I don’t like confrontation. In the past I was shy and avoided confrontation most of the time. Sometimes I didn’t and would go in strongly if I thought that someone had been treated wrong, or a child or animal was being mistreated. It was easy and I felt strong about jumping in to help others, but not so much about helping protect myself.
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When we feel less about ourself because of many reasons or we feel worthless then we can let others walk all over us and cause us much stress. It can even feel the right thing to do even though it isn’t.
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But these days I tend to like to not be part of confrontations, but if I am in one then I will fight strongly for what is right. Having studied my own past and other peoples treatment of me and of others I can see how people may be trying to manipulate me or others.
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I know about people using guilt, or about people trying to trick me, or someone trying to get something off me in a rip-off situation. Learning from how we have been treated in the past is wisdom, and that wisdom is something that we can use now to guarantee that we won’t be ripped off or hurt in the present or the future.
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Sadly people that we have known for years can try to take advantage over us. Why I really don’t know. To me money and things are nowhere near as important than relationships. But many people don’t have the same feelings and beliefs, and even though we may be going way out on a limb for them at our own risks and expense, they will come along and try to gain even more off us.
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When dealing with family, friends, and professionals use your senses and listen to that small voice inside of you telling you what is really going on.
I am not suggesting that you be suspicious, or to be wary of people that are close to you. I am saying that if things don’t add up in your mind, and things “feel wrong” then do further investigations, and follow your own instincts. God gave us many senses to deal with people and situations, they are there so that we don’t let emotions cover over what is really happening.
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Please be wise in all your dealings with people and follow your own sense/feelings/instincts and pray for guidance.
Many people (including family and friends) can rearrange situations in their minds to make it acceptable that they take advantage of people. Criminals do this, they find a way to make the attempting a crime as a good idea and a good thing to do because they will gain from it.
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Please try to keep the peace and be forgiving, but also be firm about your life, what you will accept, and if that feeling of guilt has been applied to the situation by someone else then do suspect that they are using guilt treatment on you to get you to do something that you don’t feel comfortable with doing, or you just don’t want to do it.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
Wednesday, 16 March 2016, 6:02:17 AM.