How do you know that God is involved.
Because your life has many coincidences, but for me many happen and other people who are also involved in the coincidence get really angry yet I cannot see any reason why.
So the other person/people are reacting to something that to me does not need a reaction.
But I notice the reaction and realise that something is up, even if I have no idea what it is.
Like yesterday, just before 8pm on the highway I pulled in behind the guy in the Holster ute and he took off up the highway. If he just carried on as it was it would not be strange or out of place.
But probably the blonde he is gaslighted was in the ute with him.
That must have hurt.
For the last 3 nights, and last weekend I kept getting to Mark Jones at the same time as a small red car is either leaving or arriving. Exactly at the same time, and he went off tonight revving the engine as if he is really pissed of. Must be people living in the building behind Farmlands.
Your life becomes better when you treat people who are with you equally.
My ex wife and I fought over the children’s food. Her parents, Maori’s ate steak while the children had watercress and pork bones. When we had a family barbecue, she demanded that the children had mutton (when I used to eat meat) and her and I ate steak and pork. I gave the children what we were eating and she threw a tantrum.
I asked her, “Did you like it as a child when your parents ate well and you didn’t?” and she said, “No!”, and I then explained to her that repeating this for her own children was her being as mean as her parents were, and that they would not like her as she didn’t like what her parents did.
I have always been amazed how people do the exact same things that their parents did that they hated when they become adults.
A good example is women makeup and selfish activities. You ask the daughter if she likes her mother ignoring her and spending so much time in front of the mirror and she says no, then when she grow up and has a family she does the exact same. If you point it out she argues in favour of the parents who she hated doing it.
They tend to argue it. Saying things like, mother was just getting her “me-time”, or having some fun without the children and now she wants to do the same.
Because now after years of putting up with her selfish feminist mother, she now wants to be the same, and she tells her poor suffering children and husband that its fair and women have rights to do.
We tend to copy even the things that we hated our parents doing, and then as adults copy them and make excuses pretending that our selfishness is good and normal.
This is what I would do, but probably every morning. Hire staff, have them cook enough for them all, and then they sit down with me for the dinners, breakfast etc 🙂 I don’t know if this is from a movie or whatever, but it brought tears to my eyes. No person alive is better than another person alive.
People in authority like to water things down, pretend things are not as bad as they really are, and then try to get the upset person to calm down and just accept the foolish situation that they people who are supposed o be in control stuffed up, again and again.
Please never let them shut you up, have your say, kick butt if you have to, but make sure that they now that what they did was wrong and probably because you are right and justifiably furious heads will roll, theirs.
These cars are a joke to me, a waste of gas and money. They make a lot of noise, often have far too much power, and can kill in the hands of the fool who built it or bought it. Far better and mature, is to have the car that is stable, cheap to run, safe for the family, and the motor is built to do its job. If a man has extra money to buy or build one of these it would be far more mature if he spent that money on his house, family, children, and put away his childish ways.
These overstuffed noisy motors like in this video would be far better if they were designed for use in industry and then they would actually be useful instead of feeding some immature mans big ego.
Its dye, so you know where to sand.
This is how manipulation works.
Movie called Chloe.
Megan’s description of the movie where the main character gets a one sided version of events and then is seduced (because she never asks her husband his version of events).
The redhead woman suspected her husband of cheating on her while he was away so she hired the blonde girl as a set up. So the first set up was yes, the sugar scene, where the blonde did ask him for sugar, but he never approached her, the blonde lied about it.
The redhead woman hired her for another set up, && yet again, the blonde lied to her. She’d never even met her husband. Chloe started to become infatuated with the redhead woman. So as time went on, the redhead woman thought she was continuing to set her husband up with the blonde girl.
The blonde girl was making clear advances at the redhead over time until finally, I guess the red head just felt so heart broken that her husband was “cheating” with her, that she was curious for her damn self && ending up sleeping with the blonde girl. Well, blonde girl falls for redhead woman. && insists to redhead woman that they had was real, but redhead woman tells her it was just a business transaction. So in an attempt for blonde girl to keep redhead woman close, blonde girl lies and says that the woman’s husband called her to see her again, which was a lie.
So fast forward a few minutes here, redhead woman decided enough is enough, so she sets up a secret meeting at a cafe’ between herself, her husband, && the blonde girl. Blonde girl walks in && the husband has NO clue who she is && when blonde girl sees him, she turns around && leaves.
This is when redhead woman realizes all of the encounters the blonde girl had with her husband were all completely fabricated. Redhead woman && her husband are back at home && redhead admits to her husband that she hired that woman to test him, explained the story, && admitted she slept with her. The husband said yes he’s flirted but he has never been unfaithful. They have a nice little moment of reconciliation.
Well, blonde girl decided to do some crazy stuff and shows up at redhead’s house one night while she wasn’t there or something, && Redheads teenage son opens the door. Blonde girl seduces redheads SON && sleeps with him in REDHEADS bed. Redhead walks in moments later when the son has already left the room by now, && blonde girl just starts going full obsessive mode && says she loves her && she only slept with her son so she could be close to her && basically threatens redhead && forces her to kiss her, but when redhead sees her son has seen them kissing, it causes redhead to push her towards a window which then made blonde girl fall out of it to her death.
Well we fast forward a few months && we see redhead && her husband at their sons graduation && redhead woman is seen wearing a hair pin that belonged to blonde girl.
The end!
– @meganelizabetch
Sweet Surprise, by Norman Rockwell.
This is the track that my cats have worn in the grass from the back section to the front gate. At the back of the house there another track created by the many journeys of the cats from the greenhouse to the house.
Watching
The Island – 2005
Now this says it all. A big TV shows their priority is to be mindlessly entertained,
while the bookshelf is how much the person wants to grow within, learn, educate themself and be wiser.
Arguing with the TV watcher is a waste of time because their mind is formed by the TV and not books, research, and so on.
When I was a child it was very common for people to dress in their Sunday-Best clothes and go to family or friends places to socialize.
It consisted of a meal by the house owner wife and some helpers (her friends) and after the meal (years later this was the barbecue) the men would go off to talk about politics, work on a car, watch sports, and if alcohol was involved it was consumed but was felt very rude to become drunk.
Families would go to a different house gathering each week.
This common Sunday gathering was probably related to the Sunday church of old where the woman folk would bring cakes, pies and so forth and the men would talk shop, farm and so forth with examples and such after the church meal.
The idea was to socialize. back then talking about politics was done in good humour, today people are so insecure, immature and unstable religious and political talk is a big no no because people nowadays throw tantrums.
Thinking for yourself, and out of the square of social-teaching means reading about world events, and most especially learning how other people react to events. Like Candace Owens comments below, she saw and through her own experience of the Secret Service and Security she came up with a conclusion that is the complete opposite to CNN and the major news sources, and do remember that many dull-minded people saw the photo after Trump had been shot and because CNN said that he “fell” and was being held up after the stumble, many now believe that Trump was not shot at – this is blind-conformity, they will believe anything put on the news.By watching video’s and reading other people’s views of events, even if you don’t believe what they say you are at least opening your mind to the fact that there are different angles that you never thought of before, thus you are widening your ability to think, comprehend and are willing to take-in-mentally other views and adjust your own views and beliefs accordingly when new evidence comes in.Some people are saying that it is a conspiracy theory that Trump was shot at, or that it was deliberate etc.
Fable: DON’T ARGUE WITH DONKEYS
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The donkey said to the tiger:
– “The grass is blue”.
The tiger replied:
– “No, the grass is green.”
The discussion heated up, and the two decided to submit him to arbitration, and for this they went before the lion, the King of the Jungle.
Already before reaching the forest clearing, where the lion was sitting on his throne, the donkey began to shout:
– “His Highness, is it true that the grass is blue?”.
The lion replied:
– “True, the grass is blue.”
The donkey hurried and continued:
– “The tiger disagrees with me and contradicts and annoys me, please punish him.”
The king then declared:
– “The tiger will be punished with 5 years of silence.”
The donkey jumped cheerfully and went on his way, content and repeating:
– “The Grass Is Blue”…
The tiger accepted his punishment, but before he asked the lion:
– “Your Majesty, why have you punished me?, after all, the grass is green.”
The lion replied:
– “In fact, the grass is green.”
The tiger asked:
– “So why are you punishing me?”.
The lion replied:
– “That has nothing to do with the question of whether the grass is blue or green.The punishment is because it is not possible for a brave and intelligent creature like you to waste time arguing with a donkey, and on top of that come and bother me with that question.
”The worst waste of time is arguing with the fool and fanatic who does not care about truth or reality, but only the victory of his beliefs and illusions. Never waste time on arguments that don’t make sense…There are people who, no matter how much evidence and evidence we present to them, are not in the capacity to understand, and others are blinded by ego, hatred and resentment, and all they want is to be right even if they are not.When ignorance screams, intelligence is silent. Your peace and quietness are worth more.
The Narcissist will do something bad to you and then claim that you hurt them.The Narcissist will kick you, and then claim that it was you that hurt their foot.The Narcissist will attack you for something innocent that you did and then claim that it “was because of you” that they were “forced” to lose their temper at you, they had no choice but to do as they did (according to them).Always, always, always, they make it out to be your fault.Walk away!
The Mystics and those of the likes of India believe that saying a Mantra…
…puts them in a vibration etc, and with meditation, peace.I have always believed it to be that we are in a spiritual place of peace just living, but living the right way, so my case to you is of living a life in resonance with God, the planet, Universe, Nature and with one another.
To be on the right vibration we need to be mentally in line with God in appreciation of God, Nature, Animals, the Planet, Universe and so forth, thus we be “As one with all things”.
Liberalism in many ways equals out as immaturity.
For instance they prefer to live in a fake world that does not hold to logic but holds to fantasy.The woman claims:
I can dress anyway I want, it is the men that are evil for lusting after me.
But it is like window shopping. When the woman dresses in skimpy clothing that shows off her flesh or shows how her body moves then she is putting herself on the window for display and then abusing people who look in the window and like what they see.
But if she dressed “respectfully” where she did not put her body in the window for display for all, including rapists and chauvinists then she does have a far less chance of attracting sexual attention. But in a material world sexual attention is the reason for the makeup and clothes that show off her moves or body, she is insecure and feels that if people desire her it is a way of showing her worth in the world.Immature people are often insecure people and they have no real idea what self worth is and not idea what self respect is. Many feel that if a male hungers for her body he is showing her respect for the way that she looks and how much he is after her (pays her attention – like spending money on her, buying her things, paying her many compliments, and telling her how beautiful she is).
The real reason he pays her attention and hungers for her body is that he wants sex off her so that he can satisfy his body with her body.
Insecure people will settle for any kind of attention because their Life Skills are not mentally developed yet, so they feel unconfident and know that females think that pretty is wonderful, and years of being told how beautiful and pretty she is, she feels that this gives her a short-term addictive “high”..
As an adult sex replaces pretty and beautiful. She finds that if she gives it out she becomes much more popular, but her heart is never satisfied or happy, so she ends up on drugs, alcohol, and mental health care and being in many simple unsatisfying relationships. All the while telling males that if they look at her body for sex (while wearing provocative clothing) that they are sick and perverts.The Mind Math does not add up.
You dress decently and you will be respected, you don’t well don’t cry about the attention when you put yourself out to the world in a cheap way.Society fails us by not teaching good value,s decency, love, compassion, empathy, and to desire self respect, self worth etc.If what they want you do do or what you are trying to do is mucking up your mind, body and soul, then it is very bad for you and that is not right, it interferes with your needs.
If anything affects your sanity in a bad way and stops you from achieving a healthy life and good mental health then please be wise enough to walk away from it, they can sort themselves out or get help elsewhere.
If you keep doing what you are doing then you will seriously harm yourself and you are enabling their bad treatment of you.
Let them go, you will be much happier and better for it.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
2 June 2018 at 20:48.
Unhappy? Maybe its time to reconsider your options.
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Why is it that you do what you do?
Are the things that you do really your choice?
Or are you following other peoples encouragements and pushing,
are they pushing you where you have doubts about going?
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Do you feel that you are where you want to be?
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We all make mistakes, every single one of us has fallen, slipped up and made a few bad decisions, sometimes many in a row.
That is part of the human way of life.
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Part of being humble is accepting that we are not perfect, but we are worth it.
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If our frame of mind is wrong, confused or driven by other forces then we can make many bad decisions that will have a negative affect on our life.
The secret here is to know when to stop making decisions that you are not happy with, those choices that you know are taking you away from where you want to be.
Have the courage to stand up for yourself and redirect your life as it should be.Please be wise enough to know that you could be on the wrong path.
We need to admit that we have made some mistakes, it keeps us humble and also we can accept others mistakes gracefully.
Something to consider is this.
Every person that you know you have seen make mistakes, accidentally hurt themself, done something foolish etc.
You are like all of them, and so am I. None are unbreakable, none of us are perfect.We need to accept that we are not right all the time, we need to know that we can make mistakes, that we have made mistakes, and then wisdom shows us that making mistakes, tripping up etc is normal for such creatures as human beings.
Please don’t be prideful and always aim for perfection because you will never find it, and you will drive yourself and others crazy while your focus is on perfectionism.Remember that worrying what others think is a prison that drive one crazy trying to keep many happy, another thing that is impossible, and will drive everyone crazy around you.
Be at peace with your life, know how we are strange but interesting creatures, and know that you are worthy even in this state of simple human nature. Enjoy who you are and be at peace with your search for your part in this world.We all get the option to make choices.
We all have that right.
If we feel like we are toppling down a hill in a direction that we don’t want to be going but others are telling us is right for us, then it is wise to stop immediately and rethink our life’s plan.
“Make your choices for the future that you want”.
There is no joy in living a life wishing that you were somewhere else doing other things.Be sure that your plans are “your plans” (Has God shown you hints?) and there are other options, so do please seek them out.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
2nd of June 2014.
Please try to recognise in your own thinking about how you
like something one day then that afternoon don’t.
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This could be a result of a kind of up/down thinking about a person and you find that one day you are thinking kind thoughts about that person and then negative thoughts later on or a day later etc.
This could be a recognizable result from mind manipulation – where your mind, sense, heart, evidence tell you that a person is a good soul, while people around you are telling you the opposite. The manipulators are trying to direct your mind to form thoughts within you while your heart, and life experience are telling you the opposite.What this does within you is create an ongoing battle “where you think, because you are told to think this way, that a person is a bad person, yet all the evidence that enters your mind from observation, experience, your loving heart tells you the opposite”.
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So within you this constant battle rages, on one hand telling you that this is a fine person, and on the other telling you that this is a bad person. Or this is a good thing or a bad thing.Another example is you have a best friend who is dark skinned, and you are white skinned, and you get on well.
The one day someone important comes into your life and tells you that “blacks” are bad, evil, wrong, etc and this starts this battle because you think so very highly of this person, but also you really like your dark skinned friend.Another is Feminism. They tell you that men are not good, cannot be trusted unless they are controlled, and you then fall deeply in love with a really nice gentleman. The battle within says that your mother is right and your heart says to love the man and give your all to him. As each day goes on you fall more and more in love with him, but your parents demand that you stay loyal to them because they have been loyal and faithful to you all these years, so you walk away from the only man who you will ever want and love, and you settle for cold hearted apathy, like your parents are – your future love becomes an agreement, like what your parents have, and to fit in you must become apathetic like your mother and rule over your husband and children like she did over you and your siblings.Another example would be politics.
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You are told that the Left is the one to follow, but as time goes by you find that the Right or Middle political thinking suits your beliefs.
Family says, “Vote Left, and you think yes, this is the right way, my family can’t be wrong.”
But the more and more your own mind develops and you come to your own views on life from your own Life Experiences you discover that you are not liking politics at all, and you think that the whole thing is fake, criminal and unfair.The battle rages within to conform and do as your brothers and sisters are doing, following your parents views, or coming out of the closet and telling them all what you really believe.
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The secret is to be mindful of your own thoughts while also being careful to “listen” to what people are telling you,
because what they are telling you could be the negative half of your thoughts on a subject/person and they are the cause of your dislike
meaning that your dislike for this person/cause/thing is not something that you have naturally formed from your own life and experiences in your own mind but instead, these negative bad thoughts were printed out in your mind by other people over a period of time causing you to think that they are your own thoughts and beliefs.
2 June 2018 at 12:28 ·
There are many times in the past that people have hurt me, and while I refuse to hand them the power to hurt me again I do forgive them. The reason is because they were on their Life-Journey as well as I was on mine.
People all over the world have told me that they appreciated what I have written about toxic parents, narcissism, and love.
The haters have been the greatest helpers in all of this because without them I would never have felt the pain and learned how to combat their vicious attacks.I learned about gaslighting, the Stockholm Syndrome, people’s weaknesses, other narcissist techniques, and to my horror I discovered that in the past those very same techniques had been used against me.Then I learned about Flying Monkeys, and from Susan Forwards book Toxic Parents, I learned about how the parents can seduce (sexually or mentally) their own children and the children, carefully groomed will stand up defiantly and support their abusers – their parents.
From this i learned that even though the adult children are supporting and backing their parents the children are also Flying Monkeys being used very unfairly against the people that the toxic/narcissist parents hate.
In other words the children know not what they were doing.The greatest good we can do is to allow the attackers the chance to change their ways, while being careful and listening for full active repentance. The thing that all forms of evil hate the most is obvious their own evil doers become good decent worthy people.This is why my door is always open to people who want to apologize and get right with me. This is the way of God and good people.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
The riots overseas are an example of immaturity in the adults of America, same as the mass buying of toilet paper worldwide.
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A common sign of immaturity is how a person reacts to something that has happened.
Mature people will react with well thought out thoughts.
The immature will resort to immediate mob thinking, violence and silly things like graffiti etc.You may notice that the great motivators cannot help the people because their motivation is based on changing people into selfish motivated sports people or money makers, they have no idea how to deal with immaturity and in fact their motivating people to crave a career, money, material gain and call it success is an act of immaturity, because mature people know that happiness and success are within the soul, not from the outside.Having seen the destruction and mass immature behaviour you may wonder, “Where is the large combined efforts from the scientists and mental health industry to bring the people under control in a peaceful way?” after all, they work on the mind and the sciences can help with guidance, advice since they know so much about the body, and of course the pre-mentioned motivators like the mental health industry work with the human mind, they should be able to save the day – so why are they not calming the masses and bringing peace and harmony to the world?
Because they can’t as they are part of the system the problem and they promote the problems ravaging the human minds at this time.Change for the better can only come from a mature source, not any “industry”, or from any who profit from people’s sufferings.Next time you put your life, mind, and happiness in the control of a therapist, mind doctor, doctor, politician, scientist etc, think carefully at how they have no answers to this mass madness that is a product of immaturity that they, the experts created in the people.
I learned years ago that if you don’t offend people then you can help them.
So I avoid political claims other than that I don’t support any political parties, and that I don’t claim that any denomination of church is the best.You see, if you have something that you can share to all religious people, but you claim that it is a Baptist post, then all the other churches don’t want anything to do with it. But if you just share it with no comments of your own beliefs then it just helps everyone who needs at that time to hear it.Same with bad language. I discovered that if you don’t use bad language in your writings and images then both people who use bad language and those who don’t, birth will like the post and it will help them. But if you use bad language then only those who use bad language will get something from the post because the more moral folk will reject the post on its immoral content.
“For we are not fighting against flesh-and-blood enemies, but against evil rulers and authorities of the unseen world, against mighty powers in this dark world, and against evil spirits in the heavenly places.”
In marriage we have two people who need to get on and not let problems tear them apart.
One thing to be considered is that the two concentrate on the problem and not think that each other is the problem.What I mean is that if a couple have an issue, then the issue needs sorting out, not the person who has the issue. We should speak of the problem and not blame the other for having the problem. Love is about caring, patience, trying all things until a peaceful; solution is found.If one has a violence problem then the other helps them overcome it. If one has an addiction then they work together to overcome the addiction. If the love is right and strong then both of them will want to keep the love going because it is something that comforts them and has driven their happiness for years, and they don’t want to lose this.In marriage we must understand that one may have a problem, and all that needs sorting out is the problem. We don’t cut off the arm because it has a wort on it, we get rid of the wort. In marriage if one had an addiction or issue, we then remove the addiction or issue and keep the loving marriage. We work together to fight all odds to stay strong together.Love means sacrifice and wanting to stay together through those hard times and good times.The hard times are not to show how weak and un-couragious we are. They are to show our faith, love and hope for a better, longer future with the one that we love. Sacrifice of time, and sleep, and money etc is what love is all about.Love is about “sticking it out together!”We should all have that wonderful comfort of knowing that when we marry we will be looked after and that we will always be there for our sweetheart. Love is true.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
2nd of June 2014.
June 2, 2018 at 9:53 AM.
Everyday we have the opportunity to make amends, to start over, to point our life in a more productive path.
June 2, 2018 at 9:57 AM.
If a person repents (recognizes the wrongs they have done to you and regret it deeply enough to completely change) and changes with their apology for the wrongs that you have suffered from them, then you can give them another chance. But if they apologize and don’t change, then you have to let them out of your life for your own good. Respect yourself. It does not matter who they are. What matters is how they affect your life. No person has the right to abuse you in any way. Stay strong, respect yourself, remove the garbage.
Coping Mechanisms from childhood continue until we have the courage to see them for what they are:Protection that no longer serves us!”Releasing” is the foundation for healing “generational” Trauma.
1 June 2018 at 00:23 ·
I am reading a James Harriot book and he is explaining his flying lessons.
His instructor, a nice man on the ground would yell and rant at him in the air during the flying lesson, and then James tells how the panic would set in and James would get nervous, and then finally numbness set in and the instructors torments ignored.
I have found that myself with narcissist type people, and bullies.
At first what they say can be hurtful and hard to take, and if the barrage carries on a person can be physically and mentally affected by the words, the harsh loudness and demands, until finally a numbness sets in and we don’t care what they are saying we just set back and concentrate on the job at hand now.
1 June 2018 ·
You are not gaining by feeling defeated and not taking chances, and not believing that you don’t deserve a better life.
You will gain, and life for you will progress only when you change your view of yourself, life and your chances of being happy, in love, loved and doing what you have dreamed of for so long.
When your life view changes then you will take some risks, have hope that it may work out, and then you will do something positive, have a go etc. Then things will change for you.
1 June 2018 at 09:53 ·
Happiness is a choice, not a result.
The goal is not happiness, the journey is happiness, if you let it be.
And since happiness is a feeling in the heart and soul the only way to achieve happiness on our life journey is to make the kind of choices in life that make us feel good about ourselves, about what we do, and the value in our life by how we live it, to choose otherwise is to be miserable.
Choosing to be happy is to be the person your heart wants you to be, so that you can love, respect and feel good about who you are and what you live for. So that your partner and children can love and respect you because they know that you’ve got their back.
1 June 2018 at 15:52 ·
If we recognise the truth, accept it, then the truth will set us free.to face it, defend it and be prideful about the foolish decisions that we made and back up and support the people who made us that way.
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We can look back, see who was really the fault for us being foolish, recognise that the past choice were not good, foolish and that we were only doing what we thought was best.
I have met a lot of people over the years who had toxic parents and they back them up all the way. And when it was obvious that the parents were to blame for the foolish choices the teenagers and young adults made, they still backed up and put their toxic parents up on a pedestal.
If we don’t recognise the truth of who was really to blame and we don’t change our ways then the toxic people of the past win because we continue to live the life that we were brought up to believe is the right way to live, yet it has been so terrible self destructive for us and possibly even for our own children.
If we recognize the truth, accept it, then the truth will set us free.