One of the problems of modern marriage is that the husband and children get used to the wife working so hard for them and they forget to show appreciation or gratitude for her efforts to help them.
If the wife is tired physically then soon enough without appreciation and gratitude she will become tired emotionally and will start to imagine a different life where she is appreciated and approved of in a loving manner.
The modern life where the husband leaves the home for work, the children leaves the home for school, leaves the wife wondering what kind of meaningless life she has.
In the past the husband was not far from the home and the children were always close to home. The wife always had company, her husbands love and his appreciation, and she knows that her place is safe and secure. They had a friendship that lasts, they didn’t ever tire of each other.
The same is for the husband who is always not far from home. He knows that his place in the heart of his wife and children is secure. There are no female temptations in a good wholesome community where immoral activities are shunned and looked down upon. You see, if all members of the community see the bad results from immoral activities they will stop it promptly. People who love and care for their friends will not let their marriages fail. They will help as best as they can to help mend the problems. They are there to support each other.
If a friend’s wife was being verbally seduced, threatened or attacked by someone else then a good community member will protect her and defend her decency. And he will do this because he respects his friend and he respects the good decent value of his friends wife.
In today’s immoral society many “friends” have sexual affairs with their best friend’s wives or even the daughter’s etc. The respect is not there, the spiritual love is not there, the strong foundation of true decent friendship is not there either.
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In a good decent community both male and female know their own place in the family and with that strong foundation of love holding them together they will never stray.
People stray and have affairs today because that type of behavior is barely frowned upon.
TV and movie’s, books and magazines, treat sexual fantasies and affairs as exciting adventures. Many authorities, teaching organizations etc, promote fantasies etc as healthy to keep relationships together. But sexual fantasies really encourage affairs as the imagination creates exciting thoughts about sex with work mates, best friends wives or husband’s etc. It all leads to misery and broken homes.
The next thrill of the fantasy is to make it a reality.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
Sunday, 1 May 2016, 2:19:51 PM.