I know nothing that would satisfy me more than real love from a woman who wanted me for what I am and for what she and I would be as the future unfolded.
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But I am willing to wait, (we all should wait). Those that know me closely know I never talk about females and show no personal interest in any. Women to me are people. If we are mature enough to see the opposite gender as people and not sexual objects then we really show them respect and value a friendship and a relationship with them.
When true love comes the feeling is the total opposite, we delight in the sight of that person, and we want to be with that person all the time. But our love focus is totally and completely on only that one person and no thought ever crosses our mind of any romantic or sexual contact with any other person for the rest of our own life.
I cannot tell you what to do, that is up to you. Your heart knows.
Do be careful. If you have doubts think on those doubts for a while, there is no rush. Getting to know the man is good. That way you can find out about each other and what you both like and be even closer and if it feels wrong then it can be ended while still friends.
When falling in love I recommend waiting until God shows you the one. We get many offers and sometimes many at once and this makes life the more confusing. We also get peer pressure.
Loneliness can make us desperate to date someone and family members can guide us to doing things we shouldn’t do and away from God until we become like them.
Only you can really know if the relationship is right for you. Your heart feels what is right or wrong. If the person is constantly on your mind then there is a situation that needs addressing. Always deal with the other person with kindness (like most people I know the deep pain of rejection, its not nice) and care. We are all people and are all traveling through life together.
We should never go into a relationship with too many expectations instead we should do it as God suggests, do it right, take time to think and get to know one another. Pray and meditate on the relationship.
When it comes to love always be gentle with the other persons heart and with your own.
I wish you well in this and hope that something good comes from it if that is what you both want. Be true to yourself, that is very important.
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Being true to yourself means don’t let yourself down and be a part of something that will make you feel bad about yourself later, be true to you because you are special and you need to keep yourself special and lead yourself to a future that you deserve, a future of love and happiness. God Bless you!
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
December 24, 2010.