Watching Best Of The Best (1989)
Please remember to donate to the “Waikato Westpac Rescue Helicopter” as I did just now.
Might bike down to the lake to see if they have finished the concreting. Chances are, though, if they be contractors they make take weeks and weeks to finish it.
They finished, but its a giggle because some of them are curved upward, and its obvious cycling over them. They obviously have not cleaned them for weeks, because there is a lot of leaves on the paths.
Do you actually Believe in God, or actually Believe God?
.
This is also how people can manipulate you, they carefully get all the information about you in general conversation or before they meet you they get someone you know and trust to get the information from you-information that will make the abuser-narcissist-manipulators look to their victim as someone who understands them.
To be equally yoked, what I see as wrong, is supposed to line up with what God sees as wrong, and any woman God gave to me, she should see the world as I do, and see the same things that I see as wrong as well.
It means that both of them, he and she, are on the same mental place that God is on.
God did not make immorality, indecency, homosexuality, and the modern irresponsible lifestyles people have.
Thus, all these people are not in line with God’s thinking, or God’s plan for the future.
If we measure life and people the same way God does, we will know what is right and what is wrong.
If God takes you through years of change and you marry/sleep with the wrong person, you will lose all that God taught you.
Thus God will chastise you if you do such a foolish thing as to allow other people to think for you, or you allow your ego, pride, People-pleasing, or your body to choose who you want to consummate with.
God has given you wisdom, knowledge, common sense and logic, if you don’t follow God and trust Him you will lose all of that and become what the weak of the world are. Thus you can’t help God or people.
I had a dream, just now, at 5:30am,where a certain female I knew in the past who did me wrong big time, and she moved out of her house on a corner and saw me while with her latest boyfriend, and was rude to me yelling something at me I think he gave her false confidence, then lightening struck and she went (hopefully temporary) blind as it happened right in front of her.
She ended up screaming and freaking out because she could not see and we all had to help her, and her also (once cocky) blind boyfriend who was also couldn’t see.
Straight after I had this dream, and in that one she was in the car with the boyfriend off for a weekend, and the ute truck that they were in broke down on a stretch of country road, and she got out of the car, so did either his brother or friend, and a truck came around the corner and hit the car, he lived but sustained bad car crash injuries. She was not hurt.
I seldom ever dream and remember the dream, but this was remembered clearly.
The thing to do in your life is to always think out of the cube of learning that you have formed from other peoples views, opinions, narcissism, and so on.
If I were to say to a person who was being made sick or who was captive but unaware that he or she was in that state, he or she would refuse to listen to me.
Most people, due to the school and socially accepted learning processed where we are told how to think, what to think, what to believe, most people rarely actually think for themselves and even fewer look out of the square and get a sense of natural reality.
What i would suggest to people is for them to always challenge themselves to think of subjects that they normally wouldn’t think of, and what they may have in the past laughed at, like ghosts, religions, spirit possession, politics and “both parties”, aliens, alternative medicines, natural therapies and medicines, and even if you don’t change your thnbking on any of thes thinsg that you are investigating you ar at least well learned about thsoe subjects annd can hold a discussion about them to believers and non-believers.
But more importantly, you will be teaching yourself to read beynd what your family, friends, and society deem as ‘the normal” and form your own opionons about lfe that may vary very differently from what you have been taught to believe, and if you are in some form of captivity your mind will accept that ther ar strange abnormalties in your life, and you may not understand them right now, but you know that something jsut is not right, and you will investigate further.
One of the ways that a narcissist controls a person and helps to keep the victim willingly in isolation is to keep the person mentally and physically unwell, or always thinking that he or she is unwell.
My wife took Tracey and Rachel to the doctors so often that I unknowingly was making weekly payments to the doctors to pay off the weekly visits. Once the wife left, I paid off her debt at the doctors and then stopped taking the children to the doctors unless they were actually unwell, like they had the flu or some such thing. This strangely enough seemed to make me unpopular by the doctors staff – I think they considered Tracey and Rachel to always be sick so me not taking them to weekly visits to the doctors meant that I was being mean tot he children.
A Hypochondriac is someone who lives with the fear that they have a serious, but undiagnosed medical condition, or they constantly worry that they are unwell.
Factitious disorder imposed on another is the situation where the victim is kept unwell mentally and physically, so that the person is always unwell and in isolation, thus in the control of their controller/s. The idea is to make the victim think that he or she is sick, or that an illness is coming or that they have a disease or illness that they don’t have, but the belief of being sick keeps them dependent on people as they think that they are too mentally or physically sick to cope on their own.
Mental health professionals and general practitioners are hopeless is such cases as they also are convinced of the person’s illness, especially because the victim trusts their controllers and if they are told that they are sick then they tell the doctors and mental health people that they are sick and then subconsciously they take on the role of a sick person.
If you go up to a person who thinks that he or she is unwell and theya re not, they will never believe you when you tell them that nothing is wrong wioth them.
Narcissist’s are very controlling, and they control the family that they are in, whilst portraying publicly a hard working decent person.
They deeply dislike and even hate anyone who can see past their false front, their facade, the pretence that they are a good decent person.
The narcissist needs the public to see the narcissist as a hard working person like the general public are, honest, truthful and transparent while being the exact opposite.
So when people deal with the narcissist they deal with the fake-image of the narcissist thinking that they will be treated decently like the fake-image pretends to be, honest and true.
Anyone who has dealt with a narcissist knows the genuine deep dark nastiness from the narcissist who has been caught out – because reputation for the narcissist is like a politicians faked reputation, it gets votes for the politician, as it gets friends and Flying Monkeys for the narcissist. To be caught out makes the narcissist very nasty and mean, and the complete destruction of people’s lives, health, happiness, is eagerly seen by the narcissist as something that is needed to be done to preserve the narcissist’s public image of being a good decent honourable person.
Family members are supported by the narcissist to a degree, a long as they don’t interfere with the narcissist – but if any family member/s upset the narcissist then the narcissist has no regrets destroying the child or spouses entire life just to preserve the public name of the narcissist.The narcissist does not know how to love, and acting as if the narcissist loves someone is only done to get support and to give the impression of love and empathy because it keeps the family members believing gullibly that the narcissist parent/s love them.
The narcissists loves people who will suffer for them, people who will take the bullet so to speak to help and protect the narcissist , because in people doing that it serves to keep them undr control and also serves to preserve the reputation of the narcissist, their main goal in life is to appear a great wonderful person. If the person suffering becoems ill, contracts a disease or something of that nature then the narcissist simply see’s this as necessary to keep the narcissist’s desires and dreams in tact. many narcissists see themselve as honourable, doing the thinsgt hat others hate to fo, the hard things, and this is why they feel no guilt when using people.
Kitty cat:
https://www.facebook.com/share/r/qgBaeJiDYFNHFsyy/?mibextid=Mk4v2M
Americans at War by Norman Rockwell[/caption]
I was watching the Trailer for the movie The Fault in Our Stars and she is trying to not fall in love and he is already in love with her from the first time he saw her.
She doesn’t want to be in a relationship because she knows that she is in remission, she is going to die, and she wants to hurt as less people as she can.
So if she falls in love then who she falls in love with, will be hurt when she dies.
I believe in her view, but the more I watched the more the tears fell, because you see, she, like you and me, we all deserve to find true love and to enjoy it no matter how much time we have left to live.
Augustus Waters: “I am in love with you. And I know that love is just a shout into the void, and that oblivion is inevitable, and that we’re all doomed. And that one day all our labour will be returned to dust. And I know that the sun will swallow the only earth we will ever have. And I am in love with you.”
There is no reason why Augustus should not have the woman he loves, even though he and she know it will not be for long, it will still be love as neither of them would ever have experienced without each other. Just because someone is too old, dying, sick, of a different colour etc, it does not mean that they cannot for a while have the most magic love that God blessed them with.
You see, cancer is a result of the toxic foods, air pollution, cigarettes, marijuana, and water we drink, if one of the two gets it, then it is still the love that God chose for them. One being terminally ill does not take away the fact that God gave them this love.
Hazel Grace Lancaster: “I believe we have a choice in this world about how to tell sad stories. On the one hand, you can sugarcoat it the way they do in movies and romance novels, where beautiful people learn beautiful lessons, where nothing is too messed up that can’t be fixed with an apology and a Peter Gabriel song. I like that version as much as the next girl, believe me. It’s just not the truth. This is the truth. Sorry.”
We all deserve our piece of heaven on earth no matter how long it lasts, we should have it regardless of what the world says, because this love is for only two people to claim, take, enjoy, swim in, get lost in and “be in”, so much so, until they are the love living in it as one.
I was talking to a friend and he was saying that there was a new TV show with all these women spending ages putting on make up etc and he refused to sit with his family and watch it.
The thing here is that the show burns into the minds of girls (with help from the adult females in the family) that makeup is fine and spending a lot of time in front of the mirror is normal.
It also teaches sons watching that:
This is a woman.
This is what women do in their natural state.
It is acceptable to wait for them putting on makeup.
That it is fine for his future wife to make their daughters do this.
My personal view is that makeup is 100% unnatural for anyone and makeup is chemicals so it is obviously bad for a persons skin as it gets soaked into the body.
Makeup harms the skin, face and person’s health.
The communal-type get togethers of women and girls to put on chemicals is an extreme example of brainwashing, as bad as it gets, because those who are captive defend and fight for the right to be a fool, to act foolish, to teach their young how to be foolish and to be easily led.
Now, ask yourself, if they are so easily sucked into makeup and its use, and actually believe that they need it and it is good for them then what else are they sucked into and are passing on to their children?
As they say, if someone is mean to the waiter then he or she will be mean to you.
Kindness is “natural”, it is not an act, kind people do kind acts/deeds without thought, they just act as their heart feels.
If we look at people “with our eyes open” we can see where they are faking and those who are not faking.
It may take some time but time has a wonderful way of revealing to us who is true and who is fake.
We live and learn, its the human way.
Proverbs Chapter 3, verse 5:
Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.
Sometimes God works “coincidences” into our lives, events & miracles that appear to be of our making but are really God’s work.
They will happen because God wants something to become a reality.
We may get accolades for these events, or even accusations.
Leave these things to God and He will bring about His work in your life as He wills it to be so,
His plan will be accomplished & is the best for all involved.
â—˜
All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
March 18, 2011.
Narcissist and manipulator types can carefully install automatic responses into a person’s mind/life with careful long-term “suggestions” that when heard often enough, when used with Stockholm Syndrome, Gaslighting and other manipulative methods and the victim can be responding to people or events thinking that the responses are their natural reaction to whatever is happening or to a person.
A good example of this is a Trump hater can actually be the results of two liberal parents who hate Republicans.
Years and years of liberal input has the adult-child of these parents spitting out hate and such as if it were their own reactions to Trump, but in reality it was years of careful input by liberal parents who truly believed in the liberal way and was making sure that their own children believed the same.
Another example is pro gay or pro lesbian etc parents, the children seldom ever go against the parents beliefs.
The young woman who was sexually abused by her manipulative mother as a child spent all her teenage and young adult years standing up for and protecting her mother, only to one day finally come to the realization that her mother was a child-sex-abuser and that her mother had spent lots of time with the daughter and had perfected complete obedience from her daughter so much so that the daughter proudly defended and protected her worst enemy, her mother.
I read the articles from the daughter about her deep distress when she discovered that her mother had brainwashed her, used her as a sex toy, and how deeply her mother had manipulated her mind so much so that she was not thinking her own thoughts, she was thinking what she was told to think and obeying her mother just as her mother had taught her to do.
It was sad to read.
“Automatic Thoughts or Automatic Thinking!”
These cause automatic responses to situations that your mind is now trained to follow as an adult, especially after years of input into a person’s mind.
Automatic thoughts occur spontaneously without a person even thinking about them.
These thoughts can cause an automatic reaction to the thought without the mind even considering other ways to react to that thought.
Automatic Thoughts can cause impulsive thinking, impulsive actions, speaking impulsively, and this can all cause all sorts of problems.
*
The author in a book I read on the subject gives an example of a person who likes you and is working with you on a project and this person gives you some constructive criticism.
The person receiving the constructive criticism has the belief that she must be perfect all the time.
The constructive criticism causes an instant negative reaction in her brain and she automatically replies with a negative retort without even thinking, or maybe she storms off as an automatic reaction, or she says something negative to the other persons face ruining a friendship, and later on she runs down the person to others.
*
Your mind can be trained in youth, as an adult, under stress to instantly react to a situation or person. This can lead to anxiety, stress, worries etc.
Automatic Thoughts are reflections of core issues that have been with you for a long time. Feeling that you are not good enough can be the foundation of your anxiety.
Consider how you think about yourself, and what you think about your life. Consider what people have told you, what they have taught you, and what you have believed.
Do you think, or do you just believe what you are told because of who told you it?
°
Do you have automatic judgements?
Have you been taught, trained to have automatic judgments of people, politics, events, religion etc?
°
Being open minded is knowing that you could be wrong about something and so you are always willing to learn new information and adjust your thinking, opinions and views.
°
Being prideful and narrow minded blocks off any correction in our thinking and blocks off any learning from new experiences and people.
°
Try please to be aware of your beliefs, and try please be aware of how you react to life, and if you automatically assume that this is that, or that is this, why?
What do you really know about you and how you react to life?
Please be mindful of your thoughts and of why you do the things that you do.
And then please try to find new ways to bring self control into your life so that your automatic thoughts and reactions will be less,
and what you do will be what you want to do.
°
All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
July 1, 2017 at 1:11 PM.
The example we have of false accusations and vicious attacks on the character of Jesus is of a man who was constantly in a position to be forceful, to hurt and attack those who were the false accusers.
Instead of retaliating in kind (the same as the liars and character assassination) Jesus taught freely, helped, healed souls, did wondrous things, and was always reaching out to the lost, lonely and low.
Many of the haters of Jesus were corrupt, white collar criminals, evil doers, in power, in established religions who all stood to lose if the common people saw how they were being brainwashed, manipulated, and used by those on high.
Jesus was the enemy of the evil doers and they hated Jesus with an intend to destroy Jesus and all the good work Jesus was doing in the local community with the common people who were lost and desperately searching for truth, love and normality is a toxic society.
The example is of the Good Samaritan, the Goats and Sheep, and doing good under the worst conditions and keep doing good up until the end.
â—˜
All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
1 July 2018 at 16:08.
Many people don’t realise that when they ask God to get their life back to Him or to correct their ways it could very well mean some serious chastising.
Why Do People Believe Narcissists Rather Than Their Victims?
The chameleon-like narcissist shows multiple faces to the public, each one more duplicitous than the last.
They blend in easily to any social groups they are a part of.
But there is one catch: there is usually a target they like to zoom in on, usually because they possess the perceived qualities of empathy, compassion, integrity and coveted resources.
Narcissists are pathologically envious of anyone who dares to outshine them or steal the spotlight: whoever presents a threat must be extinguished.
Their light must be dimmed, in only the covert fashion the narcissist knows how to employ.
https://thoughtcatalog.com/shahida-arabi/2018/02/why-do-people-believe-narcissists-rather-than-their-victims/
Narcissistic and Emotional Abuse.
I read an interesting article about Twin Flame relationships where one is the runner and the other sadly spiritually attached to that person.
The runner disconnects for a while and chases someone else, but when the runner see’s her twin flame connection she collapses and wants him all over again as she spiritually reconnects once again. she resumes her status as the runner and makes them both just totally miserable all over again.
Some people laugh at Ip Man, and also Donnie Yen, but I was just watching an interview with a guy who worked with him and he said that Donnie Yen was really hitting those guys in Hong Kong. He said that some parts were fake and made to look good, but in essence Donnie Yen is up there at the top with the best in movies and in real martial arts. Good stuff.
So the people who laugh at Ip Man could laugh on their couches but they wouldn’t have lasted in a scene with full contact.
It was mentioned in a scene where they used a rubber fist, and that could soften the blow.
But most of it was real.
We can make a lot of mistakes in life simply because it is the natural order of things, the way we are, this is how life is and how we all rolls.
So, when you see me rolling, it is not in perfection, and there are many bumps that are along the way not so obvious to you but oh so felt by me.
Determination along with the mistakes makes you
a winner,
a successful person of worth,
a better more courageous confident future.
You see, being confident and making mistakes still go hand-in-hand, it is the Hollywood fake scenes that show Mr Bond doing everything so perfectly as the killing machine that he is and the womaniser that he is.
I never watch Bond movies because they are fake and give a very bad example of men and woman, courage and confidence, just another successful moneymaker and bad example of life.
Knowing that there will be mistakes yet still forging forward as you trip up from time to time is the path to happiness, because your confidence an courage grow as you stubbornly move forward.
Be stubborn,
and when you fail,
get back up,
and try some more learning as you go along.
You are going to make it as long as you don’t allow fake to sidetrack you,
and you keep your mind,
life and thinking clean, good,
honourable and decent,
as you were born to be.
Know this, No human alive has ever not failed, or slipped up, or made big mistakes, so be assured that when you fail you are in the same company of every amazing soul ever born.
Be pleased that you don’t let failure determine you as a loser, but instead failure is just another stepping stone to new adventures new successes, and the good times ahead as you progress in faith, confidence and courage.
When you are more empathetic/Spiritual than materialistic you can feel and see the amazing person in front of you in their raw state without materialism, without their upbringing, you can see them as they were meant to be but not as they are.
When you are like this you become an easy sucker for evil minded people because you are seeing them as they could be, meaning you are seeing them with love, but they are seeing you as the world made them to be, a predator, Narcissist, manipulator, or just a mentally troubled person.
What we have to do to protect ourselves is to step back and consider all people as worthy, and yet also that all people are sinners, toxic and have lost their way – and in thinking this way we can hesitate to get into a relationship with any, because we really don’t know how they really are.
Remember, when people first meet you they are faking, hiding their baggage, and it is not until we are fully committed to the sometime later after we have given our all tot hem that we discover that, Bam, we got them totally wrong and now we get burnt.
The reason you keep dating losers and are always inviting the Narcissists back into your life even after they have been proven to be fakes is because you keep seeing what they could be, but not the person who they have become, so you open yourself trustingly up to attack all over again.
So one way to deal with nerves is to do what makes you nervous, or practice it by yourself.
This is interesting, you practice in front of a mirror, and you go over what you want to say, let your feelings just flow.
Nerves tend to stop us being natural because we stutter, we try to find the words to say and move in a natural way.
In fighting we are told Not To Think but instead just to relax and let it flow and the right moves will happen.
If we stop and think our opponent will hit us by the time we have decided on our next move.
The moves must be natural, they must flow, and we must have enough faith in ourselves so as not to panic and think, or be anxious.
Overthinking before and during a meeting or whatever it is that you are going to do will just make everything that you want to do be unorganised, unnatural (what you really don’t want to do and how you want to really behave and act).
We can get fooled into thinking that “thinking” is the answer to our problems, its a falsity that schools teach us.
It is better tht we don’t think but just do as we naturally would do.
Say you want to ask a girl out for dinner but she makes you very nervous, so you start to panic and over think before you are even near her.
Once you are in front of her you say to her, “Hello, you, ahh, you, are, I mean, I like, you, ahh, how was your day?”
She smiles and laughs, says she had a great day and walks away.
You are cursing yourself for saying what you did and are so unsure why you spoke as you did.
If we cone face to face with someone and just speak to them as we naturally would and say to ourselves, “Maybe I will ask her out today, but maybe not.” Then you unload loads of pressure and when you meet you either say it or not, its not the end of the world if you don’t even though you want to rush right in.
God Does Not want to hurt you, chastise you or force you.
God loves you and wants to gently help you, but that is impossible while you are running, fighting, denying, and trying to not obey Him.
Life can only possibly get better when you follow God in truth, faith and with courage.
The one thing that you are never going to escape from is the thing that you were born for.
God’s Guidance -How do you know?
Well, I just rode to the lake intending on 3 laps or maybe even cycling to town and back.
After my first lap, feeling good, but I knew that I had to go back home.
Why? I have no idea or what good it did but I did it anyway.
Maybe someone see’s me all the tiem and prayed to god and said that if I see James or a religious person I won’t go out, and they see me and stay home because going out with those people was a bad thing and bad results would come from it.
Who knows, I don’t, God does.
When God guides you you just do what you know you should and even though it may seem like nothing happened, God is helping someone out with your life.
This is where it is good to realise that people are people, even those who are family, and how they treat us is a reflection of who they are and how they have been brought up, it is not a reflection of who we are.
We need to be strong, mature and try to understand them, while also in many cases walk away or let them leave because in is the better things to do because they are so bad for our own lives.
Sometimes people just leave us no other choice.
I read many years ago and saw some movies where it was the plot line and it was that scientists, desperate for continuing Government financial assistance to stay in work and their companies afloat came up with bloated unproven themes and idea to get another years financial support, and a big bonus was years of financial support if the government was interested in a certain project – especially about space or war, like landing a robot on Mars to prove that we could live there.
So basically they came up with many bird brained cannot be proven theories knowing full well that in their lifetime they could never be proven wrong but asking the government for funding to prove them right.
This is how bad science was born, through desperation to survive in their work field.
This is why they came up with lethal chemicals to cure diseases, or to put in water, in the ground, to inject people, it was all to keep them in work and to be praised for their work in a certain field.
I would say that 50-70% of modern science is a hoax.
Many people brought up in Narcissist homes become dependent on the Narcissism and struggle to cope on their own.
So they find that even though the Narcissism is the worst thing for them they are drawn from Narcissist relationship to Narcissist relationship, always being abused, used treated bad and never understanding why they are always getting losers, living in domestic violence and struggling to cope.
The reason for the struggling to cope is that as children their toxic parents did not prepare them for life, so without that knowing parent/child bond the child missed out on being prepared for adulthood, and went into their teenage years in survival mode trying to fit in everywhere while making many mistakes.
Being harshly judged on their foolish choices (Of which they were never taught were foolish by their parents) they reacted as they were treated and go t into more troubles, to survive pride set in, some anger, defiance, all from not understanding how to deal with life and adulthood.
And then as young adults completely unprepared for sex, love, companionship they dug in as we tend to do when we don’t have a mature understanding of these things with other immature people who don’t understand either and we go from domestic failure to more failure, many relationships, drugs, alcohol abuses, and still standing proud and angry, still haunted by childhood abuse and toxic upbringing, and mostly judged as an adult from people who didn’t grow up as you did, so they had no understanding the the hell you lived, were forced to accept as a child, and what formed you to what you are today.
We need to remember that many of us are givers and we like to help and heal people, but sadly some people are toxic and they take without giving back much, but they always give just enough so that the giver always hopes that the toxic person will change their ways and become new, but it never happens.
When brought up in a toxic dysfunctional home we tend to suffer due to our upbringing and many of us see the pain in others and want to help them but we really need to fix up ourselves deep within first, so that once we have met our own needs, grown in wisdom and knowledge, we are a far more effective person who is able to help others and reach out without being brought down in other peoples drama’s etc.
What you allow will continue!
If we have not enjoyed our life for a while and we have been taking the same guidance, the same type of teaching, the same direction from the same people or the same sort of people, and it never gets better, that result is suppose to be telling us something!
Frustration is telling us to change what we are doing.
Frustration is saying “they” may be telling you this and that and that is what they believe, yet what they are telling you “does not work for you”. There is a very clear and straight forward message there, and that is to step away from those who have constantly failed you and take another long hard look at life.
The next step is to radical, and take the steps that “they” have been telling you to avoid from the start, because obviously “they are wrong!”
If you don’t change what you are doing then “What you allow to continue, will continue!”
â—˜
All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
When you only play for the applause, you put your happiness in the hands of the audience. – Author Unknown.
I have found that peace can simply come from walking away from other people’s drama and their refusal to change or even want to change, yet they want me to be like them.
Arguing with people who don’t respect you is arguing with people who have an already committed view that you are wrong and nothing you say will ever convince them otherwise, so why try when all it does is bring you emotional pain, sadness and grief.
They have their path and you have yours.
So shake the dust off your feet and move on, there are better people out there, your people, your chosen spiritual family of love.
June 30, 2019 at 12:40 AM .
