People who have fears sometimes don’t know why they have fears. But when a person is afraid of something, or is afraid of doing something, then they will avoid it and by doing so they will deny themselves a normal life.
People can deny that there is a problem, or even when told that they have a problem they refuse to believe it. And in some cases other people may confuse the issue by playing the “Blame Game” or “Label” them.
Nothing can really be done to help a person until they realise that they have a problem. An important step is to come to an awakening where we discover that all is not what it should be in our life. One must not blame others for our own problems.
People who deny they have fears etc can become anxious, even chronically anxious. And as time goes by they get used to being like this. People with phobias are anxious but this can be cured.
People who struggle a lot with fears and stay at home a lot can have fears and worries of being isolated or of being alone. They worry, and they cause other people to worry about them and wonder what to do with them.
These people with fears can expand simple tasks into situations which frighten them, and this can make it very difficult to live with them. They can be frightened of being away from home or frightened of people. They may want to avoid crowds. And they can doubt their own abilities.
People with phobias can be cured. It takes time and fears need to be dealt with. The Bible mentions many times that we shouldn’t be afraid.
If a person has a part of their childhood taken away from them then they will have missed out valuable learning experiences and lessons which would have given them the basic skills to deal with adult life.
Sexual abuse, emotional abuse and toxic parenting can cause a child to lose important growing skills.
Christians need to be aware of these issues and should be able to offer help when we come across people who are in need.
We shouldn’t judge people who have many fears because it is not their fault that they have problems.
They need genuine love and help.
The human mind is a complex machine and needs to be treated carefully and encouraged the right way.
A person must learn to love themselves and believe in their worth as a part of God’s creation.
We must believe that we are worth being helped.
All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
First published – 18th of August, 2013.
