It is not nice to be called bad things.
It hurts, but some people have weaknesses and issues that cause them to be like that towards us. Or they have listened to lies and gossip and they have allowed that to help them form a wrongful impression of our character. Or they are having an arrogant mean moment. Whatever the reason it is a fact of life that some people will try to cause us stress and unhappiness for no reason at all.
How we react to attacks from other people shows us and the world what kind of person that we are. If we attack back like they originally attacked us then we are as bad as they are, and we are chucking fuel on the hatred fire and stirring it up for more hatred to come back at us.
It is more peaceful to let it go over our head and not let it upset us. We can carry our anger on for days and weeks, yet they who attacked us forgot it right after it happened.
It is called turning the other cheek and walking away leaving them to their ways, and going on with a happy day.
This is one of the blessed lessons that I have learned in life. If they trash me then that is simply their opinion. They haven’t walked in my shoes. They didn’t suffer the abuses I did as a child, or the confusion as a teenager, or the struggles as an adult.
When people speak about you in an abusive manner, or with gossip, and meanness they are showing you their weaknesses, and their issues and their bad attitude. And that bad attitude will get them in more and more trouble in the future. Everyone with a bad attitude suffers for it and brings upon themselves lots of enemies and dislike. They will pay for it because what they give out they get back tenfold. Leave them be.
If we forget what they said to us as soon as they said it, and let it go, then it doesn’t affect our life and it doesn’t hurt us. No harm done.
But if we rant and rave and let it physically and emotionally turn our day upside down then we will remember, and we will remember how bad it made us feel, and how angry we got, and we will seethe with it – but the reality is that it was us who made the matter worse, and not the other person.
They started the anger and hatreds, and when we lose control of ourselves, then we finish our day of with angers and hatreds towards them and life.
Stressing is no blessing.
Let it go. Free yourself as soon as the attacks happen.
Doing this will give you peace, and nothing bad to remember.
It is a good habit to get into ignoring or stepping past bad events and the hurtful things that people can say and do in our lives. Accept that the weak-minded are like this sometimes and just go past it. Believe me all that retaliation and stress is not worth the wasted hours of misery that they will give you. Let it go!
And if they ever come to us in the future to apologise, we can accept that easily because, hey, we dumped what they said and done way back when it happened.
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And because we are not holding onto hate and anger we can easily forgive them and accept a true and decent apology.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
6th March 2014.