It always seems that when someone accuses me of stalking them, I see them stalking me.
The laws of right and wrong, surely would apply that the innocent should be shown as innocent, and the accusers should be found guilty of their own claims?
Remember, if you let a temptation in your door that you were curious that this person might be a temptation to you, then the one to blame for you being tempted is you. God and Satan don’t miss how people let temptation into their lives – they watch to see if you will take the bait and defile yourself (once again) and make a joke of all God’s help and guidance.
God will, pick up the pieces though. That’s the good news.
One of the power plays that people do, is that when they are in a position of power they use that position to make other people look inadequate or not as good as them. Especially when other workers are concerned or when a woman is concerned, if the male who is in a higher posityion feels threatened (even if imanginary) he will use his position of power over the person who he feels is threatening or jelous of, and he will make sure that the eprson under hoim does not get good oppurtunities and chances to bnetter his life.
I spent a small fortune on new curtains for three rooms. I just put some up and they look nice. I have a new curtain rail as well.
The Roman Dodecahedron is an object that was found in many places in Europe, and has had historians confused for a long long time. Amy Gaines comes up with an convincing idea that the Roman Dodecahedron was used to make jewellery. But the reality is that it could have been used for something else, or had many uses. But it is a good example of something in history that was never written about, was never put in art, was never the subject of a myth, stories, or any form of historical record.
No one really has an idea of the use of the The Roman Dodecahedron or its full use.
I discovered years ago that words in the middle ages do not have the same meaning as they do today. Thus a sentence today with the same word would give a complete wrong impression of what we read in history.
Its just another clue that many things were not written about, and thus there is so much bout the past that we don’t actually know or have a clue abut, especially the things that we have never known or heard about because they have never been recorded in time.
Exodus 4:1-9
GOD’S SIGNS TO CONFIRM MOSES’ WORDS
This wonderful chapter tells us how Moses’ three misgivings were tenderly and sufficiently dealt with by his heavenly Friend. To his first misgiving God made answer by giving him three signs. Here first we meet with that rod which was so often stretched out, over the land of Egypt, over the sea, and during the sojourn in the Wilderness. Moses was but a rod, but what cannot a rod do, if handled by an Almighty hand!
Leprosy was the type of sin, and the cleansed hand suggests God’s marvelous power in cleansing, and so qualifying for service, all who yield themselves to Him. The third sign of the water turned to blood was not less significant, revealing the divine power operating through this feeble human instrument to produce wonderful effects in the world of nature. We must not live on signs, but on the Holy Spirit, though the outward sign reassures and strengthens us.
Tui is back. PSL775 is in Mark Jones, so it looks like Brett changed his thoughts on that, and decided to fix it back up, I was told it would be about$11,000.
And no, it wasn’t me who crashed it.
Anna, Colin and Tui drive the new car, and I drive LCN90 when I am working. LCN90 is probably on its last legs methinks. It’s struggling.
I just saw a young woman I used to know who used to go to church. And she reminded me of something I wrote years ago. People do drugs, alcohol, parties and casual sex because life hold no special pleasure for them, so they take what they can to get pleasure.
But, in today’s society, if you are brought up with parents who are doing life for themselves, or you were abused etc, you, as a teenager and adult struggle to cope, thus you seek what pleasures life has, because you want something for you.
People today are not introduced to Love, a wholesome family life, so, because they don’t know what it is or what it can do for them, drugs, cheap sex, cheap marriage etc, seems to be the only choice.
We need to bring back to the world the best that we can all have.
If your past was bad, immoral, indecent, criminal, and so on, it was not your fault you choose this, you just didn’t know what true love and a wholesome family life is, and you cannot choose what you don’t know exists, thus, your parents, their parents, and so on back, lost touch with true decent honourable living, they lost the path to God, not you. Please always remember this.
But you can reverse the curse, anytime you want to.
Sometimes someone comes into our life, someone new, and this person sees within us what we ourselves cannot see.
This vision that this person has is not of who we are today, but who we will be in the future if we have faith and believe in ourselves.
Like an uncut diamond we are yet to be developed and then we will shine for all to see.
This is not about physical beauty, it is about outstanding strong personality, mature and intelligent character, able, capable, courageous confidence, a person who will make a difference if allowed to grow in their natural way.
The only real thing that stands in the way of our becoming this wonderful soul is ourselves.
We must believe that we are all capable of being amazing and being someone who we will love, who will love, people, and will make a positive difference to the lives of others and in the future.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
June 30, 2019 at 6:34 PM.
There was this young woman who fell heavily in love with a man who her family deeply disproved of.
She knew that if she went with this man her friends would laugh at her, and although she loved this man she would feel ashamed to walk the streets with him even though her heart would be completely overjoyed being with the person she craved to be with so much, all day in fact.
When she went out all she could do was think of this man, even on dates with other males.
He was in her mind all the time, but so was also the addictive craving to please her family and friends.
The battles raged between her heart and her mind.
The man knew of her desire not to be with him (although she didn’t know this) and he understood.
At first he was deeply hurt, then angry, then hurt again, then maturity came upon him and he fully understood her plight.
His will was for her to be with who she wanted to be with.
He knew that his poverty, age, looks, would never be good enough for her friends and family, he knew that in comparison she had it all and he had nothing.
In modern society that means that
“She is everything (for now) and he is nothing” to her crowd.
This young woman went out with many males to see if they fit the image of the man that she really loved.
She compared them all with him, and she wanted as Adele tells us “Someone like you”.
But the male that she was in love with was not of this age, he was a gentleman, kind, loving, compassionate and all that she craved for, but he was not packaged to her family and friends satisfaction – you see, she fell in love with his heart, and her family and friends judged him by his age, looks, lack of wealth etc.
She sought males that suited her friends and her family.
She sought guys that would make her popular, and she hoped that God would see these youthful working males as more realistic for her and more suited for her position in life, her money status, her job etc.
She wanted to walk down the street facing the joyful smiles of “her crowd and her family” and fit in with their lifestyle and ways, she wanted desperately to live their dream for her.
She didn’t have the courage to live the dream that was in her heart for her own life.
She talked herself into believing that this was common sense and the obvious right thing to do.
She told herself, her friends and family many lies, she lived those lies, and desperately wanted those lies to become true for her so that no one would laugh at her.
But God knew her heart.
We all want to believe that age, looks, wealth, family and friends make no difference when love captivates the heart, but for some it makes a big difference and they will do all that they can to avoid the happiness they crave for.
People get what they want in the end even if it does not make them happy.
Strange and completely illogical it is and it makes no sense at all, but that is how this woman wanted it, and this is what she got in the end, a man who satisfied everyone else, but not her.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
June 30, 2017 at 7:08 PM.
Sometimes we need things to be clarified,
to be set out before us in clear precise words,
to be shown what we are not understanding,
so that life for ourselves can finally change for the better.
But we need to see what is really happening to open our minds up to the lies that we have been telling ourselves that stop us from facing the truths that we are too afraid to face.
We deceive ourselves when we try to avoid the truths, because if we faced the truth we may have to face who we are really hurting,
who is the real tyrant in our lives, what we are really guilty of etc.
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The lies we allow ourselves to believe are much more comforting, because they require no courage and action.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
June 30, 2017 at 7:45 PM.
The roots of the Christian/religious is not their worldly beginnings or even the first years as a believer.
The faith took root when the knees hit the floor that first time, and tears flowed freely with repentance and regret,
and a shattered soul cried to God for help and forgiveness.
Many forget these roots when they gain confidence, sometimes they drift from God when their faith is challenged with violence or something bad happening in their life, from here they become something so far from God’s will, not in blindness, they pretend that this is God’s will for them.
A Christian turned Feminist is a good example of a lost soul being saved just to go jump back into the ditch because their Atheist friends are Like that.
God is nothing about selfishness, Chauvinism, Feminism, etc, God is about all things good and especially love.
Remember that day, that first time on your knees and how you felt?
Do you feel that way today?
All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
June 30, 2019 at 3:36 AM.
Too many Christians forget quickly God’s grace and they become fake, arrogant, foolish
and self centered, unable to be led or helped by God anymore.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
June 30, 2019 at 2:24 AM .
The word “God” brings to mind the word “Love”.
Love is a wonderful word, and feeling, it is protection, and the essence of life.
Those that love you will not harm you.
They will guide, tend to you, care for you, bless you.
Look for the good in the world and you look through God’s eyes,
for God is the teacher of happiness, love, and all things good.
Keep searching and you will find God and His love…
God never created fear.
If you have fears then you have something holding you back from being the real you
or holding you back from believing what is the Truth.
Your enemy is not God, God will not lead you from reality, His enemies will.
Never forget that God has enemies,
and those enemies are your enemies.
If you follow God’s enemies then you are turned away from the sight of God
God wants you to turn to Him so that he can see your smile and show you love
that is what love is.
God is Love, His love is for you. never forget that.
You are very special and important to God.
You can reach many people for God.
You have abilities and love that can shine so far, reach so far, help so many.
God loves you!
The Divine Essence itself is Love and Wisdom – E Swedenborg.
Let us turn to God and follow His ways of truth and understanding – this is done by being a good person and praying with all sincerity of heart and soul and innocence.
Mark Chapter 10, verse 15: Verily I say unto you, Whosoever shall not receive the kingdom of God as a little child, he shall not enter therein.
There is nothing around the corner that is beyond God’s view – J Charles Stern.
God gives us grace, but leaves it to us to become new creatures – Anthony Bloom.
Numbers Chapter 6, verse 25: The LORD make his face shine upon thee, and be gracious unto thee: The LORD lift up his countenance upon thee, and give thee peace.
Only through love can we attain communion with God – A Schweitzer.
All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
June 30, 2012 at 10:43 PM.
If you want to reach something special, something that you love, something that fills your soul with excitement, then you must do something that others are not doing. You must find, and then reach for your dream.
Otherwise someone else will have what you won’t make an effort to get.
Having a dream, and making an effort go hand in hand in order for your happiness to become real.
All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
August 25, 2014.
You know when people are trying to control you, and trying to control your life, when they demand that you give them an answer after you have said, “No!” about something that you don’t want to do.
Narcissist types push and push demanding answers until they get their own way.
Force is not love, bullying people is not love.
True respect is love.
If a person respects you, your character, lifestyle and what you want for your own life then they will accept your, “No!”.
A person that loves us truly and respects us genuinely will accept our, “No!’ and will give us time to think about it, and will not force or pressure us, and if the final answer is still, “No!” then that is fine.
Because a mature person knows that we must live our own life according to the rules and choices that we have decided are good for our own heart and soul.
Sometimes we get an unexplained feeling, instinct, a gut feeling that an idea is not a good one,
or we feel that we just don’t want to go with what others are demanding that we do, so we say, “No!’.
If others demand a reason why we said, “No!” we cannot explain why because we are following a gut feeling and nothing solid and provable.
This is why they must trust and respect our feelings and live with the, “No!” that we gave them.
Sometimes we just cannot explain why we shouldn’t do something,
but the feeling is strong and convincing, and because of that we refuse to do it. That is how we human beings are designed to operate.
There is no shame in following a gut feeling.
Gut feelings have saved many a person from a miserable future, stay strong and have faith in yourself even under pressure.
Trust Yourself, because you feel the negative feelings that others don’t, follow your truth , not theirs.
Be true to yourself by standing firm with how you feel about your life and what direction that you want to go in.
Remember “This is your life! Live it your way!”
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
August 26, 2015.
“I don’t like that man. I must get to know him better.” – Abraham Lincoln.
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I look and I see a person. I wonder who it is. He or she looks at me, some smile, some frown, some grump – and all the time I see a person, a soul, and I winder why? Why did he frown, why is she grumpy when I smile at her?
What happened in that persons life to change that person from being a normally nice happy person – what changed that person from being their normal natural self?
I too, would like to know that person. Many I have. And it is so educational to get to know them – to meet them and find out their life, their life-story. To listen to history and learn and there is always something you can use in your own life when you talk to people who tell you about theirs.Its fun to learn of the fun times, jokes, etc of another persons past.
Somewhere in that life will be lessons and medicine for your life. And while you are listening you can add a bit of your own life lessons and trials and answers, and add some advice if needed. Abe Lincoln was so very right all those years ago.
Learning to like people is a worthy thing to do.
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When I was a teenager there was a Maori guy called Torrence. He was very rough on the outside. He strutted around nodding his head at the fellow Maori boys and men, and looking as cool as he could. I didn’t like him at all. I was miserable about having to work with this guy as we were on the same job.
When Torrence looked at me I always felt like he was thinking, “Eh who’s this little white boy!” Torrence was about 6 foot tall.
One day I came bursting into a work hut of ours and for the first time Torrence and I met alone face to face and for a moment we both just stared at each other, both taken back obviously.
And for no reason that I can think of (except it bothered me) I said, “So why do you always go around looking mean like that?” (or something very much like that – that was the first thing I said to him)
Torrence lost his mean cool attitude and burst out laughing. It was my turn to be taken back and I laughed too. He said it was the culture thing. He didn’t like it but it was required of all the Maori boys/teenagers to try to look cool around the “Bro’s” etc. He also said that he didn’t like it.
For many years Torrence and I became close friends and we would talk for hours about our childhoods and life in general.
You see, I didn’t like Torrence, but finally after having the courage to say something to him it broke the ice and we became close friends.
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“I don’t like that man. I must get to know him better.” – Abraham Lincoln.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
2 July 2012.
We all have that fear, or something that we possibly want to do, but we are hesitant or maybe are anxious about the results, it could go in our favour or not, what to do? When we face that fear, the one that has been a big one for us for a while we step up the ladder of personal change and progress 3 or 4 rungs. It is a big step in our success and personal change for the better.
The crazy thing about fear is that probably 95% or more never amounts to anything. It is all mental fear that we have built up with our own imaginations or that other people have built up in us. Overcoming such fears is not easy, but well worth doing because it means that we stepped above a problem that we had and now the message that we are giving ourself is that we are stronger, more capable and courageous, and such fears won’t bother us in the future.
And if other people put those fears in our head in the past then we are letting them know that it is over, we are not going to listen to them anymore, and we are not going to take that kind of pressure from them anymore, we are letting them know that we just stepped beyond their reach.
Being true to yourself, doing the right thing for yourself, is always the right choice.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
2 July 2018 at 10:21.
What matters to the human being the most is what satisfies the Heart, and to get that satisfaction and lifelong happiness the Mind works to bring Heartfelt Happiness.
The Heart and Mind were designed to work/think/act side by side together to give the human what he or she needs the most to have a worthy satisfactory life.
The materialist uses basically only the Mind.
The humanitarian uses the heart and Mind to achieve their beliefs, same as people who do charitable work etc.
People who are fanatical and do, not-well-thought-out disruptive activities to help the animals etc use the Heart and don’t think out what they are doing and what the end results will be – meaning that the end results will not be what they fully intended to happen. They use the Heart more than the Mind, or they act with strong Emotional abandon and just go forth and do more harm than good, and can look very foolish.
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If the Heart and Mind are working side by side then the choices of that Human Being will be for the Good of All!
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We have been taught or seduced into believing that we shuld choose a known evil over an unknown (supposed perhaps) evil, or of two evils we must choose one, to accept that even though the leaders are Narcissist/s they will do some good so we shouldn’t complain just accept it.
Reality: If the leader truly is wanting the best for the people then the leader will not choose any options that are toxic and bad for the people, animals or environment.
Good, Honest, loving people Do Not Choose Toxic or Bad options for those who they love and care for.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
2 July 2018 at 13:09.
We all have that fear, or something that we possibly want to do, but we are hesitant or maybe are anxious about the results, it could go in our favour or not, what to do?
When we face that fear, the one that has been a big one for us for a while we step up the ladder of personal change and progress 3 or 4 rungs. It is a big step in our success and personal change for the better.
The crazy thing about fear is that probably 95% or more never amounts to anything. It is all mental fear that we have built up with our own imaginations or that other people have built up in us. Overcoming such fears is not easy, but well worth doing because it means that we stepped above a problem that we had and now the message that we are giving ourself is that we are stronger, more capable and courageous, and such fears won’t bother us in the future.
And if other people put those fears in our head in the past then we are letting them know that it is over, we are not going to listen to them anymore, and we are not going to take that kind of pressure from them anymore, we are letting them know that we just stepped beyond their reach.
Being true to yourself, doing the right thing for yourself, is always the right choice.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
July 2, 2018 at 10:23 AM
The People-Pleaser and the Predator.
People who desire to please people often put themself last.
In their efforts to please others they often put their own needs and wants aside. In the long run this is not good. We all need our needs met for healthy and enjoyable living.
We all know that we can’t please everyone all the time. And if the people pleaser is trying to please everyone they will become frustrated and lost in their efforts.
People pleasers are driven by fears and worries. Because they have this desire to please other people, predator types can take advantage of the people pleasers niceness and use it to their advantage.
Predator types see the people pleasers as easy victims and so they are attracted to them.
They have a want to abuse and use someone, and the people pleaser has a want to please someone. They have a desire to be liked and wanted.
It is not a relationship made in heaven because one is a “user” and the other will always be miserable because their needs are seldom met.
The people pleaser is thrilled to get attention and will eagerly want to be friends, especially to someone praying special attention to them. They may even see the attention that they are getting as love. If the predator gives the impression that he or she is trying to help the people pleaser then they seem more trustworthy.
The people pleaser fears rejection. They fear conflict and will avoid facing their fears. They fear being abandoned. They don’t want to be alone and they don’t like anger.
Their life is a life of avoiding the things that other people would do. They avoid conflict.
If the predator has dominated people before then he or she will look for a person to continue this with.
If the people pleaser has been dominated by a spouse, parent or another adult in the past then because they are used to being dominated their future lover will simply fit in the spot the previous dominating person had. The people pleaser will feel like this is the natural way that things should be because it is all that she has known.
The world will change for the better if the people pleaser learns to face their fears, and stand up for themselves.
The people pleaser can have trouble expressing themselves especially if they have something negative to say. If a person cannot say what they are unhappy about or talk about negative things then they will be confused, frustrated, full of doubts, and not being heard. The things that they want changed or dealt with won’t change because they don’t have the courage to do something about it.
We humans can have fears or worries but if handled with maturity they will be overcome.
Unhealthy fears that drive a persons life and are the cause of many decisions that they make limit a persons life and freedom.
The challenge for the people pleaser is to realise that they have this problem and that they need to do something about it.
The people pleaser needs to be responsible and face their fears. They also need to understand their own condition and how harmful it is to their life, and how it will bring future misery and will ruin their future relationships with other people.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
September 11, 2013 ·.
The story below about a happy woman was what I had to learn back in 2004 when I had the heart issue and everyone was constantly coming to me with their problems. I was becoming very stressed, tired, and struggled to keep my own self happy let alone them.
They were in fact not facing their own problems, expecting me to solve everything for them and while doing it I was slowly letting their issues kill me.
I was asked if I was taking other people’s loads and I said that I thought so, and I was told to stop it immediately or I would die of a heart attack, so I did. And to my shock I have never had a heart issues since 2004.
The thing in life is to realise is that everyone has to carry their own loads, and they should learn to do things for themselves. and take responsibility for the things that they have done and not expect others to take the bullet for them.
A song that always makes me cry:
“What the world needs now is love!
https://youtu.be/1uqNLnEzDLA
Thinking for yourself.
The worst feeling about being betrayed is (for me) the people/person who did it refuses to admit (even after the fact) that he or she did anything wrong or stepped out of line etc, and still believes that they are good and honourable.
I mean, how can you argue with such blindness and such an attitude 🙁
The worst thing is that if people refuse to admit personal fault or being bad to others, then he or she will continue to do it blindly thinking that he or she is innocent every time they hurt someone. What a terribly sad way to live and fool oneself 🙁
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
July 3, 2019 at 7:48 PM .
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