Watching The Matrix 1999.
Went to town, got some groceries. Only got bread for me. Not even potatoes here. There is not a lot I can carry home in a backpack.
Always remember, if the paint etc is wrong just repaint it 6 months later, no problemo.
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Trying DuckDuckGo search, instead of Google. Google is seen as too one-sided (Liberal) and they have been many times accused of blocking “what the owners of Google” don’t follow or believe in.
In the garden.
2 Corinthians 5:10 For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ; that every one may receive the things done in his body, according to that he hath done, whether it be good or bad.
For the Unbelievers :
Revelation 20:11 And I saw a great white throne, and him that sat on it, from whose face the earth and the heaven fled away; and there was found no place for them. 20:12 And I saw the dead, small and great, stand before God; and the books were opened: and another book was opened, which is the book of life: and the dead were judged out of those things which were written in the books, according to their works.
Revelation 20:13 And the sea gave up the dead which were in it; and death and hell delivered up the dead which were in them: and they were judged every man according to their works. 20:14 And death and hell were cast into the lake of fire. This is the second death.
Judgment for the believer’s
You are writing your own sentence with judgment.
God won’t accept excuses.
Proverbs 15v3:
Luke 12v3:
Every town had a judgment.
Rewards.
Incorruptible crown.
1 Corinthians 9:24 Know ye not that they which run in a race run all, but one receiveth the prize? So run, that ye may obtain. 9:25 And every man that striveth for the mastery is temperate in all things. Now they do it to obtain a corruptible crown; but we an incorruptible. 9:26 I therefore so run, not as uncertainly; so fight I, not as one that beateth the air: 9:27 But I keep under my body, and bring it into subjection: lest that by any means, when I have preached to others, I myself should be a castaway.
Control the body, abstain from anything that is a hindrance.
Keep your eyes on the goal.
Be enthusiastic.
Crown of Temptation:
James 1:12 Blessed is the man that endureth temptation: for when he is tried, he shall receive the crown of life, which the Lord hath promised to them that love him.
Matthew 28v20:
Show your love by enduring trials.
1 Thessalonians 2:19 For what is our hope, or joy, or crown of rejoicing? Are not even ye in the presence of our Lord Jesus Christ at his coming? 2:20 For ye are our glory and joy.
Crown of rejoicing in the LORD.
God uses us to bring people to God.
2 Timothy 4:8 Henceforth there is laid up for me a crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous judge, shall give me at that day: and not to me only, but unto all them also that love his appearing.
Those who anticipated the coming of Christ.
2 Timothy 4:3 For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine; but after their own lusts shall they heap to themselves teachers, having itching ears;
2 Timothy 4:5 But watch thou in all things, endure afflictions, do the work of an evangelist, make full proof of thy ministry. 4:6 For I am now ready to be offered, and the time of my departure is at hand. 4:7 I have fought a good fight, I have finished my course, I have kept the faith: 4:8 Henceforth there is laid up for me a crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous judge, shall give me at that day: and not to me only, but unto all them also that love his appearing.
1 Peter Chapter 5, verse 4:
And when the chief Shepherd shall appear, ye shall receive a crown of glory that fadeth not away.
For the faithful preacher.
1 Corinthians 3:10 According to the grace of God which is given unto me, as a wise masterbuilder, I have laid the foundation, and another buildeth thereon. But let every man take heed how he buildeth thereupon. 3:11 For other foundation can no man lay than that is laid, which is Jesus Christ. 3:12 Now if any man build upon this foundation gold, silver, precious stones, wood, hay, stubble; 3:13 Every man’s work shall be made manifest: for the day shall declare it, because it shall be revealed by fire; and the fire shall try every man’s work of what sort it is.
1 Corinthians 3:16 Know ye not that ye are the temple of God, and that the Spirit of God dwelleth in you? 3:17 If any man defile the temple of God, him shall God destroy; for the temple of God is holy, which temple ye are.
Galatians 6 what we reap, God is not mocked.
We will finally be seen for what we are.
Our motives. God will know our motives. Do all to the glory of God.
Jesus left the light on us. Is what I am doing pleasing to the Lord.
Take our lives seriously.
No communication with evil. All that is humanely possible.
All the best from James Martin Sandbrook.
Sunday, 25 January 2015, 7:04:50 PM.
Isaiah 43:1 But now thus saith the LORD that created thee, O Jacob, and he that formed thee, O Israel, Fear not: for I have redeemed thee, I have called thee by thy name; thou art mine. 43:2 When thou passest through the waters, I will be with thee; and through the rivers, they shall not overflow thee: when thou walkest through the fire, thou shalt not be burned; neither shall the flame kindle upon thee. 43:3 For I am the LORD thy God, the Holy One of Israel, thy Saviour: I gave Egypt for thy ransom, Ethiopia and Seba for thee. 43:4 Since thou wast precious in my sight, thou hast been honourable, and I have loved thee: therefore will I give men for thee, and people for thy life. 43:5 Fear not: for I am with thee: I will bring thy seed from the east, and gather thee from the west; 43:6 I will say to the north, Give up; and to the south, Keep not back: bring my sons from far, and my daughters from the ends of the earth; 43:7 Even every one that is called by my name: for I have created him for my glory, I have formed him; yea, I have made him.
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Created you for His glory. This applies to us, even though it was written for Isreal.
Glory = to bring God honour and reverence (respectful fear).
God’s love and ways are honourable.
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Proverbs Chapter 1, verse 7:
The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge: but fools despise wisdom and instruction.
Reverence God for all He is. It is the beginning of knowledge.
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Revelation Chapter 4, verse 11:
Thou art worthy, O Lord, to receive glory and honour and power: for thou hast created all things, and for thy pleasure they are and were created.
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By helping change the world for the better we bring God pleasure. We can
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John Chapter 15, verses 8-17:
Herein is my Father glorified, that ye bear much fruit; so shall ye be my disciples. As the Father hath loved me, so have I loved you: continue ye in my love.
If ye keep my commandments, ye shall abide in my love; even as I have kept my Father’s commandments, and abide in his love.
These things have I spoken unto you, that my joy might remain in you, and that your joy might be full.
This is my commandment, That ye love one another, as I have loved you.
Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.
Ye are my friends, if ye do whatsoever I command you.
Henceforth I call you not servants; for the servant knoweth not what his lord doeth: but I have called you friends; for all things that I have heard of my Father I have made known unto you.
Ye have not chosen me, but I have chosen you, and ordained you, that ye should go and bring forth fruit, and that your fruit should remain: that whatsoever ye shall ask of the Father in my name, he may give it you. These things I command you, that ye love one another.
When we bear good fruit we honour God, and we show Him respect. 1 corinthians 11
If we bear bad fruit we will be cut down. Jesus tells us that.
1 Peter Chapter 2, 12 Having your conversation honest among the Gentiles: that, whereas they speak against you as evildoers, they may by your good works, which they shall behold, glorify God in the day of visitation. 2:13 Submit yourselves to every ordinance of man for the Lord’s sake: whether it be to the king, as supreme; 2:14 Or unto governors, as unto them that are sent by him for the punishment of evildoers, and for the praise of them that do well. 2:15 For so is the will of God, that with well doing ye may put to silence the ignorance of foolish men:
We should bear good Christian qualities in the world. Have good conduct, your manner of life. Honest among the gentiles.
They have already spoken against you, speak evil of you, they will eventually know you by your good works. They see this. They can’t deny your good fruit, they cannot deny is goodness.
They will behold, glorify, and honor God from your good example.
Is behavior gives us a wonderful life.
Romans Chapter 12, verses 1-3:
I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service.
And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.
For I say, through the grace given unto me, to every man that is among you, not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think; but to think soberly, according as God hath dealt to every man the measure of faith.
A life that is separated from the world, be not conformed to this society.
Sacrifice, giving up something, meaning modern society, modern living etc. To bed set apart from the society that led us astray.
Many churches have changed the meaning of holy. We are to serve the world.
Acts 9:6 And he trembling and astonished said, Lord, what wilt thou have me to do? And the Lord said unto him, Arise, and go into the city, and it shall be told thee what thou must do.
God has something to do. Saul is setting himself apart to do God’s will. He recognizes God’s Powers, and he wants, with fear and respect, to honour God.
Isaiah Chapter 6, verse 8:
Also I heard the voice of the Lord, saying, Whom shall I send, and who will go for us? Then said I, Here am I; send me.
We need to give up the old life completely.
1 Corinthians Chapter 6, verses 18-20:
Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.
What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?
For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.
Those who have discovered God, know that our life should be loved for God. We were slaves to sin.
Christ suffered for you. You are safe with Christ. Separation honours God.
1 Peter Chapter 4:12-15:
Beloved, think it not strange concerning the fiery trial which is to try you, as though some strange thing happened unto you:
But rejoice, inasmuch as ye are partakers of Christ’s sufferings; that, when his glory shall be revealed, ye may be glad also with exceeding joy.
If ye be reproached for the name of Christ, happy are ye; for the spirit of glory and of God resteth upon you: on their part he is evil spoken of, but on your part he is glorified. 4:15 But let none of you suffer as a murderer, or as a thief, or as an evildoer, or as a busybody in other men’s matters.
Suffering clouds our vision, confuses us, we think it’s strange, we must go through the fiery trials, like Christ believers, be honoured when others try to shame you for your love of God. Be strong and able, do it for others, for love, for children, for self improvement.
We must stand strong. Be happy for what you go through for God, because your fruit will be much and you will be loved and honoured for this.
Peter promised to follow Jesus, but backed out, scared of what others think. For your own sake don’t do that.
God delivered you, changed your life for the better.
Numbers 11:1-2:
And when the people complained, it displeased the LORD: and the LORD heard it; and his anger was kindled; and the fire of the LORD burnt among them, and consumed them that were in the uttermost parts of the camp.
And the people cried unto Moses; and when Moses prayed unto the LORD, the fire was quenched.
Numbers 11:5 We remember the fish, which we did eat in Egypt freely; the cucumbers, and the melons, and the leeks, and the onions, and the garlick: 11:6 But now our soul is dried away: there is nothing at all, beside this manna, before our eyes. 11:7 And the manna was as coriander seed, and the colour thereof as the colour of bdellium.
They were freed from evil but became ungrateful.
Exodus Chapter 1:7 And the children of Israel were fruitful, and increased abundantly, and multiplied, and waxed exceeding mighty; and the land was filled with them. 1:8 Now there arose up a new king over Egypt, which knew not Joseph.
All the best from James Martin Sandbrook.
Sunday, 17 January 2016, 11:07:39 AM
If you see a subject over and over again, then obviously God is trying to offer a big hint to save you from trauma and future suffering. Believe it, and do what is right to remove the future suffering from your future destiny, and do it now before it is too late. God knows you immediate and distant future, He sees it right now, He knows what you will find out next week or the week after, so be sure to get right to it and follow God’s guidance for your own life, it will save you years of suffering.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
Friday, 19 February 2016, 8:20:50 PM.
Careful who you become with.
If you remove sex from the context of the marriage commitment, you will experience a superficial sense of closeness. Paul says that even when a man has sex with a prostitute, he becomes one flesh with her, 1 Corinthians (6:16). But apart from the lifelong commitment of marriage, sex will never bring the satisfaction God designed it to give.
Sin always hinders intimacy, even in marriage. As soon as Adam and Eve sinned, they recognized their nakedness and began to hide themselves, not only from God, but also from one another. While as fallen sinners we can never experience what Adam and Eve knew with one another before the fall, to the extent that we deal with our sin before God and one another and grow in holiness, we will grow in personal intimacy. It takes constant work!
– William Bowers.
Notes:
If you have discovered that God has given you a life partner, but that person does not come to you, and it feels like eternal suffering waiting for that person, please remember that if they do not come to you, it is because that person is not yet ready.
If they keep dating, this person has not yet discovered that the dating is not God’s will and that the dating is getting this person nowhere.
We all learn at different rates, so it may just be talking your chosen one a few years to figure it out.
But after all is said and done, God may also get fed up with a person sitting on the fence forever and not going to the one God chose for them, and all the while while the poor good soul is waiting for their promised love.
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When your growling and correcting someone outweighs your kindness, encouragement, and compliments, then the problem is not the person who you are correcting, the problem is that you have got into the horrible destructive habit of nagging, pushing, and always seeing faults and you have connected in your mind many negative feelings about this person.
All the best from James Martin Sandbrook.
Monday, 20 August 2018, 5:34:48 PM.
Moral Courage:
Moral Courage: The highest form of courage; the courage that enables a person to hold up to, and stand by, their own convictions, in face of every kind of opposition, whether it take the form of force, abuse, or cold treatment; “the daring to stand alone”. This moral courage is the outcome of mental power and is strong conviction to change wrongs to right.
It is in great perils that we see brave hearts – Regnard.
A brave person may fall, but cannot yield – Martial.
It shows sense and courage to confront unavoidable evil – Goethe.
Heroism is the brilliant triumph of the soul over fear – fear of poverty, of suffering, of calamity, of sickness, of isolation and death… It is the dazzling and glorious concentration of courage – Ariel.
Cowards are cruel, nasty, and cannot be trusted.
Be strong and of good courage, fear not, nor be afraid of them.
Deal courageously and the Lord will be with thee good.
The brave thinks of himself last – Schiller.
Place moral heroes in the field, and heroines will follow them as brides – Jean Paul.
More From the Documents Folder:
I was playing Rebel Rouser from Duane Eddy, and the little sparrow I am nursing back to health tucked is little head into its wings and went to sleep.
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I was playing soft and slow to get the notes right.
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She is eating, but yesterday when I took her outside she closed her eyes and wouldn’t fly away. Today she was just sitting in b the palm of my hand looking around.
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I am hoping that she gets better. When I enter the house she watches everything that I do. She is very interested.
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She is sleeping right now.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
Monday, 14 March 2016, 1:00:22 PM.
I was going to make Marriage Tips, I guess I got sidetracked and doid something else. This was last edited Tuesday, 30 August 2016, 5:09:39 PM.
I was invited to lunch with some friends. We went to Burger King. I had salad, onions rings, chips and water.
This young brunette served us. She seemed nice enough. Smiles and friendly. But later on my friend was looking at her funny, and he said a few things but she just stared. She didn’t acknowledge him at all. And I do mean “she stared”, it was very strange. Her eyes were staring (possibly at me) and she was doing it very obviously, boldly. Something I can’t do to someone I don’t know. I turned my back to her so that it would stop, it was embarrassing to done degree or strange. And conversation went back to normal.
I have no idea what that was all about. Maybe it was about Facebook. In town outside the BNZ Bank I saw a young male and he acted as of he knew me. All I can guess is that he has seen Facebook.
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In my personal life there is no acknowledgment by me of fame or being known internationally on the many pages that I Admin. I am extremely uncomfortable with accolades etc. I will never ever accept “honors or awards, or gifted degrees”.
I don’t want it, and I refuse admiration. But I will talk to anyone on a 1 to 1 relationship where I am exactly on the same level as the person that I am speaking with.
All I am is someone trying to wake people up about life, and that there is much more to life, the world, happiness and relationships that the 9 to 5 lifestyle that the world is seduced into living.
My goal is to live what I suggest, teach and preach. This means forgiving “everyone” who had done me wrong.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
Wednesday, 4 May 2016, 9:34:24 PM.
With all of us the healing is different, and all in our own time. This is not textbook stuff that can be learned in a university etc. It is all about the heart, being hurt, experience etc. Your journey is yours, and in your time you will deal with it. This cannot be forced or pushed.
I have two major memories of great terror. Very very bad, incredibly terrifying for a child. I have seen them in various ways, but I don’t relive them, except one of them once.
What I mean is that if the memory comes, it comes like I am not a part of it, but I am watching it on TV.
Once I was lying on a bed, eyes closed and the memory came an be I watched it all unfold before me and I could hear this constant screaming, it was annoying as I was looking around the room. And then I realized that the screaming was me and I felt like I was really there for a few moments and felt truly terrified etc. Then as quick as it came I was back to watching it and the screaming gone and it all disappeared.
One day it will come back, but I know that I must accept it in order for that darkness to leave my soul.
When these dark things leave us we stop reacting to them as adults.
For instance an adult may hate white men or dark men and not know why, and it is because he or she was raped by someone who was of that race as a child but to save their sanity the mind blocks it out. Our spiritual self knows that we must face the memory so that we stop reacting to it as an adult.
For me I have always had a weird feeling about concrete slabs, concrete rectangular shapes about 6 get long, and with water in them. For years this bothered me and when I see such things they felt familiar yet scary, and I avoided them. Even some garden edgings are shaped like that. It wasn’t until they memory came to me strongly when I was on the bed did I see those structures in the room.
My strange far of such things has a real foundation, but because the memory is blacked out from my memory I had no idea why I had the fear.
We can react in many ways from suppressed memories, but the only time we will be free is facing them and facing what really happened.
Please don’t get me wrong. All the years of crying and facing my childhood was not something that I liked or enjoyed. It caused me so much misery, lack of confidence, and I was often called a coward because of my fear of life and lack of courage. But I do understand the process of healing and the value of it even though it is so hard.
When we have someone who genuinely cares for us then it is healing to open up to that person. To open up to someone you are paying to help you is not the same. We all need someone genuine, possibly someone who is being healing two, and together share with each other.
Genuine love and understanding makes a huge difference.
All the best from James Martin Sandbrook.
Wednesday, 22 June 2016, 11:25:05 AM.
Love is the dream,
Love is the Light,
Love is the reason for peace,
Love is the calm in the night.
Love will not so don’t run away,
Even love comes your way,
Love is so precious,
It make life delicious.
Love fills the soul deep,
Love is for keeps,
Love is the glue,
That make lovers true.
Love is what makes sex so right,
Love makes us hold on so tight,
All the best from James Martin Sandbrook.
Monday, 20 August 2018, 5:34:50 PM.
I lost my spectacles this morning. I spent about 20 minutes looking for them. I found them on top of some book with dark blue covers, and because I am so colour blind I couldn’t see them until I stopped and looked carefully. Finally when I found them I was off to the shop for my morning walk.
My cell phone is having issues. If I put it down with a thump or just a gentle thump it completely restarts. I don’t have the cash to buy another, so that may be the end of my cell phone days for a while.
My bike is broken too. I can use it, but the back wheel is buckled so I have to have the rear brakes loosened. I currently have 2 buckled rear wheels and 1 with a broken axle. So I will need to get at least one of them straightened. I am not good at this job, so I get the shop to do it.
They didn’t pick up my computer this weekend, they did that they will next weekend.
All these changes mean a big lifestyle change for me.
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I see the axe man driving around. He hates me and wants to beat me up. The guy has serious anger issues for sure. We shall see what happens with that.
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Yesterday I came across Shirley (the boxer) at the exact same place I saw her about 3 weeks ago in the New World supermarket. She didn’t see me as far as I could tell.
I get so many of these very aggravating “coincidences”, they are frustrating because nothing seems to ever be achieved from them, but as far as I can tell they are God’s way of letting people know who we are and that they can trust us.
I find them good when I “happen” to go around a corner and a car needs a push because it has broken down etc, but the other “coincidences” are constantly running into staunch prideful atheists. God loves them, and wants to help them. But if I can, I just walk away from such events. I am tired of them. Tired of seeing those types of people.
I believe in planting the seed in their minds, then walking away and praying that someday they figure it out.
I never agreed with pestering people. They will learn if they want to, and we must always be ready to help them. But if they are not acting to listen then that is their issue. Shake the dust off your feet move on. Sadly, God doesn’t have the same opinions.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
Monday, 4 April 2016, 8:44:55 AM.
I learned, after some years of struggling and getting out of it, that I had something to share with others. Sometimes I would share with people what I had learned and the wisdom gained, but I was made fun of, told I had no idea what I was talking about etc.
I realized that only some people were ready for the change and the message that would change their lives.
All the best from James Martin Sandbrook.
Monday, 20 August 2018, 5:34:24 PM.
I know of a young woman who as far as I know hates me. She fell in love with me back at the end of 2009, and I thought that she was an angel, but the reality was that she was a bad example of womanhood. I was shocked by what I found out, and what I saw on Facebook.
So I avoided her. Saddened by her character and surprised that I had allowed myself to be so easily deceived by her acting innocent etc.
I actually know little about her except what I was told. She was a lesbian when she fell in love with me. She lacked decency, morals, and empathy. She was pretty much living for herself and her family.
She ended up in mental care because she totally flipped out (she probably doesn’t even know this now) and her family, her mother a school teacher, her father a manager, had reputations to maintain, so the whole thing was covered over.
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Her spelling and manners were appalling, her nickname was, “Mutt” (they called her that on Facebook), and they all went around calling each other, “Whores” etc. There were photos of her and other females, all sad and depressing.
She did drug abuse and alcohol abuse. She did it all. In knowing this I tried to move on, until I found out that she started a character assassination campaign against me. It got so bad that about 2 years back I had to post on a local Facebook page a photo to prove that I have no criminal record. This girl was desperate to destroy my life and my character, and she is very good at playing the victim. I have been stunned at how many people will flock around a female who cries wolf, when in reality she is the guilty party.
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But I was told that she became obsessed with me, when I went past her home she would run to the window to watch me go by sometimes shaking with excitement, but would take off her seat belt and duck in cars so that I wouldn’t see her. She was always faking being pursued, but there was never any evidence that she was ever being chased except what her mind made up.
But by reading my Facebook wall over the last 6 years has changed her character in leaps and bounds. I have no idea if she has any idea how much she has changed since 2009. It appears that she made a good decent honest effort to change, and I admire her very much for that. It takes courage to change and become new.
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I know that she tells everyone that I am after her, like stalking or obsession, but the reality the only stalker is her. I avoid her as soon as I see her. She knows that. But pretends to whoever will listen they it is otherwise – I think that she has become a “Career ‘playing the victim’ type”.
When she leaves our town she will find another male who she will accuse as being after her, and people will gather around her to help and protect her, but the poor guys life will become hell.
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I have constantly tried to encourage her to move on in various ways, to marry and to get on with her life. I once even put a video on YouTube to tell her that her weird extreme behavior was not because of me, but because of her, and for her to get on with her life.
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Over the years I have seen her go out “with males”, playing with children in her drive and now she works in a bank. The first time I saw her at the bank I had no idea it was her, she has changed so much. She is probably in management or something special because she has changed so much.
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Due to her mental insecurities she has said many unkind things about me, and people have believed her lies.
I think that all she needs to do is face the fact that I live in this town too, she can leave whenever she wants, and she should. I can’t leave due to my financial situation. Now she is qualified in a bank she can move to the city and have a car and more developed career.
But first she must face the guilt of her past and stop blaming other people for the person that she was. And to face the truth about her mental illness, that it came from her families immoral lifestyle, her lesbian past, obsessions, and her past behavior. She needs to stop blaming innocent people for her mental illness and her current problems.
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All the best from
James M James M.
Wednesday, 16 March 2016, 9:57:23 AM.
You don’t need to explain its your life. You wanna say, “No!”, then say, “No!” and walk away, then show them how you do day you wanna do. You are worthy, stand up for yourself, there is a special place for you, please don’t doubt it. 
2013.
The Kingdom of God is like….
Many times throughout my exhausting and interesting life, I have looked for and gone after friendships with people from diverse backgrounds because I enjoy the stories people bring to relationships.
Sadly, a lot of those stories have ended with disappointment and fragility and even resulted in our relationship not surviving.
Most of them were based on emotion and feelings alone.
Kingdom relationships built on the principle of worth and honour are proving remarkably different. It is possible in the context of love, genuine love, to not actually like someone at first contact, but to really end up loving them after a time of exposure to their personalities.
For me I can’t say that I end up liking them based on my own past definition of what it is to like, but love comes easy.
The Kingdom of God is like that!
– Michael Tarr.
November 6, 2013.
Being so hard on themselves.
Humans find it easier to help other people than themselves, and when other people feel or make a mistake we can be encouraging to them but when we make a mistake we can be very hard or even nasty on ourselves.
If we fail and then are very hard on ourself for failing, and this can be so negative we don’t try again or never take on the next challenge because to fail means all that negative feeling, and being hard on ourself again, its like sabotaging our own happiness, success and future.
Imagine how different life could be for us if we were nicer to ourself when we made a mistake or fail, we can then encourage ourself to try and try again to get that success and happiness that we have always wanted.
All the best from James Martin Sandbrook.
Immaturity in adults is often easy recognized, but if it is common then immature ways are seen as normal ways, and therefor legalized, made legal, and often the immature masses see the immature ways as something to be proud of.
Immature people have these habits, the same as children in a sandpit.
• They Blame-Shift (“I didn’t do it, he did”).
• They make false accusations to get themselves out of trouble.
• They will accept what authority tells them blindly and patriotically.
• They are not mature enough to fix their mistakes, so they don’t learn.
• Until it happens to them they don’t believe that it will happen to them.
• They Play-the-Victim, even after they realise that they are not the victim.
• They struggle to tell the difference between reality and what they are told.
• They refuse to take responsibility for the wrongs they have committed are are committing.
• They will stand with fake popular people and watch who they love suffer, just to people please.
• They will live in self-torture, shame, guilt, self-hate, rather than stand up and fix their mistakes.
• Their actions and beliefs are often based on who they are related to. (“My Dad can beat up your dad!!!”)
• They don’t think about what is happening they simply irrationally react and that tends to do far more damage.
• They throw fits, rant and rave, spit out the dummy, but won’t actually do anything about what they are upset about.
• They think that fitting-in, being in the crowd, sucking up to unworthy people, and being patted on the head is more important than doing the right thing.