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Some people feel that he or she is able to be part of society that has become toxic and materialistic that they have the inner strength, good character, unbreakable love for God, and they won’t break under pressure and become bad. Pride has a lot to do with this, but also weakness for the company of weak-minded people.
True Story
A young woman, living in Auckland, going to university, found a flatting situation in the city with a group of young people her age all going to university. All seems well there, but the young people were of the free-use attitude that sex was up for grabs with everyone there.
In the evenings they would drink heavily, do drugs and in the large lounge of the double storied house they would have group sex. The young female, strong willed, refused to take part, but every evening since moving in would stop on the steps before going to the kitchen and watch the goings on. The others saw her and would call her to join in but she refused.
This went on for weeks, then a months, until one day one of them tired of her watching and he grabbed her to the joy of the others and she was taken by all the males and she cried. The next evening she came down the steps and the males said that they had all had her, so she might as well join in, and so she did and became very loose like them.
They say that the Devil makes you do nothing, he just puts before you a temptation, and the longer and longer you entertain that temptation in your mind eventually you will give in, but the one who made you do it was not the Devil, it was the you.
I have met many men or women who are with a Narcissist, originally I would mention that he or she was being used and such, but most refuse to listen. In time they either become like the Narcissist or they become submissive and remain under the spell of the manipulator. But originally the one that becomes the victim had a time to get away from the relationship but refused to admit that something was wrong.
If we eat at the table of our enemies, we will eventually enjoy their food and company so much so that we become like our enemies or at the least we allow them to abuse us. People are creatures of habit, and even abuse becomes with time normalized and a habit, and just normal life as the abuse is accepted as life.
When our parents for what ever reason, have not prepared us well for life, nor given us preparation for how bad people can use, abuse, and seduce us, we are unaware of who is good or bad for our life, and therefore love bombing, gaslighting, and other such techniques can be used against us and we think that these are just nice people wanting a loving relationships, and that everyone has bad habits, and no one is perfect, and we accept them as they are, sometimes hoping we can change that person for the better or that time will change he or she.
But these are just lies we tell ourselves, especially when we are insecure and struggling to cope in life, and we ignore the warnings, red flags, gut feelings and go along with the relationships.
People stay in bad relationships for a long time, often because of pride, shame, not thinking that we deserve better, and so on.
If you feel you have good character, are aligned with God, have good values and so on then you should be able to recognize when you are at the table of your enemies and that they are carefully working on your mind to remove your good character and to change it for a more loose character that they can use and abuse.
Always remember that even family can be the ones keeping you weak and struggling. All Narcissists, manipulators, criminals, bad people, all came from a family where often the family saw no wrong in the bad person because they were either like the bad person or were seduced by the bad person. It is well known that Narcissist parents use their own children as supporters, liars, and will do exactly what the parents want them to do.
Being in the world and not of the world – having higher values beliefs, and more self control makes good people victims for devious minded people, to be seduced to the dark ways of the lost.
The closer a person is to God the more he or she can notice what is not good for them and refuse it, or walk away, but if weakened by someone who is cleverly devious, the good soul can be seduced over a long period of time to accept the devious person as a good person, thus become seduced, and ends up in a relationship that is bad but does not know that it is bad until it is too late.
A strong mother or fatherly instinct and desire in young adults should be that they must behave in a manner that will reflect who their children should be, so they do as much a possible as a young adult to remain in good strong worthy character, knowing that when they have children that their own children will grow up to be life them, strong and of good character.
When the temptations come they shudder in horror at what damage the temptations can make to their own life, as they watch the weak-minded around them fall to weakness, and become owned and controlled by heir egos and body desires.
No one will remain strong in the company of bad company (including family), eventually he or she will be talked into activities that ruin good character, and weaken ones resolve, and bring sadness, tragedy, and suffering.
Inner Strength is rejoicing in being different than the weak minded all around us, enjoying our alone time with ourselves, and not desiring the company of the foolish, or self destructive people. Walking away from the foolish becomes a welcome feeling, a strong desire to rid oneself of what will cause them trouble, bad health, mental struggles, and temptations we want no part of.
A strong willed person does not need to be validated by the crowd or of weak people, as long as you know that you are doing what is right for your life then that is enough for you.
In a commercial society inner-strength is not taught, because society and government make a lot of money off people’s weaknesses, especially the weaknesses of young adults, please remember that just because everyone else is doing it, you don’t need to copy them, live your own life, be your own guide, pray, stay strong, be with people of like mind.
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