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31st-7-2025
Get it stuck in your head that TV and Movies are depictions of real life heavily dramatized so that the entertainment is exiting and makes lots of money.
Meals, dinner time, taking 90 minutes long in the past was because there was no TV, none or limited radio, few movies or none, and people talked to each other over dinner.
The biggest failure they say in modern marriage is “Lack of Communication”, each feeling less respected, not listened to, not taken seriously and so on.
There are many movies and TV programs where the family are not allowed to speak at dinner time, or the mother or father was a tyrant dictating over the meal in a mean way, these are all Hollywood meals to create excitement or a desire to hate a person, etc.
With Real-Life Meals taking 90 minutes or so the meals were big, hearty, everything cooked and baked on that day, thus the woman’s part was very important as she put together the table of food that would create the family communication.
I have read that while everyone ate, they got through the food with no talk, and then one the food was eaten they talked.
With big healthy hearty meals was everyone fat?
No, the children walked miles to school if they went to a school or they worked the land with the father or prepared food and the house with the mother. By the time dinnertime arrived they were all very hungry from all working so hard all day. They got the big healthy dinner they deserved.
After eating the conversation flowed, or while eating, depended on the family as far as I can tell.
The parents talked about the latest news, developments, discussions about important things happening with the family. Each child spoke of their day, everyone listens, each person big or small was respected, valued and their views listened to, and of course arguments would arise, but the parents would rule over the table keeping the conversation light, important, respectful and informative.
If one of the young adults had liked someone of the opposite gender for possible marriage that was discussed, because each member of the often big family knew someone who knew that person, had heard stories, knew something of that family and so on, and this all helped the person get a bigger picture of the prospect for marriage.
If one wanted to start a business, everyone from the eldest to the youngest made comments, they all learned something from these long dinnertime’s, interesting facts, folklore, stories, and sometimes they told historical or just stories to the rest of the family causing good feelings, laughter, and a desire to look forward to the next meal.
Adolf Eichmann was obviously an evil person, very cold, very apathetic, yet not (it seems) in his own views.
He reminds me of what i have learned from the people participating in the Character Assassination and in particular the Weasel and the other males who are abusers, but probably see themselves as wonderful males.
If manipulator-type’s can convince people that the wrong thing to do is the right thing to do they will gladly take part, and not see themselves as doing any wrong at all. Narcissist’s have a way of seeing that the evil practices that they do are actually good and decent needed things that will in the long run cause peace and good.
So if a Dictator formed an alliance with Narcissists then the person who controls them will have their devotion and support, because in general they all think and abuse people thinking that they are actually good people while they do it. Narcissist are apathetic, and the perfect army for evil people to control while all the while the Narcissists assume with pride and ego that they are in control.
Kind of like a dictator going into a country, taking it over by war, slaughtering millions, and then restoring law and order as a dictator and seeing himself or herself as a hero saving the people. All the people supporting the dictator would be of the same deluded mind of the dictator.
Its a delusion that fools the narcissist manipulator and fools the victims as well who obey the people controlling them.
I have written before that I don’t think that we are supposed to go to a nation and save it, because the people are supposed to save themselves. If they are conformers, weak-minded, a change of government rarely does any real good, because the state of mind of those who were beaten into submission will still be weak and easily beaten into submission again.
This is why the beaten wife will marry abuser after abuser, she is so used to being beaten into submission she no has the mind of inability to cope, is ashamed of herself, and tends to not think that she deserves any better, so she goes back to where she knows she will be beaten.
Her mind has been weakened and she has no idea how to be strong anymore, even to protect herself or her children.
The only reason that China is Communist is because the people allow it, the only reason why a dictator is in control is because the people of that country do nothing about it. The only reason why the beaten wife remains in the home of a wife-beater is because she stays, is rescued and then rushes back to the person who beats her.
Hitler, and modern political people, Narcissists, abusers and such, have discovered that they can be evil, get away with it, as long as those who they control and those who they abuse, agree with their control over them and submit and conform without any resistance.
Adolf Eichmann may have seen himself as doing normal business work, being a normal person, and such – but the point that got him hung by the neck was the results of his work rather than his own opinion of his work.
This is why you see all those videos on the Internet of people about to be sentenced actually (many are women) believing that they won’t go to prison, and then when it is announced by the judge that they will serve time in prison the person stares with complete shock at he outcome of the evil/bad deeds that they did.
Reminds me of Two-Gun Cowley who believed that he was always innocent and only killed because he had to, even though the morning he wrote that he killed a Police Officer who merely pulled him over for a traffic offense.
Bad people always see themselves as good people, doing bad things for the good of many. This is why they call the Jews in Germany “The Jewish Problem, or “Jewish Question,” and by calling it that they stated that there was a problem that needed dealing with, and exterminating the problem became easier, and they set to it.
When the people who re conforming to evil, get used to being controlled, even abused, the habits set in as well as acceptance, and they learn not to fight the evil, but just to accept it as a way of life.
If you are right now participating in evil, yet others and yourself have dressed it up to be palatable, easier to submit to, easier to swallow, even allowed yourself to be talked in to it being a good decent thing to do, you will participate in evil assuming you are innocent and just dealing with a problem. But when you are caught, you will be treated as evil, doing bad, and guilty.
Many people were shot, many hung, for participating side by side with the Third Reich or as part of the Third Reich, and while they did evil they felt that they were good people, jsut doing a job, just taking care of business, and when they were convicted of doing evil many were surprised and felt that they had been misunderstood, were being unfairly treated, even though they didn’t give their victims a chance.
When people push us into Survival Mode via abuses, we tend to push them away because we tire or fear their influence in our life. Its like a thorn, we pluck it out because it is hurting the body, and then we throw it away because we don’t want that thorn to hurt us again. Its a natural reaction to being abused.
We are taught by the thorn to dislike it and not want it near us.
Clever snealky abusers abuse people but pretend to be their protectors, and the abused victim clings on to them instead of discarding them, and even though the abuse can go for decades, the victim never rationally connects the abuse with the abuser. Thus the thorn remains in the victims side and the victim endlessly suffers.
Born Again and Repentance was the God invented process of the abused victim forgiving the abuser when the victim completely changes his or her life for the better, turns over a new leaf and shows publicly that he or she is worthy of being trusted, forgiven, and loved.
This was a world war 2 Japanese war torture.
See, the older generations walking around bent over struggling, yet in the distant people of the same age were furiously working doing hard physical work.
When both parents are immature, in Survival Mode, then the children will grow up broken inside, their learning in pieces like the survival instincts, fears, violence, all mixed together, and this forms the child’s thinking, and they become like their broken parents.
If the parents spit up, the mother will more than likely keep running back to the man who abuses her and her children, thus the authorities have to take the children off her because she won’t leave him and become sane, capable and mature.
The short life of the children has been broken, fragmented, disrupted, and the children have to think of survival thoughts, and stuff that only adults should be thinking, and this interrupts the normal growth of the children. If they are sexually abused they have to think about that, adult thinking forced into immature child minds, causing disruption in the child’s upbringing/mind/soul.
Later on, because the official established health systems have no idea how to help them, the children can be put in care, on drugs, and asked to be nice and respect the adults around them.
But its like being brought up as a fighter, and all the conflicts you ever had were violent in some way, if you enter a non-violent home you will still remain violent because you know no other way to be, thus you remain as you were taught early in life, and in the future even if the person is calmed down for some years, a violent answer reappears in their minds and they hurt someone in a verbal argument with fists.
There is a family I know, we argued about their son going on Ritalin. A couple of years later the father told me that he tried his sons drugs and decided he liked them too, they made him feel calm, so he got it official that he had ADHD like his son and he needed the drugs, and the family doctor is only too pleased to diagnose and supply.
The child-son went on drugs because the parent’s could not control him, thus they needed a way to calm him down. The father never taught the son discipline, self control, or lessons of life or how to cope or deal with life. The father’s own father was the same.
One of the well known side effects of Ritalin in male adults is violence.
Recently the wife told me that she is on antidepressants. The smallest sons spends all day watching TV, he seldom comes out of the house , as he is addicted to it, and the parents don’t mind and find his behaviour remarkable.
Both parents read some of what I have written about mental health, drugs, ADHD and such and said that I am crazy, while their family is dependent on something and unable to live/cope without it, whilst I can walk away from any addictions or addictive medicine or behaviours.
The main reason, it seems, that they think that they are free-thinkers and doing what is right for the family and each other, is that the health professionals do exactly what the parents ask for, and they support them being on drugs.
Basically none of the people in the family live a healthy natural life anymore, they are either drug influenced, or addicted to TV and such, where they all basically sit in front of all day every day.
It reminds me of that song. “I don’t care what you do. I wouldn’t want to be like you!” I can think that I wouldn’t like to be addicted like them, but they can proudly look at me and see me as weak and say that they are grateful that they are not like me. To them independence is foolishness, and if society gives them a drug fix a fool is the person who does not take it. This is why they will always be dependent on drugs the health system and conformers of society.
People who rely on drugs and have addictions, they like to point the finger at people who don’t have the drugs and a more healthier lifestyle as weird. If you are in to natural medicines, natural remedies, natural foods, natural cures, vegetarians or vegan, all seen as weird.
People today have been carefully groomed in to seeing chemicals and science as the cures for all ailments, yet they actually cure nothing, they just dumb the mind, numb the pain, and people get used to the easy lie that the chemicals are a fix, and yet somehow they remain depressed, sad, suicidal, anxious and cannot cope.
This weakness is because they grew up without efficient parental guidance, thus they cannot cope in life, they are immature and have no ability or desire to listen to common sense to change who they are how they live, give up the drugs and addictions and become new.
To the weak minded drugs are a cure, even though 50 year ago band back since the beginning of the human race antidepressants and the likes of ADHD types of medication didn’t exist, neither did ADHD, and people didn’t need such labeling, treatments (as they call them), or the drugs.
Always remember, the weaker the members of the society the easier it is for those in power to control them.
One of the things of the Character Assassination and making Kitten sick for (so far) 16 years is that all those who she values and keeps her brainwashed, gaslighted, sick, can all, if it ever comes to the crunch will tell the Police and medical people that kitten has a very long history of mental illness Plus, stalking me.
On the other hand to protect themselves over me, they will claim that I have been stalking Kitten for 16 years and they have many people in town, Kitten, the sisters, and kittens therapists to back that up.
Its called divide and conquer, and they did it by practically taking over Kittens mind, activities, thinking, life, and had her do what they wanted her to do by inducing fear in to her mind and using that to control where she goes, who she goes with, and to what end they want that relationship to go, and then with all the success of Kitten, they used the same brainwashing techniques on the others.
So, in the end, if they ever get caught Kitten will end up locked away in a Mental Asylum for the rest of her life. More than likely they will leave me alone because of what I would say in court with the stuff I have collected about them. What kitten has never suspected or known is that she is expendable and if it all goes to hell she will be the one who takes the blame, suffers until she dies, for them all, unless of course illness sets in first and she dies of that.
The crazy part is if they come up against me kitten will back them up and fully support the people who make her sick, but what’s worse is that she is now so far off her rocker that if they blamed it all on her she would more than likely tell the Police and Health Professionals that she was in fact to blame, and her mother and the rest of the criminals will be high-fiving each other and celebrating as they lead kitten off in a strait-jacket to the loony bin..
It starts small. Like you re driving down a street, and you all of a sudden don’t recognise the street. You get to another street and you recognise that street. Its not age, its not going to a room to forget what you are doing, but that can be a part of it. Its like blanks in our memory that today we forget, but tomorrow we remember, until one day we don’t remember it at all.
Alzheimer’s disease is most common in people over the age of 65, it can affect younger individuals, including those in their 30s, 40s, and 50s.
The worst is remembering who you are, what you did in the past, or even tomorrow. But he not remembering things that you should know, like streets, where you are driving in the car, rod rules, where work is, people’s names, and so on, its frightening, and there is nothing that anyone can do about it once it sets in.
You can remember something happening, maybe something stressful, or getting angry, but the next day or even a little while after, you can’t remember what got you upset. You jsut remember that “something” got you upset.
Part is talking, forgetting what the conversation is, or what you are saying halfway through the sentence.
What Are the Signs of Alzheimer’s Disease?
The symptoms of Alzheimer’s can vary from one person to another. Memory problems are typically one of the first signs of the disease. Decline in non-memory aspects of cognition, such as finding the right word, trouble understanding visual images and spatial relationships, and impaired reasoning or judgment, may also signal the early stages of Alzheimer’s. As the disease progresses, symptoms become more severe and include increased confusion and behavior changes.
For most people with Alzheimer’s — those who have the late-onset variety — symptoms first appear in their mid-60s or later. When the disease develops before age 65, it’s considered early-onset.
Sporadic memory impairment refers to memory problems that are not inherited or part of a known family pattern. It is characterized by memory loss that occurs randomly and is not linked to a genetic predisposition. This type of memory impairment can arise from various causes, including medical conditions, lifestyle factors, or as a symptom of certain brain disorders
Familial: Relating to or occurring in a family or its members.
Watching
Still Alice 2014.
Were you sad when she didn’t take the pills?
Honesty is the best policy. Why?
Because when we are honest we have nothing to hide.
We can look into peoples eyes and there is no need to avoid them.
People know that they can love us without fear of being abused in some way.
We will have many friends if we are honest, they will listen to us because we care.
The honest person tells no lies. The honest person does not want to or need to lie.
The honest person is a giver, not a taker, and they give with a true loving heart.
The good decent honest person can be seen in the streets greeted by friends, happy with family.
You always know where you stand and where you are with an honest person.
The body language of an honest person is a big open hug full of love and “honesty!”
Honesty is the best policy for everyone!
Honesty is good for our health and we can rest easy when we go to bed and wake up without guilt of worries because we live to be honest, it is our way, our truth and our live.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
January 30, 2013.
An apology or uncomfortable moment lasts but a moment- but regrets left as they are last forever.
All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
Jan 28, 2013 7:49am.
Romans Chapter 14, verse 17:
For the kingdom of God is not meat and drink; but righteousness, and peace, and joy in the Holy Ghost.
Good thoughts are blessed guests, and should be heartily welcomed, well fed, and much sought after. Like rose leaves, they give out a sweet smell if laid up in the jar of memory. They cannot be too much cultivated; they are a crop which enriches the soil. – John Ploughman – Charles Haddon Spurgeon (1834-1892).
Charles Spurgeon was never ordained. He was known as the Prince of Preachers because he spoke to the common person and he did it in plain English and he got to the facts because it really did bother his heart and soul about people lives and eternity. He preached to more people than any other preacher in the 1800’s and over a million people in a time of no TV, movies etc.
The people flocked to Spurgeon because he talked their language, cared for them and obviously was doing God’s work and the fruit of his efforts were known far and wide. He also wrote many books and helped a great many people. God knows our heart and God knows who He can really trust and you will know that by the fruit of their efforts to serve God.
Jan 28, 2013 10:28am
When we ask God for courage God doesn’t just wave a magic wand to give you sudden amazing courage. No, you have to grow it inside your heart because it had been hidden away for so long and fear has taken over. When we have fear we let other people run our life. With fears we let other peoples cures and explanations lead our life, we hear encouraging courageous thoughts but we push them aside because of our fears, fears that were given to us by other people.
The reason that we have fear in the first place needs addressing. An example is a young lass who may have been abused by a parent at a young age, say around 9 years old. Now the parent can tell that child anything over the years and that child will believe what they are told, even if it is a toxic upbringing. I have found that this is very strong if the parent is the mother – children just want to believe that their mother has all the answers, that she will always tell the truth. And they find it very hard to believe even as late as in their twenties that the mother ever could have led them astray. And yet this is exactly what she did. We want to deny the truth because it is too uncomfortable to accept.
Now this young lass can be greatly weakened by being under her mothers thumb all her young years and when it comes time to making her own decisions she cannot do it and so she just lets her mother take her from one mistake to another. If she has depressions and other issues the mother will (being a non-Christian) will look for any of man’s cures and just keep walking into wall after wall.
When the young lady finally realizes that her mother is wrong and that God is right, and that her only true hope is to move away from feminism and then to a more godly environment, then she will find that life will take on a totally new meaning and her mental and spiritual growth will be amazing. A whole new world will be hers. And all will be forgiven.
Courage takes time to grow in any person. After each step our courage gets stronger and we get more and more daring to try this and that by ourself (if we are away from a demanding parent etc). If we want more courage we need to keep being daring. Question everything. See people, investigate what we have been told. Use all of our senses to evaluate the situation. Communication is important with “all” involved.
For you people who may be suspicious that you have been led astray, trust your instincts. Get closer to God in attitude and submission. Don’t submit to any human, submit to God. Listen, learn, grow, investigate and questions all those around you. Look into their eyes and look for hesitation, look to see if you are getting the truth. Do they avoid your gaze when they say loving things or try to explain something. Looking away is a sure sign that they have doubts about what they are saying or they are lying to you. Nobody should live with people who are trying to mislead them.
Body language shows a lot too. I have always noticed that a lot of people fold their arms when they are trying to hide something, or disapprove of something. Actually a study of body language is amazing and you can really learn a lot about people with this.
Because some of us have abusive, sneaky friends or family it can be so very easy to be taken in to their attempts to fool us. Do be sure of this, they will not be trying to mislead you for your benefit, it will be for their own sakes.
God’s way is to sure. God wants to see the person who has been led astray mended not destroyed. Freedom is being freed from your mental and physical tortures. Faith in God takes you there.
http://www.wikihow.com/Read-Body-Language
Jan 28, 2013 10:54am
Self-doubt is the enemy of personal growth. It is only when we shed our apprehension about our own self-worth that we realize how much we are truly capable of and that we can access our true potential. There’s no better freedom than the freedom to be yourself. Give yourself that gift, and choose to surround yourself with those who appreciate your decision. – Lyn Dohmen Valentini
The soul is beautiful.
The body as we all know will perish and before that sag, and wrinkle but deeper than that is the spirit which is beautiful and can reach more hearts with love and kindness than physical beauty.
It is obvious and foolish to follow physical beauty and body – it is far wiser to look deeper into the spirit of a person. Look at their deeds. Look at their writings. See if they are kind. How do they treat animals. How do they treat people. Do they help people for money or do they do it because they are nice.
It is the inner person that controls their good deeds and kindness and will to be loving, their physical body has nothing to do with that. If we marry for lust of the body we simply will get a small time of the day with that and the rest of the day we will live with a personality that we don’t like – that is foolish and self destruction. We may look good to the mates but is 24hour misery worth that?
Its far better to be in the arms of love that walks, talks, lives, and is love. Satisfy the inner spiritual heart by being with those that relax you, encourage you, and help you grow with a deep concern for your future and happiness.
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All the best from James M Sandbrook.
Jan 28, 2013 12:42pm
You know how you can give good advice to someone but they don’t want to do it so they just walk away?
“Yes!”
Well don’t let yourself do that to yourself!!!
“Huh? What do you mean?”
Don’t walk away from your own good advice. If you tell yourself that this or that is a bad thing to do then don’t do it. Be strong and demand it of you to be who you dreamed of being, strong, decent and confident.
When you feel that you are going to deny yourself a better life then stop yourself firmly and make sure that you are in control of yourself.
You know better so live by the better that you know that you can be. Don’t Let Yourself Walk Away From Your Own Good Advice And Correction!
Keep yourself firmly on the straight and narrow path and be a blessing to yourself! Especially for now and the future.
Filling your life with good thoughts, and acting on them is like putting small coins in a bank account, because over time they add up and the bank account gets bigger and bigger. With you your good friends just keep on coming, blessings keep coming your way, all things good come to those who follow God and do good. All that love and goodness just keeps on adding up. Be that light in the world that God needs to see and bless all our lives.
“I’ll do that!”
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
January 30, 2013.
1 Peter Chapter 5, verse 5-7:
…God resisteth the proud, and giveth grace to the humble.
Humble yourselves therefore under the mighty hand of God, that he may exalt you in due time: Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.
Following God: David was close to God but eventually with Bathsheba he went astray, turned from God and followed his lusts and his own opinion of what he should do and what his life is about. He let evil into his life and he couldn’t control himself. Instead of going to God’s man he sank, lower and lower until finally he realised after great loss that he had totally lost track of his life. We too can do this. We need to keep our focus on God and not wander and not go astray and keep listening to God’s messenger. You have a future with God, you have a destiny – be true to you and don’t let yourself down.
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All the best from James M Sandbrook.
Jan 28, 2013 10:56pm
Never close the book of your life when GOD HAS NOT FINISHED writing your story. Never hang up when GOD IS STILL ON THE LINE with you. Hang on in there. And when the time is right take action knowing that you are safe with God behind you! – Author Unknown.
Isaiah Chapter 61, verse 1: The Spirit of the Lord GOD is upon me; because the LORD hath anointed me to preach good tidings unto the meek; he hath sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim liberty to the captives, and the opening of the prison to them that are bound;
There are two types of slavery, one on the outside that the world can put upon us and the other is in the inside where we put upon ourselves by reacting to life. If freedom is achieved on the inside your life will be opened up to a reality that you never knew existed. Freedom can be achieved by learning to deal with the past and to love yourself. Close caring people are needed to help you through this.
Freedom brings fulfillment, peace and harmony to your life. Confidence grows with freedom and faith in God grows because understanding in reality becomes clearer.
John Chapter 8, verse 32: And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.
Freedom is rarely gained without sacrifice and self-denial – Martin Luther King.
In order to gain true freedom we need to turn away from all things that “capture us” and hold us in such a way that they become a habit or an addiction. These things must be denied.
When the inside person is cured then the outside world will become easier to live with. With healing the soul the outside will be healed. The inner-you and the outer-you go hand in hand. It is much easier to love the world when you can love yourself.
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All the best from James M Sandbrook.
Jan 28, 2013 11:21pm
We can do anything that we need to do for our own inner spiritual good that will bring growth and courage to our lives. Sometimes we have to turn motivational quotes into action! Then things get done.
All the best from James M Sandbrook.
Jan 29, 2013 11:25am.
Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one’s definition of your life. DEFINE YOURSELF!! -Harvey Fierstein.
Step away to safety from those who try to make you a victim. Freedom is God’s will for you.
Jan 29, 2013 11:14am
People seem to have a history of what they don’t understand they fear then they destroy to get rid of the fears, even innocent beautiful things. If they would try to learn and understand then something could be gained.
Jan 29, 2013 9:09pm
Jeremiah Chapter 29, verse 11-14:
For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.
Then shall ye call upon me, and ye shall go and pray unto me, and I will hearken unto you.
And ye shall seek me, and find me, when ye shall search for me with all your heart.
And I will be found of you, saith the LORD: and I will turn away your captivity
Jan 29, 2013 5:58pm
I never really look for anything. What God throws my way comes. I wake up in the morning and whichever way God turns my feet, I go. – Pearl Bailey.
This is truly how I live. I have a very basic idea of what I do on any day of the wekk and then as I go about doing them I pray for God to guide me everywhere He thinks that I will be useful for His work and for the good of all living things.
What Pearl is peaking of here is submission. Submission to God’s will for her, God’s trust in her submission, and to help others.
A love and care for every living thing to allow God to guide us to do good service for all living things. God can see everything, we can’t. So it is obvious to do the most good that we can do is to follow God in all things. We must submit our lives to His will for all others (Sacrifice our time for God – God does reward His workers for their faith, love, courage and dedication).
Submission is impossible for prideful people. In their eyes it is either them or no-one. Take away the pride and they can hear, see and know more.
God looks after us during our day if we have that faith of a mustard seed. So we can pray and offer a percentage of our day to God for the doing of His work among the people. God chooses the time and place and what happens, we follow along (allow God to guide us) and God produces good worthy results from our will to help Him.
It may simply be attracting people to God (people read us as a Bible from the way that we live, how we interact with other people, do we judge people, are we worthy, kind and nice to all living creatures etc), or helping people who are in need, it may be fixing a car tire, it can be many things, even ministering to people, sharing the Word. Whatever it is God cannot plan and do it without your commitment.
So do pray each day in the mornings for God to guide you through this day to do things that will help others in God’s ways – because you know that His way works for you and all others.
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All the best from James M Sandbrook.
Jan 29, 2013 5:51pm
Proverbs Chapter 15, verse 9: The way of the wicked is an abomination unto the LORD: but he loveth him that followeth after righteousness.
TheFreeDictionary
abomination:
1. A person or thing that is disgusting
2. an action that is vicious, vile, etc.
3. intense loathing.
God is love. His ways are all things good. His feelings are right. God teaches us a good way to live. God shows is the difference between right and wrong. Those that truly follow God love Him.
Those that want to be righteous are people who follow God’s guidance and have His support and love.
The ways of the wicked are the ways of evil. They are they opposite ways to God. They follow evil and cause strife, unhappiness and care for themselves. They have their own master. God hates their sinful ways.
All the best from James M Sandbrook. Jan 29, 2013 7:47am.
Emotional abusers are very insidious – some of them are much harder to spot than others, because they mingle their abuse in between acts of generosity, and often employ emotionally manipulative tactics, and passive-aggressive behavior.
Not all emotional abusers overtly belittle and verbally harangue their partners – some are much more perfidious and as such, their partners may not realize that the source of their distress and an unease over the relationship has been coming from abuse for quite some time. – Tina H – Abuse no more.
The longer a person remains under the roof or guiding-hand of an emotional abuser, the more they will start to question themself, their actions and their beliefs – the abuser trains the victim to always feel that they are at fault and that the victim is guilty or needs the abuser for protection etc. The emotional abuser always sets things up to make sure that they have the upper hand at all times. They can sneakily bring in other people (telling them half-truths) and using them to further make the abuser look innocent.
It is the intent to get the victim to feel that he or she is the cause of any relationship problems, that the victim has issues, and that his or her (abusive) behavior is simply a response to the victims ways/problems/issues etc, and therefore is acceptable. Also the abuser can make themself out to be a hero and tells the victim that they should be grateful that the abuser is always there to help them, like they have always done in the past etc.
It is shameful that an overbearing person can rule someones life to the degree that they can take advantage of it instead of sharing genuine love with that person and trying to do the best for them.
Professional emotional abusers are well equipped to take an innocent naive person and manipulate them to believing just about anything. They mix truth with lies and they make facts look misty and confusing so that a logical decisions cannot be made when the facts are not totally clear.
The abuser can make other people out to be the abuser to take the attention off themselves. This way to the victim the abuser is innocent and the victim can still be easily manipulated on a day by day basis.
We must break away from the chains that bind us to the abusers so that we can come to know the freedom that Jesus taught. Freedom is there for all of us, but we must make the right choice and refuse to spend the rest of our lives going around in circles chasing the abusers manipulative trickery.
We are the only ones who can bring ourselves away from being emotionally abused. Life starts for us when we leave the clutches of the abuser.
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All the best from James M Sandbrook.
Jan 29, 2013 3:51pm
Learned Helplessness.
You may notice the way in which your cat and dog completely depend on you for everything. Food, water, comfy home, cuddles, health care, you offer it all, completely for free, all the cat and dog have to do is to remain loyal and stay with you.
This is what Learned Helplessness is.
Your animals have learned to rely on you for everything in their lives, they depend on you completely, and what you assume is love (and yes love is included – but as they see love, not as you see love), is actually dependency (the state of relying on or being controlled by someone or something else), a result of Life Change.
Animals have instinctive traits when they are born, and many they complete, but the human creature who has control over the house where the kittens are born immediately feeds and comforts the kittens. The kittens note that mother cat does not hunt, she does not act like a wild animal, and she eagerly rushes to the owner when she is hungry, so they all learn to be the same. As kittens they pretend to fight, hunt, stalk each other, and so forth, but once they become adult cats they give it all up for the comfort zone created by the house people.
The cat and the kittens never think of escape. They have it all, so there is no need to take risks, no need to fight, no need to chase mice or rats for food, and so there is no desire to escape, so they remain agreeably captive, they love the people who keep them captive, and they grow fat, useless to their race, unable to complete their life-task on Earth, and unable to cope in the real world because humans do everything for them.
The kittens have grown into adult cats that are completely unable to cope in the world as the wild cats of the past or who exist in the countryside. The domestic cat is a slave to its own dependent nature on the human being to provide everything for them. The cats cannot cope, nor can they hunt for their own food, nor do they hunt or scavenge food, they simply have no idea how and they don’t need to learn or try, so they don’t.
The mother cat is helpless without the owner. She will catch the odd bird from time to time, and that is why whole dead bird is found on the property, but she completely relies on the house person to feed her to the extent that the drive to hunt is eliminated and she tends to be chubby, stay at home, content and has no need to hunt. The kittens become what the mother is, totally relying on the people of the house for all their needs.
In some places around the world the cats are called “Indoor Cats”, they very seldom ever leave the house and they seldom ever venture outside of the house, they are completely protected and controlled by those humans that live in the house.
If they do go outside they go outside with their protectors, the humans, some on leashes, both dogs and cats, completely incapable of being the dogs and cats they were born to be, because they have learned how to become completely helpless without their humans.
In the wild they would have learned to stalk animals for food, in captivity they have learned to remain helpless, unable to hunt for food, unable to cope without the humans, unable to think for themselves, unable to choose where they want to live If they do the humans get upset and take them back home to the prison they were trying to leave), unable to be an animal, and instead because they have learned to be Helpless, they have lost the ability to seek freedom, or to think freedom, or to visualize what freedom is like, where it is, or to see it and recognize it.
Learned Helplessness is when they have been taught, comforted, provided for, and groomed to be helpless – unable to save themselves.
Cats and Dogs Mental health
if you look on the likes of YouTube all those crazy videos of cats and dogs freaking out and doing weird crazy things?
This is because the animals are actually and truthfully going insane being Unnatural while living in a trained captivity that is completely unnatural to the animal, and also not being able to cope as an animal in the wild as they were born to be.
Part of the problem Moses had with the people who he was trying to free from captivity was that they wanted to go back to captivity because they found that being outside of their comfort zone scared them, they knew not how to live, or to focus on survival, or how to get food, or cook that food, because in captivity they were supplied with all that they needed, and even though they were being abused they still wanted captivity back because they were so used to people doing everything for them, being fed, clothed, making their decisions, and feeling wanted and needed.
Your animals, by you, are heavily encouraged to be lazy, to stay in captivity, and in fact, you are so insecure when the cat disappears for a few days you panic, but the cat is fine just going out there in the real world to explore. But the cat will come back very fast when fear (real or imagined) creeps in their minds, or there is a possibility of a threat.
Captivity in your house is not the cats or dogs natural habitat, thus the animals struggles to stay sane, to cope or remain mentally stable.
Vets will tell you that today’s cats have mental issues, they suffer from stress, heart issues, and so on.
Humans laugh at the animal freaking out over normal everyday human objects or our human ways, because to the human it is obvious what it is that upsets the cat, but cats don’t think like we do, so the poor mentally suffering cat has no idea what you have in the house or why you do the crazy things that you do.
Human beings don’t really understand animals, and that is why we drive them crazy.
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