Betrayal.

In this sense, to be unfaithful, to betray our trust, to lie about you, to not be honest and truthful and so on.

In Situations of Love, God will not give you a person who will betray you.
God may choose someone for you, but at first that person may be dishonest, weak-minded, gullible, a people-pleaser, still mentally married to parents, or a people pleaser for friendship of others and so on. This person’s weakness is the downfall of the marriage and what keeps this person from his or her destiny, and therefore also keeps you from your God Blessed Destiny. God cannot bless the sinner who clings to his or her own sins and is comforted by them.

This person who God chose for you will betray you as the partners of the past betrayed you, God has no intention of replaying your suffering as it happened when you were an Atheist. God may be waiting for their lies and betrayal to stop, but until then God will know his or her heart by how they speak about you to others or if he or she plays the victim and gains sympathy by your unfair suffering.
If you are reading this and you know that you are lying, being dishonest, playing the victim and so on, then you know that this is about you.

God does not give bad people to good people, so God keeps working on that badly behaved person until he or she meets your character. You see, if they betray you they may assume that they are of a greater more powerful character, but in reality they are weak-minded and a slave to whatever is their weakness.

Example:
In all my previous relationships as an atheist all the women I loved betrayed me.
They all, when it suited them lied to me to get away with something that they knew that I would not agree with and would not support them doing.
All of them had sexual relationships behind my back.
They adjusted the truth to make them look innocent and they all in their own way, played-the-victim, to gain sympathy and to get public support (our mutual friends and so on) when we broke up and sometimes even when we were together.

If the relationship does not work out then it was never love from the beginning, so it did not come from God.
If the person who you are waiting for is playing the victim, badly behaved, weak-minded, then be sure that God is working on that person to make that person a better person like you, and the work is to bring that weak minded person’s character up to the level of your character.

God knows that weak minded people cause their partners to become weak over the years, so God wants to give you a decent shot at life, a good foundation of love on level-ground, and the ground is never level when she or he is weak-minded and you are not.

Equally Yoked means that the other person must be tried like Silver, taken through trials to learn right from wrong, and learn that the day to day suffering and guilt that he or she goes through is due to their own cowardice, weak mind, submissiveness to people who don’t matter, or to people who control them, until finally your characters are equal, the same, of like mind to your good courageous soul.

If God can see how this person is betraying you right now when they are out of your sight then God will certainly not taint or discolour your life and happiness with this weak person. Rather, God will work on that person until that person submits to God.

Imagine this. You are a male and she spends years doing you wrong. Finally she realizes that she loves you and needs to be with you. She comes to your door intending on being submissive and apologizing, but alas, her pride rises up as she see’s your face and not wanting to be the guilty one she part-blames the whole thing on you when you really did not wrong her. She makes out that yes, she sinned against you, but you pushed her in, you forced her to sin in some weird way, just anything so that she can walk away with her head held high.
But when she proudly walks away she kills the romance that God and you worked so hard to complete. Pride is a killer of happiness, love and destiny.

What this means is that she is not accepting responsibility for all that she has done, and she is demanding that you take some of the blame even though all the fault was of her own. This is Not a good foundation for marriage because in the future she will expect you to take part of the blame for the bad things that she does to you and others.

God knows her heart, your heart, her character, your character, and both are to be adjusted so that when you do finally meet you will both be ready for the other and the one (if any) needs to apologize then he or she will be ready to take full responsibility for their actions against you, and do the right thing with full repentance and love.

People say, “Forget the past” in new relationships, but that is so hard to do when the pain, anguish and suffering still resides in the victims soul. To sound nice and to make the apologizer (one who apologizes) happy we can use the words, “I forgive you!” but deep down the hurt and agony still is there, and that will rise in anger in the future, and then the person suffering within will be accused of not being fair and not forgetting the past – the reality is that the apologizer “must” repent, change and make things right again.
The only way to remove the darkness is to repent and make amends, make things right again.

If she or he is not ready to make amends, to make things right, to publicly show he/she regrets and to fix the wrongs that she/he has done to you, then she/he is not ready yet. But don’t worry God does not give up.

All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
22nd of December, 2021.