When the parents teach children to have boundaries they are teaching them good values, to care for themselves, to seek a better future.
When the parents don’t teach boundaries the children grow up unable to make good choices for their futures. They have no rules and beliefs to base their choices on, so basically they will do anything the crowd does and accepts, things that are immoral, shameful, indecent, dangerous, and the like, and think that it is fun and normal.
What is worse, is that the children become what their parents are and bring their own children up the same way.
If the parents live a loose careless lifestyle the children come to know this lifestyle as normal and become it as well.
Parents that are irresponsible give an example of this behavior and the children grow up with no idea what being responsible is.
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All children should be taught the value of having boundaries and should be shown the results of life without boundaries so that they fear it happening to them and they fear being so foolish.
Children should be taught that having no strong values and boundaries is sabotaging their own futures.
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Setting boundaries gives us an idea about what we want for the future and confidence in our choices from a young age.
In social circles from a young age we gain confidence each time we tell other people (our peers) what we stand by, believe in, and what we will and won’t do. We refuse to follow the foolish ways of the crowd thinking.
This confidence leads to courage and self respect, a feeling we don’t want to lose. So as teenagers we will refuse to take part in any actions that may be bad for us and anything that will bring us shame and cause us to lose respect for our own selves.
We come to feel strongly about our boundaries and refuse to cross them because to do so means disliking ourselves for being weak and foolish.
We rejoice in being responsible and we feel courageously strong about standing up for what we believe in and what we want for our own life.
We don’t ask ourselves if we are worthy, we make sure that we are worthy by being the best that we can be and stubbornly refusing to be anything else.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
Thursday, 27 June 2019, 7:51:16 PM.