If you don’t stand for something, you will fall for anything. – Author Unknown.
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Do be firm about your thoughts and what you want in life. And once you are certain stick with your morals and keep yourself strong. It is for your best interests that you choose will for your future.
It is wise to construct a future that suits your own character.
It is one thing to believe in others, but it is really special when we have faith that we will stand up and be strong when it matters for our own lives and future.
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Please be careful about your own choices, please don’t be so random, and know that to operate properly your needs should be met. Be wise and look after yourself. Please don’t be reckless.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
6th of May 2013.
You are “someone” in His eyes just like I am someone in His eyes. You are very important. We see the billions of people but God sees each one individually – each in His care, each in His love. Evil sees you too and evil strives to pull your faith apart – follow God with love in your heart and do believe that you are being heard and will forever be heard when you call of the Lord God. 2011.
Writing Therapy…
A wonderful way to deal with the past is to write it all down. I have a very long word processor file of hundreds of pages of my past. It keeps it all where I can see it. I write down things as I remember them, and they are under titles, such as Huntly Primary School, Raynors Rd, Wiltsdown, Wairakei Place, Tokoroa, these are places I lived of experienced and I write the events there.
If you lived in only one place you could use the titles, Tokoroa Primary School, Intermediate School, Forest View High School, Netball, Rugby, League, Mum, Dad, Sister, Brother and maybe use a few friends names. Write about the experiences that you had with these people and what happened (as you remember events) at these places and who with etc. Also under peoples names like Dianne, Lynne, Torrence with a detailed written story on your relationship with that person etc
The mind searches for the events, sometimes its hard and it hurts to remember somethings, sometimes we laugh, sometimes we cry. Remember instead of being fearful of crying, see it as clearing away the bad times as we cry in grief. It is good to cry these things away, and once we remember something hard we cry over it and then cry again until suddenly we don’t cry, we just remember – sad but accepting that this event happened to us and although we must remember the memory, as it happened to us or we did it, we can now accept it as the truth and more on. Eventually coping with them all.
Matthew Chapter 5, verse 4: Blessed are they that mourn: for they shall be comforted.
We are healed of grief only when we express it in full – Charles R Swindoll.
I have been writing my past for about 5 years and still I haven’t finished it. Sometimes we need a good break from this kind of mental work if it seems to much to handle at the time and so we take this break, its good for us, and then eventually we will decide to write something else, and we will remember more.
As we write things down our mind knows that we are searching, for that is the goal, to get it all written down. Keep a tissue box by your computer, sometimes I went through many of them in a few weeks. Sometimes you roar with laughter when you think of the cheeky silly things you did in High School, parties, with mates, crazy antics, or what we did with our mates on a Saturday night. We remember old friends, occasions long forgotten, its all there we just need to drag it all out slowly and there is all your life to complete this so don’t push yourself too hard. If you push too hard, you will grieve too much and you may put yourself off this and never finish.
Jeremiah Chapter 31, verse 13: Then shall the virgin rejoice in the dance, both young men and old together: for I will turn their mourning into joy, and will comfort them, and make them rejoice from their sorrow.
This is true soul searching, digging deep, facing facts and facing the past. Sometimes you can do this with a friend, tell them some events that you remember, but sometimes its even too personal for them.There will be much joy in remembering the past and the good times and also some past mistakes and feelings can be cleared up as you look back as an older person that you are now and can see where people fit into your past, where and how events really happened, and that you were not to blame for child mistakes like if you were to do something wrong at the age of 9 you cannot be expected to take the blame. This whole project is about you. It will help you put things in your mind together correctly and it will help you learn to love you. Lots of people have done this.
Make sure that this book, or computer file is somewhere where nobody will find it as this is totally between you and God. Take it easy and rediscover yourself, your past, and let the past cure and protect your future. And remember if you need someone to help you through this book of your life then ask someone that you can truly trust to help be a listening ear and to hold you in any dark moments. And keep God’s loving thoughts with you all the time.
Grief can be your servant, helping you feel more compassion for others who hurt – Robert Harold Schuller.
Don’t rush this, make it last a few years if you can and just go through it gently learning as you go. If it becomes to much to handle for now then leave it for a while.
All the best from
James Martin Sandbrook.
6th of May, 2011.
See that discoloration on the shin, its that skin disease, umm, Psoriasis.
A condition in which skin cells build up and form scales and itchy, dry patches.
Psoriasis is thought to be an immune system problem. Triggers include infections, stress and cold.
The most common symptom is a rash on the skin, but sometimes the rash involves the nails or joints.
Treatment aims to remove scales and stop skin cells from growing so quickly. Topical ointments, light therapy and medication can offer relief.
– Mayo Clinic.
We can create the beauty in our life, we can also destroy it and take something simpler and cheaper. We choose, even though we may make many excuses and call those excuses names like Luck, Fate, Chances, Fluke etc. Reality is not chance – James M Sandbrook. 2011.
It is the beautiful heart that sees not mans laws but through the loving heart of God that forgives all crime and lifts people who have done bad to higher levels of life that they never ever believed that they deserved, and they go on to be such warriors for God and the world – James M Sandbrook. 2011.
When we want to do something, imaginary and non-imaginary doubts/fears come up. Cast them away or you’ll never goɜ anywhere. 2011.
Always remember that when you do the right thing, when you try to be good, and do good as God suggests that God looks at you and smiles along the angels. When we do the right thing God does know, God does care. God is there watching you and guiding you along the way.
According to old books I read there are two versions of marriage:
One created by Atheism and the other created by God.
The atheist version is when two people hook up (probably the easiest way of explaining it), or they date and then decide that it feels right and get married (even church people do this), or they meet in places that God is not, such as parties etc.
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God’s version is ancient. A man and woman are connected spiritually by God, and when this happens only the two know it because they feel the love between them, no one else feels it or knows it. These two have two choices, they can marry and consummate the marriage sexually or they can choose someone else and marry that person.
The sealing of the marriage covenant is the act of sex between the two that God chose to be together. If he or she has sexual relations with someone else then the deal is off for good, there is no going back.
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In days gone by, the parents brought their children up to marry as virgins. When they married they were the first for each other and they had no other sexual act to compare their love with so there was no desire to fool around and have an affair. The opposite is the Atheist version where causal sex before marriage is fully permitted and is seen as fun and getting experience etc. A person who is divorced or has had sex can still be a virgin again, but that is after full commitment to God and being Born Again.
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The marriage that God puts together is forever. The marriage that atheism puts together is “lucky” if it lasts because their is no spiritual connection and it is two people of completely different characters “having a go at it” and hoping that they will stay together and the very high divorce in this modern society is proof of this.
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In ancient times is was a very serious thing to marry the right person who God chose you. Spiritually connected and matched because God knows their hearts, both felt the connection, both knew that they were matched by God.
For them to date or to see other people was a sin of great measure and seen as sacrilege and seen as a direct insult to God and an insult to God’s choice for you.
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Dating was seen as showing God that you didn’t trust Him and that you didn’t care for the choice that God made for you.
People married God’s way because they wanted God with them through the good and bad times, and it was seen as a very serious event and that the deal (Covenant, a formal alliance and/or agreement made by God and you both) was the most important religious event of their lives other than finding Christ in the first place (unless they were brought up in a God loving home in the first place and new God from childhood).
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This deal, covenant, this trinity of man, woman and God, is the most sacred deal between a Husband, wife and God, and the strong foundation and base that the decent Holy family was designed for. This family stands up because both are firmly believers and love each other physically and spiritually, with them and God nothing is impossible, nothing can break such a strong bond of physical and spiritual harmony and love.
All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
May 6, 2017 at 5:51 PM.
The Titanic Story, which you may be unaware of:
There were three ships which were nearby when the Titanic sunk.
One of them was known as THE SAMPSON. It was 7 miles away from the Titanic and they saw the white flares signalling danger, but because the crew had been hunting seals illegally and didn’t want to be caught, they turned and went the opposite direction away from the Titanic.
Ø This ship represents people who are so busy on a deviant path that they can’t recognize when someone else is in need, and get so detached from their souls that they no longer have the courage to do what is right. Cowardice has set in like a fungus. Eventually their selfishness gets them.
The next ship was THE CALIFORNIAN. This ship was only 14 miles away from the Titanic, but they were surrounded by ice fields and the captain looked out and saw the white flares, but because the conditions weren’t favourable and it was dark, he decided to go back to bed and wait until morning. The crew tried to convince themselves that nothing was happening.
Ø This ship represents those of us who say I can’t do anything now. The conditions aren’t right for it and so they wait until conditions are perfect before going out. In their stupor they fail to realize that if conditions were perfect, where would the need for assistance arise.
The last ship was THE CARPATHIA. This ship was actually headed in a southern direction 58 miles away from the Titanic when they heard the distress cries over the radio. The captain of this ship knelt down, prayed to God for direction and then turned the ship around and went full steam ahead through the ice fields. This was the ship that saved the 705 survivors of the Titanic. When the captain looked back at dawn, at the ice fields they had come through, he said Someone else’s hands must have been at the helm of this ship!
Ø This ship represents those who would pray to God for direction and then go without hesitation. May not achieve much but at least they sleep in the knowledge that they tried to live up to being human and caring.
Life whispers in your soul and speaks to your heart. We need to take time to listen to these whispers and take heed.
Reach out next time when someone knocks on your door … you may not have the faith in yourself …but the person who knocks has… and more importantly …… the good Lord who sent him to you has.
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Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it. – George Santayana.
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I would like to add, “Those who prefer to ignore the past are doomed to repeat it!”
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What goes around comes around.
Everyone pays their dues, in one way or another.
Time will tell, and time reveals all.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
May 5, 2016 at 7:48am.
Some people who suffer from Narcissism can see themselves as people who are worthy who make great sacrifices for others, especially for you. While your life with the Narcissist may be living hell all through the year’s, in arguments and debates, the Narcissist will be singing praises for their version of themselves and what they call sacrifices for their victims/others.
He or she will tell of what they have gone through for you, their sacrifices, their struggles, and how you had better be beholden to them or all hell will break out if you don’t honour them as they do in their own yes. They will lay on thick guilt to control you and for you to back down and submit to them.
Another point is that when you shove evidence in their faces that proves them wrong, untruthful, and cruel, they will claim that they are the victim, and how you are being mean, unfair, because you are taking them to task when in reality they feel that you should honour them forever no matter what they do that is wrong.
Always be aware of the trick and tools of the Narcissist types.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook. 2019.
