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The idea is that for good honest communities (of which everyone wants) a person needs to be the very person who he or she believes should be everywhere, but in morally weakened societies people have lost the ability to be so themselves.
It is a case of be the very person who you want to see in the world, while also recognising what is wrong in the world, what is making the world corrupt, what can we do to make the world a better place to live in that is healthy and mentally good for us all.
As a subject of this materialistic carnal world you were brought up by society basically supporting, wishing for, wanting, desiring, many of the very things that are bad for your mental, spiritual and physical health.
This is called a weakened-mental-state where, not by any fault of your own, your are not able to clearly realise what the problems are in your life or what is harmful to you.
Peer-Pressure, Family Pressures, Culture Pressures, Religious Pressures, and such, cause us to lean towards accepting what we don’t question because it is accepted that we will accept these thoughts, activities beliefs and so on, in to our life.
All people are taught that they are thinkers, but in weakened societies few people think, most people just accept what they have been told and do as they are told, and many will argue and shame people who think.
What you want to be is a thinker. A person who ponders over a thought that comes to mind and wonders more about that thoughts, and can question that thought because they have discovered that there may be other possibilities about the subject, or objections, or better ways to achieve an objective, idea and so on.
The famous saying is, that to change the world we need to start on ourself first.
Because we are treated badly at school, by our peers, shamed, fearing being foolish or judged, we can be wary about seeing our own self in a way in which we can see our own faults.
But is we see this as a challenge, a challenge that we don’t have to share with anyone, but we seek as a bit of an adventure to discover how to regrow ourself with careful personal considerations to be a person who will leave this world a better place for our having been in it.
Change in character, habits, thinking, lifestyle, beliefs, all these take time, but the rewards are a new life, new friends, and an interesting more focused look at the issues of the day. You know when you have looked at the TV and seen a person of what is called high intelligence, is stated as wise, worth listening to, a thinker, is a type of person who you would want to be.
But there are points to consider. People when they get titles, public acceptance, and so on, also get bigger ego’s, become more prideful and see themselves as successful and even better than others.
All these are what a weak-character entertains and eventually comes to believe is true. An example is the waitress in Hollywood is a humble soul, but after being discovered by a Hollywood directors she becomes in a short period of time prideful, arrogant, pushy, and now assumes that her time has come and now she can treat people as lesser human beings.
Having little control of your ego and pride is a weakness, that a person of strong character does not succumb to. An awareness is to desire to want a strong character and to remove what are weaknesses, whether society agrees with you or not. This is about you becoming what you want to be, not what society demands that you be.
Learn that it is much worse to have character weakness than physical weakness. The more control you have over your character, the more you will have control over your own life and the less control other people will have over your life.
Walking away from what weakens other people gives you more self respect, and you can admire how you are not in other people’s control, and the things that you do will make life for yourself and other people much better.
To recognise weaknesses, we need to recognise what causes weakness in our lives and also what take sup our personal time. Many people who are considered great thinker sof today do not watch public TV broadcasting, instead if they want to see something they stream it, but a DVD and so on.
People want control of what goes in to their mind, so that what comes pout is intelligent and makes sense. The more times spent gossiping, watching endless entertainments, partaking in fruitless activities that bring no mental intelligent gain or wholesome living should be avoided due to there filling the mind with hours of activities that will soon be forgotten.
What we put in to our minds is what we get out of our minds. The more we watch, read, talk good quality content the more we think intelligently, discuss intelligently, and the more intelligent our lives become.
Empathy is what we all want to see in the world, but many people want but are not willing to be. Empathy is when you feel what others feel without being them. So if a person is crying over a loved one dying, you remember how you felt when that happened to you and you can deeply sympathise and possibly help.
If we think with our heart, like when we wanted people to feel our own suffering yet they didn’t, we can be what we wanted other people to be for us, thus sharing compassion, help, sympathy, if it is good for you then it is good for you to give to others.
If you don’t reach out and help people now, learn how to do so now.
Look for times when you can reach out and help people. See these opportunities as exciting chances to help people, make new genuine friends, escape from the captivities of a limited mind, and be of use to others in the most needed way possible guided by your heart and soul.
Wisdom I have learned comes from Experiences.
People who are seen as clever and wise in politics spend a long time in that field, same for any business, and activities.
The more you limit your weaknesses, the more you gain control of them, and especially the more you can see the changes in your life for the better, the less you partake in wasteful living and enjoy a fruitful with people of the same interests.
Habits can cause us to waste money in certain areas in our life, or be a part of fruitless activities that give us no gain but simply just waste precious life away.
Awareness is once again called for to study what we do, see what is weakness and a habit, and then find something more fruitful to change that habit to something more agreeable, something that may help you or even help someone else.
An example is smoking cigarettes or marijuana. A simple logic is that burning anything and breathing in the toxic smoke is obviously not good for any animal, the pleasure from each puff is a direction to bad health or death, slow death.
If the bad habits are removed then one gains a stronger character and a clearer mind.
When those around you partake in weaknesses, show then a good example and refuse if invited, and then move on.
Watch, study, and learn…
You see, people teach us who should be in our Life Space. If you are giving up smoking then depart the smokers, even if they are friends because they cannot help you give up and be more healthy because they cannot or don’t want to even ave themselves but you do. So move on, they have shown that you should move on by showing you what their weaknesses are.
If I go to an event and the people are acting crude in a group of people I was invited to join, I politely walk away. It is wise to recognise foolishness, people whoa re foolish, and especially those who are very proud of their foolish behaviour, because such people are immature and what comes from them on a personal bases is not good, especially in relationships,. Foolish people tend to be careless, make unintelligent choices, walk in careless directions while agreeing to careless things.
If we let people show us who they are then we know who to move away from and not be with. It is very refreshing to walk away and not have your life bombarded with the activities and minds of weak minded immature people. Let other people guide you to them or away from them by letting them expose their characters to you.
You cannot be a person of self control and worth if you are guided by the weaknesses or society, people, the crowd and so on.
Your power is in your refusal to be like everyone else, and your refusal to partake in foolishness, and your strong boundaries.
You will find in life that many people wish they were like people of strong will, strong boundaries, of people who have a definite view of who they want to be, what they want in life, and how they want to live.
Society tends not to like Strong Willed People.
People who are narrow minded or set in their ways find people who Think like they are strange or people to fear. These people cannot understand why people are not satisfied with life as it is and wonder why people question everything, and the followers wish people would just get on with life. It confuses them. People who think confuse the non-thinkers.
Modern society has us seeking to be a part of the accepted social life created by people before we were born, thus we don’t need to think, and also we must want to be included, because being included is nice, and people feel bad, or not liked if they have opinions, don’t care about the crowd and don’t have a desire to be included.
Many people dislike strong willed people, because strong willed people are harder to fool, harder to lie to, harder to trick, deceive and take advantage of. Society today is based on commercialism, basically spending money. If you are a thinker, you will tend to only buy useful items. If all of society were thinkers they would make, repair, invent their own stuff, to the horror of those wanting to make money of the people.
Most people today don’t think much, they follow, obey, do as they are told. This is easier than discoveries, imagination, inventing, repairing, changing life and so on.
A Commercial Materialistic Society is made up of huge amounts of people who don’t think much, who follow, watch a lot of TV, read little, and basically do as they are told. They live and die as nobodies, happy and content in their nothing lives.
Look around, see what makes people weak minded, easily led, and what makes then easily controlled so much so that they lie to themselves. Many people lie to themselves. If you think of a healthier way to do something, mention this to a follower (non-thinker) then he or she will argue, or disagree, or refuse to hear you out, because they will accept authority, rules, what they are told, and then live it, because to argue, think, decide on something different is far too hard for them do do, so they don’t. Please, for your own sake, don’t be like these people, as they are alive, but they don’t know how to live.
The person of God is simply a person who is following the precepts that God put before humankind for us to follow for a Spiritual, Physical, fruitful Life. The entire idea was for the better of us and has no connection with any religion.
When I first found God I was sure of what was wrong with me, 5 years later I was surprised to realised that there were more things holding me back, making me more judgments, and foolish thinking. Ten years later I was more surprised at how wrong I was in the past about my character and even more changes needed to be made to make me a better person.
Our object should be to chastise, correct, and direct our own life and our character in a direction that we feel comfortable with.
Just imagine what would you like to be as a human being that would make you respect, love, and like yourself. Like means, like to be around, happy you are who you are, feeling good about how you have turned out and how people react and respect you.
Using an Image to Compare Yourself with.
As a young male I didn’t like my life, or who my father was, and I also didn’t like being like my father, but it was obvious to me that i had picked up subconsciously over the years many of my fathers bad habits.
So, I used my father as an example of who I didn’t want to be.
• My father abused drugs, I never did.
• My father was an alcoholic and I drank as well, so it was time to take control of my drinking, which I eventually gave up for good with no regrets.
• My father hit my mother, so it was always a lifelong goal to never hit my wife.
• My father hit us children with a big leather belt, so I became a goal to talk to my children and not hit them as punishments.
• My father went into fast rages, and to my horror as a man in his thirties I realised that i was doing that, so as soon as I realised it I immediately took control and did everything that I could to stop myself from doing this.
My father liked to weld, work with his hands, invent stuff, so I found as I grew up I also liked doing those things, and found great peace of mind building and making things.
If you have a guideline, as I did with my parents, you can compare yourself to what you don’t want to be, and then see if you are like that person and make sure that you do all that you can do tro remove that persons habits from your character.
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