Parenting is about teaching our young to think for themselves, not to depend on us for the rest of their lives, but instead to be able to cope, use their own courage, thinking, and minds, and figure life out themselves.

We should be looking at people’s track record and regardless of how we think of them or their attempts to lead, guide us and show us the way, we should be logical and mature enough to note that with these people it ever works, and that advice always fails in the end, so we either learn to trust ourselves, even turn to God, and learn to live our own lives our own way.

We will make mistakes, but each mistake makes us more courageous, and gives us knowledge about what not to try, who not to trust, and how to think up something new, and maybe even take the path we have never taken before.

We should not make Imaginary Versions of people, in the sense that we think that they are good for us when they have shown us again and again that they fail instead of being helpful.

Use people’s track record to get some guidance on their effect on your life, and also do the same for groups of people attempting to help you and organisations. If the end result has always failed you its me to look elsewhere or to do something else.