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God Wants You To Put Yourself First in Your Life
God Loves You, God knows that you have been through a lot during your life and have been confused with life, people, society and what people expect from you.
When a person is Insecure, a People Pleaser, or Humble, he or she can desire to sacrifice for others regularly. This can become a habit, always reaching out to others, always trying to make a difference in other people’s live and thinking that their gratefulness or expectations of you is a validation of your importance in their lives and in life.
When I was a single father on Welfare, we didn’t have much money and I had two little daughters to look after, so I often went without food and health checks, so that they could get better care – if something hurt enough like a tooth or on the body I would visit the doctors, otherwise I would leave it, so that I could look after my children financially.
A friend visited one day, and he told me that i need to look after myself better. Confused I asked him what he meant, because I set great store in my sacrificing for my children, I felt that what i was doing was very important.
He said to me that if I had any serious health issues the two girls would go to my family (Which was toxic) or my wife’s toxic family, because my wife didn’t want them. I realised that my friend was right.
During your life you may put great importance in helping others, going without for others, suffering for others sake, and it makes you feel strong, honourable, a good soul and so forth, but what must be realised is that when we go without we suffer physically, mentally, and spiritually.
When a we suffer physically, mentally, and spiritually, our mind, body and soul struggle, and in any form of state of struggle, we are less worthy for others as well as for ourselves.
We must not confuse selfishness with Looking After Ourselves.
Guilt implied by users and abusers, can have us giving far more than we should for others, and far more than we need to give. Looking after yourself and being true to yourself is about being aware of manipulation and people trying to take advantage of us, thus we burn out from exhaustion and they don’t.
You are a Child of God, thus your looking after yourself is very important to God. God needs you to be healthy to be happy, strong, capable, able to cope, while also being able to work with God helping other people.
If a person is struggling from being controlled by a narcissist, he or she is capable of little else than being in Survival Mode and struggling to cope with the basics of general life. God will always open doors to free the suffering, struggling, but one must start the walk to freedom on his or her own, knowing God is with them.
You may be like I was, with children, on a low income and wanting the best for the children. It is wise to make sure that our children’s health is good and that their needs are being met, but the balance is that your needs must be met as well, because parenting is very tiring, a struggle when the children are unwell and so on, thus you need to ensure that you are healthy, being well fed, and get health checks when you need them. Please don’t put yourself last.
Another point is that when you go without when you are younger, you will suffer for it when older, because you have needs that must be met when younger to ensure a healthy mind, body and soul when older. We all should take care of ourselves all through our lives.
Looking after yourself and tending to your needs, health and soul is very important and a good investment for your own future. Later on in life you may be required by God and the world to do some thing very worthy, yet you have no vision of this now, in the future you will need a good mind, good health to get by and to measure up in the work of God.
So, please know that your health and needs being met are very important to God, and that God wants you healthy in all ways possible. But, please be aware that an insecure, person in Survival mode, a people pleaser and such, will not desire to put themselves first, and if you fit any of those groups, you need to, for your own sake and your future, to break out of the habit of missing out and overdoing life for others, and sacrificing for others.
Please be aware of your own situation, how you feel, what you know that you are missing out in life that you know that you need but are missing out to please or help other people.
Put your needs first to make sure that you are healthy in mind, body and soul. If people require that you sacrifice for them, stand up to them and say that you have needs that much be tended to as well, and they can look after their own selves as they are adults as well.
Sacrifice is an honourable thing that we do for other people for a short while, but not for the long run. When you go without for others, they need to respect your life, mind, body and soul, and recognise that anything that they expect you to do for them or to go without for them, is only ever short-term to give them enough time to sort their lives and lot out, and then they are on their own. Be clear about that.
Sacrificing for others, and going without, for others hurts you, harms you over the long run, and causes you to be less of a person now, as you are not running at full health and are in some way struggling to cope – and in the state of struggling to cope you are incapable of being the best person that you need to be for your children, or for yourself and anything that you do, like work, or take part in.
You will always have self-doubts about yourself, and God, and life, if you are struggling, you will never feel like you are coping, nor will you feel strong, courageous or who you want to be while you are giving your best for others but not for yourself.
God see’s the diamond and the great person who you are not because you are struggling, because you are doing too much and sacrificing too much for other people and that causes you to suffer in healthy, body and soul.
God also see’s what the sacrificing that you are doing today and the harm this is doing for your future. You and I, we need to be very aware, that God has our best interests in mind, and God is trying to make us very aware that we are important, needed and wanted by God, and will be capable worthy people who will have hopes, and desire a worthy better life, because we know that we are worth it as God’s humble loving children.
Please know your worth, take care of yourself, and if your needs are not being met, see this article as a sign for you to see to it that your needs are being met even if others must have to go without your going without for them.
Anyone expecting you to suffer for them, even family, don’t have your best interests in heart, they only are thinking only of themselves, be wise for your own sake and health, forget them, put them behind you, and do as God wishes, look after you, meet your needs, care for your Mind, Body and Soul.
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