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Be Cautious.
Snobbery.
Inner Strength.
Fitness & Muscle.
Being a Gentleman.
Having Good Values.
Think For Yourself!
Being Polite & Respectful.
Being A Man and Your Importance and Worth.
Good and Evil Living.
It Is Just Their Personal Opinion.
Motivation to Change.
Having Faith in Yourself.
Men of Courage and Integrity.
The Police.
The Effects of TV, Movies and Modern Entertainment on the Growing Mind.
Choose the Future You Want and Make It Real
As each century goes by there are many changes in life for all members of the family. It can be hard to find our place in the world if we are confused or not clearly made aware of what our place in the world is.
We should get some understanding about the world today, compared to the world of old. Since the beginning of time males, boys, have had a strong firm well defined place in the family. The boys knew their place and their future path was made clear from birth.
Today with the rise of Feminism and Chauvinism, the males place in the average home is now not so clearly defined. My work here is to make it clear to males who want to be sure of their place, gender, worth, as they were sure of in the past.
The boys growing up in the society of which he was born in to was made very aware of his place, because society had a structure, and as long as females and males fit in to that well defined and clearly understood structure they knew where they were in life, especially by observing older males and adults in the town, village, tribe etc.
Children do well mentally when they know their place, what is expected and wanted of them, and where they are needed. This helps the child feel worthy while also feeling wanted and needed.
Even though the young lad knew that he had a clear well defined place in the home, farm, town, and so forth, he also would choose a future for himself and his future family. So even though his path was clear he knew he would be able to choose where he would live, what he would do as an adult.
In the past the father was always close to his sons, and the mother as well. They knew that to have children with well formed stable courageous loving minds they, as parents were responsible to forming their child’s mind as he or she grew and matured, with maturity, common sense, and logic as the goal in Life Teaching.
With the young male knowing his place, getting a close teaching of life, what to avoid, the dangers of life, how to take care of himself, male health issues, growing pains emotional and physical, and of course an understanding of woman and his rights, and also how to be a good decent honest man, and gentleman.
The Wide & Narrow Path
The father would explain to his son that there are many temptations in life, some we will weaken for, many we will learn harsh lessons from (unless we heed warnings and don’t partake), and some, if we are not careful we will become addicted to.
The Narrow Path is a path that strong willed people take to avoid the weaknesses that can be gained from the Wide Path.
I explain the Narrow Path this way.
You walk into a street and close to you are stalls of healthy, clean, foods and other things to buy.
But if a person were to step into the alleyways he or she would find other stalls that encourage mental, physical, moral weaknesses that can over time harm the mind, and harms a persons physical and mental health. The parents job is to explain how to avoid temptation so to preserve ones mind, body and life.
Society in material times encourages the wide path, as the wide path brings forth weakness and therefore the weak-minded tend to spend more and socialize with more weak-minded people.
If you want to be in control of your mind, body and soul, it is wise to be in control of your weaknesses, so that they cannot take you astray from your dreams, and they cannot control your thoughts, life, and destroy your happiness.
Both of my parents were very weak minded, and they chased their weaknesses and saw nothing wrong in what was harming their lives and us children’s lives.
Self Control and Self Denial are very important in your quest to be a strong willed worthy man.
The more inner strength you have the more people can depend on you, rely on you, and thank God that you are there for them, and they, the ones who deeply appreciate who you are and what you have been to them will do the best that they can also for you.
It is very important that men have control of their mind’s body and soul, and what they say.
The goal of the parents who want well for their children is to make the child aware of the bad things in the world while also making them very aware of the good things in the world.
Neither of my parents were interested in giving me an idea of my place in the world. What I discovered later on in life was that since my parents were not able to give me a heads-up on being a man, father, husband and adult, I would have to do that myself.
Boot Camp
Military training, correctional facilities, fitness programs and so on.
When the male of today see’s his mates getting drunk, drugged, failing here and there, or just mentally struggling, he finds his lot and the man’s part in life confusing, a struggle.
He can feel unaware how to deal with women, what love is, or how to be a man, he can choose to not take the path of the other people around him of his own age.
People today talk of Boot Camp, or much physical exercise and talk to try to get the minds of young people off the ways of others in society. Boot Camp and other similar attempts to help the young fail, due to it only being short lived, and the pressures of temptations are everywhere all of the time, constant and attractive.
So why did those of the past turn away from temptations and create entire decent moral societies?
Because their fathers and mothers taught good behaviour, honesty, empathy, compassion, and good habits into the lives of their children every day – the end result is a young adult that is well informed and has a clear idea of good and bad, and would be horrified at choosing weakness/temptations over being a good person.
This is what being Stable is, aware of the failings of human kind, of peoples weaknesses, of foolish activity, and having very strong stable clear boundaries of which they refuse to cross over because they know it will harm them in the long term, or how they think of themselves or harm others.
Good Parenting or Self Parenting (what I did) is knowing that life is not fair, and that we can only accept what we can’t change, and change for the better what we can change and pass this mature understanding of life on to our young.
When we understand that complaining and getting worked up about what we cannot change is a waste of time and bad for our mental health we can then accept that life is not fair, but we must do the best that we can with what life dishes out to us each day.
This is maturity.
If mostly all of the people in a society see the value in good values, moral standards, good clean living, it becomes the normal standard of living of which no one questions or minds, as they enjoy honesty, low crime, and friendships with people who want nothing but a good society of honest people around them.
Thinking By Yourself is Normal for a Male.
All males should get used to thinking alone. Although socializing (talking to people) is good for the soul, the male when he is older will have to make some very hard choices, and deal with struggle, sadness, alone, with no help from others.
This is not a bad thing, just a part of life, and males need to get used to this, because he will find himself alone often with no one to talk honestly to or to get ideas off.
Males need to understand that he is not build physically or mentally the same as women, thus he will have a part in other people’s lives and much will be expected of him as a male, to be strong, capable, honest and a gentleman.
It is expected of the man that when the going gets hard, he must be able to do his utmost best in the worst situations that arise. This is a man’s place in society.
Know yourself as a man, think of yourself as a boy/man, and know that you should expect of yourself the highest quality of manhood as you can be to the world, others, and especially to your wife and children. Make your wife and children very happy to have you come home from work and be in their company, make them all very important in your life.
The Modern Woman is not like women of the past.
If the male wants to be strong willed, competent, courageous, an honest man, husband and father he needs a woman who is of equal beliefs. Wisdom is knowing that a beautiful or pretty woman is nice to look at, but in materialistic times she values herself and her looks as ways to catch and mistreat a man.
The male of today needs to ask himself, does he want a peaceful happy future with a strong willed capable wife and mother at his side, or a pretty thing that demands, has tantrums, and will eventually walk out on him for other men.
Many women will present themselves to a male to conquer him, to get him in bed, to use him, take his money, and smile a sweet smile and say all the things that he wants to hear.
You must recognize that these are Materialistic times, where people value money, self gratification, greed, and live with no moral standards, few or no values, and low integrity.
Know that before you settle down that you know the woman well. Talk to her, her parents, her family, her friends, people in town, who she has worked with, and ask her many questions about what is most important to you. Her looks are not important, her views of life, people, her character, her boundaries if she has any, are all important to you, because they mean the difference between happiness and horror.
Talk little, listen a lot.
I know a man who married a woman who had saved money from High School onwards, and when they married he and she bought land, built a house, bought new furniture, and it was more so possible due to her having the common sense to save before she married, just as he had done.
I know of another marriage couple where the wife put nothing in at all, gave her husband a list of things to do, buy and add to the house she had chosen for them that he had to pay for, and he did everything she demanded. How did the marriage go? She was selfish, pushy, demanding, a steady alcoholic in the end, and finally she left him and went off with another man.
In my experience very few women save for marriage these days, many did in past times. Make sure that the woman you marry is putting in all that she can, and that she is mature, stable, capable (observe her with other children to see how she handles children), get a clear idea of her mental health and if she has any issues, and if so does she intend doing anything about them and so on.
You want love yes, but you need a dedicated wife, someone who does not put herself above you or anyone else.
Preparation for his role in the future should be on all fathers minds as he helps each of his sons learn their role in society, in the family, as a parent and as a husband.
Being prepared, and having some common sense and knowledge abut marriage can also help prepare the male for what to look for in a woman that will make her a good wife, strong, stable, and his partner in life. Both of the same mind means two people with the same goals, wants, and even though there will always be differences as they are two different people, they will mostly be on the same path, with the same goals, desires, wants, and thoughts of the future.
Preparing ourselves or preparing our own young is being a motivating, encouraging, and helpful father, increasing the chances of your sons marrying good stable loving wives, and living in harmony as they start their own family.
We must prepare for building a house, a car, anything we build must be planned for, and a design settled on, and then everything ones settled on comes together to make the house. The same is for marriage.
Respect Women Even if She Does not Respect Herself.
If you sleep with women (casual sex etc), you are using them for selfish desires, and allowing yourself to be weak and her as well. Your strengths lie in your ability to stop yourself from defiling yourself or a woman for something as basic as sexual pleasures.
You being a Gentleman means refusing yourself pleasures from sources other than your wife. It is insulting the women you use sexually (whether she feels insulted or not) and disrespecting her, whether she feels disrespected or not.
Know that for every man she sleeps with her man-count goes up, and her self worth deep within herself goes down, and the opinion others have of her goes down. Being involved in the lowering of her character, lowing your own character, is a very wrong thing to do. It is far better to go without than to partake in anything that will make other people feel less about themselves and you feel less bout yourself.
Be a good man, a gentleman, be a good example for males of younger rank and age, show them what it is to be of strong character and worthy.
Part of a man’s integrity and worth is his strengths to control himself and protect others, even if they do not want to be helped or protected, and even if they are mean spirited and cruel to him.
One should not allow themselves to be abused, but one can if possible help-people even if they don’t want our help but do need it. They need not know who helped them, but we should do our part anyway to help make the world a better place.
Being a Gentleman is about being of good character, and avoiding shaming or hurting other people. If we all lived to lift each other up with understanding and compassion then the world would be a much better place.
If we men value women as equals, while also protecting them, caring for them, respecting them, and understanding them, then we are helping women. You see, in materialistic times women too are struggling, struggling to find their place, struggling to find what is to be valued, wanted, loved, and what is good and bad.
By understanding our own issues in these times, we can also along the way try to understand woman’s struggles, and if the need be in the future we may be able to help a person struggling be that person male or female.
Learn to Know A Good Woman.
In past times the woman was deeply honoured as a wife, and when she becomes a mother honoured for her part in your children’s growth, as she shares her heart, love, soul, compassion, and her womanly touch in the children’s lives.
The man valued her part in the children’s growth, and her teaching them deep within of love, and what he may struggle to teach the children.
In these modern times women have drifted mostly from their traditional roles in the family, thus leaving a void, a gap, where she still knows that she should be honoured and respected but struggles to know her natural part in the family when society has her by the hand pulling her off in all sorts of directions away from the family unit.
Any man who can find himself a woman who is more traditional and wants to stand with him equally yoked and of the same values he should hold on to her, treat her well, caring and loving, because he has with him the very power of love and strength that every modern family needs but does not have.
A good woman should be held in high respect because she, like him, denies her ego, pride and body the life of carelessness and foolishness, and knows her part in her husbands and children’s lives will have a wonderful life long effect, of which will hold them strong throughout their lives, and will give them strong standing in the world as they carry her love, lessons, guidance and wisdom with them always.
An honourable women does not care if society holds her up high, she only cares that her husband and children do, as she is them and they are her.
Many men went to war knowing that he had a high chance of death, that after his death on the battlefields of war his beloved wife would marry another and he would get her love, but her husband fights for her and dies for her anyway because she means so much to him and to their children, and he would give his life for what his children need the most.
We men, we see plenty of lovely women from young ages to older, and we, if we have no boundaries, can cause much trouble for ourselves and women if we have no self control.
When men become mentally and physically weak, carnal, they see women as merely sex objects to be used and abused, and these people, men of low values, have no real decent boundaries to tell them when to stop, or when to control themselves, and what should be acceptable and what is not acceptable, they simply dive in without care.
It is important for the male to have only one woman to be romantically involved in, and when he has no woman to have very strong firm boundaries of which not to go near where women are concerned.
I have an “out of bounds” age limits, and a fierce refusal to go out of the boundaries, especially the age boundaries that I have set for myself. My boundaries are heavily based on what makes me feel deeply uncomfortable and what I deeply feel is wrong.
The value of this is that when younger women tries to attract me I just very firmly and very comfortably walk away from her knowing full well that I would feel deeply shamed and dislike myself very much if I went anywhere near her, and I would never be able to live with myself if I slept with her.
If our boundaries, as a gentleman, are fiercely strong, then we will not cross them for any woman regardless of her looks, age and temptations.
I have book of a preacher who was also a doctor. He moved into a new town to be the towns new doctor, and a woman patient had an appointment and she was this very well build young long haired woman, who was not sick. She immediately took her dress off, and he said that he had not asked her to take her dress off, but she did it anyway. He put it over her head and told her to keep it on, and she then told him how she and the previous doctor had an agreement and she would make and appointment, drink some whiskey and then have sex with the doctor.
The new Dr (in his book) mentions how beautiful she was, and how easy it would have been for him to enjoy her body as she was so easily willing, but he simply would not have been able to live with himself had he has sex with her, and he would have been horrified to hurt his wife knowing that one day she would find out. In other words he could not in any way have an affair with another woman for any reason at all.
In the end she stormed out furious that she did not get her way and never came back much to his relief.
All us men should be this way, and this is the type of teaching we should give our young adult sons about being trusted trustworthy, good, decent honourable husbands, men of our word.
If we males have these unbreakable boundaries we will not fall flat and fail the ones who we honour and love, our wives. If we are single we need strong firm boundaries of age, thus we do not have a romantic relationships or even consider such a relationship with a younger women of a few decades, it really is up to you, but be strong and firm on it, and know that sex is just sex, nothing that important as to ruin your life, reputation or shame the people who have respect for you.
Stay strong and you will feel a deep respect for yourself, and also you know that good men are those who have unbreakable self control, have that, be that, own that, make this your life.
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