“I don’t like that man. I must get to know him better.” – Abraham Lincoln.
I look and I see a person. I wonder who it is. He or she looks at me, some smile at me. Some frown, some look grumpy – and all the time I see a person, a soul, and I winder why?
Why did he frown, why is she grumpy when I smile at her?
What happened in that persons life to change that person from being a normally nice happy person – what changed that person from being their normal natural self? I too, would like to know that person. Every person is a book that remains unread to us until we get to know them well. The things we can learn about people, about life, love and happiness, and about mistakes from other peoples lives, it is all interesting, exciting, sad, tearful and very educational.
And it is fun to get to know people – to meet them and find out their life, their life-story. To listen to a person’s personal history and learn about their life is an amazing thing. Everyone has something to say about their past and what they have experienced. And there is always something you can use in your own life when you talk to people who tell you about theirs. Its fun to learn of the fun times, jokes, etc of another persons past.
Somewhere in that life will be lessons and medicine for your life. And while you are listening you can add a bit of your life, and add some advice if needed.
Abe Lincoln was right all those years ago, we should get to know the people that we don’t know.
“Do I not destroy my enemies when I make them my friends?”
– Abraham Lincoln.
Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around. – Leo Buscaglia.
All the best from James M Sandbrook.
2014.
“Women of God can never be like women of the world.
The world has enough women who are tough; we need women who are tender. There are enough women who are coarse; we need women who are kind.
There are enough women who are rude; we need women who are refined.
We have enough women of fame and fortune; we need more women of faith.
We have enough greed; we need more goodness.
We have enough vanity; we need more virtue.
We have enough popularity; we need more purity.”
– Margaret D. Nadauld.
When God gives us clear instruction through His Word or His Spirit within us, our response shows how much we trust Him. – Charles Stanley.
Because we were all given the sexual organs to reproduce and to enjoy sexual pleasure anyone can satisfy sexually another – the parts are all there and if the motivation is there then the act can be had and both sexually pleased.
The reason for the high rate of divorce, breakups and such is because the sexual side is completed (until overridden by the negative feelings of the mind) but the spiritual side of the relationship non-existent.
Physical attraction and physical pleasure works for a while, then the two realise that the other person is someone they really don’t like. So they stay together for a while, break up and continue that search for love, or she gets pregnant and they stay together for the sake of the child, marry and fake love, then divorce.
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In days of old the children were brought up by their concerned loving parents in such a way that the desire of the young adult was to get it right the first time and to have a forever marriage.
The idea was for the two to be equally yoked, compatible, have the same ideas, same desires for the future, and wants. As an equal force they are very strong as one, united, and in spiritual love.
All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
2019.
Dysfunctional:
“Not operating normally or properly & unable to deal adequately with normal social relations.”
Decades of dysfunction creates a society/country of people who are not operating normally (naturally) and are unable to deal with life. Give some of these people power and they will make laws to backup and support their beliefs which are based on their inability to cope and to think normally, in other words the leaders are a product of dysfunction and their laws, rules etc are not sufficient to help the people.
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Go on social media and debate with common people about something very important that is harming them and they will often argue against simple logic and common sense because they too are not functioning (not thinking for themselves) in the manner they were born to function.
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Actions from people of a dysfunctional society are:
Drinking and driving.
Texting and driving.
Domestic violence.
Drug and alcohol abuses.
Road rage.
Gambling.
Sex abuse.
Child emotional, sexual and physical abuses.
Leaders who pass laws that are immature and illogical.
etc, etc.
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If a sports team is failing the obvious the most common course of action is going back to the basics. This is the only course of action that we humans can take to bring back empathy, common sense and logic back so that we will function in our natural state of being that we thrived in the past.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
2019.
The neighbours children came over my place looking for a ball that went over my fence, and we walked through my house to get to the back yard and on the way back the children are looking around the inside of the house looking at everything, and one runs over to my computer and says, “Is this yours?” and I said yes, and then on the way out one is pressing my doorbell because it lights up and plays a tune. Nosy little rascals. 
All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
2019.
People may offer you advice, but as long as they don’t experience what you are experiencing they know not what you are truly suffering from, so without the knowledge of experience and the same personal suffering they cannot offer advice that will heal, they will only offer advice from their own lack of experience (in what you are going through).
friend asked me to put some historic local videos onto a memory stick for her and I did. Then her and her father tried to view them but they only found one of the videos. She gave me back the memory stick and asked where the videos were and she left. I plugged it into my PC and all the video files were there.
I sent her a text message and asked her if she or her father knew what they were doing on the computer and she sent back, “Nope, lol”
I guess that explains why some things don’t work for some people, I won’t mention that she is blonde too .
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
2019.
Often when one person shows courage others follow. They just need someone to show them that there is nothing to fear and that they are not alone in wanting justice and change.
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Example:
I worked on a job as a 17 year old. It was harsh hard work and the pay was very low. After 3 weeks of working in the hot Summer sun in bad conditions I went up to the boss and said that I quit. I told him that we were being ripped off and that we were not getting paid what we were worth.
3 weeks later one of the workers visited me and told me that the whole work crew was inspired by my move and they all walked out at the same time leaving the boss without a work crew. We all went on to better things.
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The only way for change to happen, justice to be done, and for a better future for us all is for people to have courage and to make the first move.
All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
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