Love is:
Fall in love with the person who:
Knows your phone number
Knows how you like your coffee, tea etc
Who cares to try to be with you
Who shows a delighted smile at the sight of you
Who does little things for you that others don’t
Who listen and learns about what you care about
Who puts aside everyone to be with you, “everyone”, no exceptions.
Who knows your favourite colour, cake, food, desert, drink, place, holiday etc.
Please always remember that love is not about looks, sex, money etc. Love is about
someone who makes a genuine effort to be in your space, to share your dreams, to find out what you like, love, care about, and what causes you to fall to the floor in pitiful tears because it means so much to you.
Love is active, love is doing the very simplest things for each other. Love is winks, smiles, secret nudges, giggles from a joke that only two can understand,. Love is an all day event, and love is the energy that holds each other up in the tough times, and gives the other the faith, power and desire to forge forward to keep up the hard yards to make something a success. Love is two people with the same ideals, same concerns, same feelings about he same things.
Love is picking up something unexpected for the other, something they want, need or desire.
Love is finishing off the sentence for the other and laughing hysterically about something completely foolish and that no one else in the room can see the joke. Best friends are lovers who care, share and dare to be together in a world of unfaithful people.
Love is snuggles on the couch watching some sobby movie and sharing the tissues.
Love is holding hands everywhere, and really feeling that you don’t want to let go.
Love is decent – no force or bulling someone to do what they don’t want to do.
Love is kindness and understanding – When she or he has a fit, just letting them go and then afterwards holding them securely and gently so they know that no matter what you are there, “always”.
Love is not true if there is violence – a genuine love cannot deliberately emotionally or physically hurt the other.
Love is knowing the other person because you listened to that person because you wanted to know all about what the other likes, loves and dreams about for the future, so that you can both share that future together in harmony.
When we do simple small things for the one that we love we show that person that in the past we did listen, we do care, and we want to make that person’s life better.
Love is falling in love with someone who the world has tossed around, hurt, shaken, cursed, abused and used, and wrapping he or she up in your tender caring arms and showing this person that you will change their life, completely and positively. Both do this for the other and create their own version of the Garden of Eden in their own lives, and they become two inseparable, focused human beings working side by side for the greater good of all. Two focused on just making the love prefect for them so that the garden will grow, the love will flourish in the glow of the sunshine that comes from their positive outlook and love for each other, and the rainbow of hope will forever rest over their garden promising better things are to come.
Love is turning down others to stay home comfortably in the arms that know you best and still want to be with you.
Love is appreciating that you are loved, happy in this knowledge, appreciating what you have so much so that you will never ever let it go, because having someone who wants to be with you and all your failings is someone worth holding on to and growing together with each other.
Love is encouragement.
Love is caring for the one you love more than anything material.
Love is respect. Love is respecting your partners wishes. Love is caring about what the other wants in life and working things out so that both of your ideas and future goals are aligned with one another. Love is understanding each other, and making the effort with genuine care to share the future in harmony, maturity and peace.
Love is compromise (an agreement or settlement of a disagreement that is reached by each side making concessions.) working things out for the good of all.
Love is having charitable caring thoughts for the one you married and working together through the good times and the bad, and being so happy that you have each other to stand with and to hold each other up. Love is deeply, emotionally, and thanking God that you have such an awesome person at your side forever.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook. 2018.