Forgot how To Want/Desire and
seek the Natural Pleasures of Life.
When you have a humble soul, and tried for all your life to please others, probably for validation and to just be helpful, one gets very used to sacrificing your time, money, effort, thinking, activities for other people, and it becomes a self-pleasure to see that what we do causes other people to have pleasure.
In doing so, we get used to missing out on pleasures, while others are instead enjoying the life we were actually born to have.
As an atheist, I thought it was my right for sexual pleasures, nice food, attention, to be seen as an equal, but since I was always in Survival Mode I was also unsure how I was to feel part of a society that hurt me, denied, me, caused so much confusion, doubts and pain, especially emotional pain.
When one finds God, one becomes more and more aware of how gross things, songs, people, activities, and such can be, and how satanic immoral activities are. Then you get churches calling sex filthy, ful, dirty, and one wonders in fear, “Why do i always want sex if it is so evil and bad to crave for sex, am I a filthy addict or something?”
The church, we msut realise, is not a representative of God, nor how people interpret the Bible. God created you, thus God created your sex organs, and for a good reason, to show love to your marriage partner, and to make babies.
Innocent clean minded sex is good sex as it was intended to be, thus sex is good in the arena of marriage. Immoral sex is satanic, it is the form of sex regarded by evil as normal and worthy, and seen by good people as unhealthy for the mind, body and soul.
You were born to have some sexual desires, but materialistic societies that use sex and the human body with sexual suggestions, to sell products, TV shows, movies, magazines and books, we are infested all our lives with the seeds of immoral sex, thus we are introduced to it by society in a very unhealthy way, sometimes even by our own misguided and carnal paretns, and this makes us addicts of sexual activities.
Your desire for sexual gratification is normal, but only in a healthy loving spiritual relationship will a person find true sexual gratification, if they don’t they watch porn, have affairs and so on.
Your job, since society and your parents failed you, is to bring yourself up all over again with a new healthy view of sex, its true innocent worth, and seek true love.
What we need to understand is that if we desire sex, the desire is normal, natural, and wanting sexual gratification is not evil or bad, it is what comes from being aroused. A mature Mind is rational about such things, and people who are not in control of their body and emotions are carnal and lack the control needed to keep their self respect, honour and good name.
What you and I need is to be in love with someone of the opposite sex who is equally yoked, of like mind, of the same dreams, wants, moral beliefs, and then, the two become one as they accept true decent love as children of God and adults of Earth.
Sex is Natural, and for you to be a healthy adult, you need regular sex, with someone who is very healthy for you. Its not about looks, money or material gain, it is about who you spiritually connect with that will make the sex healthy, clean, moral, heartwarming and natural as it should be.
I stumbled upon this and felt that some of you females out there really oughta google the guys that you think God gave you, find out the facts, the Internet can show so much and so on. Do some homework on the guy who is love bombing you to get you to marry him. Get the facts, it your life, you need to knwo what you are really getting yourself in to.
People react to different treatment in different ways and for each individual it can take different amounts of time to change from one lifestyle to another or from one belief system to another. We all have different development rates of change. We must be quietly persistent and patient as we gently guide a person to a way of life that is foreign to them, a lifestyle that is at first strange to them, something that they didn’t, don’t or have never really understood. To change a person you need to give them a new understanding, while at the same time give them a new belief in themself. You need to create a ‘will’ in the other persons heart to change, so that the other person will want to voluntarily take the required steps to move forward in personal development. You also need to have a belief in the human race to get the required results, a negative feeling towards people will only harm the situation and the person that you are wanting to help will ‘feel’ your attitude toward people and will react accordingly.
All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
2004.
The Human psyche in its natural mature form is evenly spread with the emotions and control.
To be Balanced we need to have control, yet also not be in complete control.
An example is that an emotional confrontation comes up, you yearn to cry, be afraid, let emotion have control, but your Mature side, the side that uses logic and common sense, tells you that control is needed here as there will be plenty of time to emotionally react later on
Thus the confrontation is taken on with logic, common sense and the Mature Mental explanation of your views, needs, wants, and personal views puts your place, decisions, and demands fair and square on the table, while being aware of people trying to manipulate you, lead you sideways away from the subject matter, and red herrings, also an ear out for lies.
The opposing forces within our psyche are interconnected within, working for us, evenly balanced to help us get through life in ways that keeps us on top of situations working for us to come up with good healthy choices, and make our beliefs, values and boundaries very clear, defined, and sure.
This means that after we talk with people they know very clearly where we stand and that there will be no veering of into grey areas, no lowering of healthy boundaries, and no giving up of what you consider your firm beliefs about Life.
Your parents influence in your life was to make you a Well-Balanced-Soul, who is capable of a good healthy life, wise, with knowledge, healthy in heart, soul and body, capable of dealing with whatever life brings your way and dealing with the unexpected clearly and efficiently.
Well Balanced means that your Logical side and your emotional side are in harmony, they compliment each other and are not at war with each other, rather they are working together for the greater good of your humble worthy life.
Thus when challenged, the softer and logical side work as one, and even though you are compassionate, you are also very firm, strong willed, and make yourself heard very clearly about what you believe and what is important to you.
Like God, you are slow to anger, but hen your anger has risen those in your path need to step aside else they be trampled over if they are in your way.
If this is not you, then you must know that this compassionate assertive person is who you need to be, should be, and want to be, make it so.
Materialistically, carnal atheists deem that being forceful and strong minded is worthy, as it gets them their way by bullying people. They feel strong, crafty, efficient, like they are the winners, while actually deeply being the losers.
I saw a man a while back walking around a play area with his little daughter. He was a female abuser, he used, lied to young females, a nasty sort.
I noticed that he kept staring at her, looking very troubled and sad, and then when he saw me he looked sad and guilty.
His battle within was that the evil wolf was trying to deny him access to loving emotions he was having for his daughter who was created in a relationship with a woman who he had manipulated into a relationship with him.
The question bothering him was that he was discovering that females who not just sex toys, they were not there to be abused, or used, or lied to, all the things that he had done to his women when they made this child. He wondered, did he want other men to do what he had done to this child’s mother, to do to his daughter?
The only way any of us can actually be happy is to feel as others feel, put ourselves in their position in life, feel their anguish, tears, sadness and pain, and then do what we can to stop it for them because we have discovered that we care. It is our humble caring where we give and don’t want anything back, that changes the world, and changes us, and brings us closer to God and our true worthy spiritual path here in human life.
The male and female connection should be like the yin and yan balance. he has his character, she has hers, and together they complete each other, they compliment each other, they yearn to be with each other often, because they have become One in Spirit.
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