Helping People grow!

A lot of people use the verse Honour thy Mother and Father to manipulate their own children, especially narcissist religious parents or just plain narcissists.
So do please be careful if your own paretns are doing this.

The role of your parents is to help you grow then to let you go, or you break away and go when you know that you are ready to go on without them.

To honour our parents is to show them how strong, courageous and able minded that we are, and therefore standing up to our own parents and opposing them on the important issues is honouring them, by showing them that they have strong capable children that are not afraid to take on anyone to prove right and wrong and to get what they want, need and should have.

Narcissism is the control of a person. Parents do not have the right to control their own childrne, especially when they are adults.
If you are an adult and you feel that there is something unhealthy about your parents/child relationship, follow your instincts, not what they say.

The object of parenthood is to bring up capable strong willed good decent children into adults, that society is grateful for.

So when the adult-children stand up to their own parents they are letting their parents know that they understand that their parents mean best in their own way, but, the adult-child knows that the parents make mistakes like anyone else, they are not perfect and they are not God, so the clear thing to consider here is that while we should honour our parents as parents we should make our own choices regardless of the views, wants and demands of our parents, for we are now adults, and we have done our trials, lessons and Life Learning, now we reach forward willing to take risks, make our own mistakes and forge our own way in life.

Thus we honour our parents for the past parenting, but now as adult children of our parents we must, as all do, now pave our own way based on our own views, opinions and live the life we wish to live even if it is the opposite of what our parents demand or want.

As far as following God is concerned, we have, and will still honour our parents while our views can be the opposite of each other.

Our life was never to be a replica of the thinking of our family and parents, if it were then we would simply be repeating their thinking and lives. Our path is different, times have changed, and now we must go our own way, while still completely honouring our own parents.

All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
27th of November, 2021.