When we go through trials in life, we can be ready to do something, but if we don’t feel we have the right abilities or confidence we won’t try, but in reality we are actually ready.
When we are born again but we don’t know were born again we struggle to figure it out. For me, when I was younger people told me I was loner, but the reality was I was rejecting society, but unaware of it, I didn’t like what I saw around me, and I didn’t like the way people treated me so I flinched from social contact and preferred my own company rather than the company of the people around me, that included my family, and so I was changing, was already changed, but had no idea.
I was born with discernment, most people live their entire lives without growing discernment within them. Discernment comes from a Mature Upbringing. Very few people are born with it, most people have to get it via good loving mature parenting.
I wanted to fit into society like everyone does but it was not working for me and I had no idea why, so I kept trying and in the process of trying I kept rejecting society, and every girlfriend I got I didn’t like and she didn’t really like me I just didn’t fit in to the modern woman’s view of a male, the new modern woman.
So I was rejecting them while kind of chasing them at the same time unaware that what I was getting I didn’t actually want, and they said I was a loner and that I was strange, and I thought I was strange, because no one was alive to tell me I was feeling that I didn’t belong.
Brian Wilson song I just wasn’t made for these times, hit me deeply, because I felt I wasn’t made for lease times and many people worldwide felt the same, but we had no idea how to deal with this.
It took me many years to discover that I was actually rejecting what was happening around me, and time and time again I distanced myself from the world, so to me when the character assassination came and pushed me into seclusion I was amazed I like it, I didn’t like being tormented, but I did not mind not having people around me, loneliness did not exist for me.
What I gained from this, is that people can follow God and get to a stage where they become like I became, unaware that they’d actually changed in character, unaware that they are a new person, unaware that they’d gained discernment, unaware that they were not accepting what they used to accept, and in that state of mind a person can feel that there’s something wrong with them, that they are weird, that he or she is strange, but also feel they don’t belong and that they are not made for these times.
So the trick when you come to God, and you have been studying with God for many years and the things that you used to like, are not attractive to you anymore and the people you used to like you don’t get on with anymore, and the conversations you used to think were meaningful in the past don’t interesting you anymore also, you will find that you will see people for their intelligence by the conversations you have with them.
If you’re a female and you liked men with muscles and good looks but they were simple in speech and intelligence, you are after them for sex or just basic attractiveness they were Eye Candy to you
And then years later after you have been with God for some time, you go on a date with one of these males and you actually listen to what he’s saying, you discover you’re not attracted any more for that type of person, and you have come to the ability to reason in your mind a person’s character by what comes out of their mind.
Thus if they talk about silly things parties getting drunk loose thinking, even crime being fun, meaningless things, or when they try to love bomb you, or they try to talk to your ego and make you accept them by making nice statements about your looks and how pretty you are, you realised years ago that these people are wanting to trick, fool and seduced you into bed, but they have no real care for you except to have sex with you.
You can now see that these things that they talk as meaningless and that being attracted to a guy because of this looks and muscles, and money and status, will not make you happy, they are more about him than they are about you.
The thing that got to me about sex was its about 40 minutes of your day, hardly any of your day, yet people pick a person as a partner for that 40 minutes of a day of sex, and to my commonsense mind that seemed foolish, pointless, and it wasn’t worth having someone with me all day 24 hours of the day for just 40 minutes of sex, so the sex is fun and the rest are the time with a person of horrid.
So as time goes by and we follow God properly, and we learn from God properly, we gain a new sense of honesty, we gain the new sense of life, we start to see people differently, and we let people into our life according to these new feelings and the new wisdom and knowledge we have about people and about life, and about what’s good and about what’s bad, and what evil is, and how society people and life can trick us, therefor we are not strange, we have actually become, more wise and gained knowledge about life and people, and gained wisdom about how we react interact and deal with people in our daily life, and in all this we have discovered what we really want in life.
It says in the Bible that all things become new, this is what has happened, all things we used to wish for, desire, have all been cast away and what’s left is what you now want and what you want is a result of the New You, and now as a New Person you want a God Blessed life, a New different way to live, different people to be with, different conversations, more meaningful interactions with people, deeper feelings for people, honesty, people with integrity love and compassion, and you know with these in your life your life will be a lot better and that’s the whole purpose of it.
What you have gained is empathy, you had no empathy in the past, now you have deep compassion where you had no compassion in the past, fairness towards others that you did not have in the past, and all the new good wonderful things that have happened in you, you want in the people you want in your life.
You don’t want just You to be changed you want the people around you be like-minded with you, equally yoked, of the same thinking level and same thinking patterns, with you daily.
You want the people in your life to be changed as well, and that’s why you long to depart the company of society and to seek subconsciously people who are like your and you long for them, and you need them, because you don’t want to go back to who you used to be, because you found something wonderful blessed and loving like you, and that is how God intended you to be when you were born, and other people took it from you and all your life people are being taking what God gave to you from you to make you live how they wanted you to live, and to hurt you.
When we are born again, we need to realise, that the people of the past to hurt us, hurt us because they are not born again, they hurt us because they are not of God, they know not God, they never knew God, so hurting people who love them doesn’t matter to them because they know not love, we need to understand they never cared from the beginning even the family they just faked it because I thought faking it was love, and when they hurt us, mislead us, abused us, they felt it was normal life.
In places of sin, all the people who sin know not love, so by being uncaring they think that they are caring. We must know of those so that we don’t allow them to hurt us all to get the and to hurt other people in the future.
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