I learned about this about myself.
I finally had to come to the conclusion that the human is not always going to get through a day without making a mistake. Many times I have been yelled at, hit, hurt, brought to tears, confused, self-abused myself all over a mistake. So I became deeply and fiercely critical of my life and all that I did. I thought that all my critics were right, and that I was a failure of no account, of no worth and no quality to a woman or to life. When one thinks like this suicide seems like a positive option, but that is exactly what evil wants us to think.
God made us in such a way that we can make many mistakes, often even. But God also wanted us to cast them aside with only a focus on the lesson learned from the mistake so that we could improve our own life and grow as a human being.
But evil came along and caused us to think very much about mistakes and dwell on them in a negative self-defeating way. Evil plants jealous, bad and negative thoughts in people’s minds where they laugh at us, and they put us down, and they think that it is funny even when we fail a small amount, and from that we gain much insecurity, a loss of confidence and a fear of failure. Many become people-pleasers because they fear failing, always wanting to do well for everyone so that they will be thought of as in a good light. But we all know that is impossible, and more people become upset at us than happy with us if we are people-pleasers.
So I learned that I need to push aside the negative feelings of mistakes, and accept that something went wrong, and now I shall gain from experience and apply logic, common-sense, use discernment and instinct along with some prayers, and consider all of this simply a part of life and growing up.
You see in our lives evil comes along and causes us to think very much about mistakes, and evil plants thoughts in people’s minds where they laugh at us, and they put us down, and they think that it is funny when we fail a small amount, and from that we gain much insecurity, a loss of confidence and a fear of failure. Many become people-pleasers, always wanting to do well for everyone so that they will be thought of as in a good light. But we all know that is impossible, and more people become upset at us than happy with us if we are people-pleasers.
Evil wants us to accept the unacceptable, and that is that evil wants us to hate life, to hate people, to believe that we are failures, useless and hopeless. We need to understand that if we think that we are useless and failures then we are hopeless to the world and to God. To defeat the people of the world is to defeat God, and that is what evil is trying to do. Evil wants us to think that we are hopeless and that God cannot help us.
Please don’t listen to the negative thoughts in your own mind, and please do your best to cast aside the negative comments and thoughts of other people, especially family. Instead please understand that it is your so-called imperfectness that makes you acceptable to God, yourself and others, and what makes you prefect as a human being.
The “Human-Design” that God designed was created deliberately to be imperfect so that it would learn and grow in confidence and courage, from simple day to day living and experiences that we all face throughout our own lives.
Just as it is impossible to keep others happy all the time of even part of the time, it is also impossible to please a ever-critical mind (Our own), so it is wise to try to learn, and keep following the good loving example that we call Christ.
All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
13th of April, 2015.