I have a few people I have been helping who have teenager’s or young adults in their early 20’s who have had some sort of trauma or stress that has turned into anxiety, therapy, drugs. The drugs were from other people.
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The troubled young adults all get to a stage of comfort when being looked after, and they often have “excuses” that they use to stop stepping out of their comfort zone. The excuses are what they used in the past that kept them in the house in solitude hiding away from the world.
For many, the excuses were once real. But now they are excuses because they don’t want to take on challenges to change, so if he or she can pull the wool over their parents eyes they will milk the excuse cow for years.
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For some they use the reasons of the past to avoid facing their fears. Their personal growth has progressed to the point where they need to deal with past fears, but anxiety etc leads them to turn back to old comforts, the old reasons for having the fears. But this time around the “reasons” are now “excuses”.
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The parents know best, and that is what the parents need to get across to the young adult. There must be that trust there for the young adult to take the risks, at the advice of parents, and try new things, be adventurous and experience life which will bring forth trials and lessons, and from that maturity, confidence and courage.
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No pain, no gain.
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In order to progress there must be a facing of challenges, trials, and useful experiences that are the building blocks to future confidence, courage and the ability to cope in the world once again.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
Tuesday, 15 March 2016, 3:30:51 PM.