No work for me tonight. Tui is working again, then tomorrow he is doing security work Brett for that event at Whakamaru.
It is not that we are going about life wromng because of our inability to cope or think, but
Parents who are insecure, needy, or Narcissist, can keep their adult-children close or have them still at home, due to the parents desire to be a main part of their lives and to still have control of their adult children lives. What they are really doing is taking away the adult-children’s ability to learn, function, to grow without their parents interference. Its the adult-children’s lives now, the parents should be distantly helpful.
If the adult-children read this and are offended, or defend their living at home with their parents, then the insecurities of the parents have run in to the adult-children who are insecure in their own thinking and living that they subconsciously fear being without their parents and making their own choices away from home.
I have read a fair bit about the Japanese in the Second World war and their fierce refusal to surrender due to pride. They sent theior young adult males out in places to suicide bomb American ships rather than surrender, and the planes that these young men were in only had enough fuel for a one way journey, this decision was made so that they could preserve precious fuel to send out more planes to bomb US ships. Thus, each plane that left was being sacrificed for the cause of the dying Japanese war effort – and the leaders in Japan knew that there was no hope, yet with foolish pride they sent those lads to certain death just to make the leaders feel good.
I remember events, historical or just what happened in New Zealand, and then years later reading about that event and the story being a different version from what I read years before. This can be manipulation, if people or authorities don’t like the previous version they change the story to more how they would have preferred it be.
Because people are heavily entertained these days they become frightened of boredom. People tend to feel without thinking that it is their right to be entertained, they work, they need entertainment to fill their time and minds, even though the next day they forgot about what entertained them the day before.
Its like those people who are in a car with you on a journey who won’t stop talking. You ask them to just relax and enjoy the view and the silence, but soon enough they are talking again, because they don’t like quiet
Our minds have been trained to be constantly filled with excitement, YouTube videos, movies, TV, but there is a huge price we pay for being daily entertained.
Before TV there was a normal human day. Children to adults actually did do nothing, just lay in the grass, or at the beach, or on the bed, couch, wherever, and they would just relax, happy that they have some free time to just let their mind wander, dream, snooze off for a while. Its relaxing the Mind, brain, body and soul. People called it recharging yourself.
What we are missing from working all day, getting home and watching TV until bedtime is our own creativity. When the mind is entertained there is no reason to think. You watch people do exciting things that don’t really happen, like the Marvel Universe or Superman, or a long run TV series or two each night.
Being entertained since childhood makes the mind dull, and with years of rejecting our normal nature, and years of accepting a fake constantly entertained life, we lose the mental desire and ability to create, think, decide, choose, and invent.
Young adults spend years partying, abusing drugs and alcohol, because their peers all do it, many bad things come from this way of being entertained, but the pressure to conform and follow the crowd for about 95% of all young adults is so strong they enthusiastically party up large and unintentionally do more damage to their mental ability to think, decide, investigate, and also not become mature.
You see, while we waste important growing years being foolish, we are for that period of time doing school studies or a job, but we are not doing rational, common sense life thinking, and this is why so many young adults become very depressed, suicidal, mentally lost, and confused.
Government, science, the mental health and health systems all profit from our foolishness. But what we lose is our own ability to think rationally, because while we talk rubbish with fiends, stress out from school, parents upset at our party lifestyle, we are not learning how to logical, rationally cope in life.
You know he saying, “If you don’t believe in something you will fall for anything.”, and “If you don’t learn how to be rational, or how to think, you will fall for anything anyone tells you.”
I have read many biographies, and many of the most famous or successful people in the world denied themselves the party life, stayed home, studied, and became successful because all the people of their own age group who could have been a threat to them were of partying all the time, so when io came time to succeed this person was the only one who knew what to do, how to be more creative and better at what he or she was doing.
Before, I homeschooled my children we didn’t watch TV, so the children’s afternoons were empty, so after school I would ask them what they were struggling with at school and then I would learn that subject or issue if I didn’t know how to do it, and I would teach the child. So while their friends were at home watching after school TV, my children were still learning school work, or digging their gardens, or we would be doing martial arts on the back lawn, or going to the parks, or nature walks etc, – in other words they were getting to learn, decide, do things that were real life and not mindless TV viewing for hours everyday.
Constant daily entertainment means that constantly and daily we are not using our minds, we are not taking part in real life, we are not experiencing real activities or reality, thus, slowly children and teenagers lose or never gain the ability to think for themselves, and they cannot react to real life as adults and make good logical safe rational decisions if they never learned how in the first place. The result is coping issues, the very real struggle to cope, or to make rational common sense decisions.
As adults these people who struggle are judged immaturely by other people who struggle, and they all just make life harder for each other.
Immature minded adults don’t have answers, they are adults with minds that are at least partially like children (hence their immature tantrums, fits and foolish choices), but some end up in titled positions due to who they are friends with, or their being liked by like-minded people, and from their positions in life they can make other peoples lives much harder.
What we want ourselves and our own children to be is Stable and Mature. Mature people seek answers, as each problem arises in their life. They don’t seek to point the finger or blame, or to condemn, they investigate what they are told, and with problems they seek to find a way to rationally and effectively solve those problems.
People who are scared of life, and struggle to function and cope tend to be not formed well mentally as children and teenagers, thus they lack what it takes to face their problems head on and deal with them with confidence, knowing that they may not get it right every time, but by gosh they will do their absolute best to do the very best that they can to sort out the problem and solve it.
Being this way they self blame, condemn themselves, get very upset at life and themselves because they see other people who seen to cope so well, and they themselves seem to struggle so much over the smallest of everyday things.
Mature people see people struggling and they want to help, just because they can. They themselves know about struggle, and they want to help those who are struggling, and if they are allowed they help the people who are struggling to learn how to not struggle by making them understand that there struggles are not their fault, but the fault of adults before them.