How apathy works is that the miserable life you have, the world falling apart around you, is Apathy, and those who say they love you don’t, because they prefer to look after themselves while pretending to you and themselves that they care for you, but you don’t care either, but like the book of James you look in the mirror and you tell yourself that you are a good person and are in fact doing your best, and other people’s suffering, well, thats their lot in life not yours, and when they die and float away, hey, you did your best, “or did you?” or were you just lying like James said we would?
Oh well, you will sleep well tonight, right?
Watching (The true story of Desmond Doss, portrayed by Andrew Garfield.)
Hacksaw Ridge. – 2016.
Sometimes you have to break all rules, take the risks and go for broke to win.
When Trump talked of high tariffs countries panicked, but now deals re being made, with 15% tariffs and that means jobs in the USA for goods and services that they can provide or countries out of the USA. Seems like his plan is working.
I used to get in to fights over my not partaking with drugs at parties. people would get nasty and immaturely offended when I didn’t want to get stoned with them, so they would threaten me and some get violent.
Evil people excuse their evil actions much the same as Narcissist’s do. They see evil actions as a way to get something done, and to eliminate the opposition or a threat. If people of evil intentions (in general they my not seem evil-types, but evil is a tool they use from time to time to ensure success when being decent and honest will take too long) have something that he or she wants done dishonest, cruel evil actions are far quicker.
Its the same as a guy arguing with someone for many days, and then finally fed up he punches his opposition and the other guy frightened gives up, thus the puncher realizes that he does not need to go through all that arguing, all he needs to do is punch his enemies and immediately he has won.
Women cannot do this due to lack of strength. and this is why they turn to gossip, truth mixed with lies, faked evidence, groups that lies, Character Assassination and blame-shifting. The effect is often very quick and decisive, with the woman winning with swift vengeance even though the other person is completely innocent, but just someone the woman does not like, or has an issue with and so on.
This female action is obvious in many marriage breakups where she was guilty of the breakup, plays the victim, and blame-shifts it all on the husband, and then he wanting it over as fast as possible will hide his agony, say nothing, and moves on, and because of his silence everyone assumes that she was telling the truth.
The woman you know, mother, sister, aunt, friend, that is apathetic, kind and generous, protective and soothing, can just as easily turn to an evil plan, an evil action, to destroy someone who she dislikes, and because she is seen publicly as someone decent and good, she is never accused nor even considered by the Flying Monkeys she controls as the bad person.
This is called Being Two-faced, of two characters, and the evil side of her is pulled out of her dark shadow to be used when she deems it necessary. Two faced people are showing the public one face/character, and when with her witches (others like her) she shows her evil face/character.
Those who are only generally exposed to her kind face refuse to see anything bad about her. And this is why she gets away with her evil actions so efficiently. And even though people, friends, Flying Monkeys, are used in evil actions, they have no idea of her guilt or would they ever consider it, thus they eagerly will do what they can to help and protect what they assume if a good decent pillar of society.
The people who want to be seen as genuinely good decent citizens get very nasty and evil when they have discovered that someone or people have found them out for being evil, this is when they become very cruel, nasty, callous and don’t care who they hurt to get their way and still look good tot he world at large.
This is one of the main reasons why evil persists and travels around like a roaring lion devouring everything in her path.
The reason why I was not getting notified about my high blood pressure medication when it was ready is that someone had changed by phone number at the chemist or doctors. The woman at the counter ( who was helpful and nice ) asked me if it were my phone number on the receipt and I said no, so she asked if I had recently changed my number and I said that I had it for over 5 years at least. That kind of mistake by the chemist or doctors would cost me a heart attack or stroke, but they rang me last year, so clearly a different phone number was added to my account to replace my real phone number and the chemist was ringing or texting that other phone number and I was not responding 🙁
They got my name and address right but not the phone number.
The other weird thing about it, was that who ever had that phone number had not rung the chemist and corrected them or the doctors.
This morning I decided to go to the chemist and see if they had any idea where my prescription was because I had no pills left. It was a good diea, elsewise I may never have got them.
Please remember that you have been through a lot, survived and are still going. Life is ever-changing. It could seem miserable today and then this afternoon something amazing happens.
The thing to know is that there is always something good, wonderful and what you want around the corner. It gets better.
I am often telling myself these days, “It is what it is” and knowing that it is a waste of time to fret over what I can’t change, I get to doing what I can change and am always trying to be hopeful about the outcome.
Be the best that you can be, be the person who you wish was at your side helping you, and treat yourself with love and encouragement as you would help another person. Most of all, you be your best friend, and don’t rely on others to help you through, sometimes its all up to you to make the necessary changes to your life that you need to make you courageous, confident, happy and content.
All the best from
James Martin Sandbrook.
Alcohol
Alcohol lowers people’s shyness and reserve, so that they become louder, laugh more, speak up and seem merry and having a good time. I had a friend, one of the nicest people I have ever known, he was very shy, at parties he drank, then drank more and more, people said that he was having fun, was so happy, then came the drug abuse, small at first, then more and more, he died of an overdose I his late teens. He was a friend of our family and to this day his family still blames my family for his death, but the reality is that he should never have taken up alcohol because it lead to all the other things that are part of the alcohol and party culture, a lowering of one’s will and fences, and a gullible weak minded nature arises, foolish enough to accept anything, and then pays the price. Alcohol and those who drink alcohol are not your friends.God always gives us a mentor, teacher in God’s ways, a faithful servant, and when the tests arrive God takes away the mentor, and tests the student.
When we become friends with people who are part of the modern day party, alcohol, druggy culture, we start to lose the good people in our life, the one;’s that are genuine, who are loving, and can mean so much good for our future, but due to the “scene”, the people, the gatherings, the phone calls, the socialising on the Internet, being part of the crowd, we don’t notice that we are losing them, and when they are all gone and all we have is fakes we are so heavily into it that we don’t care, and then ten years later, burnt out, looks gone, a wreck from years of mental and physical abuse we come back to reality, but oh, what a price we paid for all those wasted years with people who didn’t mean anything to us, and they only want us when we are partying with them.
| I drank for happiness and became unhappy. I drank for joy and became miserable. I drank for sociability and became argumentative. I drank for sophistication and became obnoxious. I drank for friendship and made enemies. I drank for sleep and woke up tired. I drank for strength and felt weak. I drank for relaxation and got the shakes. I drank for courage and became afraid. I drank for confidence and became doubtful. I drank to make conversation easier and slurred my speech. I drank to feel heavenly and ended up feeling like hell. – Author Unknown. |
When God shows you what is right or wrong while you are being Born Again, you are supposed to be so strong in belief that these things are wrong and so severely stubborn and convinced that they are wrong that no person on the planet should be able to talk you into going back to them or taking part in such sinful activities and ways.
The fact that your “Christian/Religious friends” take part in such things is absolute proof that they are weak minded, refuse to follow God to the full, are not faithful to God, and are not in your life for your best interests.
And as always, when it all goes to hell, they won’t be suffering for you, only you will do that, so look back in the past and learn.And when God shows you that something is wrong set it in your heart as carved on solid rock, unbreakable and unmovable, and stand by God’s work in your life as a good example of a good decent soul, and be an inspiration for the young and others of your gender.
You can either be an example for Satan or God, be strong, do it for God and bless people’s lives, not for Satan to destroy people’s futures.Show the young that even if their parents are weak, that there are people like you who are not weak and you can help them as a solid foundation of good, decency, and courageous. We were made to be courageous by our awesome loving God!
Anyone who takes you to alcohol and social tom-foolery is not a friend, the sooner you figure that out the sooner life will be better for you.
The reason I gave up alcohol when my wife left in 2004 is that for the 5 years before that I had come to realise that alcohol was nothing but misery for my children and I and a wife that drank alcohol was just not of God because she is still clinging to old selfish sinful ways of her carnal soul.
I won’t go back to alcohol because I remember what it always lead to and I remember that when I didn’t follow God I got hurt, and life was unsure, unsafe, insecure and misery.
Alcohol lowers our inhibitions (a feeling that makes one self-conscious and unable to act in a relaxed and natural way), meaning that the thoughts, boundaries, fences etc, that we put up to protect ourself are lowered and we do things we never would have done sober. People today start drinking to be part of society, not for enjoyment, and in time they get so used to it they lose control as the alcohol takes more and more control of their time, lives and especially removes’s all that they had as a child that held them to their dreams of being a good decent soul.
Alcohol is not a friend, it is an enemy and should be avoided at all cost if one wants to be in control of their mind, life and in God’s favour.
Remember Lot’s daughters got their father drunk, and over two consecutive nights had sex with him without his knowledge. This is the use of alcohol by the crafty, they get people drunk and then take advantage of them, so if people are coercing you to drink, question your foolishness for accepting and their motives. And remember, people who are being sneaky are obviously not going to make their dishonesty known to you, they will argue their innocence forever, the point is, will you be foolish enough to believe them and give them another chance, that could be the fatal chance.
When I became a believer in God it was before I read the Bible and before I went to church, so my faith was not biased by human beings, it was set in faith in God “before” any other teaching of who and what God is and what Jesus did on earth.
There was nothing more amazing than fakes in the church, Narcissists, hypocrites, and those who still held on to their materialistic weaknesses, went to church on Sundays or whenever, and pretended to themselves that they had a life that God understood and was alright with. Duh?So you see them on weekends out partying with their mates and you realise that their god is not God, their god is themselves and how they put God into a version that allowed them to continue the selfish sinful life while pretending to themselves that they were in God’s favour.
But it does not matter how much they pretend to themselves, they are going to pay for their sins, and they are not going to be able to choose how that payment is going to happen. This is why so many religious people have so much bad happen to them yet they claim in their pretend minds that God is happy with them and their lives.
In fact parents who party/social drink etc, and claim to have God with them are also leading their children to Hell and their children will do the same to their own children. Satan loves such suckers.
Its like that movie I saw, and the guy asked if the religious family were going to be a problems (something like that) and the guy said, “Nah, they are Catholics, so basically, anything goes!” Meaning they go to church, fake being real Christians, and anything goes that suits them in life. They are like the churches that God is going to spew out, on the fence and refusing to go totally Satan’s way or God’s, and for some lame brain no brainier thinking they think that God is happy with them.
God created us as we are, no social drug taking and no alcohol drinking, we are to use our minds as we were given them. Also with parents drinking alcohol they teach their children with their actions that social drinking is fine, so the children become teenage social drinkers – do you think God is alright with that.
Also the person who drinks get ‘tiddly”, and then as time goes by and false confidence grows as the entertainment gets more mind consuming, and they drink more and more, until one night they get so entertained by what is going on around them that they have no idea how much they have drunk and are so drunk they just let go, and in that state can be raped, drugs put in their drink, robbed, beaten up (and they don’t know who did it) etc.
Drinking alcohol is accepted by the masses, because the masses are materialistically minded, and have no idea what is good for them, hence a world full of depression, anxiety, and mental illness, and religious people faking their faith etc.
This is also how virgins become non-virgins, they drink a bit socially, have a bit more some night with people they trust, gain fake confidence that they can handle the alcohol, have some more, everyone says, “Have some fun!”, “Its harmless!”, and then one day a bit too much and drunk they get taken somewhere, are broken in and are told the next day that they wanted it. What God made special for that person becomes just some random sex with someone they didn’t love, or even a sexual disease or HIV.
God does not support any form of social drinking or any form of alcohol drinking or social drug taking, and anyone taking you to places to do this or inspiring you to do this at home is not doing God’s will, is not in God’s favour, and is leading you astray onto a path that is hard to get off, a path of misery that is fuelled by alcohol, careless people, the foolish, and random living that doesn’t see God, it sees luck, good and bad, and the bad is the pay back for being fake, and pretending to follow God while kissing up to Satan instead.
Some that lead you to such places are doing their own will and if it is someone of the opposite gender, they are playing a game of hunt until they get you in bed and then after they are bored with you they will go for someone else. And you will drink more and more to cover up the shame, and feeling of total stupidity that you allowed yourself to be sucked in so easily and taken advantage of. It is a cycle of misery. Good decent God fearing parents teach their children that alcohol is of evil and is used to cause them much misery during their lives.
People that take a person into a social drinking environment are not a friend, and whether they know it or not their god is not the Living God, it is the other who is disguised in their minds as God to accept all their weaknesses and foolish sins. If they don’t know that they are working for evil to seduce you, do you really wants such weak minded gullible people in your life influencing you? Its worth thinking about for sure.
One of the things that I hated about partying and especially alcohol was the diarrhea, headaches, vomiting and bad feelings the next day of a hangover, but the foolish think that those things are signs that they had a good night. How crazy is that.A person would say to me the next day, “Hey, bro, we had such a great night.” And I would mention him vomiting the next morning, and he would say, “Yeah, man, that was because it was such an awesome party, we got to do it again.”
Mentally-blind to the cause of their own life worthlessness and misery.
All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
Albrecht Durer
Back in the fifteenth century, in a tiny village near Nuremberg, lived a family with eighteen children.
Eighteen! In order merely to keep food on the table for this mob, the father and head of the household, a goldsmith by profession, worked almost eighteen hours a day at his trade and any other paying chore he could find in the neighborhood.
Despite their seemingly hopeless condition, two of the children had a dream.
They both wanted to pursue their talent for art, but they knew full well that their father would never be financially able to send either of them to Nuremberg to study at the Academy.
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After many long discussions at night in their crowded bed, the two boys finally worked out a pact.
They would toss a coin. The loser would go down into the nearby mines and, with his earnings, support his brother while he attended the academy.
Then, when that brother who won the toss completed his studies, in four years, he would support the other brother at the academy, either with sales of his artwork or, if necessary, also by laboring in the mines.
They tossed a coin on a Sunday morning after church. Albrecht Durer won the toss and went off to Nuremberg.
Albert went down into the dangerous mines and, for the next four years, financed his brother, whose work at the academy was almost an immediate sensation.
Albrecht’s etchings, his woodcuts, and his oils were far better than those of most of his professors, and by the time he graduated, he was beginning to earn considerable fees for his commissioned works.
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When the young artist returned to his village, the Durer family held a festive dinner on their lawn to celebrate Albrecht’s triumphant homecoming.
After a long and memorable meal, punctuated with music and laughter, Albrecht rose from his honored position at the head of the table to drink a toast to his beloved brother for the years of sacrifice that had enabled Albrecht to fulfill his ambition.
His closing words were, “And now, Albert, blessed brother of mine, now it is your turn. Now you can go to Nuremberg to pursue your dream, and I will take care of you.”
All heads turned in eager expectation to the far end of the table where Albert sat, tears streaming down his pale face, shaking his lowered head from side to side while he sobbed and repeated, over and over, “No …no …no …no.”
Finally, Albert rose and wiped the tears from his cheeks.
He glanced down the long table at the faces he loved, and then, holding his hands close to his right cheek, he said softly, “No, brother. I cannot go to Nuremberg. It is too late for me.
Look … look what four years in the mines have done to my hands!
he bones in every finger have been smashed at least once, and lately I have been suffering from arthritis so badly in my right hand that I cannot even hold a glass to return your toast, much less make delicate lines on parchment or canvas with a brush. No, brother … for me it is too late.”
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More than 450 years have passed.
By now, Albrecht Durer’s hundreds of masterful portraits, pen and silver-point sketches, watercolors, charcoals, woodcuts, and copper engravings hang in every great museum in the world, but the odds are great that you, like most people, are familiar with only one of Albrecht Durer’s works.
More than merely being familiar with it, you very well may have a reproduction hanging in your home or office.
One day, to pay homage to Albert for all that he had sacrificed, Albrecht Durer painstakingly drew his brother’s abused hands with palms together and thin fingers stretched skyward.
He called his powerful drawing simply “Hands,” but the entire world almost immediately opened their hearts to his great masterpiece and renamed his tribute of love “The Praying Hands.”
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Moral:
I am not how accurate this story is but it states the truth about people who sacrifice for others, some are never even thanked .
So please let this story be your reminder, that no one – no one – ever makes it alone!
Sometimes there is someone in the background of your life who is influencing you in some manner (you may not even really notice the impact that this person is having in your life), or someone is working tirelessly to help you in some way.Please be thankful and show your thanks as best as you can.
© Copyright. James Martin Sandbrook. Tokoroa, New Zealand.
What is wrong with the younger generations.
Hitler had a great dislike of religion, because he saw that the power of religion could cause people to fight on regardless of the death threat – in other words you could threaten a religious person with death and the religious person would choose death for moral reasons. Hitler hated this because he believed that people could be ruled by violence and fear, and so it upset him greatly that there were some people, he called fanatics, that would die for all that is good, and wouldn’t hesitate much in opposing Hitler even though threatened with death.
Feminism and Capitalism cause , in future generations, apathy in the young. The elders of the peoples become “logical”, goal setting, strong willed and have a heavy faith in only themselves, so that when they get awards, rewards, money, fame etc they can claim that, “It was all me!” and bath in the light of their own glory.
We are taught to achieve” ad that achieving our very best is the greatest thing that we can do for our own life and that being honoured, adored, getting prizes and awards etc is a reflection of just how amazing we are.
Because the mother separates herself from her children at around 3 months and older these days the spiritual loving connection between mother and child is severed early, basically leaving baby to fend for his or her self in a place without the loving touch, care, protection of mother – teaching the baby that it is a dog eat dog world, to trust no one, that they are on their own from the start, and that no one really loves the baby, so the baby adapts to apathy and the babies survival instincts kick in and baby will do what is necessary to survive.
Once the child is only enough to go to school he or she is fed academic teaching, has a few hours at home with parents who are tired and grumpy from working all day, so the afternoons are rushed and that loving feeling of a wholesome family life are not there. The father is away most of the day at work also. The children fill their afternoons with TV times, gaming time, movies and some time with friends – this leaves so little time to learn of gender roles, becoming good parents etc.
Adults today accuse the young of being failures, but the greed, selfishness and self indulgence of the parents taught the children that they are not very important in the parents lives. From the modern parenting the child learns little of gender roles, little of moral standards (if at all), from TV, movies, magazines of the parents etc that indecency is cool, a way to have fun and natural.
Basically love is not taught, it is often spoke of and we are told to love and protect each other, but since the members of the modern family are basically strangers to each other they can’t really get a deep insight to what love is, what love feels like spiritually, what it means to love, what a good loving parenting relationship is (because both parents are wither working, out with friends, watching TV, fighting etc)
Basically there is a limited version of love, genuine care and concern (as long as it does not get in the way of the parents entertainments and lifestyle too much) the child lacks any experience (experience is how we learn knowledge and wisdom the most), parental care, of gender roles, etc in the modern home.
The children of the modern family does not learn of spiritual love in the sense of experience, knowledge or wisdom.
The soul that is lacking love becomes the empty soul that seeks basically anything to fill that void.
These children grow up and do the same to their own young because they know no better and apathy and self indulgence and self desire is what is expected of us in society. We are expected to be seekers of self satisfactions, to set selfish goals, to become the most important person in our own life, to seek sexual satisfaction in immoral sexual ways and in toys, games, etc.
In Pompeii before it was destroyed you were considered a weirdo if you did not have a child sex partner. So from this we can gather that children were taught from a very young age that their sexual parts are made to pleasure adults, imagine what kind of parents they would have become.
What I am getting at here is that apathy taught in the home creates a new generation of uncaring children.
Test a child in an unfamiliar environment and the child will attempt to do as he or she is told.
Put a teenager in society who has basically no idea about morals standards, has a limited knowledge of love, has learned from adults that self-seeking is rewarded, that a hunger for sex with multiple partners is good for the soul and satisfies the hungers of the body, that alcohol, parties etc are normal, and then you will see that teenager try to cope.
The reason that there is a teenager/young adult problem is because of apathy in parenting and lack of love and respect for our own children. They see this, feel this, know that they are second or third best in their parents lives, so they kick into survival mode while seeking acceptance from their own peers and they do what their immature minds feel is necessary to make it though each day.
The young don’t love because they were not taught love.
The young are often impolite because they were taught academic education not manners.
The young are selfish because they were taught to goal-set, be achievers, that success in the world is everything.
The young love money because they are constantly shown by parents working all day, TV, movies, etc that money is happiness.
If you are an adult and you wonder why the young suffer mental illness, suicidal thoughts, drug, alcohol and sex addictions then look back at yourself. Because if you are not living a life that is good for your own children then you are the problem!
All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
14-1-2020.
My mom had a lot of problems.
She did not sleep and she felt exhausted.
She was irritable, grumpy, and bitter.
She was always sick, until one day, suddenly, she changed.
The situation was the same, but she was different.
One day my dad said to her:
– I’ve been looking for a job for three months and I haven’t found anything, I’m going to have a few beers with friends.
My mom replied:
– It’s okay.
My brother said to her:
– Mom, I’m doing poorly in all subjects at the University …
My mom replied:
– Okay, you will recover, and if you don’t, well, you repeat the semester, but you pay the tuition.
My sister said to her:
– Mom, I hit the car.
My mom replied:
– Okay daughter, take it to the workshop, find how to pay and while they fix it, get around by bus or subway.
Her daughter-in-law said to her:
– Mother-in-law, I come to spend a few months with you.
My mom replied:
– Okay, settle in the living room couch and look for some blankets in the closet.
All of us at my mom’s house gathered worried to see these reactions.
We suspected that she had gone to the doctor and that she was prescribe some pills of “I don’t give a damn about 1000 mg.”
She would probably also be ingesting an overdose.
We then proposed to do an “intervention” to my mother to remove her from any possible addiction she had towards some anti-tantrum medication.
But what was not the surprise, when we all gathered around her and my mom explained:
“It took me a long time to realize that each person is responsible for their life, it took me years to discover that my anguish, my mortification, my depression, my courage, my insomnia and my stress, did not solve their problems but aggravated mine.
I am not responsible for the actions of others, but I am responsible for the reactions I express to that.
Therefore, I came to the conclusion that my duty to myself is to remain calm and let each one solve what corresponds to them.I have taken courses in yoga, meditation, miracles, human development, mental hygiene, vibration and neurolinguistic programming, and in all of them, I found a common denominator: finally they all lead to the same point.
And, it is that I can only interfere with myself, you have all the necessary resources to solve your own lives.
I can only give you my advice if you ask me and it depends on you to follow it or not.
So, from now on, I cease to be: the receptacle of your responsibilities, the sack of your guilt, the laundress of your remorse, the advocate of your faults, the wall of your lamentations, the depositary of your duties, who should solve your problems or spare a tire every time to fulfill your responsibilities.
From now on, I declare all independent and self-sufficient adults.”
Everyone at my mom’s house was speechless.
From that day on, the family began to function better, because everyone in the house knows exactly what it is that they need to do.
Author:
A HAPPY WOMAN!
