People say, see each day as a new day, and see people and things as new reach day, and thus we don’t let past feelings fool us, because when the past does fool us and we hang on to past memories and pretend that the same person who in the past was a good person is still a good person, we sabotage our own future by keep that abuser in our life. In other words we give that person permission to mistreat us, lie to us, do abusive things to us.

If you lie about someone, that person who you lied about will eventually depart from your company and friendship,. Because you have taught that person to avoid you and have nothing to do with you. Because we humans tend to like to lie to ourselves and tell ourselves that we are innocent when we are not innocent, we can tend to be surprised when people react negatively to us.

If we gossip, Character Assassinate, abuse, physically hurt, someone, we have taught that person how to react to who we are, our character, our name, and our personality – they will think that our personality is mean, cruel, twisted, and so on, and regardless of what we like to think of our own self, we taught them to think of us like that because we were unfairly mean to them in some way.