Helping People grow!

Imagine a man who God has put in a situation that worries this man and has made him very anxious, or the female pushed into a situation she has doubts about and wonders if she is doing the right thing.
Both are alone, anxious, weary, worried and not sure of the outcome of what they are going through.
Your help Mate is there to help you through such things, and you are no longer alone. She is maternal and gently soothing to him and he is manly, masculine and protective, both have their weaknesses and both help the other with their strengths.

This Help Mate is the person who “meets” you in all situations and helps you through them.

Even when you act angry, lose your cool, say unkind things, demonstrate bad behaviour, this person will help you get over what you are going through and you will appreciate and love them the more for it, because you have someone who calms the situation down and cools you down at the same time while treating you with respect as he or she realizes that they too sometimes have melt-downs and say the wrong things, and while this behaviour is frowned upon it can sometimes happen as we get overwhelmed with life, but with someone who understands you these melt-downs happen less often as you become more and more secure in the relationship and feel you belong.

Love is all about helping each other through each day, making life as good as it can be for the both of you and enjoying the experience of the relationship at your side hand-in-hand, letting the pleasure of genuine love take you to places emotionally where you could never go or be as a single selfish person.

The hard times in marriage, the struggles, the learning to depend on the other, both depending on God, is all about bonding as one. If the going gets tough then you hold on harder to your godly given Help Meet, and together you weather it through side by side as it should be and as you were both designed as male and female to do. The strength of each other becomes the power of each other as one. And few will want to take you both on as they know you both as a Godly formidable pair who get things done.

Your Help Mate has characteristics that you don’t have, and in your differences you make the other stronger and powerful, because together you are a new creature in Christ, joined for God’s purpose, joined for love, joined for each other.

Your Help Meet is the person who is there to make the wonderful innocent loving feelings you had about love, marriage, and romance as a child come true. The whole innocent feeling that made you want a marriage as a child was the original dream God installed in you when you were young that ungodly people take from us as we grow older. Your Help Mate is there to make them come true and to help you have a Godly based marriage of all that is good in Love. If you both know Love, then the both of you know God, and if you know God your marriage will be Blessed and made in Heaven to be heaven on Earth.

Because you both plan together you share both of your dreams at once in your lives, and if one of you must miss out on your dreams for a while the other will ensure that sometime soon in the future your dreams will be brought up and made to come true as well. Life, love and friendship is about sharing, both must experience the feeling of safety, security and contentment that the other feels.

Your Help Mate feels as you do about you as you do about your Help Mate, and in being like that both strive, and I do say “joyfully strive” to bringing about each others dreams – this is true equality. It is all about needing each other and not being ashamed to say that you need the other while also saying that this person is where you belong and where you will stay.

To have genuine love both must surrender to the heart of the other and give their all, love, body and soul, and know that they will be treated lovingly, decently, respectfully and compassionately.

Life becomes a fun filled competition to make the other happy while also treating each other with deep loving respect. Good times are had from planning as two with the same fun filled serious goals, equally yoked means equally guided by God while equally minded about your lives together, parenthood, and in general life itself.
The children are treated by both respectfully, decently, because that is how good decent parents treat their young.

Your help mate is the person who comforts you in times of need, especially desperate times of need.
The idea is that life is hard, and can be emotional, fearful and we can feel really alone, hopeless, helpless, lost, and we can really wonder what we are doing. Sometimes life just does not look clear or so easy to understand.

God made he and she as partners for life, best friends, to travel through each day side by side, eager to please each other and eager to help each other.

Imagine you have found some devastating news and you come home and hug your cat, or cry alone on the couch knowing that all your ‘friends” are pretentious, fair-weather friends, so you cry alone.
Now imagine this. You get the bad news and dash into the arms of your best friend, the lover God gave you, and you feel loved, comforted, needed, understood, and from that moment on you feel the healing process as whatever is upsetting you is being dealt with deep within you and no words were spoken, you are just being held in the most trusted arms you have ever known, the help meet/mate that God gave you.

God realized that man alone, or woman alone, will find life very hard and will struggle, so God gave us a person who will make the traveling much smoother. Someone who we can bounce ideas off, can listen to, can hug when there are not words and we just want deep physical comforting, and when the mind is just too caught up in what is happening in our life that life-partner take us to bed and gives us that overwhelming soothing pleasure that takes away all our worries, fears and anxiety and we drift off to contented sleep in their arms knowing that everything is going to be alright.

The help meet is the person who also hears God, and because you hear God and your lover does, when you get flustered and your worries and fears get between you and God your lover will offer God’s advice because you are no in a ready state of mind to get that advice.

Having a person who you can totally trust, love, have faith in, means you have the person who is the life you wish that the world was, honest, true, faithful, loving, compassionate and yours, only yours.

This person is the closest spiritually that you will find as you in the world. This person is your match, and when you lack courage then this person will be your courage along side of you and you will be that persons helper and courage as well. You compliment each other in all ways, but I think that the most amazing thought is that there is no more loneliness, no more tears shed alone, no more wanting someone there in your arms, no more self doubts because your lover cares too much to allow you to dislike yourself and will help you believe in yourself and grow as an individual alongside the person who you want to feel safe and loved just as you do.

You can’t get so angry at God because you have a person who you love, trust and respect at your side explaining God to you just as you do for her/him, its like that.
Whatever is lacking in you at any given time in your life he or she will be the person who will fill in the gaps in your life and mind steering you closer to God and your better-self, as it should be.

With you God-given lover your life becomes a journey for two, an experience that has its ups and downs, but you will always have someone at your side to let you know that you are not alone, that you are heard, cared for, needed, wanted, and your voice and what you feel, and want to say is always important, understood and heard.

You and your Help Meet are both gardeners, who take the damaged goods handed to them by God and help each other grow, become mature, bloom in each others own special way, and shining separately yet heavenly glowing as one.

Alongside of this is the pleasure you give each other in heart, emotions, and in sex.
You were made to pleasure each other, to lift your partner up when he or she is feeling down, and to sexually deeply satisfy and with that love create new life, which will grow in a loving environment as all children should do, respected, loved cared for, understood and encouraged. Take away your Help Mate and you feel empty. lost, alone even in a crowd, and wishing that your loving partner was back with you.
your life situation does not count, all that counts is that your other half is there, because with your Help Meet you feel unashamedly secure, content and where you belong.

Your Help Mate was put in your life to help you through life while you help you help Mate through life. Together as one.

All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
29th of November, 2021.