What do you want in a relationship?
A companion.
A best friend to count on when things are hard.
Someone who will encourage you.
Someone who will stay and won’t go away.
Someone who can be trusted with other people.
Honesty, integrity, trust, a Just person who will stand up strong for you when others don’t.
Someone who needs you for who you are, and will help you up when you fall.
Someom who will encourage you when you fail.
A person who will help you learn what you don’t know.
Someone who will keep you warm nights, forever.
Someone to share those simple intimate moments that only the two of you can understand and feel.
A protector.
A touch of class.
A defender of the poor, a protector of the weak, an upholder of God’s laws of decency.
A good parent for your children.
Someone you can count on forever and always, through thick and thin.
Someone to be romantic with.
Someone to hug deeply as if both bodies and souls blend into one and it really “feels right”.
Someone to hold hands with, weed the garden with, cook with, do the dishes with, share with, care with, because being with them is more important than being with others.
Doing the unimportant things together with the right person takes away the boredoms of life and makes life interesting fun and alive.
Special is often not what we are doing, but special is oftn who we are doing it with.
Life, love and happiness feel important with the right one, and that is how God intended true love to be!!
All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
No broken hearts for us
‘Cause we love each other
And with our faith and trust
There could be no other
‘Cause we love each other
And with our faith and trust
There could be no other
Why? ‘Cause I love you
Why? ‘Cause you love me
Why? ‘Cause you love me
I think you’re awfully sweet
Why? Because I love you
You say I’m your special treat
Why? Because you love me
Why? Because I love you
You say I’m your special treat
Why? Because you love me
We found the perfect love
Yes, a love that’s yours and mine
I love you and love you me
All the time
Yes, a love that’s yours and mine
I love you and love you me
All the time
Yes, I love you
(I’ll always love you so)
(Why? Because you love me)
Yes, you love me
(I’ll always love you so)
(Why? Because you love me)
Yes, you love me
We found the perfect love
Yes, a love that’s yours and mine
I love you and love you me
I love you and love you me
We’ll love each other, dear
Forever
Yes, a love that’s yours and mine
I love you and love you me
I love you and love you me
We’ll love each other, dear
Forever
– Donny Osmond.
Sometimes small steps are needed to achieve something. If you trip a little on the first step, then do try again. A little stumble is just a minor bump. Keep going, keep trying, and never forget to mentally keep the positive talk in your head about each step you achieve. It is important along the way that “you” pat yourself on the back with positive thoughts as you move towards success & happiness! 
A man and a woman are entwined together in the spirit of love, the whisper of thought, the depths of joy.
They look to one another for help. They look to be with one another for there is much deep spiritual caressing of their souls when they are within arms reach. This love is tender, it knows no harshness, only the gentleness of the leaf drifting to the ground that is how their love is, they float, coast, and fall, deeper and deeper in love – and it never ends, not even after their worn human bodies tire of this planet.
They look to one another for help. They look to be with one another for there is much deep spiritual caressing of their souls when they are within arms reach. This love is tender, it knows no harshness, only the gentleness of the leaf drifting to the ground that is how their love is, they float, coast, and fall, deeper and deeper in love – and it never ends, not even after their worn human bodies tire of this planet.
He walks with her pleased that she is at his side. She walks with him feeling the same, knowing she never will need to look for more because he is hers and she is his – ownership made in Heaven – God’s blessing to mankind, first the planet, the plants, the wildlife and fishes and then the mate – he for her and she for him. Marriage, the greatest gift of all!
All the best from
James Martin Sandbrook.
16th of January, 2011.
When the world is materialistic and has the wrong values, is toxic and dysfunctional then yes:
When a true genius appears, you can know him by this sign: that all the dunces are in a confederacy against him. – Jonathan Swift.
Brian Wilson has a song that had these lyrics, “Making love will get you through the night, but true loves there to get you when you fall”.
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People who marry or date someone because of their physical body or lust will not have a lasting joyful relationship. The thrill of a sexual relationship dies off fast when the tests of life come along.
If a person does not really care for you then they won’t be there for you when the going gets tough or when you are scared. Or that person will not treat you right when you are down and things have gone wrong for you. Their lack of care will be reasonably obvious I would think.
True love holds your hand when you need to do something frightening. True love encourages you. True love will make sacrifices for you because he or she loves you with their heart and soul.
True love will listen to your dreams, and quieten your troubled soul, while encouraging you to gently reach out and grow in spiritual strength.
True love sees that within you there is much more. True love knows that behind your thoughts, dreams and desires is a person that God created, and that they are blessed and thankful that together you will both spend your lives together, forever and always.
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Physical love is a part of true love, but be sure that “just physical love on its own is not true love from the spiritual heart”.
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If you really want love, respect and commitment give your heart to the right one, not just to anyone.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
13th of March 2015.
Think for yourself – the best advice you will ever hear.
I think what it really means is that someone told the therapist their version of you 
There are always multiple versions of who we are out there according to the many people who have known us So don’t be surprised if someone talks to you about something you did, that you didn’t do 
– Love.
– Promise of peace, transformation and good fortune.Living a lie, living with lies, and living as a lie is false and will bring no happiness and satisfaction because deep down inside we know that we are living in falseness and not living to our total potential.
We can never reach the heights that will change our lives for the better as long as we walk hand-in-hand with lies and false-plastic-hearted people.
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Only the truth can set you and I free!
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
25th of April 2013.
Love is about trust and faith and many things. Note how we are to feel this way about God and to love God with all our hearts and soul. It is the same with loving people and for marriage. The love is to be total, innocent, forgiving, encouraging, understanding, true and genuine. If we love the person we marry as deeply as we can love God and ourselves then we will truly be surrounded by genuine love. No money or anything physical could ever match this, and nothing could be better than this.
I was reading another classic case of helping people and a woman was going to classes to help her self-esteem. At first she wore a loose blouse, messy unkept hair and old tired jeans. She sagged as she walked, conversation was a struggle etc.
When a person dresses like this it can be from how they feel about life, and about their self-worth. The outside appearance is a reflection of what is going on in the inside of that person. If they are feeling distressed and negative then the outside appearance shows this.
After some months of freely expressing themselves to a person (or people) that they can trust (truly trust), the person’s outside appearance changes because their inside feelings of self love, acceptance of the past, and their will to move forward with hope and love have come through and they can now live again.
Now free and confident, happy to try, and happy that they can learn from the past and now move forward to a more positive future.
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Some motivators in an effort to change a person can change the person’s clothing in the beginning days, and then change the person’s face with makeup or dying their hair, or with money or a new car etc. None of this will work in the long run, and in fact will slow the process of real change.
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When they change the outside of the person it can look good to family and the person being helped. But it is like cosmetics, it is only a surface paint. It isn’t a change of heart, or a soul healing, or a deep inner transformation.
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The more natural way is to leave the person physically as they are, and give them hope on the inside while removing grief, and past baggage, and in return giving them an understanding of life and their part in it so far. And then as progress is happening on the inside it will be apparent on the outside. This type of change is natural, unforced and normal as a person changes their lifestyle and beliefs to the new happy tune of their heart and soul.
This kind of change does not have to have anything to do with fancy clothes, makeup etc. It is about a person finding hope again and the outside appearance is a tidy up as they come to see their genuine worth.
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Logic shows them that they were once a victim, they understand why they did what they did. And why they did what they did under bad guidance (now they recognise those who led them astray – they have found the truth). They have distanced themselves wisely away from their tormentors and are now in the hands of people that they can freely trust.
And they also understand that the future is now in their hands and not in other people’s hands, and now they become the controller of their own life, as it should have been in the beginning.
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Often when a person crumbles inside they need to go back to the basics and they need to get all their cares out, they need to cry those tears, they need an understanding person that is with them day and night comforting them with understanding and gentleness.
Giving people new life after evil has has his go at us is not an easy thing to do. But in the hands of love and hope the person will change and a new destiny will be theirs.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
April 25, 2014 at 3:11 PM.