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Living Alone is a constant adaption to a life without other people in it. Basically the main person who you confide in is yourself, and the most fun you have with anyone is with yourself. This all causes difficulties when you are in public groups because society creates rules and those living at home tend to just get on with life without those social rules.
The person living alone can hurt other people’s feelings and not even know that he or she did this, and not realising that someone has been offended by something that you said causes even more upset, especially if the other person is insecure.
This is one of the reasons why social gatherings are avoided.
I have been in situations where I accidentality upset someone, he or she packs a tantrum, and I am left stunned at how they took offence to basically nothing. And my natural (not really the best) response is to stay away from that person permanently and not go to that place or those events again or maybe not go out at all.
A complete (for many such as I) forgetting of intimacy, and such like moments disappears as they years go by. My last relationship and intimate relationship was back in 2004, I have not had any form of relationship physically or romantically since then.
What happens is that you can watch movies about love, see sexual activity, but its not at all personal to you because it was personal to you 20 years ago, or ten years ago, and the memories are distant, the feelings distant, and the desires gone.
Its like you remember an old book you read twenty years ago, or had a hobby 20 years ago, but its simply only a memory now, and a distant memory at that, and your entire feelings, emotions and desires of such things are completely gone.
It always makes me laugh (and feel sad for her) inside when some young female looks at me and she is wearing revealing clothes that show off her body, and her eyes are saying, “I know what you want, you want my body.” and as I look at her and all I see is a loose person, immaturity, insecurity, and a sexually loose person who has very little control and no idea of her real worth because she holds her ability to have female parts and is able to have sex so very important to her that she thinks that it makes her special – but 4-5 billion other females can do the same.
Missing out on sex is not even a thought. When my ex-wife left in 2004 for the single life (a second time) I said to myself as I walked away, “Sex is just not worth that.” I had hope for love up to about 2008 and then I gave up. I decided that it was not to be and I am very happy with that decision and very happy with being alone.
But one very sad reaction from females is if I really make an effort to help them they assume that my attempts to be friendly or helpful are sexually related, when those sexual thoughts have not even entered my mind.
Loneliness, like what I felt as a child does not exist any more.
Being alone in a house is a treasure, a very enjoyable state of being, a time to get to know yourself, what you like with no pressure from anyone else, and just letting your own thoughts, feelings and wonders come forward with ease.
You can do as you wish, you can want what you want, you can get certain things done as you want them done and there is no one on the entire planet to interfere.
Probably the original reason for flatting was for the person to spend time alone to find out who they are and what they want, but it got so expensive to do that people had to flat with other people, thus they were influenced by those people.
I personally recommend that everyone spend a few months or even years alone and get to know themselves without others interference. You can still got to work, sports, and such, but keep the alone time only with yourself.
This is a wonderful way to go into a future relationship very confident of who you are, what you feel, what you want, and how you want your life to be – because you developed all these discoveries about yourself on your own.
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