My parents were staunch atheists, mother a feminist, father a chauvinist, both had no idea what love was, and the mess that I made of my life was because I had no idea how to love, who to love, and all I did was put myself out there and got screwed over again and again, and honestly the sex just wasn’t worth the hell i paid to have it.
This modern society is materialistic and not formed of love, and that is why we have billions of people who have no idea what love is, but they all know how to have sex, so they assume from the movies and TV that love is sex and good times (for a while between two people, like getting a sexual fun high for a few years), but that is a result of materialism, a false sense of being loved and having love, and then it all goes to hell and one thinks that love is bad and refuses to give themself to another because they are afraid of being hurt again.
What is wrong is that decades ago people sold out to the love of money and lost contact with what genuine spiritual love is.
People just throw themselves out there and vultures take them and destroy their hopes and dreams and leave a bone picked miserable soul lying on the ground stunned, shocked and ever so unhappy wondering, “If this is love I want nothing to do with it. I am never going to do this ever again.” so they don’t, but in being like this they will one day come across the special one, but they have refused to receive or give love from the heart anymore, so when they meet that special one they are so much a toxic materialist themself (just like the one who originally screwed them over) that they cannot recognise true love when it come their way.
2018.
If stress is really getting you down try to remember that Rome Wasn’t Built In A Day. You and me, our minds were meant to be free, happy, enjoying life and spreading goodness wherever we go and sometimes it takes some time for God to put everything together to help you – and sometimes God is waiting on you to make the positive move to change your life. 
2011.
Sometimes we wonder “What is hope?” My news for you is that you, we, are the hope – the hope for the world to come to Christ, to learn of a better lifestyle, Salvation, to learn to be better more loving people, to learn of forgiveness and love as God loves us. We are the hope, it is us who are to be the example that will show the worldly what hope is – you are the hope that the world needs to see! God is love!
Proverbs Chapter 13, verse 12: Hope deferred maketh the heart sick: but when the desire cometh, it is a tree of life.
We are the spark the world needs to shine goodness. We are to give hope to the lost and lonely, those in despair need us, those suffering need us, we are the hope. We are to show people what hope is. We are to show them that we once were failures, the lost, and the failed – God showed us hope through someone else – that hope came in the form of another human being or a writing that a human being wrote, or even from the Holy book.
1 Corinthians Chapter 13, verse 13: And now abideth faith, hope, charity, these three; …
We are to continue the work or hope for the worldly who don’t know hope yet. So let your faith shine, your love, share your caring, show your neighbour that you can offer them hope in abundance and goodness – goodness that your neighbour didn’t know existed. Goodness that they have never experienced. Goodness that they have never seen or even dreamed. Be that example – shine that light of hope in the clouds of darkness that envelope our planet.
Hope is something we expect to happen in such a way that we are strongly sure will happen eventually. We have a hope that God will use us in such a way that we can be useful for Him and for people – working for God is working for humankind and the world. We should rest our souls in hope, hope in God and the future.
Be inspired to fill a need. They need us, but they don’t know this yet – show your love, give them hope, shine for them and inspire them with your life, your family, your loving ways. Show them the real message – the one about Jesus, love and life.
Think of how you used to be. Remember wandering this planet by yourself, feeling bad emotions like arrogance to cover your fears, scared when you were alone, crying what seemed like endless tears, wondering where your knight in shining armour has gone and knowing that he will never come from the worldly people. Remember all those sad lost lonely emotions. Now look around you at the lost and do them a favour by doing your part to bringing them to the Truth of life, to reality, to a better life.
Ever since becoming a believer in God I have had some very hard times but they are always less (in my mind) than in those dark days in the wilderness when I didn’t know God, I can handle the attacks so much better now because God teaches us how to grow and have inner-strength. Lets live and show others how to live in the arms of Christ! Remember the true message of compassion and love.
All the best from
James Martin Sandbrook.
28th of April, 2011.
When I was a teenager I went to the shop with a sister who was with her boyfriend. He had lots of money and loved to let everyone know it and he brought things for my sister to impress her. She loved it. They asked me to walk to the shop with them this particular day and as a young teenager I thought it would be fun and maybe he may buy us an ice cream or something.
Halfway to the shop one of them said something about buying something from the shop and I said something like, “Oh goody.” and he got nasty and sarcastic about me being there only to scrounge and suck up for his money and what he could buy. I did an instant mental rerun of my behaviour and mentally listened to what he said and was deeply ashamed of myself and angry that I had lowered myself so low.
I continued to walk to the shop with them and back home. My sister probably offered me some of what they bought but I had instantly changed and vowed deep within that I would never do this ever again – I has instantly built a boundary without realising it. My youthful humbleness allowed me to see the foolish behaviour I had and that I needed to change immediately, and I suppose to some degree my self-belief (pride?) was deeply hurt because this person I had just displayed myself as was not who I wanted to be. The experience deeply humbled me and changed me in this way instantly.
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I watch people today, especially the likes of politicians on TV, they act so shamefully, they act foolish and childish, and they are reported as foolish and childish but they never change. They have accepted that this is worthy behaviour and their pride refuses to let them understand that they are being unproductive and not making good choices for the country, people etc.
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Prideful people cannot be changed because they don’t believe that they need to change, and they feel that if people don’t like how they are (no matter how foolish, toxic or even narcissistic the prideful person is) then it is the people that are fools, at fault, blind to the ways of the prideful person etc.
Humble people can be changed by themselves because they know that they are fallible, make mistakes, do foolish things, they know that they don’t know everything and are not perfect.
Pride keeps us from seeing the truth about our own selves and humbleness keeps us aware that change is always needed and we are willing to change for the better of our own soul.
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Being humble is a part of being truly free. Being prideful is being blind to ones true worth and being unable to feel compassion or empathy for strangers. The public need to note this at election time.
Humble people change for the better.
Prideful people stay stubbornly the same and demand that the world changes for them, this is how dictator narcissist types are made, from foolish pride and having power entrusted to them.
All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
2019.