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Kindness Without God is Faked
Kindness without God is fake, but those who are living detached from the real meaning of kindness have no idea that their version of love, compassion, and kindness is not how deeply caring we could be – they live a version of kindness that satisfies their reality that they have created as non believers in God.
Without God in a persons mental thinking he or she will create a form of love, tenderness, friendliness, that is not genuine, but to the receiver and the non-godly friendly person it feels like a genuine kind emotion, it feels comfortable, it feels nice.
I used to write about that nice feeling people get when dating. He is putting on an act, she is putting on an act. They both wear clothing and creams, makeup, and such, to impress, and to hide their real character. But even though both can be nasty, or only one is a narcissist, the communication, the gentle touches, the kind, supportive, encouraging words seem to be of real love, kindness, gentle and what appears to be an encouraging fruitful relationship. Yet, it is faked by both parties.
Without God, the acting of kindness, love, and so forth are tools to be used to give an impression, a false impression, of one’s character being those things, like kind, compassionate and so on.
The young woman in the frog story was completely in love with the young man, and desperately wanted to share her love for him with him. He picks up a stone, throws it at the frog and kills it. Instantly she realizes that all his kind words, actions, friendliness, romantic acts, were from a man who knows not love, thus he could not give her love.
He knows not that he does not know what love is. He has read books, stories, and such, and his parents when they dropped him off at childcare, school etc, the babysitters, always said, “I love you.” and when they did he felt good, so here he is wanting to kiss, hug, fondle, and have sex with this very pretty young female, he feels that he must love her in the same way that his parents taught him that they love him. He thinks that being neglected, put aside, the odd hug, and partial concern, partial commitment, partial responsibility is actually genuine heartfelt love.
Because this is all that he has ever known.
There was a young woman who whatever relationship she went in, starting from incest with her mother, she got on the good side of her romantic partner by doing foul sexual things with that person.
In her home as a child her mother and her did such things, and her mother called this love, genuine mother-daughter love, and that others did not understand such a love.
The young girl fully accepted that being used, abused, mistreated as a sex toy was normal, decent, moral and good, and she had a deep desire to protect and honour her mother.
But her mother liked her daughter doing certain dirty sexual acts, and it greatly pleased the mother when her daughter did them. Thus, when the daughter grew up, had lesbian girlfriends, she gladly and happily did those filthy acts with them fully believing that she was just passing on love and genuine care tot he other person.
The daughter decided in her twenties to become heterosexual, and in that mentality she still did the foul sexual acts because she still had the habit and mentality that when those dirty acts were performed on another person they were acts showing genuine love and care for that other person, and when her boyfriends and husband was overwhelmed with joy, she felt very, very pleased with herself that she had pleased him so well and made him want, appreciate and desire her.
Children grow up dealing with the life that their parents gave them, and any acts of kindness and pleasure that the child gets from the parent/s is assumed in the child’s childish trusting way to be genuine love, care and kindness.
This is the version of Kindness and Love the child will bring with he or she into adulthood, and will expect other people to apreciate and enjoy this version of love and kindness.
This is why when people are using Atheist Ungodly versions of kindness on you, they are not happy with you when you don’t appreciate what they assume to be love and kindness, sacrifice and good behaviour towards you.
But if you were brought up in a wholesome family, the ungodly kindness and love are to you, meanness, partial love, kindness with a price and so on, all this the ungodly person is not equipped mentally to understand, thus they know not what they have done wrong, and they tend to see the Godly Empathetic person as the one who is in the wrong.
We deal with life when we are adults, basically as our parents dealt with us. Thus if our parents were atheists or so-called acting religious people who were part-time parents or sexually abused, mentally abused, or emotionally abused their young, the children grow into adults thinking that the cold way they were treated is love, true care, decency, and good parenting, thus when they get into a relationship they treat those people the very same way, and if they are unkind, not responsible and so on, they still see themselves as completely reconcilable and kind, compassionate people.
God’s ways are about complete responsibility, knowing yourself truly, facing yourself truly, it is about true repentance.
The reason why a simple apology is accepted these days so easily, is because when the parents went out to party or whatever they would say to the child, “I am sorry, but I has to go out!” and the parent gives a hug that means nothing because the parent is keen to leave the child and party, and the kind words are simply to shut up the child so the parent can get going.
If the child’s mother screams and yells at he or she, the child is very emotionally hurt, feels scared sometimes, but the parent, see’s the fear or sadness in the child’s face, and reassures the child with kind comments, a quick apology, and says things like, “I am sorry, mother sometimes does this, please forgive me.” and she fully expects a cheap quick apology will sort things out between her and the child because she is a mother.
And the suffering child male thinks that when he is an adult he can do this, rant, rave, break things, be cruel with words, and then simply apologise all is good again, while the daughter learns that she too as a female adult can freak out, and a quick apology, a hug and all is well again.
The parent who misbehaves who does not see wrong in their behaviour will also see themselves as innocent and will play the victim easily, because they really don’t see that they have done any wrong.
Most parents don’t realise that they can change a child’s life-path and character being subjected to toxic, immature, irresponsible parenting, and the huge amount of harm they do by being part-time parents.
Children are not stupid, they learn from their parents behaviours and fake apologies, then as adults repeat this in their relationships. The child becomes a toxic adult because the child was taught to be toxic, that being dysfunctional and toxic are acceptable in marriage ad relationships, and that making cheap, weak, excuses and fast apologies are all acceptable and seen as healing.
The problem is that as 2-5 decades of immoral, indecent, corrupt, irresponsible parenting goes on, it creates billions of children who grow up not knowing love, and not knowing God, and them becoming replica’s of Plastic-Love, cut, shaped, formed, and made to look, feel, seem, and act out love, but it is merely a cheap copy of love.
Thus, a male and female date, she is fake, he is fake, they commit, mate, have children, then when they break up because they know not God, nor Love, they blame each other.
Kindness Without God is faked, and those who fake it are not aware that they are faking it, because they have never experienced genuine reconcilable love, or parents that are wholesome and fully committed to the upbringing of their young.
We need to study the word, Responsible, and then be true to ourselves, and ask ourselves, “Am I really Responsible, or am I lying to myself and faking responsibility to others?” Am I pretending to be responsible so that other people will be impressed by my pretending?
If our relationships don’t work out, and others always say that we are this and that, may be there is some truth in what they say, or even some blame that we should own that we refuse to admit we are to blame for.
If we had a parent that we related to the most who was evasive, said all the right words, acted as if he or she cared, was seemingly responsible, but when was not responsible made a joke out of it, or seemed clever as he or she avoided being caught out and such, this person can seem funny, a hero, someone who gets things done, thus this parent must be someone to emulate, to copy, to become.
Thus, what the parents are, the children become.
But, because the children read about love, about responsible parenting, about relationships, commitment, they give that same faked love and care that was given to them as children.
Atheism or life without God is called cold because it is a fake version of real love.
I have met many people who don’t know God yet completely believe that they are good decent kind people.
Atheism is a Belief System where lying to your own self is very acceptable, to believe that you are kind, loving, caring and so forth and are not these things is acceptable.
A person may read a book by a good decent person, and they think that they too must be the hero in their own life, thus they must be good decent folk as well, but without that pesky life-limiting God stuff.
God, to the careless, atheist and such, is a Belief System that takes away fun, that is limiting, not enjoyable. This is because they have been brought up to believe that casual, careless, faked happiness, selfishness, partial love, irresponsibility, is the good times, fun. Basically, the atheist mind has no boundaries, and that is what makes it so dangerous to good decent living. In science the atheist has not ethics, or boundaries to stop the scientist from harmful activities done int he name of science and money.
You may have noticed that those who are not believers in God, are very loud about how unfair, cruel life is, and how they are always the victims of other people being unfair to them. But you see, they are always with people like them with the same carelessness, the ungodly, and those people know not God, thus they know not love, thus they know not how to be honest, compassionate, understanding. And so on.
The ungodly want to reap all the rewards of good decent honest wholesome people have, but live as the ungodly. Their proud immature thinking has them thinking that because they are born, they should have free choice, should be able to treat people as they feel fit to do so, but also be honestly, lovingly treated themselves by everyone else, thus they complain that life is unfair while they fellowship, marry, live with, work with, unfair dishonest people.
An example is people who admire James Bond who is careless with life and women and call him a hero, or they admire the irresponsible careless sorts, copy their characters, and then cannot understand why people don’t admire he or she like they admire their heroes.
The bikers in movies, magazines and books look tough, big he-men, righteous, and so on, and yet when the guy joins the gang he gets arrested for selling drugs or raping some woman and says that life is not fair, he was just having good times with “the brothers” etc.
Thus, the ungodly have a belief system in those minds that tells them that life is fair, that people are good, honest, kind, loving, and that good loving relationships exist and forever marriage etc, but they also in their other mental half, they assume that even while they do, act, behave dishonest, narcissistic, manipulative, and so on, they are really nice people and all people should like them.
The people who are ungodly are of Two-Minds, and are Two-Faced in reality, and live under Many Hats (Different Characters for Different Occasions), such as the Pastor preaching about love and being a narcissist at home, or the school teacher treating her children unfairly while being fair to the children at school.
To change the world we need to change ourselves.
We cannot change ourselves unless we are brave enough to recognize that we are broken, corrupt, have faults, lie to ourselves, are fake, abusive and so on.
Life cannot get better for ourselves until be become better people ourselves.
I would say unintentionally (although parents love for their children to turn out just like them because they see themselves as worthy people and good parents) parents create a Life-Pattern in the child that the child grows up believing that what he or she has Experienced from their own Parents as Real-Life, that this is the Pattern-of-Life that the child must become.
It is that old saying, ‘Monkey see, monkey do!’
Children live with their parents and completely soak up the characters of their parents and their child-minds (remember they are immature and learning) take from each parents and other adults what each child assumes to be good, useful, worthy, and they become that.
All the very things that the non believers want in life, what they complain about in life, what they complain that they wish other people would be, they themselves are not, and the problem is a non-stop constant lying to themselves about how good and decent that they are, and about the wholesome life they really believe that they should get.
i.e: They fake kindness, yet they expect genuine kindness back.
It is said by many that you get what you give out – but if the person lies to herself and thinks that she is genuine, good, worthy, innocent, and so on, then believes that she deals with people in a good way, and has the right to rough people up if she “needs” to, and becomes very upset when she is taken to task for being mean, but her atheist life has taught her that narcissism is kindness. To her, being made responsible and being called unkind is not a fair way to treat such a person as her.
Genuine kindness is genuine, not faked, not someone lying to themselves that he or she is a good decent person.
The Truth is that the Good News is not a Doctrine, but it is a Positive way of life, where if you are in a community of good honest decent people you will get that good honest decent living in return as you give it out.
You Get What You Deserve. People say this all the time, yet treat people bad and then complain when bad things happen to them.
You want God to be truthful, faithful, honest, and all the good things that you expect of God, yet you are lying to yourself that you are these things yourself?
A Godly lifestyle is a lifestyle where you take great steps to be a good decent human being, and you don’t pretend that you are. You actually are compassionate, you actually are helping people, and when someone is in desperate need, you will help.
With the ungodly helping others works in percentages, thus they will give only a certain amount of money away, and they will help with only a certain amount of time of their lives and they will care only a certain amount of time in their lives, they don’t realise that they are supposed to always care, always be compassionate. Always love, always help and so on.
With those who follow God, kindness often comes with much prayer, like asking for guidance, help, and at other times it is indistinctive, a desire to help in an immediate situation, to take control and deal with the situation as it is important to you that it is done now.
With the ungodly kindness is based on the sciences, mental illness teachings, political stances, how expensive it is to be kind, and so on. I remember protests that a man was to be taken off a liver machine due to it being expensive, but to take him off the machine meant hat he would die, but they still did it and he did die for that reason.
People when they mistreat other people can see the mistreatment as kindness in an ungodly way.
The Good Samaritan story is about unconditional kindness.
But the ungodly may see it as wise removing a human race or animals to make their own situation better, or in a cold thinking way it is assumed it will be better, like the mass slaughter of the Jews in the Second World War, Hitler didn’t kill the Jews on his own, the people told the SS where they were hiding, who were Jews, who to remove, and the civilians also became guards in the concentration camps and supported the cause of eliminating the world of a human race, others have done this as well with public support.
Teaching without the heart is seen as not worthy to many.
Logic without using heartfelt feelings is a cold way to make decisions and come to the conclusion that the “kindness” is a good thing, when in reality it is cold cruelty, mean, sadistic and so on.
When people are brought up in homes where the parents fake (but don’t know that they fake) love, kindness and compassion, the child grows into an adult that does the very same, then becomes a scientist, teacher, preacher, and because he or she does not have empathy and mercy, he or she will use cold calculated thinking in the work place.
When society is heavily based on education degree’s, exams, titles, financial situations, and where people fit in the ‘classes’ (Lower Class, Middle Class, Wealthy etc), the mass acceptance that your worth and that good is in what you have, can gain, are adored, liked, accepted, that society will, in mass, become ungodly and fully assume that he or she is actually kind, loving and has all the attributes that the godly and true followers of God’s ways have.
This is mass, well accepted, delusions, people lying to themselves about their lives characters, actions, beliefs, and how they treat others. Such as the narcissist is bullying someone at work but assumes that he or she treating the suffering person this way because ‘it is for their own good’, this is a lie that people who bully and mistreat others tell themselves to feel good and just about how bad they treat others.
And when you confront such a bully, he or she will freak out and get angry at being called out as a bad person, even if his or her cruelty is obvious.
Why has godliness become a bad word and Satanism become the power that it has become?
People who are ungodly still want to think that they are good, even when they are not good and not fair, and that is why they deny that they are more like Satan than like God. Deluded people have a version of themselves that they feel is good-enough, and then they see themselves as this person, even when they are not like who they think that they are.
The power of Satan has grown because the people refuse to admit alliance to Satan, but that refusal does not affect who they really are. when people refuse to admit Satan or Evil is there, they will not protect themselves from Satan and Evil.
They behave satanically, foolishly, self destructively, and then they complain that if God really existed then God would give them what they want, what they deserve, a better life.
A lot has to do with religions causing people to see them as fake, hypocrites, cruel, bad, and so on. We are given a bad image from people who have lost their connection with God, thus they teach us of a god that they formed, believe in, and that is on ‘their side’ and not non-believers side.
Others create fears with, “I am a believer and I am not going to Hell, but you are a non-believer so you are going to Hell.”
With the loss of connection to God, we lost, as an entire human race, the meaning of God, thus the lifestyle of being Godly.
Without that connection, a newly educated, logical, rational, people came up with a lifestyle that is in many ways good, that has no god in it, and that became a comfort zone, all dressed up in our minds as fairness, good, decent, that became very unfair, indecent, immoral, and tends to reward and protect many of the bad people, and a bad version of justice is passed out.
Without our Truth with God, words and their true meanings changed, and when the human without God didn’t know the meaning of words, they simply created new meanings that were similar to the old ones, like the word Kindness.
Notice how immorality, cruelty (like Narcissist leaders are rewarded), are now seen as a person expressing his or her rights, and that being a porn star, prostitute, gambler, are all seen as occupations now, and the ungodly world gives them respect and credit. If you are one of the few who disagree you get called a cruel person.
Replacing a words meanings to suit your own thinking does not mean that your meaning for that word is the truth, but it may suit the minds of the many people who are just like you. If the many people in a society don’t know God, then they know not what godly is, and they create their own ungodly society, and they call it good.
If we depend on God, as many say that they do, then we need to feel life as God does in the sense of having a desire to feel as others do, even those who society puts below us, because if we do, and we live as God’s heart does, then we feel the need, desire, want, and power to walk forth and help others.
To depend on someone, like a parent, we listen, we learn, we mature under this trusted guidance, and we learn what the guide shows us, we hear the wise teachings, we practice the faith that we have in God, and we practice thinking as God does in Gods way, and in this we gain the essence, the depth, the reality, the constant godly life that we are all capable of that will make the world ours again, God’s again, and not Satan’s playground.
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