who you meet in your everyday life.
The Gift Of Discernment!
I’m guessing that you’re talking about the spiritual gift of discernment (a rare thing) rather than the Spirit-led process of day-to-day discernment. A lot of people really believe that they or their pastor or a friend have been given a special gift for discerning the Godliness of the spirit of something or someone. Very few have shown this gift when they try to put it to work. It tends to break down into an internal political thing. Gift-discernment is often sent by the Spirit for situations rather than full-time, and works like a strong intuition (but more Spiritually focused, like a laser). When it’s there, it’s to be used, like other gifts, to build others up, and it’s always to be used in a very Christ-like manner (but you have to read the Gospels a lot to catch what that is).Gifts are a mystery, to be lived rather than understood.# Corinthians 12 and 14) his earth-shaking chapter on love (1 Corinthians 13).)”
There are, then, two ways to confront or criticize another human being : with instinctive and spontaneous certainty that one is right, or with a belief that one is probably right arrived at through scrupulous self-doubting and self-examination. The first is the way of arrogance; it is the most common way of parents, spouses, teachers, and people generally in their day-to-day affairs; it is usually unsuccessful, producing more resentment than growth, and other effects that were not intended. The second is the way of humility; it is not common, requiring as it does a genuine extension of oneself; it is more likely to be successful, and it is never, in my experience, destructive.”
—— M. Scott Peck, *The Road Less Traveled* (Touchstone, 1978), p.152
“I believe in the Spirit’s guidance just as surely as I believe in God.”
—— Fredrik Wisloff, *I Believe In the Holy Spirit*.
“God never gives us discernment in order that we may criticize, but that we may intercede.”
—— Oswald Chambers
”I fear that many people seek to hear God solely as a device for securing their own safety, comfort and righteousness. For those who busy themselves to know the will of God, however, it is still true that “those who want to save their life will lose it.” My extreme preoccupation with knowing God’s will for me may only indicate, contrary to what is often thought, that I am overconcerned with myself, not a Christlike interest in the well-being of others or in the glory of God.”
—— Dallas Willard, *Hearing God*, p. 28
″It is impossible to frame a doctrine of the Holy Spirit by taking all the data indiscriminately and forcing them into the Procrustean bed of a formal system. We have to discriminate between what is true and what is false, … between what is primary and what is secondary, between what is central and what is peripheral;… between testimonies concerning the Spirit which reflect different levels of apprehension, between those which belong to different stages of the divine economy, and between those which have relation to different moments in the dialectic of spirit.” —— George Hendry, *The Holy Spirit In Christian Theology*, p.13
″The majority of historic heresy is based on an interpretation of the written not the living word. The ‘living word’ — which is the Word in action through the gifts of the Spirit — is all application and totally subjected in interpretation to the body of Christian truth, not an elevation of subjective over objective truth.” —— Ron Zess (online).
More of Jesus let me learn
More of His holy will discern;
Spirit of God, my teacher be
Showing the things of Christ to me.
—— (‘More About Jesus’, EE Hewitt, 1915)(1)
Have you had the experience of thinking that you were being led by God to do something, and it turned out not to be so? (If you’re doing these questions on your own, grab a pad and write down about it.)
(2) What kind of matters have you sought God’s guidance about?
How has the result surprised you, if it did?
(3) Have you ever used “God’s will” as a cover for your own plans or ideas? Are you doing so now? (Please, when discussing this: don’t start talking about when others have done so; that just breaks down into the blame game. Talk about yourself.)
(4) Take a look at 1 Thessalonians 5:19-21. It says ‘Don’t quench the Spirit’ and ‘test all things’.* How do they fit together?
* How might these be seen as working against each other?
* Have you ever been involved in an activity or a church where one was used to render the other as void? How? Why? Did you take any action?Copyright © 1998, 2002 Robert Longman Jr. All rights reserved.
Denny Hulme
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Denny Hulme, Monaco GP 1967 © The Cahier Archive
THIS week marks the 10th anniversary of the death of one of the most popular Formula 1 drivers of the modern era: Denny Hulme, the 1967 World Champion.
Denny died on October 4, 1992 at Mount Panorama, Bathurst, from a heart attack while at the wheel of a BMW M3 touring car. He was just 56.
Denny was a pal of mine. And that was odd because we came from different generations. He was one of my heroes when I was a kid. In fact he was the only one who ever I met who did not disappoint me. I got to know in the mid-1980s when he was racing touring cars in Europe and we spent many an afternoon at tracks just chatting away about this and that. At the time I was writing a book about racing circuits all over the world and he had raced just about everywhere.”Teretonga Park?” he would say. “It wasn’t the end of the world. But you could definitely see it from there. It was a good place if you liked penguins.”
And so it went on. Denny was a quote machine.He told me stories of his father too. Clive Hulme was a national hero in New Zealand. He had won the Victoria Cross – the highest award for bravery – while serving with the New Zealand forces in the Battle of Crete in 1941. Clive was a little out of the ordinary. He was a farmer but Denny was quite sure that his father had magical powers. He was, by all accounts, a mystic, a fortune teller and a water diviner. Denny once confided that when he first took up racing his father told him not to worry about serious accidents. He was told that he would be very successful and that he would only get hurt once. Denny never did have a serious accident although in 1970 he suffered serious burns to his hands at Indianapolis and had to jump from a flaming car.Not long ago I was in the Auckland Museum and found myself in the library where I chanced upon a book about New Zealanders who had won the Victoria Cross. I looked up Sergeant Clive Hulme of the 23 NZ Battalion of the 2nd NZ Expeditionary Force. It was an amazing story of an eight-day period in which Hulme was taking on an army of German snipers almost single-handedly. There is one line which gives you an idea.
”Numerous snipers in this area were dealt with by Sergeant Hulme personally: one hundred and thirty dead were counted here.”It went on like this for a week until Sergeant Hulme, “on his own initiative, penetrated the enemy lines and thus very materially assisted the withdrawal of the main body through Stylos. From the enemy mortar position he then worked to the left flank and killed three snipers who were causing concern to the rearguard. This made his score of enemy snipers thirty-three stalked and shot.”I once asked Denny about his Dad and he told me that the old man had believed that bullets would bend around him. In the end this did not work and Clive Hulme was shot in the shoulder.”When ordered to the rear, in spite of his wound, he directed traffic under fire and organized stragglers of various units into section groups.”Denny was only four when all this happened but he grew up with a father who was a national hero and I guess that acted as motivation to achieve great things. He started racing at the age of 19 in an MG TF.
One day, back in the 1980s, a colleague and I were travelling along what they call The Desert Road, which runs across the middle of North Island, New Zealand.
We overtook a car which was towing an old car. As we hurtled by we noticed that the car had flashed its lights at us. We wondered what was wrong but as there was nothing obvious we continued on our way until we reached the shares of Lake Taupo and stopped for a few minutes to admire the view. A few minutes later the car with the trailer drew up and out climbed Denny.”What are you doing here?” he asked. We got chatting and then he showed us the car on the trailer. It was his original MG, lovingly restored.We talked for maybe half an hour about life and then set off on our separate ways but I have always remembered that half an hour as being one of life’s nice
moments.
I was reminded of it the other day when I was having dinner in Paris with Bobby Rahal.Bobby was passing through on his way back from an historic event at Le Mans and so we went out to dinner. We did the usual racing gossip and then Bobby started talking wistfully about his weekend. At one point, he said, he found himself sitting snugly in the cockpit of his Porsche 917 sportscar in the pitlane in the middle of the night waiting for the next race to begin. The Porsche 917 is a thing of legend, a sportscar from 1970 that produced such staggering horsepower that even today it is impressive. Bobby owns one.”I was sitting there in a Porsche 917,” he said, “looking up the full moon and I thought: Does it get any better than this?”That is how I remember that meeting with Denny on the shores of Lake Taupo.Denny’s life was a happy one but there were terrible times as well. So many of his friends died along the way. I will never forget the day he told me of why he quit
racing. It was in March 1974 and his friend Peter Revson and he were testing at Kyalami. Revson crashed and Denny was there trying to save him.
And when there was nothing that could be done Denny went back to the hotel in his racing overalls and walked straight into the shower and watched his friend’s blood being washed down the drain, like the scene from Alfred Hitchcock’s movie Pyscho.Denny fulfilled his contract with McLaren and then quit. For a while he led the Grand Prix Drivers Association’s campaign for better safety standards, but bureaucracy and Denny Hulme did not mix well and eventually he retired to New Zealand where he spent his time racing and tinkering with machinery – which was his passion.
When it came to writing his obituary, 10 years ago, I wrote as follows: “They don’t make racing drivers like Denny Hulme any longer – more’s the pity. A great bear of a man, Denny was intensely competitive and yet, hidden behind his gruff exterior, was a gentle soul with a passion for life, a razor-sharp sense of humor and a love of racing. He had a complete inability to suffer fools and never failed to say what he thought. Success – of which he had plenty – never affected him”.
Ten years on, I feel the same sentiments.
Always have surprises 🙂
Who Do You Blame?
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The title is an interesting question.
Disney made a wonderful animation many years ago about fate. Donald Duck was making mistakes and blaming fate for it all, or bad luck.When things go wrong – who do you blame?Yourself?Or fate, luck, god, etc.Who really is to blame? If you say the words “It was just bad luck” but you stepped into a tree and cut your face, bad luck had nothing to do with it. Besides there is no such thing as luck, everything happens because something else made it happen.People don’t like being honest when things happen to them that they are not pleased about.
We tend to blame everyone else or anything that we think we can blame it on.Is this a good idea!
No – because we are then pretending to ourselves and even if we think blaming fate makes us feel better it doesn’t, deep down inside we know the truth. And I am a firm believer that when a person is dishonest with themselves then they hold a personal ‘grudge’ against themselves deep down inside and it causes them to feel unhappy. Being honest with oneself is not easy and its even harder when we are taught from very young to blame everything else for our problems.Blaming other things for your own mistakes makes a person bitter and sad. You don’t need a degree to know this, look around you and watch other people and you will see that this is true.Improving yourself is about “opening your eyes” and seeing things the way they really are, not the way we want to pretend they are. To improve yourself you must be very honest with yourself.But if you are honest with yourself deep down inside you will “glow” with happiness, how do I know?
I try my hardest to be honest with myself all the time and it’s not easy sometimes, but I feel good knowing that I am not fooling myself.
We humans get into some bad habits and blaming everything else for our mistakes gets to be a real habit. Once it starts its hard to stop. With most people it starts when we are young. We get it from our parents and our friends.In order to be happy in life we need to be honest with ourselves.If you make a mistake, learn from it and try to not let it happen again. Work on it, its worth it.”Luck is not a reality but you are a reality and your “Luck” is created by you and only you.”You will never believe in yourself if you are always blaming fate or luck for everything.
People who make excuses all the time are just fooling themselves, most people around them know they are fooling themselves and they say it when that person is not around.
“Ever done that yourself?”Think about it the next time someone mentions that “it’s bad luck” or “fate stepped in” and try to think of the real reason why it happened. Some people blame it on “Bad Karma”. It doesn’t matter what name you give it, it’s still the same.Many people accomplish something and actually blame it on luck, this is amazing.
They say that it was such good luck.
Many people say the reason Chuck Norris won six years of Karate tournaments was good luck or that it was good luck that he got into movies. Not many people mention that it took two years of trying to get a company to accept him in a movie and that he and his family went through many hard times until he ‘made it’.
Try this. Try very hard to stop blaming other things for your successes or mistakes.
Be tough and accept the blame and accept the accolades that you deserve.
Don’t be miserable either.
Honesty in this case really is the best policy.
Bad Language – Why you shouldn’t use it
Bad language has slowly become the ‘norm’ in western countries and it appears to be accepted by the masses as alright.Television and radio advertising seem to have welcomed bad language with open arms along with bad content as long as it keeps the cash rolling in.I am not writing this to take an opportunity to ‘run-down’ organizations and people who use bad language everyday, its just that “its not needed”, its not funny and its not attractive.I think it fits into the ‘cool’ thing (read the article I wrote about the word cool for more information) and today it seems that the radio or television that uses or has bad language on air is considered cool and “with the times”.
How does bad language affect you?Bad Language makes people look silly or to put it another way – “People who use bad language look silly” and uneducated.
Many like myself see and feel that bad language is disgusting or we feel uncomfortable around people who use bad language, why?
Mainly because many people don’t seem to realize what they are saying, and if you have a favourite bad word then look it up in the dictionary or ask a trusted friend what it means and think do you really want to go around saying that word?Instances:If you are going to a job interview and you use bad language their is a very big chance that you will not get the job even if the boss uses bad language.If you want to impress a guy/girl then bad language will not impress a “nice” person, only the bad types.
So if you “really” want a meaningful relationship then “Don’t use bad language”.
I remember when I was a teenager and I was impressed by a nicely dressed pretty girl, thinking to myself “I wonder if I should go talk to her” and then she opens her mouth and pure filth pours out.
That killed any liking I had for her immediately, who would want to date someone who will embarrass you in front of everyone you meet – no thanks.
If a guy wants a “one night stand” then she would be the one to get normally. But since I wasn’t interested in one night stands then it was no problem to “miss” her out, but it was still sad to hearing her talk like that.Was I thinking I was “better than her”?
No chance, I just new that I didn’t wanting a foul-mouthed partner or friend.Its like buying a car, who wants one with a bad motor? No you and not me.What do you attract with bad language?
Mainly other people who use bad language and those people are normally not very nice people.Why does television and radio use bad language?
Because they are trying to supply entertainment to the masses, in other words the common Joe Bloggs who doesn’t mind the “odd swear word” here and there in a conversation.
The bad language in songs and other forms of media sell products much like sex does.I grew up in a family that used bad language all the time, it was no problem and my sisters and I all used it when we were teenagers. I used bad language every now and then and sometimes I even was silly enough to think that it was cool. I was sadly mistaken.I had some friends and those people did not use bad language and this didn’t bother me. I thought that we all make our choices, some people would say that these people were “pompus” or “arrogant” or other words which I won’t mention here.
I liked these people and visited them often, I didn’t use bad language around them even if they new I did elsewhere because I respected these people. They were nice people.Nice people in general do not use bad language, why?
Because its not nice. Nice people don’t use bad language.If you use any bad language and you want to be a success then remove it from your vocabulary.
You don’t need it and numerous other, nicer words can be used in the place of bad words.If you hang around with people that use bad language then more than likely you will never be a success unless you seriously consider changing friends. Being a success doesn’t mean you are rich, it means you are happy at what you are doing. A car mechanic in a small town can feel like a success.
It makes him money, it feeds the children and is all they need, so they are a success in what they do.If you don’t want your children to use bad language then its hardly fair if you use bad language around them is it, give it up. Your children know what “fair” is because you taught them this rule when they were small. You tell/told them to share and be kind, remember?How did I stop using bad language finally?I asked my young children if they would give me ten press ups every time they caught me using a bad word. At this time in my life I had stopped using bad language and I am proud that I don’t use that type of language. Within a small period of time I stopped using bad words altogether, I hate press ups.
The secret is to be honest with yourself and make sure you do your press ups, show your children that you are a “big” adult.Lower your pride and ask your children to help or if you have some really good friends or your partner to help and improve your fitness at the same time. Take it from me it really works.Removing bad language from your life will really improve your life.