I have been watching TV Series and movies and such and in it some people are arguing and I notice a lot such things as “a person who did someone wrong turning It Back on the Person who they hurt” and I am recognising this a lot now.

When I grew up, due to lack of confidence, if I caught someone out lying or such, I would point it out and that person would manipulate the blame on me, blame-shifting, but I was innocent, but naive and lacking confidence, so i would allow myself to get confused and take the blame.

But I am now noticing a lot on TV, even in books, how people can be totally guilty, but experienced enough in Narcissism or Manipulation that he or she makes out the person who caught them out is the one in the wrong.

The whole idea behind this is of course to continue to manipulate the innocent person, thus if the innocent person thinks that he or she is guilty then they will not see the manipulator as guilty, and while in this state on feeling guilty and down the innocent person can be further manipulated, seduced, or abused.

Please remember, that when you feel low, and insecure, lacking confidence, that is when you are so doubtful about yourself and your own abilities, that you allow yourself to be used, abused and guided by a manipulator.

This is why, when you are having something out with someone, never let them use your character, or weaknesses, or emotions etc to make you feel bad about yourself, because people only do this when they are sure that they will lose the argument and be found out to be the bad one, so they blame-shift their guilt and blame on to you, thus they walk away feeling triumphant and you feel worthless, and that means easy to seduce or manipulate.

If people blame-shift, just walk away, they have shown their dirty tactics and that arguments from here on are just a complete waste of time and you are going to feel real bad about yourself and they are going to feel superior.

When you watch TV, movies and such. Watch people’s behaviour, because many writers of TV series and movies like to add a bad person who does use manipulative tactics like gaslighting and blame-shifting, so make it a bit of a challenge for yourself to see if you can recognise people’s sneakiness, and this will help you recognise this in real life when people are trying to do use these tactics on you or people who you care about.