Failure to Communicate

About 6 months later the first person (the one who treated me in a nasty way) was complaining about how he was treated badly and how unfair it was on him. But he was completely mentally-blind to how he had treated me – he saw no connection whatsoever and probably didn’t realise that when he was treated harshly it was an opportunity for him to feel what I felt when he treated me badly.

When we come to the communication table a person may complain about something about the other person.
The other person may explain why he or she did as they did hoping for sympathy or at least understanding.

Now the people who didn’t like what this person did to them, may themselves have reacted the exact same way to someone else and for the exact same reason.
But at the table of communication they cannot see the connection and so they condemn the other person for doing something that they had previously done themselves.
This action can destroy the communication and cause much needed misery for them all.

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All the best from

James M Sandbrook.

January 14, 2018 at 2:58 PM.