People try to take advantage of us…

Many times in the past I have tried to help people and over and over again some of them have verbally abused me. It seems that once they get to freak out at me once, and they see that I won’t hit them, and I won’t get angry or lose my temper at them, I then seem to become a wall to bounce their anger at, and also to blame (even though many of the situations have nothing to do with me) for the wrongs in the situation or in their own life. And of course they are quick to point out my failings and mistakes.

Meek people make easy targets for people with insecurities, anger issues, those who are full of pride, and those that don’t want to admit that they have lost the plot and want someone else to blame for their insecurities and failures, rather than have to face the truth about their own life.

Some people would get upset, be rude to me for no reason when I am trying to help them, so I would walk away and get on with my own life becasue I don’t like to be treated like that. A week later (or some time later) they would ask for my help again, and I would help them and the same thing would happen, or it would happen the next time etc. It is a situation that is unwelcome in anyone’s life and we shouldn’t have to put up with it. Extra stress for no reason. Family and people that know us can be like this since they know us well and how far they can push us and get away with their blaming others etc.

So I started to say, “No!” to them when they asked for my help, I knew what was going to happen and their negative input is unwelcome in my life. As soon as I did that some would even get to being angry, or begging, or saying that I have left them in a terrible situation etc. Often they wanted my help because a computer expert is very expensive and as a friend or someone that they knew who is kind and charitable, they knew that I would do it for nothing. But now once the abuse starts I am off and out of it. It has taken me years to figure this out, but life is so much better walking away and leaving them to their own dramas.

Meek people are very strong in character, far stronger than the haters, the violent, the false accusers, insecure etc. That strong character of the meek is also a person who respects themself, and will not allow their talents and generosity to be abused by anyone.

So when you are charitable to people and you try to help them, but they tend to take advantage of your good character, or they become abusive or uncontrolled etc, show your strong side and walk away. If people are going to be rude, or to show disrespect towards you, or your beliefs, and good nature, then they certainly don’t deserve your help, and they can get help elsewhere (even if they are family or an old friend).

No one has the right to take advantage of your good nature. And no one has the right to continually abuse your good character(just because they know that you will “take it”).

Don’t be strong because you have pride. Be strong because you know that people being abusive to you, or taking advantage of you is an obvious sign of their total lack of respect for you and all that you stand for. They also think that you are stupid enough to let them treat you like an idiot and get away with it forever.

Get wise, you don’t need to be anyone’s verbal punching bag!

For your own sake, for your own future happiness, and for your own self-respect, stand up for yourself by not allowing people to bring you down, you were born for better than that, you are worth more than that.

Please don’t give people permission to bully you!

Respect yourself!

All the best from

James M Sandbrook.
24th January 2015.