As the child learns, he or she does the same thing over and over until the lesson gently sinks into the child’s mind.
When there is no pressure from adults or peer pressure the child does not think that he or she is thick because they have to repeat the effort to learn. We all learn in different ways, and no one at the same pace.
Learning is “living trial and error”, it is “the experience” that teaches us what is the best way to do something. Some people may have to make 10 attempts get get the lesson, some 5, some only one time, and that is alright because a wise teacher is patient and knows that everyone learns at their own pace and should not be judged or pushed because they are not up to the speed of learning as others.
In fact the wise teachers know that impatience, anger, frustration, will hold back progress in the student, cause blame shame and lack of confidence in the student. So the wise thing to do is to not lump all the students in the same category, and be patient with each one giving them every chance “to learn” the lesson and “not be told what to see or think”.
The wise teacher knows that the child will get it in his or her own time.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
Thursday, 26 May 2016, 5:18:49 AM.
The Simple, But Very Effective Art of Manipulation.
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° A man turns up at a place innocently, and you are there too.
° The same man sees you in the street and he waves cheeky to you.
° The man goes past your house often, says hello every now and then.
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To turn you against that man, the manipulator/s take the facts and adds fairytales, or twists the truth to form a false story that looks truthful because it still contains certain facts that you know are true.
If the victim hears this new version of the story from someone who they trust, it is easy to assume that this is reality.
Partly it looks very truthful because of the small bits that you saw yourself with your own eyes, and then someone you love, trust or believe, comes along with all the “fillers”, the missing parts that you have no reason to doubt because of your faith in the person telling the story.
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If the person who comes along that you trust hates, dislikes, is jealous, wants revenge, etc on the innocent person then this person can create a complete vicious fantasy designed to hurt this person, and use the fantasy with the few facts that you know to be true.
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Part of the problem is gullible and naive people who will accept a story on face value, with no real evidence, and having never seen this person do wrong.
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We need to teach people to do their own research, to think for themselves, to become confident in their own thinking and to trust the results from their own research without allowing themselves to be talked out of the conclusion that they have already come to. And to trust their own instincts.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
Sunday, 27 March 2016, 4:24:28 PM.
When someone comes at you in anger, or is rude, or mean etc, consider first yourself.
Have you ever behaved like that?
For years I have met many people who get very upset and react very negatively at other people for testing them as they treat other people. And yet they seem completely blind of their own simular behavior.
Empathy. Consider yourself in the position of the angry, mean, or upset person. If you don’t know why this person has lost their cool, just wait until you have the facts.
Logic and common sense, any negative reaction will cause even more upset from the angry, mean, or upset person, so it is wise to not add fuel to the fire.
Even if the situation is frightening, being calm, slow to speak, and as level-headed as possible, you will help to calm the situation.
All the best from
James Martin Sandbrook.
Friday, 4 September 2015, 4:04:14 PM
Are you acting on your own choices or of those around you?
It can sometimes be very hard to see from the inside what is really going on.
When we are trying to find meaning in life for ourselves we can take on board other people’s suggestions and even their enthusiasm, and then become what we we really don’t want to be as we are caught up with what others are doing or what others are planning for us.
Influence and the opinion of others can be very persuasive and when that happens it really does feel like the right thing to do, because we can feel left out of their combined thinking.
Really what we are doing is catching their desires, excitement and eagerness and we think that it is our own will, and that if we do it we will be happy.
We all have that desire to please others and to please ourselves, we do need to keep a balance.
You have needs that only you know.
You must not deny yourself of your own feelings, wants and needs. .
It is often later in life after following what others want for us that we discover that we don’t want what they wanted for us at all, that it was all a mistake following them, and that we were only doing what they suggested to make them feel good, to please them and hopefully make ourselves happy.
You are a useful person “if” you “don’t conform” to the weaknesses of society.
Your natural talents and characteristics are not obvious to you and others when you are trying to be what you are not,and when you are exposing your mind, soul and body to drugs, alcohol and mindless entertainment.
Maturity and inner-strength is denying yourself the weaknesses of society and finding that your true talents, abilities and worth come forth in a healthy environment where the mind, body and soul progress without
You were born for so much more, and you are capable of doing so much more.
All the best from
James Martin Sandbrook.
Monday, 20 August 2018, 5:34:24 PM.
To me it seems like Wisdom comes from trial, error, experiences, learning and personal growth.
The people who assume that they know it all or know their job/business and need no more to learn are those who lack wisdom, they stop improving.
Wise people never stop learning, and they find ways to learn more about what they want to know. They get their experience by putting what they have been told, or read, or was taught, and they then try to put all this knowledge into practice, and even with all that knowledge they still make many mistakes, and here is were they gain wisdom or put into practice wisdom that they read from other people.
An unwise boss is mean to the workers.
A wise boss has learned that if he or she treats the workers with respect then they will work better, be happy in their jobs and want to be there.
Wise people think about what they do, they take time, they consider all options and they look for a good outcome that will help everyone.
The more trial, error, knowledge and wisdom gained the more a human is able to cope in the world, deal with challenges and have a healthy mind, body and soul. Wise people see the value in self sacrifice, but also in looking after themselves, being fit, eating well and so forth.
The more you try the more wisdom you gain from trying, learning what works and what doesn’t work.
All the best from
James Martin Sandbrook.