It is Christmas day and I am alone, as I have been for the last 10 or so Christmases, (although once, about 6 years ago, I had Christmas dinner at a friends place). I have noticed recently a lot of males around my age and older shopping alone, no wife with them, and it occurred to me that they too are probably in my situation.
You see, I am not lonely. Recently someone said that I am lonely but that is very far from the truth.
I am very happy being in the house on my own, and I am very used to living that way. Insecure people, those who are afraid of being alone see me as they are and how they see life, and they fear living alone and I don’t.
If you try to help people they may claim that you do it because you are desperate and are wanting them in your life, and even if you tell them that this is not so and that you were only trying to help them, their own insecurities, fears and vanities tell them that you are desperate for them to be in their lives. I always find it a great pleasure walking away from them and never seeing those sorts ever again. But I am sure that they still won’t understand that I am not lonely.
How does one loose that feeling of loneliness?
Partly from growing in courage, and the other from being rejected, over and over again.
If you were being Character Assassinated as i have for the last 16 years, immediately for the first 2-3 years you lose a lot of friends and that’s actually very sad but a wonderful cleansing of people who will turn on you simply because they were told gossip and lies, these people are good to rid yourself of.
But the constant rejection finally pushes you in to a state of being where you become so used to living alone that loneliness is something you never feel anymore. And like those other males doing their shopping alone, they too prefer to be as they are, for it is better to be even without a wife if she prefers others company to yours.
Finally you rejoice in your own company, living your life as you see fit, and as time goes by you forget what it was like to have a spouse in your life, and if your previous spouse was a narcissist or manipulator its nice to be feeling blessed that they are gone and you never got anyone to replace them.
We all like to see that word as distasteful even if we are very much a conformist. A human can enjoy the status quo whilst also pretending to be open minded, free and happy.
It is a simple fact, that no working society can function without its occupants and supporters being sworn-in card-carrying conformers.
The whole gist of conformity is fitting in, accepting what others tell you is best for you, and basically giving up all your abilities and rights to actually think for yourself.
Conformity is a consistent cycle of self-lying. Like, all of us want to believe that we would have saved or defended the Jews, or left Germany in the second world war, but see, if you are a conformist today you would have been such back then.
My thoughts after years of thinking about it, those today who accept that they are told, do as they are told, rejoice and believe in what they are told to rejoice and believe in, would be supporters of Hitler.
Hitler targeted the foolish, weak minded and easily led, and he got them in the millions.
My, where did they come from???
Actually, from normal society as we have it today, technology has nothing to do with it.
It is the state and weaknesses of the human mind that make people supporters of dictators and also what makes them join in with evil while telling themselves with lies that its best for the world, or for their family, or the country and so on. Imagine the supporters of dictators saying (lying to themselves) and believing that the killing and slaughter (such as what was done to the likes of the Jews in the Second World War) was the in the best interest of the victims.
Evil is evil. People, in mass, will support evil while telling themselves that what they are doing is good.
If you go have Christmas with family that you have no respect for, dislike, and yet you fake family happiness, pretend to want to be there, buy them expensive gifts to keep up with your siblings and are in control of your parents even though you are adults, you would have backed up Hitler.
People who supported the likes of dictators are the masses, the millions, the ones faking happiness every day, and also those who are faking the good life but really desperate within, constantly desperate for a way out, a way to feel special, a way to feel part of something big, amazing and great, and Hitler gave the people that and they flocked to him.
I saw a video where people from Germany were interviewed 6 years or so after Hitler died, they had lost the war, they new about the concentration camps and what was done in them, and they were still crying with great sadness and emotion that Hitler failed and died. These were your normal average people.
Remember those in COVID times when people narked on others, and those who rushed to get jabbed, and who brought all that toilet paper, all Hitler party members, all easily led, and willing to do as authorities told them and willing to segregate themselves from others proudly as they saw themselves as special and above others.
We all want to think that we would have been courageous, against Hitler, and in the resistance’s that existed back then, but since the majority actually backed up and supported Hitler (he was not able to take on the world on his own) it is clear that when the next dictator rises up most of the people of any country will back up and support the dictator.
If you don’t want to be one of the weak minded who will back up the next evil dictator then its time to start thinking for yourself, and to stop lying to yourself. Its time also, to actually live how you wish you lived, think out loud as you want to live, believe and say what you think.
And instead of obeying authorities and family etc just because they tell you to do so, stand up, have your say and if they don’t agree, then walk away with no regrets.
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