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The song was tainted by the album cover that should never have been allowed by the record company and caused strife.
https://youtu.be/ujx8PhP3Rks

Come down off your throne means come off your high horse, because as long as your ego, pride and vanities own you, you will never recognize your own faults or your own addictions, or maybe even our own evils. One must look deep within to find themselves so deeply in fact that the truth will set them free.
Ain’t got the time could mean – I am going to die, or getting old and die, or something definite and possibly destructive is on the way and time is important.
The one who holds the key is the reason why he has been waiting so long and suffering. The key-holder must change and this has the same effect as unlocking the door to the problem and setting them free.

Come down off your throne and leave your body alone.
Somebody must change.
You are the reason I've been waiting so long.
Somebody holds the key.

But I'm near the end and I just ain't got the time
And I'm wasted and I can't find my way home.

Come down on your own and leave your body alone.
Somebody must change.
You are the reason I've been waiting all these years.
Somebody holds the key.

Your life is your own life. You choose what to believe, and what boundaries you want to protect the life you want, and values that you believe in.

Weak-minded people like to pressure us into following their rules and lifestyle. The pressure is uncomfortable, it is supposed to be uncomfortable because that is the result of being bullied. They use tactics like guilt, shame, and narcissist bullying, to get us to become like they are. Especially if we once were like them in the past.

But we pay the price for their bully tactics if we give in. And we lose respect for ourself, we feel ashamed and weak-minded if we give in – giving in is just not worth it, and “giving in it should never be an option”.

The best idea when people put the big-pressure on is to cut-off conversation and the relationship with that person/s. Otherwise they will just make you feel miserable. Respect yourself, and demand that they respect your lifestyle, your feelings, your boundaries and your beliefs.

There is no bullying in love, remember that. Even family can become bullies. Please never let family, friends, abuse your relationship with them, because after a while they will get used to it and then accept that can push you around all the time – and they get very upset when you don’t follow them.

Be strong and firm from the start. It is your life.

All the best from

James M Sandbrook.
2015.

This is the time of year when a lot of relationships breakup, and others are created.

The whole idea about creating boundaries and being very strong and firm on them is to know who you are, what you demand of yourself and your life, who you want to associate with, and what type of future that you desire to have regardless of what the world throws at you.

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You see, in the past the parents brought up their children with good values and taught the children what to look for in a partner that they would have for life. So the parents showed the children, and young teenagers, over a period of years the results of a decent life and the results of a careless life. The parents themselves lived that good example. And the parents taught the children that both lifestyles had a price and rewards.

Once a young person had a set of personal life goals set on a good foundation of good parenting they knew who they would tolerate in their life, and what they wouldn’t tolerate. In other words they were young, with strong boundaries, and not fools that would be easily seduced to foolishness with their lives.

The result was long lasting, happy marriages, and good children from those marriages.

A person can go to a party with alcohol and drug abuse as the normal activities and will (in the state of being stoned or drunk – not able to think clearly and caught up in the party atmosphere) see a physically attractive person who is stoned or drunk and “hitch-up” for the evening for some fun, just possibly the night, and even maybe for the weekend. It is all “hit and miss” and extremely illogical, based on the party habits etc.

But the most scary part is that before they have any idea about the other persons character they have sex (they don’t even know if the other person has a sexual disease). Then as the days go by they find out bits and pieces about each others character. But if the sex is something that they both like, the sex can hold them together for a while (or if they are insecure and clingy, or she becomes pregnant) and a bitter and angry relationship can be the result.

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The point I am making is that many relationships these days are “hit and miss”, and people just hope that something meaningful and sexual will come from the relationship. But because the two don’t have a good strong foundation of good values under them their personal character flaws, emotional turmoils, previous relationship baggage, insecurities, etc will destroy the relationship. This is why there are so many relationship breakups and divorces in these times.

The reality is also that they truly don’t know one another at all. And that is why after 5 years together, they have a couple of children, and one realises that he or she doesn’t like the other person much at all. And from that point the relationship turns sour, destroying the happiness of the children and bitter breakups destroy the relationship of the parents. The one who is now disliked asks in shock, “What changed your mind about me? What have I done wrong?” etc, but the truth is that one of them woke up to what the other persons character is really like.

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I found my ex-wife in a drinking environment, and I was really desperate for someone to care for me and love me. I had just been dumped from one relationship, and I thought that I needed someone to keep me feeling that I was wanted, to keep me secure and safe. The reality was that I was so miserable and unconfident in my marriage. Lesson learned.

If you want yourself, your future children or current children to have a happy life, you need to teach yourself and them about boundaries so that they won’t take a risk with someone that they know nothing about. I have to say that honestly a 5 year relationship that is miserable does a lot to damage a person’s self confidence, happiness and personal self esteem.

The whole idea about creating boundaries and being very strong and firm on them is to know who you are, what your limits are, what you demand of yourself and your life, who you want to associate with, and what type of future that you desire to have regardless of what the world throws at you.

All the best from

James M Sandbrook.
2015.

In healthy relationships all people respect one another’s views.

There is no slavery in love.

There is no domineering love relationship. Love is equal opportunity, a well balanced relationship where both cares whether the other has a say.

Both people want to hear what the other has to offer in any conversation. Love and respect brings forth fast apologies and just as fast forgiveness. Love is like that.

If someone holds some form of control or power over someone else and enforces this power, this is not love – this is not love from a caring heart and soul.

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For various reasons a person can find ways to convince themself that the person that they love (partner, mother and father etc) is hard on them because they care, or because they love them so, or because they are unworthy of anything better. Accepting a narcissist as a lover will not make anyone happy. Narcissists don’t know what genuine love is.

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We are all worthy of a new beginning and a chance at a life of freedom. Any form of control, bullying, slavery, power over a person is signs of an unhealthy relationship that will only bring misery in the future.

The only escape is to realize that something is wrong when people say that they love us but are constantly directing our life. We must face the fact that we could be being abused and manipulated by someone we love, and and that the only way to freedom is to get away from the power controller/narcissistic person.

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Why must you get away?

Because under that person’s guidance you cannot gain self confidence and courage because they have an illness that they cannot stop themselves from using on you.

You can love them, you can trust the promises of change that they make, but bullies, controllers, narcissistic types won’t keep them, they can’t help themselves, they are mentally troubled and have false beliefs that they live by.

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We find that we have to get tough on ourself and stand up to the other people and then take back our life. Then no matter what they say to you, you must now get away. If you don’t get away life will just continue to be miserable for you and you will never get the chance to grow in confidence or courage because they guide your life.

You must guide your own life. Only then can you find freedom. That is what we are born to experience, freedom to choose, freedom to live our own way, freedom to form our own views, freedom from tyranny, freedom to experience life as an adventure, and to reach out to others freely and happily shining your internal positive light for all to see.

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All the best from

James M Sandbrook.

August 29, 2014.

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