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Have you known of a person hurting another person, possibly the likes of gossip, and you are there when they come across one another, and the person who did the hurting has completely talked himself or herself out of any personal guilt.
When they meet, the person who was hurt, gives the person who hurt them a dirty look or looks away in disgust, and the person who did the hurting exclaims, “What the heck is the matter with him?”
And you look at the one who was mean and are amazed that he or she cannot understand why the other person dislikes that person.
It always seems to amaze people who are or were mean, that the people who they hurt wants to avoid them and not want to see that mean person ever again.
Many people who do nasty things are Narcissistic, they see no wrong in the mean things that they do because they are Apathetic, incapable in their mental state of Narcissism of feeling guilt of seeing themselves as guilty.
Even if the person Plays the Victim, they are still a Narcissist because the person who they make fake claims against is innocent, thus they person Playing the Victim is using their sad (lies) story, to get attention, help, support and so on – all what the common Narcissist person does.
Its like people who have sex issues. If they hear gossip and lies about someone that are sex-related they eagerly believe the lies and gossip because they have their own sexual issues, but at the same time they ignore the plank in their own eye while they see the speck in the person who is being gossiped about.
Its a protection effort to see bad/evil in others, but even as they are doing the same themselves, they only see or imagine the evil in others.
Like the woman in society who has a title, money, is middle-class, she see’s herself as the image she projects to others of herself.
At home she has a sexually immoral life. But that’s behind closed doors. So when she leaves the house and is told of some person being a pervert she immediately hates him and spits out his name. And then goes home to her porn videos and toys.
People talk themselves out of feeling guilty, and they talk themselves out of believing that they are guilty. Then they do something nasty like Character Assassination and/or Gossip, and when the person who they hurt scowls at he or she the guilty person is shocked at the reaction that they got.
People call themselves honest, good, humble, yet the very fact that the person refuses to see their own guilt is being dishonest and in great error to themselves.
Honesty is facing the truth, facing our own part in what happened, owning up to what we did wrong, and then fixing it.
Facing the truth and being humble and honest is seeing the wrongs that we do, and not condemn other people for the (especially for lesser) wrongs that they do.
People in Materialistic times want an honest world, and they want people to be honest, just as long as they themselves are not bound by the Just and righteous Laws of Honesty.
They want you to pay for real or imagined crimes, just as long as they can continue their own crimes and dishonesty, be praised, honoured, adored, and this is what makes them feel good.
But because these people who don’t admit their own fault don’t feel guilt he or she will just continue to repeat the evils and bad that they do and won’t admit to doing in the future.
This is why people who go to prison, even after going through the court process to prove their guilt, are genuinely shocked when they find out that they are sentenced to prison.
Some people who do wrong will admit to themselves that they did wrong, even murder, but they will forgive themselves, and somehow they expect that the court system, judge and jury will forgive them and let them go free. And they are genuinely shocked when they are given a strong sentence of 10 or more years in prison.
I have come across people who were obviously guilty of doing harm to others, who have gone to professional therapy, and come out of it completely believing that they are innocent or they therapist has justified the persons wrongdoing so that the guilty person feels absolutely no guilt at all whatsoever.
Now imagine this, will people whoa re told by “professionals” that they are innocent when they are not innocent go on to do the same bad things to other people? Of course they will. But to many therapists and therapy its all about the person going away feeling good about themselves that is the most important thing.
If someone confronts the person who did bad for what they did, that person will just say, “But, my therapist said that I did not do anything wrong, I was justifiably reacting to the situation, so i am innocent?”, as if the therapist was part of the judicial system or a great authority of right or wrong.
It can be very hard to admit fault, but if we lie to ourselves to avoid feeling guilty, and to avoid public shame, we will just sometime int he future just do it all over again.
A person has no right to desire a Just and Honest world when he or she is not Just and Honest themselves.
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Some people have a strong belief in their own righteousness so much so that they can commit harmful acts and see no wrong in what they do.
Some people who see themselves as morally pure or “innocent” may feel justified in doing things others would consider “evil” because they believe that their ends (they believe is a “greater good”) validate any means necessary to achieve these goals.
Hitler convinced the German people, in mass, to take up arms against countries that had no chance of fighting the German superior war machine. Thus, the bombers went in to places like Poland, bombed people in their homes with senseless slaughter, and the pilots went home to Germany as heroes, and they were rewarded with fame, high ranking and medals.
While the pilots were slapping themselves on each others backs with congratulations and celebrating with alcohol and laughter, back in the country where they just bombed people were were devastated as they mourned the deaths of young ones, children, the elderly, wives, sons and daughters. Panic, fear, horror had come to these people who were living normal lives.
When people are convinced that doing evil acts is for a good worthy cause they will do these deeds without guilt, and they will do them enthusiastically, desiring to achieve their goals, and do well for themselves along the way.
Character Assassination is so successful because the general public can become frustrated with life, the laws, politics, and feeling like victims they are all too happy to take up task against an innocent person because it makes the Flying Monkeys feel important, powerful, and that they are doing what the laws won’t do.
These Flying Monkeys cannot see that they were fooled, seduced, used and abused to do evil against the innocent. They feel no guilt, just a desire to see their version of justice done. With Character Assassination the Flying Monkeys don’t need proof, or facts, they just need their pride, ego’s, angers and self-justification to ignore the faults of their own lives and just see the imagined faults in others. When people are like this, they feel that their cruel attacks on the innocent are worthy, justified, honourable and needed.
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