You are “someone” in His eyes just like I am someone in His eyes. You are very important. We see the billions of people but God sees each one individually – each in His care, each in His love. Evil sees you too and evil strives to pull your faith apart – follow God with love in your heart and do believe that you are being heard and will forever be heard when you call of the Lord God. 2011.
Writing Therapy…
A wonderful way to deal with the past is to write it all down. I have a very long word processor file of hundreds of pages of my past. It keeps it all where I can see it. I write down things as I remember them, and they are under titles, such as Huntly Primary School, Raynors Rd, Wiltsdown, Wairakei Place, Tokoroa, these are places I lived of experienced and I write the events there.
If you lived in only one place you could use the titles, Tokoroa Primary School, Intermediate School, Forest View High School, Netball, Rugby, League, Mum, Dad, Sister, Brother and maybe use a few friends names. Write about the experiences that you had with these people and what happened (as you remember events) at these places and who with etc. Also under peoples names like Dianne, Lynne, Torrence with a detailed written story on your relationship with that person etc
The mind searches for the events, sometimes its hard and it hurts to remember somethings, sometimes we laugh, sometimes we cry. Remember instead of being fearful of crying, see it as clearing away the bad times as we cry in grief. It is good to cry these things away, and once we remember something hard we cry over it and then cry again until suddenly we don’t cry, we just remember – sad but accepting that this event happened to us and although we must remember the memory, as it happened to us or we did it, we can now accept it as the truth and more on. Eventually coping with them all.
Matthew Chapter 5, verse 4:Â Blessed are they that mourn: for they shall be comforted.
We are healed of grief only when we express it in full – Charles R Swindoll.
I have been writing my past for about 5 years and still I haven’t finished it. Sometimes we need a good break from this kind of mental work if it seems to much to handle at the time and so we take this break, its good for us, and then eventually we will decide to write something else, and we will remember more.
As we write things down our mind knows that we are searching, for that is the goal, to get it all written down. Keep a tissue box by your computer, sometimes I went through many of them in a few weeks. Sometimes you roar with laughter when you think of the cheeky silly things you did in High School, parties, with mates, crazy antics, or what we did with our mates on a Saturday night. We remember old friends, occasions long forgotten, its all there we just need to drag it all out slowly and there is all your life to complete this so don’t push yourself too hard. If you push too hard, you will grieve too much and you may put yourself off this and never finish.
Jeremiah Chapter 31, verse 13:Â Then shall the virgin rejoice in the dance, both young men and old together: for I will turn their mourning into joy, and will comfort them, and make them rejoice from their sorrow.
This is true soul searching, digging deep, facing facts and facing the past. Sometimes you can do this with a friend, tell them some events that you remember, but sometimes its even too personal for them.There will be much joy in remembering the past and the good times and also some past mistakes and feelings can be cleared up as you look back as an older person that you are now and can see where people fit into your past, where and how events really happened, and that you were not to blame for child mistakes like if you were to do something wrong at the age of 9 you cannot be expected to take the blame. This whole project is about you. It will help you put things in your mind together correctly and it will help you learn to love you. Lots of people have done this.
Make sure that this book, or computer file is somewhere where nobody will find it as this is totally between you and God. Take it easy and rediscover yourself, your past, and let the past cure and protect your future. And remember if you need someone to help you through this book of your life then ask someone that you can truly trust to help be a listening ear and to hold you in any dark moments. And keep God’s loving thoughts with you all the time.
Grief can be your servant, helping you feel more compassion for others who hurt – Robert Harold Schuller.
Don’t rush this, make it last a few years if you can and just go through it gently learning as you go. If it becomes to much to handle for now then leave it for a while.
All the best from
James Martin Sandbrook.
6th of May, 2011.
See that discoloration on the shin, its that skin disease, umm, Psoriasis.
– Mayo Clinic.
We can create the beauty in our life, we can also destroy it and take something simpler and cheaper. We choose, even though we may make many excuses and call those excuses names like Luck, Fate, Chances, Fluke etc. Reality is not chance – James M Sandbrook. 2011.
It is the beautiful heart that sees not mans laws but through the loving heart of God that forgives all crime and lifts people who have done bad to higher levels of life that they never ever believed that they deserved, and they go on to be such warriors for God and the world – James M Sandbrook. 2011.
When we want to do something, imaginary and non-imaginary doubts/fears come up. Cast them away or you’ll never goÉœ anywhere. 2011.
Always remember that when you do the right thing, when you try to be good, and do good as God suggests that God looks at you and smiles along the angels. When we do the right thing God does know, God does care. God is there watching you and guiding you along the way.
