We all make mistakes.
I had a falling out with a person years ago who sided with people who had done me wrong and something illegal. This person years later wanted to be friends with me again, but I was not able to trust this person because of the past – I really had no idea if I was about to be used and abused again. So I said that this person needed to side with me and get the illegal thing sorted, of which this person said that I wanted revenge.
But I said, that it was not revenge, it was me wanting to know if this person actually meant their friendship, and since this person had backed up my enemies in the past, I wanted to know now if I was that important to this person that this person would now back me up as a showing of public support for me and not the haters who had done me much harm.
I have the Pioneer SX-980, but would love this one. Mine looks just about identical to this, and is like this very heavy, but mine does not have the huge toroidal transformer or the big capacitors that the SX-1980 has.
I saw a video of USA garage sales, and its amazing how high the prices are, and how stubborn the people are who are selling. Like the guy is very polite and asks them for a deal, cut the prices and so on, and many just say no, and that’s it, they won’t change their opinion and refuse to lower their price even a little bit, such is the love of money.
It is amazing how many people attack good people who do nice things.
The guy from SB Mowing is often harassed for mowing and cleaning up a yard for free. In one case he was trying to help an old lady and the Council got mad at him. It appears that the council demanded that she use the councils mowing services, and when the guy from SB Mowing came along to do it for free, the council lost the plot because they could see that they were going to lose some money if someone else did the job and cleaned up the yard for free.
Sometimes some busybody comes along and gives him a hard time over it, and he is trying to explain that he is trying to do a good deed.
Some people, I think, subconsciously, are upset when they see people do good things when they know that they too can be a nice person and do things for free as well. And this frustrates them, and causes them to abuse the innocent person doing the good deed.
Some people are of course jaded, they are just nasty because they are jealous, or they just enjoy being nasty for no reason.
My eldest sister taught me a lot about meanness and cruelty, as she was always trying to hurt us all. She plainly enjoyed being cruel, and the reactions that she got taking advantage of people, and even trying to destroy them. Sp, maybe that is some people issue’s, but then there is also Immaturity, people unstable because they have little control over their emotions and they explode with no control.
Sex
The idea of sex today is that it is separate from love and that it is a pleasure like smoking, drug abuse, alcohol etc.
The intent of sex was in a relationship between a male and female, and the result of deep love was the child, the fruit of the love, the result of the love and physical/spiritual act.
Once married and having discovered the pleasures of innocent clean love making he and she realise that the only person who will satisfy them in this way is each other and being responsible and wanting the best marriage possible each only see’s sexual satisfaction in the other.This does not mean that either partner uses sex to gain of the other, it means that the sex is icing on the cake for a love that was formed before the sex.
Meaning he and she fell in love, did not have sex or any sexual behaviour, but fell for each others characters, found that they had the same feelings childhood dreams, loved the dame things, found the same things important, wanted the same things, then they found out after sex that there was even more to the loving, and in this amazing delightful way to love one another they create another human being “together”, and this new human being is their special gift to the world, a part of both, a child to love help form and guide until an adult.
There is so much positive value to sex in the right arena, the right place (God’s version of marriage), that it becomes known to the two as a special pleasure that only they will ever share with each other. It is their special time, their special fun, their special intimate moments, and the day is the building up for that nights pleasure, or if no one is around that morning or afternoon pleasure.
They discover that they find each other’s character a pleasure to be with, to have innocent joyful fun with, play with, hug with, love, and that sexual pleasure is pleasure with the character we find pleasurable at all times, day and night. This is why real love lasts, because it is the whole human being you fall in love with not just the sex, or the money, or whatever materialistic selfish things we are told today is marriage.
When two people love each other they don’t seek pleasure elsewhere, meaning sexual or friendship pleasure, because their while pleasure is with each other as if they were one, an un-seperable couple, love.
Honestly, think about it, what else would God have created, but true love that two could share in total innocence and joy, that would bring happiness and make happiness the journey not what once chases each weekend and never finds.
A materialistic minded person assumes that he or she knows what love is.
But when approached by a person, who really loves them as a complete person, they assume that this loving person wants them for sex, or maybe even material gain.
Like the song, “Baby, I’d love you to want me.” The sexually materialistic person could see that as, “I would love to have sex with you and you to want sex with me.”, But the loving soul really means, “I would love all of you. Your life. You, as my friend, lover and partner for life.”
A gentleman or lady may not even think of sex, because all they can think of is being with the person they love with a completeness of their entire soul.
The gentle soul can only watch with heartbreak and sorrow as the one they fell so heavily for walks away with pride and vanity sure that they had pegged the good loving soul as evil and after only one thing, sex.
A person who has not felt heartache and true love has no idea when it is standing right in front of them, they will check back with their soul made of apathy and assume that the loving soul is bad, a stalker, something to avoid for sure.
Probably so many years down the way he or she will have come to understand what love is through life’s trials and experiences and then see the one they tossed so carelessly away and judged so cruel, and realise that they love this person.
One of the things I want to teach people in this apathetic age is what empathy and genuine lover is, so that they will not make the foolish mistakes their parents and grandparents made. By doing this, their children will all know the love that people like me will probably never know, but we do know that it exists and is available for all.
What we don’t know we can’t see in others, but we can sadly assume that what we are and what we have experienced is what the other person is, and that is a huge mistake.
A fact may people need to get straight before marriage is that sex often lasts a very short period of time, so choosing a partner because of sexual attraction is a huge mistake. They say that intelligence is sexy, kindness is sexy, love is sexy, the whole person’s character is sexy and turns the partner on, not just the physical looks and a person’s current sexual desires for you which may disappear after a year or so, or even months if this person really has a terrible character that he or she has been hiding from you for so long just to wrap you up in commitments to them.
And remember, you may get good sex for 20 minutes of the day, but you have to live with this person for the rest of the day. This is why you see so many women with some guy that all the other women want and yet she is so emotionally unhappy and dissatisfied with her life, because she went with him to satisfy others, to get laid, but now realises that she really doesn’t like his character at all. But too late, she is now committed to him and a child is on the way. She is responsible, so will stay in a relationship that is dissatisfying and makes her feel incomplete and used
Many males are very much into the “quickie”, a quick dash at it and off to work, or off to a friends place, etc, just a splash of sex to satisfy himself and off to do his thing, she becomes a sex organ to be used and abused at his leisure. The big problem with this is that this has a woman who doesn’t want sex with others becoming very frustrated and eventually buying sex toys and having affairs. Your marriage partner must be on the same level as you, if in doubt then don’t!
The reason for large families in the past was because there was no TV, just hours in bed talking, making love and sleeping 🙂
How it was meant to be. With children around during the daytime, no schooling then, no sex during the day, so they developed a strong desire for each other all day, touching, hugging, caressing, looks of “I want you!”, and then when the children went to bed it was strong highly powered gentle sex, little noise, and two very sensitive lovers gently making love to the other. The sex lasted a long time, the talking, hugging, getting on, happened in between. It wasn’t animalistic, it was beautiful, and both came out of it satisfied and slept very deeply, satisfied all through, in each others arms.
Healing each others souls was a part of this. They, as the bestest of friends, lovers, cared for each other completely and totally, and wanted the best for each other. If either was hurting the other hurt, life for them was about making sure the other was healed, just like making sure that a cut on their own hand healed, the other person was a true spiritual extension of themselves.
What kills sex today is masturbation, sex toys, fantasizing etc, because with constant sexual manipulation of the sex organs comes desensitisation (unless someone has a sex or masturbation addiction), they become numb, not so sensitive and then need much more manipulation to reach that desperately desired orgasm, they bring in sexual fantasising (many people are encouraged in therapy to fantasize about sex with others while having sex with their wife or husband – trouble with this is that it leads to affairs
because people are opening their mind to sex out of that marriage), and with the numbness comes dissatisfaction with “normal sex” and a strong desire to find it elsewhere, or to find exciting sex, or in some other way like bringing in another sex partner, immoral sex, indecency, joining sex groups, orgies, swingers, and even child sex groups etc.
The beautiful act that was supposed to happen at night between two lovers highly charged sexually for each other, becomes a cheap immoral desire to reach an orgasm, it becomes selfish, takes over the mind, and people create lives around it, they think of it all day, they buy it off prostitutes, they read about it in books, magazines, admire nude bodies in images and videos, they eventually lose all reality of what sex was intended for, and their marriage and lives are a reflection of it, especially their depression, anxieties, fears and worries, because they are all emotionally mixed up, confused and are not having their true loving sexual, spiritual and mental needs met, they are always left wanting.
Sex is not dirty, disgusting gross, or bad, it is the most amazing satisfying intimate spiritual and physical connection between a man and woman.
Before marriage anyone can say that they agree with what I wrote above, they are wanting your body, the want sex with you, they will agree to anything, but does their character, true nature, kindness, sensitiveness match what I wrote above, which category do they fit into, the immoral type or the true genuine decent loving companion, a lover of the most amazing kind.
We should marry a person who is on our own mental level, who wants the same things we do, no faking, no accepting some things from them that you don’t like because those things can when added up in marriage can become big deal breakers, marriage destroyers, so think carefully, look at the person’s character all the time, watch their eyes, see who they talk to when they think that you are not around, talk to their friends, work mates and follow your instincts, like do you really want this person touching you when not having sex, do you really want this person touching you intimately, and do you really want to share your innermost desires, thoughts, secrets and tears with this person? If you have doubt walk away. Your needs are far more important than getting laid once a day by some faker or someone who is not matched to your soul.
In the past they used to say (before the sexual revolution) that a good man who loves children, is a hard worker, is kind to all, and with treat his woman and children with respect was a big turn on for a woman, and that is why she married him, because he completed the big picture for her, everything that she thought was important for a good marriage, decent husband, good father and a happy life side by side.
You will never regret turning down a bad deal that was wrapped perfectly, let that person go, there are billions out there, don’t sell yourself short, your happiness, love life and enjoyment was not intended for all the people in the world except 1, and that is the person who God will constantly bring to you, so keep a look out, love is there, on its way, or right before you, take notice, because that person was chosen for you as a gift from God, for your pleasure I all senses, to help you, heal you, complete you and to walk side by side with you to God’s chosen destiny for you both.
If a materialistic minded person turns down true love because they don’t recognise love because they have never known it, they will choose a partner of convenience and they will be in a relationship that involves sex, children, but is really a friendship which they assume is love, but in reality it is nothing but apathy playing happy families, and that is why there are so many divorces today, the world has far more apathy than empathy these days.
People who don’t know how to love can’t love, but they can pretend, have sex, and then divorce many times.
All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
Knowing Love:
I was walking my dog in the cool night air and I was wondering if I could tell people who had never had love about love. And I got some ideas and I hope that this may help.This article would assume that the reader was a young person who had no idea what love is, but really I hope that it give anyone who reads this some ideas and hope.
Maybe you have been to the beach or to a park with your mates and looked around to find something cool to do and you saw an old couple sitting on a park bench amongst all the action going on, or maybe they were sitting on a towel on the sand at the beach and you all joked about them being old and past it and not fun, they didn’t know where it was at, man they were way too square. Whatever you all said the old couple were not your scene.
The old fellow was holding the old ladies hand. They were quiet and staring at the sunset, both looking content and happy. He murmured something softly into her ear and she responded with a smile and a small kiss on his cheek. And together they both turned to the sunset and sighed, she putting her head on his shoulder and they just stared. To you nothing could be more boring. To them this was everything, because they had found love and they were content with it. Content to be warm in each others embrace, content to know that they were unconditionally loved and that this love will be with them until the end of their physical life. Best friends!
The young couples you see pushing the pram with that child in it. Strolling down the street they go and you and your mates all make comments, maybe someone made a snide remark and you all burst into laughter. The two pushing the pram, holding hands, smiling at each other contently. Hmm, it’s that word again, content. people in love are content. Their aim is not about things, its about each other, what they can do for each other, and talking about having a family. They both love that baby too. Boring. Well they won’t get pulled up by the cops that night or go to jail for the night for shoplifting. They don’t need to go to a drinking place or a club for their entertainment because they are content to make their own entertainment at home, together. Even sitting around the baby playing on the floor is entertaining to these two people, it is what they wanted, its their dream together. Washing the baby in a tub, and the baby splashes by waving his little arms in enthusiastic excitement at the sensation of being in the tub of water. And they are so pleased and happy when baby takes his first steps. They live in a triangle of love. They are blessed and happy. This is God’s family.
So, what is love? There are no nasty feelings in love. Both people only have eyes for each other. They see the defects but they don’t care. When he stares into her eyes she knows that he is the one and he knows that she is the one.
I remember a married couple I knew from years ago who had this amazing loving connection. When he was away, he is a Pastor, she would often put her hand to her chest and tell of the ache she felt in her heart when he was away from their home and out of town and how she missed him and how she thought of him all through the day no matter what she was doing. It was very obvious that she missed him dearly and needed to be with him to be complete. When she saw him he would talk about the same feelings that he had for her. They needed to be with each other. When they worked in different rooms on their computers he would sit there typing away for say about half an hour and then she would walk in and start to massage his shoulders, he would suck in some air and moan because he felt tired and needed the interruption, his tired muscles ached. He would thank her and even on some occasions she would go into the room and massage his shoulders and he would just accept it and say nothing, she would say nothing and then she would walk out and you could see that both were relaxed and happy for that few moments of interaction. Words are not needed.
Another thing that showed their beautiful connection of love was when she or he wanted a coffee. She would be typing for half an hour and want a coffee but be so busy typing and he would get up, walk into the business kitchen and make them both a coffee and then take hers into her room. He would massage her shoulders while they talked quietly together sharing intimacy in a special closeness that only true lovers can know. You could see them whispering and you knew that you were witnessing something special, something good, something from God. Something true.
They had that special spiritual connection of feelings. He would know what she wanted to do, She would be about to suggest or say something and then he would smile and say “That’s what I was just about to suggest!” They were like happy mind readers and they would come up with the same ideas – they were “like one” as the Bible says so. This connection grows with time, it is so special and it holds the two together – fused together in love. She feels his love for her physically/spiritually and he feels hers in the exact same way. They do not want to be apart, they want to be close physically, they need each other to function properly. This is what we would call love at its best, deep, satisfying, happy and content.
Once she damaged the car and walked in fearing that she was going to disappoint him so much and that she had let him down because she had done something wrong. She stood before him, told him what she had done wrong (and yes it was her mistake) and hung her head and tears streamed down her sad face. He stood there and listened, and then when she had finished talking he gently reached forward and pulled her into his arms and held her while out loud thanking God that she was alright and hadn’t been hurt. And he told her he loved her and they gently cuddled.
Ahh, only for young lovers you say right? Wrong, these two had been married for many years and were in their forties, they are still deeply in love, because they were wise enough to let what is natural happen and they didn’t put anything before God or each other. Deep in love with the Lord God and deeply in love with each other. They had children and jobs, but they kept their love real.
Never turn true love away and never put anything except the ways of God before the one that you love. Society has rules, well all I can say to that is that rules can be broken. Forget what society claims and be with the one that you love tonight – follow God’s direction. Friends are friends, family is family – make sure that they stay in their rightful place, at arms length, while your sweetheart is wrapped in your willful loving embrace under the guidance of God. Marriage is a creation of God where the souls of the two people are merged in love.
Do your homework – talk to people who are in good wholesome relationships. Read good wholesome books on the subject. Avoid having friends who are in relationships where they have a bad attitude to marriage and love – their attitude will wash off onto you or your husband or wife, its just not worth it. Avoid love advice from feminists because they focus far too heavily on one side of the relationship and the same goes for macho males. When you find a couple that are happy together, talk to them, find out why they are happy. And always remember that evil wants you to laugh scornfully at true love, this is so that you will never find it and you will never share it and you won’t tell other people of it – and evil wins destroying your life and leaving you with no hope of happiness.
If you are single and reading this and you long for love – go to those who are examples of love and goodness. Your friends may be with the times but they are not good advisers of what is good and bad in relationships. Look at their relationships and see if that is what you want before you share intimate thoughts with them about what you want in your heart. People want you to be like them, consider who they are and what they are before you decide to be like them and have what they have. The same goes for your own family. Have a look at their relationships and the types of relationships that they have before you let them guide you or suggest help to you.
When you ask for advice off someone look at that person and think “Do I want to be like this person?” If not, its better to get your advice somewhere else because this persons advice turned them into who they are today – that was their line of thinking. Their thoughts made them who they are today. Follow God, pray and go where people are that can help guide you – people that give advice so that you can be like them.
Just because a person has not grown up knowing what love is and has never felt that kind of special care and contentment is no reason why we shouldn’t step out on that limb and find it. Its there, ask God. You will never ever regret finding true love, never. It is the essence of life. Those who don’t know love are alive but they are not living – living is being with love, having love around us and being in love with that special one and loving God and all living creatures – human beings were created for deep tender loving relationships.
Love can be seen between a man and a woman when they are just looking into each others eyes snuggled on a chair, or just smiling at one another. Its tender, without any form of lusts or need to bribe the other. Neither wants to take off the other, each wants to give love to the other. It is gentle, its caring, and it is very, very spiritual and science for all its wild claims of genes, and body functions and body needs has missed the mark by many, many miles.
Love is just not just about getting on with one another, it is trying to get along with one another because to you it is important to get on with this person who holds your love in their heart. You don’t want to disappoint that person. Maybe you don’t want them to see how human you really are, but once they see you as you are it won’t make a difference. You see, all your different strange qualities are what make you interesting to the person who truly loves you, they are desirable, funny, and yes, maybe just a bit strange.
Be open-minded about Love and what it is. Search. Pray. To find real love as God is you may need to remove some of your bad habits first otherwise you cannot see or feel love. Bad habits like, not forgiving people, resentment, revenge etc. Keep in mind that God is love and love is God. To know God is not easy at first, and we need to be more and more like God to know God so it stands to reason that to know love we need to be more like God too. Never, ever give up the search for true love in your life until you have it. And if true love comes your way don’t ever pass it by, for that would be the worst mistake anyone could ever make. If God guides you to your love, be interested.
Love between a man and woman, between children and adults was all meant to be kind and generous, and sometimes even willing sacrifice. The sharing of one another with each other in kindness and decency is love.
I hope that this helps somebody who has not known love yet.
All the best and lots of love from your friend and servant
James M Sandbrook.
The whole idea of the future,. your future, according to God is only your choice, and of course if you make no choice that is still making a choice, you chose to do nothing. God is fair, you wanted Honesty, Fairness, Love, and complete Free Will, the ability to choose as you wanted to choose, and you wanted to be a good person, be wiser, be a person of more knowledge, this is what God has given you.
What you do with what God has given you is totally up to you.
I try to speak out loud what I have learned from following God all these years.
Here is an audio file I made today. All that I have learned is from personal experiences with God, people, and life, and a logical common sense look at what God is doing, what being Born Again is and so on. Also the role of Jesus in reality and Mary’s part in God’s bringing love back to the world.
We should always remember always as we go about our day that we are all traveling on this planet together, and the more that we do this “in tune with one another the more smooth the travel”. So keep being a blessing to one another and shining the light of kindness, friendship and love everywhere you go. Those little deeds really make up the difference in people’s lives.
The least we can do is to shine a light of positive happiness everywhere. It all makes a difference and one never knows how much that simple smile you gave this morning to that child, or to that mother and children, or to person walking the street with their dog will make a difference to that persons day.
We should do to others as we wish that they did to us. And we should do good to all, even those who don’t like us, because we are forgiving and nice. We never know who will become our friend when we keep showing our kind forgiving nature to them on a daily basis. Worlds change when we show our own persistent love for one another.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
November 1, 2013.
Trust and Become New.
Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful. But his delight is in the law of the LORD; and in his law doth he meditate day and night.
If we follow God’s teachings we are heading for a life of peace, contentment, courage, strength and love.
Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who hath blessed us with all spiritual blessings in heavenly places in Christ: According as he hath chosen us in him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and without blame before him in love:
Happiness is the joy of love and life, and the only way to self respect, life fulfillment and contentment can be ours is if we learn the ways of peace, love and God – God is Love.
Psalm 32, verses, 1-2:
Blessed is he whose transgression is forgiven, whose sin is covered.
Blessed is the man unto whom the Lord imputeth not iniquity, and in whose spirit there is no guile.
The beginning of happiness is being forgiven. We must forgive ourselves, forgive other, and desire God to forgive us. When we come to God He sees us as new creatures to be reborn into a new life under His guidance, love and blessings. We must forgive others.
Mark Chapter 11, verse 26:
But if ye do not forgive, neither will your Father which is in heaven forgive your trespasses.
In true belief we should be satisfied in God’s plans for our life. The plesures of the world only last a season and then the price is paid for them, and while we may choose the sins/pleasures, we cannot choose the payback. this is well out of our control.
We should fear being chastised so much so that we don’t stray from God’s ways and God’s teachings. Blessed is every one that feareth the LORD; – Blessed are they that keep his testimonies, And that seek him with the whole heart. We are blessed to be under God’s protective wing.
Psalms 34, verse 8:
Look and see that the LORDis good: Blessed is the people that trusteth in him.
What I want in a life partner is that someone who is willing to accept me as I am, and I accept her the same.
Yet we are both healers for each other, we bat on the same team, we encourage each other, we push the other further and further each day, and we enjoy each other’s company just because we do. It doesn’t get much sweeter than that. 😉
We laugh and celebrate the crazy weird things that we do, and we have that connection with each other so we can sense each other’s thoughts, feelings, and desires. 💞
We dance, run, jump, whirl, because that’s the crazy way that love makes people be, and we don’t mind what people think or what they say, because this love is us and that is how we want it to stay. 👣
Together we walk, hand in hand, not wanting anyone else, because the complete love we have found deep within each other’s hearts is what “living” is about. 📚
We know that there does not need to be some great amazing scientific explanation for the reason that we love and adore each other, we just do, because we do, and that is all the explanation that we need. 🌿
Because of our love for each other we will both become stronger, more confident, happier and more able to cope with life. 💕
Love is about loving each other so much so that we are completely and totally in life/love together, glued as one at the spiritual heart. 💛
We are the music that love makes, in tune with each other, in spiritual harmony and complete as God intended us to be!
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
2 November 2017.
What you are looking for is out there somewhere, out of the square, out of your comfort zone. How do I know?
Because you are still looking, wanting, searching, and seeking to find. And the fact that you are still looking is a sure sign that it can’t be where you are or with you, or you would be confident and secure in your findings, and happily rested in your heart and soul, and searching no more. 🍂
Go now, find – seek and take your dreams, make your life alive again as you make your dreams come true.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
November 2, 2017 at 10:57 PM.
We should never wait until it’s too late to tell someone how much we love them, and how much we care. 🌼
Because when the are gone, no matter how loud we shout or cry out, they won’t hear us anymore. Sometimes we take death too lightly. We can take relationships too lightly. And we seem to think that nothing will change, until the harshness of reality hits us like a rock and wakes us up from the daydreaming we have been doing for years… then all we have left are regrets and tears. 🍂
Regrets are a very heavy load to carry the rest of our life.
While you have the chance, take it, and make it count!
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
September 8, 2012.
I wrote this to help a fallen friend. I hope that it may help you too:
When I thought that the fight was over, it was only just beginning. I gave up hope, I gave up the will to fight, I gave it all up. But then one day I discovered that God saw something in me that I had no idea existed. And somehow I must find that goodness that I didn’t see in me.
Step by struggling step, I walked my long slow way out of depression. And I did it all on that belief that I had to look after my children, and because God saw something in me that I didn’t even know existed and I was going to find out what it is.
I had faith in something unseen, something that God had seen, something that people hadn’t seen. I had to believe in myself with faith and hope, even though I hadn’t seen what God saw in my fallen heart to be worthy and true.
This is why people say to Believe In Yourself.
It is in believing in something that we cannot see in ourself that gives us hope that it will get better, and that we will get better. You can become a great winner by simply asking God to reveal to you what His purpose is for your life.
That purpose will sometimes be the total opposite to what you originally believed for you. God’s path for you will be possibly in an opposite direction.
I was told over and over again (by family) that I would never write, that I was not a good writer, and that I would never write anything that people would ever be interested in.
Religious people that I knew personally said much the same and said many unkind things to me. All designed to deflate me and to destroy my future. They didn’t know any better. But I knew better, I knew that God believed in me and I had to find out what it was that God believed in that was in me that was so good.
So I forged onward. I told myself that this was not an issue of the church, or of religion, but it was something that God saw in me. It means that God had a plan for me, and that something useful could be made of my messed up life. But all through the beginning of this, I didn’t believe in me! I believed in God’s belief in me. So I took each step, day by day. God has a plan for you too.
The hope I am talking about for you is a Light far ahead in the distance. The Light, future and existence that I saw for me. You have your own future and goal.
If you keep walking forward you with Christ you will eventually reach that Light. It is between you and God only. This is your personal walk with God to the goal that God has before you. If you need help God will guide you to it. If you ignore it, you won’t get it.
The hard part is removing old opinions and old beliefs, old habits and old addictions. We fight the removal of those things sometimes, when in reality if we would let go easily the path will be walked much faster, and our destiny reached much quicker.
The depression that you may be feeling is not because of God. It is because of lost people, a lost society and a life within that lost society. You have been soaked in a lifestyle and beliefs that are not good for you. Having realised that you will realise that “of course you are not going to feel happy at this moment”, not when a lost society has taken away all your hopes, dreams and happiness.
God is right at this very moment trying to pick up His fallen baby, “you!” God loves you. God is in tears for you. God wants only the very best for you.
Have you ever tried to pick up a dog or cat that does not want to be picked up? It isn’t easy is it. Have you tried to pick up a struggling tearful child? hard to do. This could be the trouble that God is having with you right at this minute. God loves you. So please let go of the past, more forward following God.
You must start walking to that Light for your own personal good, your salvation for a new future. There you will find love and people that care for you. And much spiritual and physical healing. Your Truth is there.
This is your Life-Journey that will lead you to Truth and understanding, knowledge, wisdom and a new spiritual family based on people who will love you unconditionally.
Like me, you will look back on the past amazed that you got through it.
All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
July 31, 2014.
Being comforted is a wonderful thing and the thought that someone cares is a lovely feeling, it is the feeling that someone thinks that we are important enough for someone else to love us enough to take the time to guide and encourage us.
An example of this love is Jesus on the Mount, or when walking around preaching to the people everywhere. He walked long distances showing love and putting in a big effort, trying to save the lost, trying to give hope, preaching to teach love, and all at great personal sacrifice. That is a very worthy example for us to follow.
A word of warning though. Probably this is more important to males. When we show affection, love, kindness and we are willing to give our personal time to others some people can take our efforts wrong and make the mistake of thinking that we are attracted to them.
I highly recommend that males, pastors etc who have to work with people, especially when working with females to be wary of those who may feel that our genuine kindness is an attraction to them. Part of counseling is reaching out to those who have a lack of self-confidence, depressed, very lonely, in despair believing that no one loves them. feeling downtrodden, and those who have mental issues.
These people due to their feeling that they need someone and are desperate for love and affection can cling on to the first person (or someone) who comes along and is willing to help them. If you bring God into it then they may decide that this person helping them is a sign that God has given them this person to marry in the future. A troubled mind can come up with some amazing situations and beliefs.
So when working with such people do be careful and have other people around to protect yourself against confused claims, and people desperately needing love. Once they have their confidence back then they will be able to deal with their life.
The human imagination is an amazing tool and has no limits to its abilities and the things it can think up. The books, movies, plays and stories, inventions etc etc are good examples of so-called sane people using the amazing abilities of imagination and belief in themself.
But to those with disturbed minds they can conjure up some very intense feelings and amazing feelings of attachment that can create ideas, dreams and theories that they believe are “realities” because they are not in control of their emotions or their minds. They need help to get their life and minds back in order.
Just as we are to have Trust, Faith and Hope in God people who come to us who need help should have the same from us. And we should teach them to be closer to God.
All the best from James M Sandbrook. 2013.
Conjure:
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Verb
Make (something) appear unexpectedly or seemingly from nowhere as if by magic.
Call (an image) to mind.
Quarterstaves were usually made of wood and sanded cylindrical with a diameter of 2‒4 in (5.1‒10 cm), with blunt ends. Though they could be plain wood, some were intricately carved works of art. Some were known to enhance their quarterstaves with metal-shod ends or textured striking surfaces.
Weaponology
Quarterstaves were one of the simplest weapons available to any adventurer. Often favored among martial artists, monks, and some rangers. Wizards often used enchanted quarterstaves to channel arcane energy and as walking-sticks.
Know Yourself and Your Emotions:
Take a piece of paper and write down what emotions you felt over the last 24-48 hours.
Ask yourself, have you felt:
- Scared.
- Angry.
- Frustrated.
- Happy.
- Delighted.
- Furious.
- Trapped.
- Big or small.
- Needed or used.
- Complete or struggling.
- Where you feel safe and confident or the opposite.
This list should give you an idea of where you are at right now and what that means to you and how you are reacting to it.
Are you overreacting? If so why?
Are you feeling unbalanced reactive emotions due to being in a emotionally abusive toxic relationship?
Add to the list anything that you feel should be on your personal Emotional List.
One of the reasons I don’t submit totally to the feel-good motivation theories is that when we dress-things-up we turn a blind eye to the negatives and we can fool ourselves that everything is all right when it isn’t.
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Now take a pad or notebook, you can use one on your cell phone if you prefer that like I do.
Now write down a list of emotional feelings “as you feel them” like:
- Happy
- Expectant
- angry
- scared
- used
- playful
- Excited
- Guilty
- Nervous
- Hurt
- Restless.
- Calm at peace with yourself and life.
- Bored
- Comfortable.
- etc.
Keep this idea and list to yourself as it is personal. Add to the list anything that you feel should be on your personal Emotional List.
Now over the next 3-4 days when one of these emotions/feelings is what is happening to you add a tick to it.
You can get Phone Apps that have lists or just use a notebook that you keep on yourself at all times.
At the end of say 3 days have a look at the list.
Did it come out as you expected it would or are there some big surprises in there for you?
Train yourself in your normal day to become aware of your feelings. With practice you can then monitor your feelings and where you are at and what is happening to you.
This list can also help you understand your past, like you can ask yourself if you feel sulky, fearful, moody etc then “Why?”
What happened in your childhood that make you sulky or moody, or angry, or acting-out feelings.
There are causes for everything.
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The only way to undo the past is to change our ways now, right now, then to do all that can be done to reverse our wrongs, thus creating a new future that repairs those innocent people who were hurt, changes their paths, and undoes all the evil we once mistakenly were a part of.
Obstacles don’t block the path because they are the Path.
When nothing is done, nothing is started, nothing is achieved, and all that is evil continues.
As a result of Nicea, Rome became the official centre of Christian orthodoxy, and any deviation from that orthodoxy became a heresy, rather than merely a difference of opinion or interpretation.
At Nicaea, Jesus’s divinity, and the precise nature of his divinity, were established by means of a vote.
It is fair to state that Christianity as we know it today derives ultimately not from Jesus’s time, but from the Council of Nicaea. And to the extent that Nicaea was largely Constantine’s handiwork, Christianity is indebted to him. But this is very different from saying that Constantine was a Christian, or that he ‘Christianised the Empire’.
nn b – Lincoln, Henry; Baigent, Michael; Leigh, Richard. The Messianic Legacy (p. 40).
The Jesus-Did-It-All myth was started by people who had no idea how to become new and had no intention of giving up their sinful ways which they were enjoying with pleasures, weaknesses, or profiting from, but they still wanted to live in the delusion that they had God’s love and protection, and when bad things happened to them they claimed that it was simply coincidence and bad luck.
The offering God gave is for us to have knowledge definitely that God was with us, protecting us, helping us and so on.
In other words to Know For Sure that we were God’s children as He would have us be.
We cannot expect a clean, innocent loving future is we are not mentally-clean, unconditionally loving ourselves. God needs courageous strong warriors, not milky weak pathetic sinners who enjoy their sins, teach that we cannot avoid sins, and keep us in the hands of Evil.
In order to have a down-line of strong courageous children we must first be this ourselves.
If your life is not as it should be, first check your connection with God.
I have met a lot of people who found God, cried, and said that they have repented. But they also want on to be narcissistic religious people. So I always wondered about them being on their knees, crying, and going on to do other people more harm than good.
It occurred to me just now that these people regret what they did wrong, and that brought them to tears and sorrow, and what they thought was repentance.
Repentance comes from grief, not sorrow, tears and the like.
When a person feels Repentive-Grief he or she is totally beyond themself with regret, so much so that they cannot stop from Total-Character-Change, and making right what they have done wrong to others because “they require of themselves to do this” and God requires it as well,they “cannot do no other” than what is the right thing to do.
To many Christians claim, “Jesus did it all” as an excuse to not take risks, not completely change, and not fix what they have done wrong to others, and some Christians think they really don’t need to change. Kind of like it would be easier to put a camel through the eye of a needle than for these people to genuinely follow Christ.
So they cry, claim to have repented, and carry on life different from the past, but true repentance has not happened, in other words they will always be Babes in Christ.
All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
Unless you have dealt with a narcissist, it is unlikely that you can understand the havoc they wreak on their victims.
Narcissists hide in plain sight. They study and mirror the behavior of normal people so unless you get to know them away from the crowd, it is unlikely they will be seen as a Cluster B personality.
Sadly, it is only the victim who suffers at their hands who know the real truth. The narcissist makes an effort to convince others of their niceness, particularly the friends and family of the victim.
The victim often has no idea that they have been the subject of an insidious campaign to destroy their integrity among others. By the time they find out, it’s often too late. The tone has been set, the victim is viewed as unstable and vengeful if they try to defend themselves.
– Lin Ritter.
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/behaviors-signs-of-emotional-abuse_n_5c3cd1ace4b0e0baf53fec9a
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/love-bombing-is-not-romantic_n_5aaab2cbe4b04221740d3fad