One person can lower his or her defense shields and be honest, sincere, giving, and treat the one they love with respect and appreciation.
And in knowing he or she can trust the other, and that they can honestly rely on one another her or she has found life security.
Another person can be manipulative, pushy, mean and controlling. To this person bully narcissistic behavior brings he or she a belief of security. In other words this person thinks that being in total control of his or her life, and in the lives of others around he or she means a secure life.
Honesty, truth, love, and fairness brings forth a secure relationship, genuine intimacy and happiness.
One result of being a narcissistic relationship is that the victim can become aggressive, demanding, and instead of having genuine intimacy he or she wants intensity, control, etc. This person can want control to obsession.
To the confident person who loves life gentle sex folks their heart and soul will contentment and satisfaction.
To the controller, obsessed with the highs of life may desire drug abuse, alcohol abuse, and sexual encounters (possibly with either gender) to keep them chasing the excitement, the intense feeling of pleasure and accomplishments (sports, awards, achievements, etc)
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Can you see and understand the healthy love and sexual satisfaction and is opposite?
Can you see the two versions of security?
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
Monday, 6 June 2016, 1:27:14 PM.